Did you and your S/O have "near misses" before you hooked up - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ShaniFaye · 07-13-2005, 07:47 AM

I was talking with some other girls on another board and something she said got me to thinking.....she was mentioning how it took her and her SO almost 20 years to actually meet and hook up with each other........

Dave and I spent about 20 years "missing" each other. We actually had the same circle of friends. I have a girl that cuts my hair...she is the wife of a very good friend of his.... there were a few times that he'd just left their house when I arrived for a hair appt...or he arrived right after I left. We were at the very same concerts and even spoke to the same people, but not at the same time. We lived in different school districts but we were both friends with the same people at the opposite schools. We were actually sitting in the same place in a bar watching a local band competition right before we met (a few weeks prior)

I had a crush on one of his best friends brothers all thru out high school and was at their house the same time Dave was (but hes 4 1/2 years younger than me, so I wouldnt have paid any attention to him when I was 14-18 cause he would have been 10-14 lol). There are MANY circumstances like this between us...I've only listed a few off the top of my head.

I know this one doesnt count as a near miss...but my ex mother in law actually dated Dave's dad when they were in high school.

His mother and grandmother was my lunchroom lady when I was in middle school

David and I had to meet thru an online personals even though we'd been in the same place all our lives

does anyone else have a situation like this?

Redlemon · 07-13-2005, 07:53 AM

We met in the first days of college, and started dating later that semester. We were from different states, so the chances of overlap were slim. However, when she visited my parents' house and was looking through an old photo album, she saw pictures of the New Jersey boardwalk that was the next town over from her. Since she spent most of her elementary-school summers at that beach and boardwalk playing with any kid close to her age, it is very likely that we met back then.

StanT · 07-13-2005, 08:24 AM

Oh ya,

I met my wife at the age of 9 in a Judo class. I guess we started fighting long before we started dating. I asked her out when I was 15 and she turned me down and dated one of my friends. She married him at 18, divorced him 6 months later. By that time I was dating and living with someone else. We have several mutual friends and ran into each other on and off over the years. At the age of 24, one of my friends married her best friend. I picked up the maid of honor at the wedding reception and never looked back (though she would argue that she picked me up). That would be 26 years ago, it seems to have worked out.

Lyncher · 07-13-2005, 08:50 AM

I met my SO twice before I even knew who she was ... once at a party where she was in a hot tub 2 years before we met. And again at a NickelBack concert, she was with mt friends SO and she asked me for a smoke. Then I bought my own house and my friend was moving in and asked if his SO could move in ... I said yes and she asked me if her friend could move in ... I decided ok cuz then I wouldn't have to pay any bills with that many people. Now my fiend and SO moved out and my SO and me have been together for almost 2 years.

Samalie · 07-13-2005, 09:28 AM

My wife and I had pleanty we discovered after the fact.

Most notable was (as we were looking thru one of her old photo albums) was a picture clipped from the newspaper from the Summer Reading Program at our local library from when we were like 6 sitting right beside each other

ShaniFaye · 07-13-2005, 09:34 AM

Samalie thats awesome!!! Thats totally the kind I was talking about

Sage · 07-13-2005, 09:44 AM

Martel and I went to high school together (boarding high school in 11th and 12th grades). He was friends with some of my friends, and I always had a crush on him. I actually asked him out senior year but he got so flustered he said no. But, no "near misses" like sitting next to each other when we were 6.. that's too cute!

Y2KDREAD · 07-13-2005, 10:58 AM

I hope that whenever i find me a girl it won't be something like that, because it would irk me so much knowing that it could have started sooner, and yet just because of fate, it didn't

ShaniFaye · 07-13-2005, 11:10 AM

I truly believe that I met Dave when I was at the point in my life to handle the kind of relationship that we have. If I had met him when I was younger I dont honestly know that it would be the same. Im not the same person I was when I married the first time, Im not even the same person I was when I had my daughter when I was 25.

I'm a firm believer in things happening when its "time" so I really dont complain too much that we didnt meet when we were at the same ....whatever the event was.....Im just glad that on Sept 18th 2003 we finally hooked up!!!

*Nikki* · 07-13-2005, 12:35 PM

My husband and I went to the same highschool at the same time and even worked at the same grocery store at the same time and never knew each other. He has a group picture somewhere of when I was like 17 or 18 and he was 15 or 16 and we are both in it at the grocery store. Also we knew a lot of the same people.
Years after that we hung out at the same bar all the time. It was a REALLY small place so we must have just missed each other numerous times. We even spoke to the same people there.

Like Shani said though, I wouldn't have been ready and he DEFINATELY would not have been ready for what we share now, at that point in our lives.

Ultimately we met on date.com where I was looking around as a joke and his boss had put a profile for him because he wanted him to have a girlfriend. After all the emailing we talked on the phone and found out we lived 2 miles from each other!!

Jinn · 07-13-2005, 12:56 PM

Sounds like your husband has a certain boss to thank.

ratbastid · 07-13-2005, 01:02 PM

lurkette and I couldn't possibly have met before we met. We stuck when we met, though!

BonesCPA · 07-13-2005, 01:20 PM

No such like with my wife. With an ex-gf I've there was a couple of hits. When we first went out and discussed backgrounds, it turns out that her ex-bf was the brother of one of my friends. (They have since married - I went to the wedding.) Also, one her drinking buddies married my best friend - I was the best man. Didn't realize the connection until about a year after they were married. This actually has turned out better because there is no need to hide stories that could embarass - we are all married and not to each other.

ruggerp11 · 07-13-2005, 02:16 PM

My so and I met in London and since she lives a time zone away here at home its unlikely that we ever met prior.

la petite moi · 07-13-2005, 02:46 PM

nwlinkvxd and I knew each other since I was a freshman in marching band. I actually had no feelings for him, but he claims that he had a crush on me after talking to me on the band bus.

(PS: Shouldn't this be on the Sexuality board?)

ShaniFaye · 07-13-2005, 02:56 PM

Why? it has nothing to do with sex?!?!?!

Daniel_ · 07-14-2005, 01:19 AM

THis reminds me of a joke I love:

A couple are in bed together, and he asks her "Am I the first man you've made love to?"

"Dunno", she replies, "were you in the queue for the toilets at Glastonbury in 1997?"

Daniel_ · 07-14-2005, 01:21 AM

Forgot to say - my partner and I met online, but when we got to talking it turned out that she was at that time working in a building that I used to have to walk past every morning. Although separated by 14 years, we occupied the same places in London - it gave us something in common.

yakimushi · 07-14-2005, 06:06 PM

la petite moi · 07-14-2005, 06:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShaniFaye

Why? it has nothing to do with sex?!?!?!

As said by spectre, in the Sexuality forum sticky:
"This is a place for everyone to discuss things or people near and dear to their hearts, things about their sex- or lack of sex- lives, their loves or infatuations, <b>dating and relationship advice/tips</b>, and all other discussions on our sexuality."

Sorry, I'm just used to seeing things about relationships, etc. in either Living or Sexuality. Threw me out of whack.

streak_56 · 07-15-2005, 07:21 AM

I lived in Ohio for about a year when Lead543 knew me, and then I moved back to Canada. But then I got into all kinds of the wrong crap, but in the end, I figured out what I wanted. And Lead543 got what she wanted, so I guess we're both happy.

genuinegirly · 07-15-2005, 08:01 AM

WOW, now that is just freaky: meeting in online personals even though you've been in the same place all of your lives. I can't imagine something like that. Especially when you have common friends and the like. Suppose it's just that way - who knows who you'll end up with.

Sticky · 07-15-2005, 09:52 AM

Here is a good one.

My wife and I started dating in college. We were in a class together and did some group work together for that class. Near the end of the semester we started dating.

We knew who each other were before but never really more than that.

Our parents were freindly with each other and got together with each other but never with the kids. So basically I knew her parents and she knew mine.

I went to a summer camp for 10 summers. One of those summers she was in the girls bunk in the same age group. She says that she had a crush on me that summer. I only vaguely remember her from that summer and I only remembered her at all after she reminded me that she was there.

Another summer at the same camp , a few years later, I was in the same bunk (grouping) as her brother.

So after highschool I was sposed to go to college out of the country but before highschool ended I did not go through with it. She, who I still did not know yet, was planning on going to the same country but for her it did not work out for other reasons.

Anyway, like I said we ended up in one of the same classes and started dating.
one night she was looking through pictures that she had in her house and came across some pictures fromwhen she was just younger than two years old. In the pictures she was a boy that looked really familiar to her. She asked her mother about the pictures and she confirmed that it was me in those pictures. In fact, the pictures were of my 2nd birthday party in the backyard of my house. One of the pictures has the tow of us standing next to each other looking at each other.

We found out that we used to play together sometimes when our mothers would do carpool together for our sisters.

c172g · 07-15-2005, 11:43 AM

Whoa, boy, here goes.

We live in a small town. My wife's dad & my dad worked together in 1965 to get the town a hockey program. There were only about 5 guys on the board.

My brother and her brother were on the same high school hockey team & were partners on defense. My wife & I went to the games as 5 & 7 year olds, our parents knew each other through hockey but didn't do anything together socially.

One of my high school friends dated my wife for almost four years. I dated a girl that my wife worked with. We had a lot of misses. I think back to the times we were both unattached & am thankful that I never asked her out back then, as things would almost surely never have worked out as well as the have now. Neither of us could be happier, and we have two great kids as a result.

07-13-2005, 07:47 AM	#1 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Did you and your S/O have "near misses" before you hooked up I was talking with some other girls on another board and something she said got me to thinking.....she was mentioning how it took her and her SO almost 20 years to actually meet and hook up with each other........ Dave and I spent about 20 years "missing" each other. We actually had the same circle of friends. I have a girl that cuts my hair...she is the wife of a very good friend of his.... there were a few times that he'd just left their house when I arrived for a hair appt...or he arrived right after I left. We were at the very same concerts and even spoke to the same people, but not at the same time. We lived in different school districts but we were both friends with the same people at the opposite schools. We were actually sitting in the same place in a bar watching a local band competition right before we met (a few weeks prior) I had a crush on one of his best friends brothers all thru out high school and was at their house the same time Dave was (but hes 4 1/2 years younger than me, so I wouldnt have paid any attention to him when I was 14-18 cause he would have been 10-14 lol). There are MANY circumstances like this between us...I've only listed a few off the top of my head. I know this one doesnt count as a near miss...but my ex mother in law actually dated Dave's dad when they were in high school. His mother and grandmother was my lunchroom lady when I was in middle school David and I had to meet thru an online personals even though we'd been in the same place all our lives does anyone else have a situation like this? __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

07-13-2005, 07:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	We met in the first days of college, and started dating later that semester. We were from different states, so the chances of overlap were slim. However, when she visited my parents' house and was looking through an old photo album, she saw pictures of the New Jersey boardwalk that was the next town over from her. Since she spent most of her elementary-school summers at that beach and boardwalk playing with any kid close to her age, it is very likely that we met back then. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

07-13-2005, 09:34 AM	#6 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Samalie thats awesome!!! Thats totally the kind I was talking about __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

07-13-2005, 09:44 AM	#7 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Martel and I went to high school together (boarding high school in 11th and 12th grades). He was friends with some of my friends, and I always had a crush on him. I actually asked him out senior year but he got so flustered he said no. But, no "near misses" like sitting next to each other when we were 6.. that's too cute! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

07-13-2005, 10:58 AM	#8 (permalink)
Y2KDREAD Crazy Location: College Station, TX	I hope that whenever i find me a girl it won't be something like that, because it would irk me so much knowing that it could have started sooner, and yet just because of fate, it didn't __________________ Signatures are for chumps.

07-13-2005, 08:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
StanT © Location: Colorado	Oh ya, I met my wife at the age of 9 in a Judo class. I guess we started fighting long before we started dating. I asked her out when I was 15 and she turned me down and dated one of my friends. She married him at 18, divorced him 6 months later. By that time I was dating and living with someone else. We have several mutual friends and ran into each other on and off over the years. At the age of 24, one of my friends married her best friend. I picked up the maid of honor at the wedding reception and never looked back (though she would argue that she picked me up). That would be 26 years ago, it seems to have worked out.

07-13-2005, 08:50 AM	#4 (permalink)
Lyncher Tilted Location: Canada	I met my SO twice before I even knew who she was ... once at a party where she was in a hot tub 2 years before we met. And again at a NickelBack concert, she was with mt friends SO and she asked me for a smoke. Then I bought my own house and my friend was moving in and asked if his SO could move in ... I said yes and she asked me if her friend could move in ... I decided ok cuz then I wouldn't have to pay any bills with that many people. Now my fiend and SO moved out and my SO and me have been together for almost 2 years.

07-13-2005, 09:28 AM	#5 (permalink)
Samalie Tilted Location: Edmonton, Canada	My wife and I had pleanty we discovered after the fact. Most notable was (as we were looking thru one of her old photo albums) was a picture clipped from the newspaper from the Summer Reading Program at our local library from when we were like 6 sitting right beside each other

07-13-2005, 11:10 AM	#9 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I truly believe that I met Dave when I was at the point in my life to handle the kind of relationship that we have. If I had met him when I was younger I dont honestly know that it would be the same. Im not the same person I was when I married the first time, Im not even the same person I was when I had my daughter when I was 25. I'm a firm believer in things happening when its "time" so I really dont complain too much that we didnt meet when we were at the same ....whatever the event was.....Im just glad that on Sept 18th 2003 we finally hooked up!!! __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

07-13-2005, 12:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	My husband and I went to the same highschool at the same time and even worked at the same grocery store at the same time and never knew each other. He has a group picture somewhere of when I was like 17 or 18 and he was 15 or 16 and we are both in it at the grocery store. Also we knew a lot of the same people. Years after that we hung out at the same bar all the time. It was a REALLY small place so we must have just missed each other numerous times. We even spoke to the same people there. Like Shani said though, I wouldn't have been ready and he DEFINATELY would not have been ready for what we share now, at that point in our lives. Ultimately we met on date.com where I was looking around as a joke and his boss had put a profile for him because he wanted him to have a girlfriend. After all the emailing we talked on the phone and found out we lived 2 miles from each other!!

07-13-2005, 12:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
Jinn Lover - Protector - Teacher Location: Seattle, WA	Sounds like your husband has a certain boss to thank. __________________ "I'm typing on a computer of science, which is being sent by science wires to a little science server where you can access it. I'm not typing on a computer of philosophy or religion or whatever other thing you think can be used to understand the universe because they're a poor substitute in the role of understanding the universe which exists independent from ourselves." - Willravel

07-13-2005, 01:02 PM	#12 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	lurkette and I couldn't possibly have met before we met. We stuck when we met, though!

07-13-2005, 01:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
BonesCPA No. It's not done yet. Location: sorta kinda phila	No such like with my wife. With an ex-gf I've there was a couple of hits. When we first went out and discussed backgrounds, it turns out that her ex-bf was the brother of one of my friends. (They have since married - I went to the wedding.) Also, one her drinking buddies married my best friend - I was the best man. Didn't realize the connection until about a year after they were married. This actually has turned out better because there is no need to hide stories that could embarass - we are all married and not to each other. __________________ Back into hibernation.

07-13-2005, 02:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
ruggerp11 Cautiously soaring Location: exploring my new home in SF	My so and I met in London and since she lives a time zone away here at home its unlikely that we ever met prior. __________________ Patriotism means being loyal to your country all the time and to its government when it deserves it. --Mark Twain Do What makes you happy --Me BUT! "Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness" - Chuang-Tzu

07-13-2005, 02:46 PM	#15 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	nwlinkvxd and I knew each other since I was a freshman in marching band. I actually had no feelings for him, but he claims that he had a crush on me after talking to me on the band bus. (PS: Shouldn't this be on the Sexuality board?)

07-14-2005, 06:06 PM	#19 (permalink)
yakimushi Addict	xx Last edited by yakimushi; 04-23-2009 at 01:04 PM..

07-13-2005, 02:56 PM	#16 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Why? it has nothing to do with sex?!?!?! __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

07-14-2005, 01:19 AM	#17 (permalink)
Daniel_ Evil Priest: The Devil Made Me Do It! Location: Southern England	THis reminds me of a joke I love: A couple are in bed together, and he asks her "Am I the first man you've made love to?" "Dunno", she replies, "were you in the queue for the toilets at Glastonbury in 1997?" __________________ ╔═════════════════════════════════════════╗ Overhead, the Albatross hangs motionless upon the air, And deep beneath the rolling waves, In labyrinths of Coral Caves, The Echo of a distant time Comes willowing across the sand; And everthing is Green and Submarine ╚═════════════════════════════════════════╝

07-14-2005, 01:21 AM	#18 (permalink)
Daniel_ Evil Priest: The Devil Made Me Do It! Location: Southern England	Forgot to say - my partner and I met online, but when we got to talking it turned out that she was at that time working in a building that I used to have to walk past every morning. Although separated by 14 years, we occupied the same places in London - it gave us something in common. __________________ ╔═════════════════════════════════════════╗ Overhead, the Albatross hangs motionless upon the air, And deep beneath the rolling waves, In labyrinths of Coral Caves, The Echo of a distant time Comes willowing across the sand; And everthing is Green and Submarine ╚═════════════════════════════════════════╝

07-15-2005, 07:21 AM	#21 (permalink)
streak_56 who ever said streaking was a bad thing? Location: Calgary	I lived in Ohio for about a year when Lead543 knew me, and then I moved back to Canada. But then I got into all kinds of the wrong crap, but in the end, I figured out what I wanted. And Lead543 got what she wanted, so I guess we're both happy.

07-15-2005, 08:01 AM	#22 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	WOW, now that is just freaky: meeting in online personals even though you've been in the same place all of your lives. I can't imagine something like that. Especially when you have common friends and the like. Suppose it's just that way - who knows who you'll end up with. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

07-15-2005, 09:52 AM	#23 (permalink)
Sticky	Here is a good one. My wife and I started dating in college. We were in a class together and did some group work together for that class. Near the end of the semester we started dating. We knew who each other were before but never really more than that. Our parents were freindly with each other and got together with each other but never with the kids. So basically I knew her parents and she knew mine. I went to a summer camp for 10 summers. One of those summers she was in the girls bunk in the same age group. She says that she had a crush on me that summer. I only vaguely remember her from that summer and I only remembered her at all after she reminded me that she was there. Another summer at the same camp , a few years later, I was in the same bunk (grouping) as her brother. So after highschool I was sposed to go to college out of the country but before highschool ended I did not go through with it. She, who I still did not know yet, was planning on going to the same country but for her it did not work out for other reasons. Anyway, like I said we ended up in one of the same classes and started dating. one night she was looking through pictures that she had in her house and came across some pictures fromwhen she was just younger than two years old. In the pictures she was a boy that looked really familiar to her. She asked her mother about the pictures and she confirmed that it was me in those pictures. In fact, the pictures were of my 2nd birthday party in the backyard of my house. One of the pictures has the tow of us standing next to each other looking at each other. We found out that we used to play together sometimes when our mothers would do carpool together for our sisters. __________________ Sticky The Stickman Last edited by Sticky; 07-15-2005 at 09:54 AM..

07-15-2005, 11:43 AM	#24 (permalink)
c172g Crazy Location: Michigan	Whoa, boy, here goes. We live in a small town. My wife's dad & my dad worked together in 1965 to get the town a hockey program. There were only about 5 guys on the board. My brother and her brother were on the same high school hockey team & were partners on defense. My wife & I went to the games as 5 & 7 year olds, our parents knew each other through hockey but didn't do anything together socially. One of my high school friends dated my wife for almost four years. I dated a girl that my wife worked with. We had a lot of misses. I think back to the times we were both unattached & am thankful that I never asked her out back then, as things would almost surely never have worked out as well as the have now. Neither of us could be happier, and we have two great kids as a result.