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Locke00000 · 06-01-2005, 03:28 PM

Heh... I feel like a fucking soap opera, but I convinced her (the ex) to come over today to talk. I felt like shit all week, and she did too. She "started" seeing this other guy that she pretty much hated with a passion. I had to go through all of the "he isn't good for you" etc, but I came to the realization yesterday that I really wanted her back, and that I ended a really good thing.

We are back together. I swear that rational people don't have relationships like this.

waltert · 06-01-2005, 07:20 PM

if you have to ask....

uptown · 06-05-2005, 11:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vaultboy

Quoted for truthery.

Looking aty the other threads regarding Cheating, I think that its become too easy to give up on relationships. I think that we've become too obsessed with pursuing our own happiness through Dr Phil and self-help books, so that as soon as an unsavoury event happens in our relationships, we cut and run.

Its ironic how most women (and some men) on this forum talk about marriage vows and commitment, yet they are just as quick to say "leave him/her" if there's trouble. Trying times like these is what really test your commitment, and by the speed with which most people here advise break-ups, the sad truth is that most of us are not as commited as we think.

What good is honesty and talking through the issues in your relationship if you'll only "work on it" if you hear what you want to hear? I for one belive that there is a way back from infidelity. Its not easy or quick to regain that trust, but it can be done. Not all cases of infidelity are the same, and I think that people on this forum are way too quick to tar all cheaters with the same brush.

Spread some love. Especially to the people you don't want to.

Sometimes, a sexual relationship with a long term partner becomes so fraught with problems and with hurt that after awhile you don't view them stepping out as "cheating" but rather as a rest and relief for yourself.At this point in time I want my partner to sleep with other people.I obviously do nothing for him sexually and expecting him to remain faithful physically is doing a hurtful thing to somebody I love very much in every other way.

Corcoran · 06-05-2005, 11:38 PM

Of course it was more exciting than anything you have done with your girlfriend. You were intimate with someone who is a friend and you took that friendship to the next level. To answer everyone This isnt sex. It is an exchange of power, PERIOD. Now that's not to say it was or wasn't cheating. The intimacy you and your friend shared can cause a sexual rush but so can skinny dipping with a cousin. Is that cheating? The big question is how serious are you about your girlfriend? You really need to evaluate this before yu do anything. If you really love her and care for her, you two need to talk, but be ready for her to look for things to throw, and dont give specifics or names keep it brief, explain that both of you were clothed and leave it at that. If she demands specifics dont give them, she is looking for fuel for her gas operated castrator. Above all get across to her there was no sex but you still feel guilty about it.
Beyond that consider this: Could this have happened due to your friend's breakup or is it possible that she feels something more for you than you realize or perhaps you have feelings for her. Hey nobody ever said life is simple

06-01-2005, 03:28 PM	#81 (permalink)
Locke00000 Tilted	Heh... I feel like a fucking soap opera, but I convinced her (the ex) to come over today to talk. I felt like shit all week, and she did too. She "started" seeing this other guy that she pretty much hated with a passion. I had to go through all of the "he isn't good for you" etc, but I came to the realization yesterday that I really wanted her back, and that I ended a really good thing. We are back together. I swear that rational people don't have relationships like this.

06-01-2005, 07:20 PM	#82 (permalink)
waltert Insane	if you have to ask....

06-05-2005, 11:38 PM	#84 (permalink)
Corcoran Upright	Of course it was more exciting than anything you have done with your girlfriend. You were intimate with someone who is a friend and you took that friendship to the next level. To answer everyone This isnt sex. It is an exchange of power, PERIOD. Now that's not to say it was or wasn't cheating. The intimacy you and your friend shared can cause a sexual rush but so can skinny dipping with a cousin. Is that cheating? The big question is how serious are you about your girlfriend? You really need to evaluate this before yu do anything. If you really love her and care for her, you two need to talk, but be ready for her to look for things to throw, and dont give specifics or names keep it brief, explain that both of you were clothed and leave it at that. If she demands specifics dont give them, she is looking for fuel for her gas operated castrator. Above all get across to her there was no sex but you still feel guilty about it. Beyond that consider this: Could this have happened due to your friend's breakup or is it possible that she feels something more for you than you realize or perhaps you have feelings for her. Hey nobody ever said life is simple