Tamerlain

I would like to take ballroom dancing or swing dancing lessons - swing dancing looks like a lot of fun. But dancing in clubs nowadays doesn't do anything for me. It's easy to find a rhythm in all the rap out there and move your feet/legs, but I don't know what to do with my arms. That and the music is just awful. I like swing music, so I could dance to it.

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metalgeek

I go to a lot of "rave" clubs, so I dance quite a lot.. house, techno, breaks, etc.
(especially funky house... if it doesn't make you move at least one part of your body, you have no soul!!)
mainly for me, I dance for my own enjoyment. On nice thing about rave type clubs is that generally people don't go to pick up, it's not really part of the culture..

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Glory's Sun

Well see, there's a huge difference between rap and hip-hop. I hate how most people think that 50 cent is hip-hop. Not even close. Sure it's a subset but when you think about it, Electronic has a ton of subsets including BreakBeats. I hate Trance..but it's a form of electronic. I absolutely love Drum and Bass yet it's another subset. So basically, what I'm saying is that I hate walking in the club and hearing 50 cent or pdiddywhateverthefuckhisnameistoday, or any other wannabe's. Is that a little more clear?

match000

ok. i assume you listen to krs-one, the roots, tribe, stuff like that then.. cuz obviously you dont like gangsta rap

Glory's Sun

Actually I don't even listen to much hip-hop. I listen to Drum and Bass or Metal mostly. Throw in some nasty breaks and I'm happy.

But yeah Krs-One is the shit.

Now, back to the dancefloor

frogza

I like to dance. Most of the opportunities to dance aren't really good though, as was mentioned by the OP. Most music played at clubs is mind numbing, is it any wonder then that most men can't get inspired to dance to it?

I used to teach dance, from traditional folk dances from several countries, country swing, ballroom and modern. Keep in mind that I absolutely hate country music and a lot of traditional folk music, I just enjoyed dancing so I put up with it.

My wife sometimes laughs at me because I like to dance and will get up and dance with her on occasion at the house when a good dance song comes on. When John Meyers (spelled right?) song, "Daughters" played the first time on the radio, I grabbed my wife and we started waltzing in the living room.

I'm 6'5 with size 13 shoes, it slowed me down when I was 15-17 becuase I was still trying to figure out where my feet were. Now it doesn't get in the way at all. I can imagine though that smaller feet would make balance while swinging around a bit difficult.

snowy

My dad is about the same, size-wise, tall with small feet. But he still manages to dance, and dance well. And it's so funny to watch my mom and dad dance together because Mom is tiny and Dad is tall.

I love dancing, and I love when guys dance. I love when guys TRY to dance. It's the most heart-warming thing. I always remember taking my friend to this bar in town called the Cantina and he actually danced. I was amazed. His girlfriend, who hadn't come with us that night, was shocked. She was also disappointed that she had missed out on his dancing.

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Disco Stu

That has to be my favorite quote!!!!

analog

I can dance. I don't dance.

_God_

a) Not a great plan for dancing with Aunt Martha at the wedding. Unless you live in Alabama. And unless she's got a good rack.

b) I will acknowledge you as a genius if you'll tell me a good way to get the hell off the dance floor after the slow song ends.

kramus

I never really got the formal dance steps figured out. Ballroom, tango, swing, line dancing . . . any of that stuff I cannot seem to maintain an idea of the correct sequence. That being said, I often have had women come up to me and tell me I was the best, sexiest, most original dancer they had seen either that night or ever. Regularly my partner has asked me how I did a particular move. I have no idea - the music seems to do it while I am along for the ride. And whenever I was in a situation where I got to know many people who were attending the same dance as I, well I never had to ask anyone for a dance because I was in demand all night.
/me loves to dance

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I was never a great dancer, however I did date a guy once who loved swing dancing and taught me a good bit. Other than that I never learned. I think it's nice when a guy can dance...however I cannot carry a tune in a bucket. So if a guy can't dance, it's all good neither can I. I don't even care for booty-dancing, maybe I'm just a prude :-p
Why do people place such an emphasis on men and dancing nowadays, seems like the times are a changing.

jth

i have a great dislike of being the center of any sort of physical attention so I refuse to dance anywhere. Which I really find ironic because I'm a musician and you would figure a musician would be all over that. However for me it's not really part of my personality to throw myself out there.

I thought it was really funny last semester one of the ensembles at school had a requirement that all the band members took swing dance lessons every Friday with a teacher and the band. When it was announced the previous month before registration the band was about %70 female which besides the vocal groups was unheard of here. But quickly, after initial changes were made to the group it evened out to around 50/50 because the guys realized that there were young, attractive, talented women in the band... that would have to dance with them.

Smart guys.... or smart girls? I'm not sure.

But I ain't getting on no dance floor!

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Gilda

Nah, still not a problem. Left hand in her right, right hand on her hip, just kinda shiffle your feet without moving. I've dance with plenty of little guys in my time, and none of them could actually dance, but it didn't matter. I'd sometimes chaperone the dances at my middle school, and I'd kinda do the shuffle and sway type thing with the sixth and seventh grade boys. It was very cute.

Turn and walk back to your seat.

Gilda

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SugahBritches

I about lost all my coffee on this one post. I'm laughing with you not at you Nonsense.

The boss can't dance worth a hoot. However, with alittle bit of help from Busch Light, he can do a few steps. He is actually pretty good really. But, he doesn't feel all that comfortable in doing it. So, I usually have to dance with our male friends until he warms up to it. I chose the option that I like dancing with men and they don't have to dance well.

I love dancing in the summer rain with nothing but my silk gown on. And I like the song Witchy Woman playing in the background. I know, I'm a little strange.

Bill O'Rights, I've always wanted to do ballroom dancing. I think that would be a wonderful way for me to learn some good ole fashion southern etiquette. Plus, go to the Olustee Ball and actually dance!

Oh, I noticed not the first woman has voted that she couldn't dance.

Warlock!

I couldn't dance if you tied me to the back of Jerry Springer. Even at weddings with a lot of booze I won't dance... it just seems so unnatural to me. I've played guitar in public in bands throughout highschool and college, but a head-bob and foot-tap is about all the movement I can get myself to do.

From what I've seen, I think God intended for dancing to be done by women to entice men.

_God_

Well, that answer DOES mesh with your comments in the chivalry thread.

Halx

I dance.. I got a little Napoleon Dynamite in me.

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undeadninjaz

I'm a senior in college and I just joined the ballroom dancing club because I see it as something you should at least try once in your life. Then I realized that I have absolutely no rhythm and I sort of just follow the steps in order like a obstacle course.
However, nowadays ballroom dancing is completely different from dancing at clubs and parties. That kind of dancing I like to call drunk dancing for obvious reasons

Charlatan

I like dancing. I like dancing quite a bit.

I have no idea if I am any good but if the music is right I am all for it.

As for slow dancing... hell, that's easy. It's fast dancing or dancing to a pattern that causes me problems.

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Lizra

Dancing is pure joy! Nothing more stifilling than surpressing the urge to dance.
I hate it when I'm somewhere with good music and nobody to dance with. My husband has started to dance with me lately....after 20 years of saying he didn't dance. I think he is finally realizing that us having fun is more important than other people's opinion of our dancing ability.

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jusolson00

me and my girlfriend love to go dancing. We just recently completed a 5 week swing dance course and loved it.. problem is that they taught us so much in so little time that a guy forgets alot of the stuff. Does anybody know of a good online site that demonstrates swing moves? I've searched and i only come up with "buy our videos" ect.... I'd love to practice more, but I gotta see the move to remember how to do it. Thanks for any help!

sasKuach

As Carno said, that's enough reason for me not to dance in public until I take some classes or something.

Although I have to say dancing is pretty sexay... which is another reason why I don't dance; I have no need to be teased. Sure, it's fun for her, but it's torture for me.

Philangicality

I took a ballroom dancing class one time through my community recreational center one time to meet girls. Everyone there was a couple. I went to two lessons. I met a single lady each time I went. I think they were the only single girls in the class.

It was fun, but nobody my age was in the class. I am still working on getting over that social norm.

It was way fun and I learned a couple of steps. Nothing I could use in clubs or anything, but I am familiar with a couple tango steps.

I will sign up for another class soon.

I like to dance hip-hop, but it is hard for me to find random girls to dance with. I haven't tired going out with friends that are girls to dance yet. I guess I need to make some friends that are attractive girls that are JUST friends.

Drum & Bass is the shit also. I have been to one rave and when I found the D&B DJ section I was dancing for like 4 hours straight in the same place until the sun came up and it was time to go home.

I like dancing but need to work on my dancing with a partner.

The hard part is keeping the mindset that I am leading the dance.

Gilda

I'm not sure how, but I do think we might be talking past each other. Why would you think it difficult to get back to your seat? I'm surprised that anybody would think this is difficult, the answer seems so obvious to me. What does any of this have to do with chivalry?

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little_tippler

Well the responses have been fascinating, and the poll, though of course not indicative as it's such a small sample, shows that over 50% of men won't dance...what a real shame. Most of the girls want to dance with you, and it's so sexy, as another poster said! Come on, let's get on the dance floor!

I'd love to hear more encouraging responses from the ladies! Also, I'm curious as to why some posters seem to find dancing unnatural. For me, it's an urge. I hear music, I feel it, it's coarsing through my body and mind, and I just HAVE to move! So tell me, if it's unnatural to you, do you not feel anything when you hear music? Or does it just not make you feel anything physical, only mental?

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Infinite_Loser

I refuse to dance because...

I can't. Being 6'7" doesn't help my case, either.

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Xera

I can't dance. I am totally unable to hear the beat in music, which makes dancing to it almost impossilbe.

I dance anyway because it feels good. I don't give a hoot what people are thinking about how I look, it feels good, so I do it. I dance around the house, I dance in bars when I go, which is not often, I do the dance and bop in your car seat thing.

I also sing along with the radio in my car and house and anywhere else because I like to. Again, don't care that other people are turned off by this. It feels good so I do it.

My husband and I have been together for 7 years now. He has danced with me one time, in our living room, for 1/2 of a song that came on the radio. He will not dance with me anywhere at all. It makes me sad that if I want to do something that I enjoy so much I will have to do it with another man.

I don't care what a man looks like when he's dancing, I don't care what I look like, I like to dance and I want to dance with a partner, therefor I'm intentionally looking for a man that will dance with me.

It doesn't hurt that I listen to Country music and that all the bars that play that type of music still have the dances that involved actual touch of two people, at least around the waist and such, its hard to two step without touching . Plus, thats one EASY dance, two steps in one direction, one step back the other direction, to easy to do and difficult to screw it up to badly.

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Ourcrazymodern?

I like dancing a LOT, but freestyle and to rock and roll. I don't know any of the more formal stuff worth a damn.

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ktspktsp

I enjoy dancing, though I do feel a bit awkward at it at times. I enjoyed going to regular (free!) salsa lessons a few years ago. I'm looking forward to possibly trying Tango next year

abaya

I hear ya, lady. And that was what actually brought me and ktspktsp together, yay! Literally, the first time we probably touched each other, I was trying to teach him how to move his hips/bump & grind at a party (which he had never done before), and I thought it was great how willing he was to learn and be awkward in front of me. And then later on, he was trying to lead me in salsa dancing... (which I was very clumsy at!). I was so attracted to his willingness to dance... there were so few men that I had known who were willing to dance like that, and he did it in a way that was not cocky or creepy or anything other than HIM. And I fell in love! What can I say.

I can't wait for Latin dancing in Iceland next year either, babe.

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Average_Joe

I love to dance even though I totally suck at it. After every function that my wife and I dance at, we always tell each other that we need to take social dance classes this year.

Impetuous1

I hate feeling like I'm the center of attention so I rarely dance in public. The only times I have recently done so, were with an old boyfriend and with a few drinks in me. I have to admit it was fun but a little intimidating. Why? Because I really suck. I feel like there's too much pressure on me to be good since I'm a woman. Maybe it's all in my head, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm being watched and found wanting when I dance. Maybe when I'm 40 and men don't look at me as much.

Anyway, the only dancing I currently do is secret dancing when I think no one is looking.

777

I can do salsa. That's it. And I have this one move where I steal away someone's partner on the dance floor

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