SofaKingA

What is the best way to introduce yourself to a completely random girl? I see the same girl all the time after class (she goes into a classroom as I am leaving it). I don't exactly know what to say. Have any suggestions on how to get the communication flowing??

cellophanedeity

"Hello, I couldn't help but notice you. My name's SofaKingA."
Then let it go from there!

(Sidenote:great name!)

Disk_Pusher

"Hi, I'm Jesus."

~ My fiancee, Scott, when we first met.
(long haired and bearded, if that helps it make sence.)

SiNai

Haha. I would give my left shoe to meet Jesus.

Just try to connect.. I guess you two don't share a class, at least you could relate about that.. Just introduce yourself, maybe ask her some general questions.. Think what cellophane said!

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SofaKingA

If it helps, I tried that on Friday. I went up to a different girl and said, " Hey I see you everywhere on campus, I just thought I would finally introduce myself," and she seemed a little stand offish but she said it was nice to meet me. It seems like random girls are always a bit harder to talk to because they have a defensive wall built up to guys talking to them. It's getting close to summa time and I think I want to get a girl soon. I am always down to hear suggestions.

oblar

I generally don't have too much trouble going up to random people and beginning a conversation. I think it is mainly in your manner you speak to them. Don't be nervous and act friendly.

I have had some of my friends from classes actually in disbelief when they find out that the person I was speaking to for 10-15 minutes was a complete stranger before.

As far as a pick up line, I usually just say "Hello", "How are you?", or "Who are you?"

they seem to work fairly well for me, but I would be wary with the last one. I said that to a girl and we are friends now, another person said the exact same thing and they were immediatley on bad terms. Not sure what the difference was other than the person told me the difference was in the way which we said it. She told me I said it in a joking matter and it put her at ease.

*shrugs* Just be friendly or an asshole, depending on who you are trying to pick up *grin*

MEAD

The difficulty of the first line is dependant on the situation. As an example it is much easier to go to talk to them if they are engaged in some kind of activity, rather than just walking around campus. If they happen to involved in something, try and use that as your witty springboard for conversation. Take an interest in what they are currently doing, but dont harp on it too long, try and get the focus quickly to them. But also try and get a decent balance between talking about yourself and asking about them, with a bias towards them. I know people will say that you want to be totaly interested in them, but you need to sell yourself as an interesting person. Now if they happen to just be walking along not doing much of anything. You are going to come off as a bit odd no matter how slick you try to be, there is just no good reason for you to be talking to them out of the blue other than that you find them attractive. So just let yourself be odd for a little bit till you can show them that you are in fact a normal person who just wanted desparately to get to know them, and had no other way than to just be straight forward. But what do I know, I am not slick at all, I rely on that endearing bumbling Hugh Grant sort of thing.

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Acetylene

You actually don't want to just say "Hi, I'm Sofa, what's your name" because that is boring! girls get a million boring come-ons a day and they're not going to respond to this particular one (unless you are really ridiculously hot.)

Instead, pick out something interesting about her and comment on it in a positive and pleasing way. Since your onl interaction is to see her walk through a door, you're a bit challenged for interesting things t say anyway since you don't hav a clue about her. So, you'll probably be stuck talking about her hair, clothes, or books. Example, "Ohhh, is that real leather? That red matches your nails perfectly! Oh, by the way, I'm Sofa..." If you're talking about her appearance, DON'T LEER or act suggestive. It's creepy. Just be friendly and admiring.

BUT, if you know what class she is going to, you can ask her about it, which is better because it is less of a shallow compliment (which can backfire if you do it wrong). Then you have the potential for an actual interesting conversation, especially if you know a bit about the subject. Remember, the longer you can keep her talking without boring her, the better! But beware of the temptation to act like you know it all, especially when you don't--SHE is the one taking the class, so be respectful and for the love of God, don't tell her she's wrong. You can politely disagree and debate, but not in the first conversation.

Good luck!

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StormBerlin

My usual line is something along the lines of "I don't normally do this, but I think you're very attractive and I just wanted to introduce myself." Works like a charm Plus, it helps that I blush at the drop of a hat, so it makes the line even more believable.

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ratbastid

Wow. Good to know there's a girl out there who's as sneaky as most guys!

I introduced myself to my wife by quoting Monty Python. It was extremely effective, but I don't recommend it for everybody.

RelaX

"Wanna fuck?"
Short... to the point.... may not always work, but you can work the numbers and you're bound to get one who says "sure".

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StormBerlin

My pick up lines are the only part about me that's sneaky Ratbastid Once I'm out on a date, I'm freakishly honest and to the point.

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JamesB

I have NEVER had a problem with the: "Hi, my name I James what's yours?" What REALLY matters is how you engage in conversation AFTER the lame intro.

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kangaeru

All about being comfortable in your own skin after you say "Hi, I'm XXX, what's your name?"

You can tell her "Hey you know, I see you everytime I'm leaving this class, I was wondering what your name is? I couldn't keep pullin the whole 'I'm gonna walk by everybody around me like I don't see them' routine people seem to like around here"

Makes you sound confident and outgoing, and at the same time not too sketchy. If you say that line with calmess, a little humor and some sincerity, you're in. If you stumble over it and say it robotically, you're toast.

Just remember that before you approach her, she is nothing to you. She is just a cute girl you see every day for a brief moment. If she rejects you or has a bad attitude, then who needs her? Your life won't change, and you definitely don't know enough about her to know whether she's the kind of person getting rejected by is even worth worrying about, she could be a lesbian, or a complete mess inside her own head. Most people are.

Go with the flow, and talk about her more than you if you can.

Jackebear

I loved that...thanks.

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Martian

I don't think there's any one line. Just be confident, be yourself. If you're friendly and confident (without being overbearing or creepy) you should be okay.

Also, that whole 'I need a girl' attitude is the wrong way to go about it. Get yourself out there and be friendly, whatever happens happens. It's a bad situation to be in a relationship just for the sake of having one.

tooth

Seems to work for tele-marketers and email spammers

Suave

Sit in on her class, try to sit next to her, and then just strike up some conversation. SHE CAN'T RUN WHEN YOU HAVE HER BLOCKED IN! MUAHAHAHAHAHA!!

But seriously. If you think she'd be a little defensive, you can open by asking for "last week's notes" or whatever.

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HLP

"Hey do you know how much a Polar Bear weighs?"

"Enough to break the ice. So what's your name?"

Its funny, its corny, it will get you into a conversation if you are generally a funny guy. Just dont use it all the time or girls will start catching on.

THGL

I remember reading somewhere that at closing time in a bar, you have a 3 in 10 chance of getting an "okay" when telling a girl to get in your car and go home with you. I've never tried it myself, and now that I'm married I think it would be kinda awkward when we got home.

Karkaboosh1

Hi, i noticed that we dont take a class together. or some other crap, just ask her what class she takes witht he one you leave, what major she is. "Im thinking of transfering to that major cus ................" werid reason works, asking if its hard and crap. joke around, be friendly... think you can handle it frmo there once it gets going. you get the idea.

777

This is very true. Set a goal in your mind and your actions will subconciously steer you towards that goal. If your pessimistic, then, shit happens. But if you keep positive, relax, and be funny, you'll be surprised at what will happen.

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777

My favorite intro, gentlely tap her foot with mine, then say, "Hey, I think your foot's flirting with me." It works even better if she acually steps on it by mistake.

As far as the "intro" goes, she'll ask for my name if she likes me.

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TroutKind

She is probably wondering the same thing. Make some eye contact and let that lead you on to what to say. You can't really prepare for something like that cause you'll end up messing the whole introduction up. Confidence is the key.

visotech

Next time instead of passing her by, go her way and sit next to her in her class. Say something like "wow this is the first time ive come to class all quarter, wtf are we learning right now..." Now you have your way in

Daniel_

Honesty.

Whatever else you do, you MUST be able to live with it later - what if this girl turns out to be "the one"?

If you lie to her to get an introduction, you might well be totally fucked if you ever tried to get serious.

Personally, I'd go with what you said in post one - something like "I've been watching you come out of this class, and you (are really hot/interesting/have spectacular breasts/should suck my cock/whatever)* so can we go for a (coffee/donut/lunch/anal sex session while your mates piss on me)* or I'd never forgive myself"


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