former newt

what are some good activities to do when you're getting to know a girl? this girl i like came over with one of her friends and we all did nothing. not a good start. i don't want to come across as boring, but i have no clue what there is to do!

i hope i'm not posting something that's been addressed a million times...though it probably has been...

Gilda

It depends upon a lot of things. What are her interests? How much money do you have to spend, how much time do you have, do you have transportation, etc.

Here's the key: Ask her what she likes to do. If it's something you can afford, do it.

There are a lot of cheap, "getting to know you" activities. Play cards, an easy to learn game like hearts, or if there are two couples, a nice partners game like canasta or spades. Basically free, and makes for good interaction.

Party games are good, like pictionary or charades.

I always liked amusement parks, as it gave my date a chance to put his or her arm around me on the rides we rode close together on.

Rent movies and watch them together--a good horror movie makes for a good excuse for her to bury her head in your chest and for you to put your arm around her.

Put on some music and dance together.

If the weather's nice, go for a walk, or even better, go on a picnic and take along a frisbee.

Miniature golf is a nice, cheap, fun way to share some time.

But let me reiterate: Ask her what she wants to do, and do that.

Starlight4

Women like to be taken out to "different" places, even if it's just your favorite spot on the beach or to some nice restaurant that you've done research on. Gilda is right in saying that there are a lot of "cheap" things to do where you can still impress the girl. Definitely ask her what she likes to do, but it's really sexy when a guy can just make the plans without having to ask the girl, in my opinion.

So, my list of suggestions would be:
1) research a restaurant in your area that you think is nice or take her to one of your favorite places
2) if she's into dessert, (most wimmin are) you can try to look for a cute cafe where you both can get to know each other
3) museums - i think guys who are into museums are sexy
4) cafes that feature small music groups - i don't know where you are, but I know in most cities, you can find little nooks where there's a live band playing just some soft jazz music so that you can talk but not have that awkward silence
5) you can go visit another city - like, I'm in NYC and it'd be really cool if someone took me to Atlantic City or Philly, etc.

Those are the only things I can quickly think of from the top of my head. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Sawfmonkey

Go someplace and play pool, go bowling, go take a walk, window shop, throw a frisbe...anything can be done. Pick one of your favorite things to do and introduce her/her friend to it. It will show you care about getting them to have a good time even if what you choose isn't their thing.

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ironmaiden7o7

There are many, many things that you can do, you can go catch a movie, take her to the pet store to look at fishes, go to the park, spread a blanket, read her a poem/story, etc. It depends on what she likes to do, come on, having a female around you, you can only get more creative when it comes to impressing her, so give it your best shot!

c172g

Rent a hotel room at the local Holiday Inn...sorry, had to put that in.

My wife & I started off with a movie. Went to the bar for a few drinks after that where I knew some friends of both of ours would be just in case we hit a "dry" spot in the conversation & needed some bailing out.

I think our next date was a demo derby, we watched the stars one night (in August, not middle of Michigan winter). Went running together, drove around & shot the shit. Find something you both have in common & do that. Unless she's really interested, don't show her your new 3.2 GHZ Dell Inspiron.

My two cents, which aren't worth much these days...

iccky

My best date idea... Bowling

Dinner and a movie sucks for a first date. During the first part of the date, when you're nervious, there is nothing to do but talk. Total conversation pressure. Then, just as you loosen up, you go to a movie and can't talk anymore.

Bowling, on the other hand, is just a nice relaxed game. Its something most people have done, but don't do very often, so the game can be a conversation piece in itself (stories about bowling as a kid, bragging about that time you broke 150). You can always talk during the game, but if there's an uncomfortable pause, you can just go and really focus on your next roll.

So yeah, bowling.

former newt

bowling's a good idea...

here's another problem: i don't see her that often. i don't want to be the one to seem desperate (because i'm not,) and call her all the time. i don't have much time during the week to do much. if anything, i just wish she'd call me. she sees me in school and gives me big smiles and stuff, but we don't see each other enough to really talk much. so any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated. and continue the suggestions for activities. they're also appreciated.

MexicanOnABike

if you had a few dates, then maybe sex is a good idea to end a date
movie, cofee shop to talk, arcades, bowling, pool, walks, night walks, dinner, lunch, make her supper, rent a movie, cards, go to a comedy show, music concert, go see a play or opera or ballet if she's into it, go to the bar if you dont want to talk(music is always too loud), play videogames(if you're both into it), breakfast, make out, almost any sports as a couple... like bike, frizbee, running, walking, golf, target practice, skating, and finaly, visit shit in your town or out of town that is unique.

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jhkayakr

my wife and I played strip poker the first time, but that may not work for you. Take her out.....do something, she was looking to be entertained.

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