When do you and your partner get tested for STD's? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

jRuntlets · 09-09-2004, 08:18 PM

I was just wondering about when everyone in the Tilted Forum decides to get tested for STD's when they're with a new partner.

I'm 19, had 1 relationship in that realm and didn't get tested prior to oral sex. The relationship ended, and I was tested after. In retrospect I would have liked him (and myself although I'd been with no one prior) to get tested before having oral. I worried for months that maybe he had something and had given it to me, he always found an excuse not to get tested while we were dating. Eventually we broke up because he was wanting to move too fast for me, ended up that he regretted it and was tested after we broke up. He was clean (he said, never showed me evidence). Lucky for me at my annual exam, I was clean too.

Never again will I engage in any sexual act with a partner who hasn't been tested, I don't ever want to go through being that paranoid again!

Squishor · 09-09-2004, 08:23 PM

Well I'm monagamous now but back when I wasn't, my rule was to get tested for everything after each new partner. That way I already knew I was clean when the next one came along, barring third-party complications of course.

Dane Bramage · 09-10-2004, 07:47 AM

I voted on "Not tested at all." but that is only because we haven't been tested since we started going out. I have been tested recently for HIV (Feb '04) and she has only had one partner in the last 5 years.

DB.

maleficent · 09-10-2004, 08:04 AM

I give blood every 8 weeks or so, and while that's not a substitute for an AIDS test, I would know if there was a problem. I've had several AIDS tests over the years, not that I live a high risk lifestyle, but you never know... You can't tell someone has something just by looking at them. My yearly gyno appointment tests for all the big STDs, and have always come up clean.

However, I was last tested 5 months ago, and I got a piece of paper that says I'm clean, if I were to have had any sexual activity in those past five months, that sort negates the results of the test ,because they are no longer up to the minute.

I wouldn't trust anyone enough to have unprotected sex.

adam · 09-10-2004, 12:54 PM

I voted "Not tested" since we haven't been tested since we got married (it was required for the marriage license, I think). Monogamy has some advantages.

lukethebandgeek · 09-10-2004, 01:42 PM

I voted no because me and my girl had had no previous sexual encounters before each other. I trusted her, and I was her first kiss and all. So, we thought it was fine not to get tested.

davik · 09-10-2004, 02:26 PM

My rule is that if i don't trust the girl 100% we both get tested before we do anything; I'm clean and want to keep it that way. That being said I didn't have my current g/f get tested because she said she'd only been with one other guy and they were both virgins and I trusted her on that. (Note: I wouldn't extend that same trust to someone I was just hooking up with as opposed to having gone out for several months). There's just too much nasty shit out there and as much as I love sex it isn't worth the risk, and if the girl can't understand my insistence that she get checked, tough, I'll find someone else.

Rdr4evr · 09-10-2004, 02:43 PM

I forced my girl to get a blood test before any sexual activity took place. I myself took a test as well just out of respect towards her. It is better to be safe than sorry.

Baldrick · 09-10-2004, 02:48 PM

I've been extremely happily married for 13 years now, so don't worry about these things any longer.

However, I teach Wado Ryu (Karate) and compete in tournaments regularly. One of the requirements our associate has for competing is twice annual AIDS tests, so I get tested often.

View Poll Results: When did you and your partner get tested for STD's?
Before any sexual act whatsoever.	7	29.17%
After oral sex (but before sex).	3	12.50%
After sex.	2	8.33%
We haven't been tested at all.	12	50.00%
Voters: 24. You may not vote on this poll

09-09-2004, 08:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
jRuntlets Crazy	When do you and your partner get tested for STD's? I was just wondering about when everyone in the Tilted Forum decides to get tested for STD's when they're with a new partner. I'm 19, had 1 relationship in that realm and didn't get tested prior to oral sex. The relationship ended, and I was tested after. In retrospect I would have liked him (and myself although I'd been with no one prior) to get tested before having oral. I worried for months that maybe he had something and had given it to me, he always found an excuse not to get tested while we were dating. Eventually we broke up because he was wanting to move too fast for me, ended up that he regretted it and was tested after we broke up. He was clean (he said, never showed me evidence). Lucky for me at my annual exam, I was clean too. Never again will I engage in any sexual act with a partner who hasn't been tested, I don't ever want to go through being that paranoid again! __________________ Horses come and go, but some leave permanent hoof prints on your life.

09-10-2004, 07:47 AM	#3 (permalink)
Dane Bramage Insane Location: Charlotte, NC	I voted on "Not tested at all." but that is only because we haven't been tested since we started going out. I have been tested recently for HIV (Feb '04) and she has only had one partner in the last 5 years. DB. __________________ Every passing hour brings the Solar System forty-three thousand miles closer to Globular Cluster M13 in Hercules — and still there are some misfits who insist that there is no such thing as progress. Kurt Vonnegut - Sirens of Titan

09-10-2004, 08:04 AM	#4 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	I give blood every 8 weeks or so, and while that's not a substitute for an AIDS test, I would know if there was a problem. I've had several AIDS tests over the years, not that I live a high risk lifestyle, but you never know... You can't tell someone has something just by looking at them. My yearly gyno appointment tests for all the big STDs, and have always come up clean. However, I was last tested 5 months ago, and I got a piece of paper that says I'm clean, if I were to have had any sexual activity in those past five months, that sort negates the results of the test ,because they are no longer up to the minute. I wouldn't trust anyone enough to have unprotected sex. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

09-10-2004, 01:42 PM	#6 (permalink)
lukethebandgeek Chicks dig the Saxaphone Location: Nowheresville OH	I voted no because me and my girl had had no previous sexual encounters before each other. I trusted her, and I was her first kiss and all. So, we thought it was fine not to get tested. __________________ Yes, band camp is all it's cracked up to be. So I like Chrono... So what?

09-09-2004, 08:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	Well I'm monagamous now but back when I wasn't, my rule was to get tested for everything after each new partner. That way I already knew I was clean when the next one came along, barring third-party complications of course.

09-10-2004, 12:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
adam Insane	I voted "Not tested" since we haven't been tested since we got married (it was required for the marriage license, I think). Monogamy has some advantages.

09-10-2004, 02:26 PM	#7 (permalink)
davik Irradiation for fun and profit Location: Controlled access area	My rule is that if i don't trust the girl 100% we both get tested before we do anything; I'm clean and want to keep it that way. That being said I didn't have my current g/f get tested because she said she'd only been with one other guy and they were both virgins and I trusted her on that. (Note: I wouldn't extend that same trust to someone I was just hooking up with as opposed to having gone out for several months). There's just too much nasty shit out there and as much as I love sex it isn't worth the risk, and if the girl can't understand my insistence that she get checked, tough, I'll find someone else. __________________ "Whenever you find that you are on the side of the majority, it is time to reform." -- Mark Twain

09-10-2004, 02:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
Rdr4evr Banned	I forced my girl to get a blood test before any sexual activity took place. I myself took a test as well just out of respect towards her. It is better to be safe than sorry.

09-10-2004, 02:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
Baldrick We are everywhere... Location: Barrie, Ontario	I've been extremely happily married for 13 years now, so don't worry about these things any longer. However, I teach Wado Ryu (Karate) and compete in tournaments regularly. One of the requirements our associate has for competing is twice annual AIDS tests, so I get tested often. __________________ You can be young only once, but you can be immature for the rest of your life...