ToothpicksMcgee

My girlfriend is a time bomb on her period, and I fear I could set her off at any moment. Anything I say could be held against me. Should I just shut up while this is happening and be myself again when it's over so we can get back to the loving and the cuddling? Sometimes there's so much tension between us during those long silences where she just doesn't say anything and I fear to say anything 'cause oh boy

god help me

la petite moi

Personally, just be yourself. But be cautious all the same. Your girlfriend already knows she's moody and probably won't hold things against you after the fact (even if she does while on her period). Just be sensitive to her bleeding crotch!

denim

And be ready to vacate the premesis as needed.

the_marq

Whatever you do, don't say "w00t! It's blowjob week!!!"

But seriously, my girlfriend can be a monster on her period. Typically I try to rub her lower back and shoulders (even without her asking) to make her feel better.

If it's really bad just ride out the storm and the next week when all is well again ask her what the deal is? Just cause she doesn't feel well it's no excuse to treat you like shit, however if you say that in the middle of the storm, yer fucked.

You deserve to be treated as least semi-decent 31 days a month, if she can't do that I'd hit the road.

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ToothpicksMcgee

well, she doesn't really treat me like shit, but stuff like smiling a little whens omething's suposed to be serious makes her go "what? you think that's funny?", when smirking is really just my way of physically expressing the ridiculousness of something. "oooh no no no, not funny at all! It's just..really..bizarre! Your story! yes! he he he he he oho..ugh ".

nowthen

i go drinking and stay out the way

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tropple

Ditto. That's reasonable advice. Just don't come back pie-faced and expect to get laid.

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gcbrowni

I wouldn't keep silent on purpose, that can be hard on her. Every time she flies off the handle just remember she's having an off day. Wahtever you do, DON'T make a reference to her condition. That will REALLY set her off.

The hardest part is when you catch yourself responding badly.

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stonegrody

Damn, that's gotta suck. I can understand being extra nice to her because that has to be a pain to deal with but if it gets to a point where she's snapping at you for smiling, I guess the only thing you can do is disappear for a while. Good luck!

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Squishor

Try talking it over with her a week or two after her period. Chances are she will admit that her thought processes during her period were not completely reasonable. I wouldn't push too hard on this point though. Just talk about it with her in a friendly way and let her know you're having a hard time knowing how to best get along with her during those times. Ask her what you can do so that it goes smoother. Understand that she probably doesn't enjoy feeling the way she does either, and may be feeling guilty or confused. Once you can talk about it you can remind her that you're on her side, not against her. Then, next time she does it, maybe you can remind her that this is what you talked about - if she can recognize that her moods and feelings are hormonally-driven, she will develop the skills to cope with it over time, thereby making your life less miserable. She may also want to check out vitamin or herbal supplements.

It took me years to realize what was going on, and it wasn't until I started to notice that about a week or ten days before my period I consistently became emotional and irrational that I figured out that I shouldn't take it so seriously because it was just the hormones talking. It's not always easy to deal with because you feel a certain way and are already reacting emotionally before your rational mind can kick in and go, "Okay hold on...what day of the month is it again?"

ToothpicksMcgee

Thanks for the advice Squishor, I guess I'll have to do the talking thing once this is over. You girls can be so harsh sometimes.

xim

i try to not be around so much when my gf is on the rag. Not only because shes bitchy but because I have a theory about it. No matter what happens in that week she is going to be upset about it. If I buy her a new puppy, she will be upset about the color. It doesnt matter, she will be upset. If im there shes going to be upset at me even if im just sitting quietly. If im not there shes going to be upset because she wants me to be there.

I would rather her be upset because she misses me and remember just how awful it was without me next week than remember how much I pissed her off by getting the wrong kind of flowers because i was stupid enough to think it was possible to please her in this time period.

You can call me Mr. Bitter
... but its practicle

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SparklingDot

I tell my SO when to expect it, and he's a smart one so he's got me figured out more than I do. He usually gets to go out with his friends when I feel too awful to leave the house. And I try to not be too mean or snappy. I always apologize if I do get snippy or mean. He never calls me on it. He's so sweet and takes such good care of me. There's no reason to get cranky over it if your SO gets you the wrong flowers or candy. Take a minute and realize that he's at least trying. And if you can't realize it that week, think about it some other time. We're close enough to deal with it together. I'm glad that he doesn't run for the hills.

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CityOfAngels

This reminds me of when I had sex with my ex while she was on her period for the first time. I pulled out, and after seeing blood on my twanger for the very first time in my life, this is what I blurted out: "Oh my GOD!" Hehe...needless to say she felt pretty self-concious about having sex on her period after that, and she was sure to make me feel bad about it by saying, "You scarred me for life!"
I was still able to talk her into it during her periods after that, though.

ibis

No kiddin! I've never accepted a womans period as an excuse to be a bitch. I understand not feeling good, and not wanting to hang out... but hey, we all get that way. It's not an excuse.

bermuDa

lad its your duty to find you a lass
with child bearing hips and a pink supple ass
and make her your wife
and lather her with love so true

now some rivers run high
some rivers run low
when her river runs red and shes starting her flow
its called menstruation and heres what it means to you

you will notice her bloomers are spotty at first
stand back her ovarian dam's gonna burst
son don't be afraid its a natural thing
just wad up some cotton and hand her a string
and put the old linens ontop of the bed
get out of the house and go down to the old pub instead

she'll retain her water her breast'll be tender
and every third word that you say will offend her
get out of the house and go down to the old pub instead

she'll want to make love, if you do you're a fool
cause you'll only end up with a bloody o'toole
get out of the house and go down to the old pub instead

and she'll want you to sample the fruit of her loins
but son it'll taste like some old rusty coins
so turn off the light and
take off your hat and drop to your knees say a prayer to saint pat
that'll give you the strength to get out of bed
and for irelands sake get out of the house and go down to the old pub instead

now the pub is the place where the lads are meeting
when the moon is full and the gals are a bleeding
the catholic the protestant even the pagan
the pub is the place when your lady is raggin
so drink up your pint boys and thank your shamrocks
that as men folks that we dont have to bleed from our cocks
and that we can escape from the lady in red
and get out of the house and go down to the old pub instead

-Steven Lynch ^_^

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