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BigDonkey2 · 11-02-2004, 06:28 PM

Well, today I just found out that my gf is going to be spending the spring semester over in Paris. Shes in Marseille right now and comes back a few days before Christmas. She told me she would look into it last week and wouldn't know for sure until this week. Well, its not too late for her to register and shes going. This fucking blows for me. I've been counting the days till she comes back in anticipation of getting to spend the spring with her, but all those hopes and dreams have been shattered. Its tough enough as it is right now. Although next semester I'll have baseball to keep me busy but its still going to suck. I'll get to see her like twice before she leaves again. The semester over there starts in February and ends in May. I'm really bummed out. I've been really sad all day. Maybe a few words of advice would help, but for the most part I'm really bummed out. I really wanted her to watch me pitch this season because I have the potential of getting drafted. I guess we can't all be happy. Its something she really wants to do and I can't stop her from doing what she wants to do. I'm just really sad about it. Thanks in advance for words of comfort.

-BigD

la petite moi · 11-02-2004, 06:40 PM

Your girlfriend is LUCKY! Let her be happy, and you should be happy for her! (PS: My biggest dream was to go to school in France...I was unable to, though.)

I know where you're coming from though. My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship, and we're on our second school year doing it. You just have to be strong.

Why might you be drafted?

BigDonkey2 · 11-02-2004, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by la petite moi

Why might you be drafted?

Drafted as in a professional baseball team will choose me to be on their team and hopefully pay me lots of money as a signing bonus. Why? Because they like the way I pitch and because I throw hard. There are many different factors

Rlyss · 11-02-2004, 07:21 PM

'Drafted' caught my eye too and I had a mini heart attack!

I know that must really suck having her overseas. Has she expressed any sadness at having to leave you too? I think that opportunity would be a once in a lifetime thing and she can't give up that chance.

I'm sure you've thought of this already, but is there any way you might be able to see her in France? Maybe save a bit of the money from baseball and spend a week or two there? France is supposed to be the romance capitol, I think, or something like that. I think spending a week of romance there with her would easily make up for you two being apart. Of course, going to France needs a little more than a week of eating ramen and beans so perhaps you guys could buy a webcam each and see what you can do?

You can be sad that you'll be alone for a while, but be happy for her to live a dream at the same time

la petite moi · 11-02-2004, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDonkey2

Drafted as in a professional baseball team will choose me to be on their team and hopefully pay me lots of money as a signing bonus. Why? Because they like the way I pitch and because I throw hard. There are many different factors

I thought you meant for war. Heh.

SparklingDot · 11-02-2004, 10:08 PM

I saw "drafted" and thought war too. I know that you're upset about your GF going away. But this is a wonderful opportunity for her. If you get drafted, you'll be making money. That means you could go see her. That's the sort of romantic thing a girl would love. I know it sucks for you. You don't have to be all manly about it, but try not to make her feel bad either. You'll get to see her before she goes, make that time very special. Good luck!

BigDonkey2 · 11-02-2004, 10:21 PM

Thanks all. There is no way I would be able to visit her in the spring. We have baseball from January till May and I can't miss a day. I don't think the coach would like that too much if I took a week off and went to France. I just can't and it really sucks. I'll be happy for her in a few weeks, but for the time being I'm really bummed.

alec · 11-03-2004, 09:25 PM

yah, im going to romania for the spring semester while my SO is in the US. not looking forward to it (considering we're separated by 800 miles already)

cmc · 11-03-2004, 09:51 PM

If you want the intense pain to go away forever here you go.
Say this prayer to yourself, and call me in the morning !

'Holy Spirit, please Heal MY thinking in this situation.
Comfort me, and guide me. Amen.'

Guaranteed to work or your money back !
* Remember, you are NEVER upset for the reason that you think.
And the reason you think is not really thinking, it' projecting, probably
hidden guillt or judgment on your part - only you don't know you're doing it !
* I can tell you love her, because even in your upside down thinking - even YOU
can see that your 'wanting' is in contrast to what she wants. And you KNOW
Dude she can feel you leaning on her.

Finally - just say the prayer and watch peace of mind return to you !
Let me know what happens. Remember, you've never given a problem to
the Holy Spirit that he has not solved for you and you never will. Saying that
little 10 sec prayer is GIVING the problem to the Holy Spirit. Try it - you'll like it !

mandal · 11-03-2004, 11:38 PM

Yah I think the biggest thing is just to make sure you don't bum her out anytime she calls and such. I know there have been times where I'd be excited about something and then my girl sorts of makes me real sad that she's bummed and it ruins things a bit. Just let her have fun and when she gets back i'm sure you guys will have your time together. Not sure how long you've been together, but in many ways it's good that she's going away because it'll help test the relationship.

11-02-2004, 06:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
BigDonkey2 Insane Location: California	feelin really sad Well, today I just found out that my gf is going to be spending the spring semester over in Paris. Shes in Marseille right now and comes back a few days before Christmas. She told me she would look into it last week and wouldn't know for sure until this week. Well, its not too late for her to register and shes going. This fucking blows for me. I've been counting the days till she comes back in anticipation of getting to spend the spring with her, but all those hopes and dreams have been shattered. Its tough enough as it is right now. Although next semester I'll have baseball to keep me busy but its still going to suck. I'll get to see her like twice before she leaves again. The semester over there starts in February and ends in May. I'm really bummed out. I've been really sad all day. Maybe a few words of advice would help, but for the most part I'm really bummed out. I really wanted her to watch me pitch this season because I have the potential of getting drafted. I guess we can't all be happy. Its something she really wants to do and I can't stop her from doing what she wants to do. I'm just really sad about it. Thanks in advance for words of comfort. -BigD

11-02-2004, 10:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
SparklingDot Insane	I saw "drafted" and thought war too. I know that you're upset about your GF going away. But this is a wonderful opportunity for her. If you get drafted, you'll be making money. That means you could go see her. That's the sort of romantic thing a girl would love. I know it sucks for you. You don't have to be all manly about it, but try not to make her feel bad either. You'll get to see her before she goes, make that time very special. Good luck! __________________ 17 seconds is all you really need - Smashing Pumpkins

11-02-2004, 06:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Your girlfriend is LUCKY! Let her be happy, and you should be happy for her! (PS: My biggest dream was to go to school in France...I was unable to, though.) I know where you're coming from though. My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship, and we're on our second school year doing it. You just have to be strong. Why might you be drafted?

11-02-2004, 07:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	'Drafted' caught my eye too and I had a mini heart attack! I know that must really suck having her overseas. Has she expressed any sadness at having to leave you too? I think that opportunity would be a once in a lifetime thing and she can't give up that chance. I'm sure you've thought of this already, but is there any way you might be able to see her in France? Maybe save a bit of the money from baseball and spend a week or two there? France is supposed to be the romance capitol, I think, or something like that. I think spending a week of romance there with her would easily make up for you two being apart. Of course, going to France needs a little more than a week of eating ramen and beans so perhaps you guys could buy a webcam each and see what you can do? You can be sad that you'll be alone for a while, but be happy for her to live a dream at the same time

11-02-2004, 10:21 PM	#7 (permalink)
BigDonkey2 Insane Location: California	Thanks all. There is no way I would be able to visit her in the spring. We have baseball from January till May and I can't miss a day. I don't think the coach would like that too much if I took a week off and went to France. I just can't and it really sucks. I'll be happy for her in a few weeks, but for the time being I'm really bummed.

11-03-2004, 09:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
alec Insane Location: Washington DC	yah, im going to romania for the spring semester while my SO is in the US. not looking forward to it (considering we're separated by 800 miles already)

11-03-2004, 09:51 PM	#9 (permalink)
cmc Crazy Location: usa	If you want the intense pain to go away forever here you go. Say this prayer to yourself, and call me in the morning ! 'Holy Spirit, please Heal MY thinking in this situation. Comfort me, and guide me. Amen.' Guaranteed to work or your money back ! * Remember, you are NEVER upset for the reason that you think. And the reason you think is not really thinking, it' projecting, probably hidden guillt or judgment on your part - only you don't know you're doing it ! * I can tell you love her, because even in your upside down thinking - even YOU can see that your 'wanting' is in contrast to what she wants. And you KNOW Dude she can feel you leaning on her. Finally - just say the prayer and watch peace of mind return to you ! Let me know what happens. Remember, you've never given a problem to the Holy Spirit that he has not solved for you and you never will. Saying that little 10 sec prayer is GIVING the problem to the Holy Spirit. Try it - you'll like it !

11-03-2004, 11:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
mandal Crazy	Yah I think the biggest thing is just to make sure you don't bum her out anytime she calls and such. I know there have been times where I'd be excited about something and then my girl sorts of makes me real sad that she's bummed and it ruins things a bit. Just let her have fun and when she gets back i'm sure you guys will have your time together. Not sure how long you've been together, but in many ways it's good that she's going away because it'll help test the relationship.