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Strange Famous · 10-01-2004, 09:35 AM

Yeah.

Now... erm, I realise this is going to sound biased, and consider the source and so on... but the guy is a COMPLETE jerk from what I have heard. He apparently hit this kid who I used to work with just cos he *looked* at this girl (lets call her S), and he threatened to punch her best (female) friend in an argument... he basically seems to just be some lout who always goes around fighting, boasting about fights he's had, you know the sort... and she is so, she's such a nice girl, she can be a bit careless, and she is quite flirty I guess, but deep down she is a really cool person, and she is very bright... why would she be getting maried to some thug?

Anyway, so she is.. and I KNOW I never had a chance with her. When we worked together we used to flirt quite a lot, and a lot of times she would seem like she really liked me, but then would kind of make it obvious she didnt when it came to it... I dont even see her that much anymore, but I have to admit

I got this email today from her, and my first thought, I felt really happy and had a big smile on my face, then I read it was an invitation to this engagment party.. and I just kind of had this sinking feeling.

I guessi I know it sjust that cos Im not with anyone right now it makes me fixate on other people instead... but, it was a funny feeling, strange and sad... just, you know - missed opportunities and what might have been. Ive posted a couple of things to do with her on here before - like "does she like me" vs "she doesnt" type things.

It sounds false and self serving I know, but she really could do better, even I would be better for her - with all my faults and being a great big fat fuck as I am - at least I dont go around trying to fight people all the time.

CityOfAngels · 10-01-2004, 09:40 AM

Some things you must remember:

1) Women love assholes.
2) Don't focus all of your attention on one woman who doesn't even have interest in you.
3) She's your friend. Be happy for her.
4) There's always more than meets the eye for every person, and it's apparent that she sees that in him.
5) Quit being so insecure. Just because you never asked her out doesn't mean you never had a chance with her.
6) Go out and bang someone hotter than she is. It'll really make you feel better.

P.S. Being fat doesn't always equal to no game. I'm a bit chunky, and I was able to bang the girl of my dreams from high school, AND I have her best friend on my jock. Albeit I'm not Kingpin-sized, I am 230+ lbs and only 6'2".

Strange Famous · 10-02-2004, 01:17 AM

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Originally Posted by CityOfAngels

Some things you must remember:

1) Women love assholes.
2) Don't focus all of your attention on one woman who doesn't even have interest in you.
3) She's your friend. Be happy for her.
4) There's always more than meets the eye for every person, and it's apparent that she sees that in him.
5) Quit being so insecure. Just because you never asked her out doesn't mean you never had a chance with her.
6) Go out and bang someone hotter than she is. It'll really make you feel better.

P.S. Being fat doesn't always equal to no game. I'm a bit chunky, and I was able to bang the girl of my dreams from high school, AND I have her best friend on my jock. Albeit I'm not Kingpin-sized, I am 230+ lbs and only 6'2".

I am pretty sure she never really liked me romantically, she just liked the attention I think, so she flirted with me enough so I kept giving her attention I suppose.

I dont know about being insecure.. I am a little... I have noticed how in other people's lives - they always seem to see situations as if they are right, as if they were wronged (Im sure a lot of times they are, and were)... for me I hardly ever feel that way. I think I am overly self aware of my weaknesses and contradictions, in any situation, I always pretty much feel its probably my fault somehow - maybe most people do, and just pretend they dont, I dont know.

And being overweight doesnt mean no one would like me, I know that... but - the simple fact it is an issue to a lot of people. Obviosuly it is to some degree something I control... I just cant seem to get motivated to get fit again. She was - and Im not just saying so cos I liked her - a very attractive girl, so I guess it stands to reason she would want to be with someone attractive too, if she has the choice... I mean, in not wanting to be with someone like me, I can see her point, and understand entirely why she would feel that way. I dont think Im a bad guy, and I have a lot of things going for me, but I have a lot that isnt too... I've been pretty depressed for the longest time, Im not attractive, I'm too self involved, too full of doubts and uncertaintity, I dont have much motivation, I live like a slob to be honest... so Im not going on like "oh, why would she choose this guy over me..." I just think she could do better - it seems like good girls always end with pricks who just act confident. And it seems true to me, nice guys always finish last... but I'm sure I'll find somebody one day, and we'll be very happy ever after.

fhqwhgads · 10-02-2004, 07:15 AM

You know, there are some people that are just attracted to, for lack of a better work, assholes. Whether they are male or female, some people just gravitate towards those people that don't treat others well. It boggles the mind...I don't know if they see them as "projects", or if they are attracted to the "bad boy/girl" image.... I dunno. Perhaps those people just are attracted to instability and drama. There are people that tend to create drama in their lives for one reason or another.

I'm glad that you're able to recognize that you have a lot of things going for yourself. I consider you a friend, and I hate it when my friends look down on themselves. You admit that you have some faults, and trust me, we all do. The first step is to recognize those areas in your life that cause you problems. You say that you don't have much motivation and that you live like a slob. Well... you can either focus on these things and use them as reasons to be depressed, or you can make a decision to change things... I'm not the greatest motivational typer, bro.... I speak much better than I type. It's hard to give someone a pep talk over the internet. Just.... don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe you do lack a little motivation, but at least you're not a prick, right?

doncalypso · 10-02-2004, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous

Yeah.

Now... erm, I realise this is going to sound biased, and consider the source and so on... but the guy is a COMPLETE jerk from what I have heard. He apparently hit this kid who I used to work with just cos he *looked* at this girl (lets call her S), and he threatened to punch her best (female) friend in an argument... he basically seems to just be some lout who always goes around fighting, boasting about fights he's had, you know the sort... and she is so, she's such a nice girl, she can be a bit careless, and she is quite flirty I guess, but deep down she is a really cool person, and she is very bright... why would she be getting maried to some thug?

Anyway, so she is.. and I KNOW I never had a chance with her. When we worked together we used to flirt quite a lot, and a lot of times she would seem like she really liked me, but then would kind of make it obvious she didnt when it came to it... I dont even see her that much anymore, but I have to admit

I got this email today from her, and my first thought, I felt really happy and had a big smile on my face, then I read it was an invitation to this engagment party.. and I just kind of had this sinking feeling.

I guessi I know it sjust that cos Im not with anyone right now it makes me fixate on other people instead... but, it was a funny feeling, strange and sad... just, you know - missed opportunities and what might have been. Ive posted a couple of things to do with her on here before - like "does she like me" vs "she doesnt" type things.

It sounds false and self serving I know, but she really could do better, even I would be better for her - with all my faults and being a great big fat fuck as I am - at least I dont go around trying to fight people all the time.

If she's engaged to some asshole who mistreats her so badly then she's definitely not worth it...

Quit wasting your time thinking about her and go find yourself a woman that's worth your while.

10-01-2004, 09:35 AM	#1 (permalink)
Strange Famous follower of the child's crusade?	This girl I have a huge crush on is getting engaged Yeah. Now... erm, I realise this is going to sound biased, and consider the source and so on... but the guy is a COMPLETE jerk from what I have heard. He apparently hit this kid who I used to work with just cos he looked at this girl (lets call her S), and he threatened to punch her best (female) friend in an argument... he basically seems to just be some lout who always goes around fighting, boasting about fights he's had, you know the sort... and she is so, she's such a nice girl, she can be a bit careless, and she is quite flirty I guess, but deep down she is a really cool person, and she is very bright... why would she be getting maried to some thug? Anyway, so she is.. and I KNOW I never had a chance with her. When we worked together we used to flirt quite a lot, and a lot of times she would seem like she really liked me, but then would kind of make it obvious she didnt when it came to it... I dont even see her that much anymore, but I have to admit I got this email today from her, and my first thought, I felt really happy and had a big smile on my face, then I read it was an invitation to this engagment party.. and I just kind of had this sinking feeling. I guessi I know it sjust that cos Im not with anyone right now it makes me fixate on other people instead... but, it was a funny feeling, strange and sad... just, you know - missed opportunities and what might have been. Ive posted a couple of things to do with her on here before - like "does she like me" vs "she doesnt" type things. It sounds false and self serving I know, but she really could do better, even I would be better for her - with all my faults and being a great big fat fuck as I am - at least I dont go around trying to fight people all the time. __________________ "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered." The Gospel of Thomas

10-01-2004, 09:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
CityOfAngels Oh shit it's Wayne Brady! Location: Passenger seat of Wayne Brady's car.	Some things you must remember: 1) Women love assholes. 2) Don't focus all of your attention on one woman who doesn't even have interest in you. 3) She's your friend. Be happy for her. 4) There's always more than meets the eye for every person, and it's apparent that she sees that in him. 5) Quit being so insecure. Just because you never asked her out doesn't mean you never had a chance with her. 6) Go out and bang someone hotter than she is. It'll really make you feel better. P.S. Being fat doesn't always equal to no game. I'm a bit chunky, and I was able to bang the girl of my dreams from high school, AND I have her best friend on my jock. Albeit I'm not Kingpin-sized, I am 230+ lbs and only 6'2". Last edited by CityOfAngels; 10-01-2004 at 09:42 AM..

10-02-2004, 07:15 AM	#4 (permalink)
fhqwhgads Junkie	You know, there are some people that are just attracted to, for lack of a better work, assholes. Whether they are male or female, some people just gravitate towards those people that don't treat others well. It boggles the mind...I don't know if they see them as "projects", or if they are attracted to the "bad boy/girl" image.... I dunno. Perhaps those people just are attracted to instability and drama. There are people that tend to create drama in their lives for one reason or another. I'm glad that you're able to recognize that you have a lot of things going for yourself. I consider you a friend, and I hate it when my friends look down on themselves. You admit that you have some faults, and trust me, we all do. The first step is to recognize those areas in your life that cause you problems. You say that you don't have much motivation and that you live like a slob. Well... you can either focus on these things and use them as reasons to be depressed, or you can make a decision to change things... I'm not the greatest motivational typer, bro.... I speak much better than I type. It's hard to give someone a pep talk over the internet. Just.... don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe you do lack a little motivation, but at least you're not a prick, right?