Sawfmonkey

Hey girls,
Have any of you met some guy (who is now your bf/husband), and just known that he was the one?

I'm having this feeling for a guy right now, who I've been on a date with and he is just an amazing person. We're going out again this weekend.

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cellophanedeity

I know the feeling. The one where your belly feels like you're on a rollercoaster and you're all squirmy, but in a good way. And not just like a normal crush, but a nice certain squirmy falling... You'd think a lit student would be better at metaphor

I fell head over heels with the man I'm with the first time we were introduced. We'll be dating for three years on the tenth of May!

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*Nikki*

I knew within hours of meeting my fiance that he was the "one". He knew also, which he only has recently told me, in the same amount of time.

Sometimes it's just that simple.

Sage

Martel and I had known each other for five years before anything "romantic" happened. I had always had a crush on him. We were saying I love you within two days of our first kiss and I asked him to marry me within... a week and a half maybe. We believe that we have always been together, from the beginning of time, and now we're just taking a nice little side trip in human bodies, and part of that was "losing" each other and then finding each other again.

We're so in love!

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abaya

Wow Sage, that's powerful... the whole in-love-for-eternity and "taking a nice little side trip in human bodies" bit. I've never been too keen on the idea of a "soulmate," but the image you present shows me that it can exist for some people. What was the losing and finding part, though?

As for me, I don't think I've ever known anything right from the beginning... though in my first couple relationships, I got that crazy roller-coaster stomach feeling and THOUGHT I was falling for "The One." After a few disappoinments, though, I realized that I don't make the best first judgements. After that I learned to be wary of my initial excitement (or even lack of excitement!) and really wait things out before making a decision about someone.

With my bf now, it was a slow warming feeling, undramatic but very committed and more grounded than anything before. Somehow the stability of it has helped me to feel closer to "knowing" than any fireworks would have at the beginning. (Not that we didn't have good, hot sex just days into realizing we were into each other... )

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Seeker

I had that 'knowing' feeling straight away, when our eyes met. We both felt it. Like a bolt of lightning with the word "yes" inscribed in it. My bf I met eight or nine years ago. We have never really been together in all that time though, by this I mean due to circumstances, we have not lived together. This has challenged us both in different ways. There have been times of lust, love, and frustration! Because we have not lived together, this has allowed the both of us to work through issues that would normally twist the more usual relationships. We have had a few 'separations' but amazingly we have both come back to each other. We both appreciate each other on a more individual level (I think), because of our circumstances. What started off as an amazing 'magical' feeling, has now become a very grounded relationship.

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sexymama

I knew that I had strong feelings for Lebell before meeting him face to face and that, given the right cirumstances I could fall in love. When we met face to face for the first time, I wasn't too sure. Then he kissed me and the rest is history!

(Side note: my mom told her best friend that she was going to marry the guy across the room at a dance, prior to even meeting him. Then she winked at him while dancing with another man. He asked her to dance. Three months later they married. He's my dad. They were married for 36 years.)

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StickODynomite

With my guy, I knew that he was different right away, but I didn't know we would end up in love. I wasn't attracted to him physically, but his personality was like a magnet.. it drew me to him. I just knew he was definitely someone that would be around for a while.. he was the most sincere and the funniest person i'd ever met.. and a total gentleman. When he would drop me off at home after a date or after hanging out all day, I couldn't stop smiling.. he made me feel so good.
What really gave it away was the first kiss. It was--for lack of a better term-- AMAZING (slow and romantic, filled with so much emotion it was bursting from us). It was like the movies say.. fireworks, sparks flying. That was when I knew for SURE he was the one (and that made me feel a bit crazy, I had only known him a month or so).
After being together 4 months we took the step and said 'I love you' (we were afraid we'd scare each other off by saying it too soon.. we're so alike).
He is my soulmate and I often think we knew each other in another life and were in love then as well. We've been together 2 yrs and 2 mo and we're planning on moving to Florida next year and starting our lives. We will be getting married as soon as we're financially stable. I'm very happy

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nickynicole

I recall having a conversation with my roommate about one month after I started dating a new guy. I basically said that I already knew I was going to marry him, and she totally agreed with me. One month ago, we were both proven right.

The thing is, I recall saying that about several boys before him!

la petite moi

I've never had that feeling. I've always had to get to know that person before falling head over heels.

amonkie

I'm slightly wary of this concept, as I have a cousin who on no less than 12 occasions called me saying " I swear, he's the ONE!" right after a first date. Even when I reminded her she'd said this 11 times before, I'd get "oh, but this one's different". With her current, she hasn't said that yet, which leads me to hope that it may actually work for her.

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Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

superredhead

sblime42 and i were best friends for 5 years. always there for each other, always hung out, always had a great time together. i liked him a lot but figured he didn't feel the same way, so he and i dated other people, but always called each other and kept in touch. six months ago we hung out just before we both went back to college, and we finally kissed! it was the most amazing feeling i had ever felt. turns out he had liked me since we first met but was always deterred since i pretty much always had a boyfriend. i knew he'd always be in my life in one capacity or another, but after that kiss, i knew he was 'the one'.

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Sue McGee

After a few dates with my husband, I pretty much knew that I was going to marry him. And I remember he was dropping hints to me, saying things like, "You know, my parents told me that when they met they just knew right away that they were right for each other." Okay, I could have just been reading into that, but when he said that, I thought, "Hmmm!!!!!"

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Gilda

I didn't know when we first met, but I had that feeling that she could be the one*, the butterflies, the easy conversation, the way we connected like old friends.

Grace says she knew I was the kind of person she wanted to spend her life with before we'd even spoken, and she knew that I was the person she'd been looking for before that first night was done.

*Meaning, the one person I wanted to spend my life with. I don't believe that there is any "one true soulmate". I know a second woman I believe I'd be happy to spend my life with if circumstances were different and we hadn't already met and fallen inl love with someone else first.

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Lead543

streak56's eyes pierced my heart the moment I looked into them. Everyday from that day on he's proven to me again and again that he's the one for me. I can't really say I "know" for sure, but I wouldn't want to look into anyone else's eyes but his for the rest of my life

Sawfmonkey

Awww....these are some great stories! Thanks girls!

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anti fishstick

yup, I feel that way with my current boyfriend. I don't see myself being with anyone else in the future. I had a lot of strong feelings for him before we met also, but we kind of just played our meeting as "we'll see what happens" and didn't restrict it to a *date* thing. We hit it off right away and I could tell instantly that something big was about to happen. Meeting him has really changed my life. I knew he was the one for me the first day we met. And it's funny about first impressions... because he thought I was wearing the ugliest sweater. :-D He has the biggest eyes and most intent, piercing look that disarms me. It's a bit uncomfortable at first, but I couldn't stop thinking how gorgeous his eyes are.

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KinkyKiwi

i went over to his house to say hi the day they moved in, biznatch walked down the stairs in jeans and a white tee shirt and i was hooked. i decided he was the one for me right then.

lol almost 2 years ..going on forever....hopefully

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abaya

Alright, so I'm more curious about bfs/hubbies that you didn't "know" at the beginning (maybe to make me feel better, since I gave up trusting my intuition after too many bad judgments!)? Did anyone else sort of grow into it? (LPM, I see your hand.)
...guess I have more in common with your cousin, amonkie!!

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
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Biscuit Buns

I, uh, have experienced the OPPOSITE. Big, red, warning signs in my mind's eye (seriously, could see them!). Couldn't figure it out since he was "just such a nice guy!" Oh, boy...he was sooo not a nice guy. So as not to be a downer, I will say that we have parted ways (fortunately, never married).

Carry on! I'm hoping to "breath the air," so to speak, and maybe some of your eternal love at first sight will carry on over to me. Can I touch any of you? Huh? Huh??? (OK, I'll go away now lol)

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veruca

well...I have experianced both "at first sight" and growing to love someone.

my first love and my first time ..was at first sight..lol...I had dated a million guys and never once wanted to have sex with them or want anything serious...and one night I was at a country bar dancing..and there he was..standing on the side trying to figure out the steps...when our eyes met it was instant..and when he asked me to slow dance and he touched me..I could feel the electricity..I knew immediatly he was the one. we were inseperable and our relationship was just as volitile as the meeting...he was in the military and shipped out...and things didn't work out.

When I met my husband I had just gotten out of a very painful realtionship...someone I loved very much..but it wasn't going to work. So, I had no intention of dating him..I just wanted to be alone. But, we clicked...I didn't love him at first..I was too wounded..but he waited me out..cause he knew he loved me from the first moment he met me...and once my love dawned on me...it was magic..if I were to ever believe in soul mates it would be him.

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