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Seaver

Go for it, just realize that it will progress a lot faster with her than it will for you.

Have fun, be her boy toy, but two things will happen very very quickly. Either she'll want to progress to marriage (bio clock ticking), or she'll have her fun with you until she meets someone she actually sees a future with and drop you like a bad habbit.

Happened to me with a 30 year old, I'm 21. She didnt look a day over 22, sex was wild and great, and since I'm still in college she had no qualms about picking up the tab for the dates. We both knew I was just her boy toy, I was cool with it (as she was AWSOME in bed). One day she met a new guy older than her, and we simply stopped, no hurt on either side. If you think you could do that go for it, by about 30 they've experienced themselves, so they know what they like and can teach you lots of tricks. But as I said prepare yourself for what will happen.

la petite moi

Sounds good. I've only been in relationships with guys that are a year older than me, and what I notice is that they are more experienced than me and can give me great advice. =)

wilbjammin

When you go for someone a lot older than you it is important to pay attention to why you're doing it. There's a reason that people generally go for people near their age - they are at the same point in life. The woman you are interested in is old enough to be your mother, and that tends to raise some flags with me. If you can enter a relationship without feeling that you're doing it for the wrong reasons, then power to you. I just suggest making sure that you really know what you want and why.

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maleficent

Just some random thoughts....

At this point in your life are you looking for a relationship? Being a "boy toy" or the stud on call is not a relationship, and if you are just in it for the sex that's cool, but also consider her feelings as well.

40 + doesn't mean that she's just looking to get laid, what does she want? Does she expect you to be there for her emotionally and physically.

If you do want a relationship, how would you feel about introducing her to your family, your friends.

You were born the year she graduated from high school...

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Kazic

heh first off how did you guys meet?

And yeah I would try to figure out with her what it is the relationship is for you both. If you are thinking hey I am a boytoy and she is thinking relations ship or visa/versa problem.

If you are thinking relationship and so is she hey maybe it can work out. Not everything has to be over though or over analyzed. Why not just be happy for yourselves?

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bermuDa

my dad is in his 50's and dating a woman who's pushing 70. they're very happy together.

An adult is an adult, regardless of their age.

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pinkie

I married to the love of my life who is 26 and I'm 33. We're very happy.

blindawg

I think you've been given the correct advice.. See what she's looking for in life and let her know what you're looking for.. Age seldom matters.. I'm 33 dating a 45 year old.. Love her like i've loved no other.. The age seems to have no difference.. Except that I can tease her 20 year old son that his mom's a MILF..

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ultra_agent9

Yeah, I agree. I'm dating a 21yo girl now (I'm 33) but I have also dated woman older than me a few times. One was more than 10 years my senior. All I can say is: IT'S ALL GOOD!

They're mature, more relaxed with themselves, open and giving, and there's usually no bullshit games that you sometimes get with a young chick. You like her right? Then go for it! It's a good experience for a guy anyway.

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Charlatan

Several years ago my Mom started dating a guy that was 17 years younger than her... I thought she was just getting some action. Then they got married.

Almost 20 years later they are still married.

Go Mom.

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Average_Joe

This probably won't be like your situation or help you much, but it's an experience I would like to share.

When I was in college, there was a 33 years old divorced MILF who worked on campus with me, and she invited me over for dinner at her house one night. I thought it was going to be get together with other friends, but I was the only one who showed up, and her kids were staying overnight at their Dad's. After she tried to seduce me with lots of alcohol, she started talking about how she had her tubes tied and could have sex without getting pregnant. I kind of freaked at the whole setup and bolted.

When I got back to my apartment, I told my roomates about what happened, and they were shitting themselves preaching to me about lost opportunities. I later found out that this woman did this kind of thing pretty often with younger college guys. All she wanted was a fuck buddy.

The moral of the story: expect some great sex, but don't be alarmed if that's all she wants, and she plays the field as well.

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tunafishonrye

My wife is 9 years older than me, and we are very happily married......and still very much in love....

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Bill O'Rights

tunafishonrye?
tunafishonrye?
tuna...fish...on...rye.
tuna fish on rye!
Well, hell. Now I'm hungry, and it's an hour and a half 'till lunch.

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fallenangel

I'm 19 and lately i've been sorta day dreamin about being with an older guy. I don't want a commitment of any sorts, just someone to take charge for a night or two *Shrugs*. At least i think that's what i want. Doesn't matter the age split in numbers, as long as we're compatible mentally and emotionally. Giver!


BOR- I couldn't stop giggling at that, lol

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StormBerlin

I was sixteen when the boyfriend and I started dating. He was 23. I got a lot of shit from my friends, his friends comments mostly consisted of "Good job" or something. As far as parents, mine were totally cool, but his weren't. It's a long story.

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Bill O'Rights

Careful now. That's a mid-life crisis dream.

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Leander

I am 33 and my wife is 46. I actually met my wife through her daughter who is 26. We both needed an apartment and my friend said her mother was cool and we would probably get along. We got an apartment that was big enough so we wouldn't have to be around each other if we didn't want to, but, we stayed up all the time just talking to each other. We weren't dating anybody special at the time and eventually our feelings changed toward each other. We both put off talking about it for a long time until we talked through our feelings and what we wanted from each other. That was the key. We both knew what we wanted and walked into it with our eyes open. That was 6 1/2 years ago and it wasn't easy. My family hated her and didn't bother to try and be polite. Eventually, they started turning the corner. I can't imagine my life without her, I say go for it, but know what you want before it starts and don't deviate from that.
By the way I used to work with a really old lady who preached the benefits of an older woman almost daily:
"We don't yell, We don't tell and we're grateful as Hell"

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analog

Ages can feel awkward, but only for other people- and you shouldn't care about the other people.

Case in point- though it was only a 3-year difference, it was a long-distance relationship with me at 18 and her at 15. That may sound odd, but when we finally met, it was 19/16... and 21/18 when we moved in together... it's amazing what a few years will do at the right time.

If that's what you want, then chase it down. Missed or lost opportunities are bad stories to have to tell. Heed my advice, which has been carved with pain...

When you have love, hold onto it as though your life depends on it... you may find that, if you lose it, your life goes with it.

Wax_off

I've had relationships with women both 10 years older and 10 years younger than I am. Both had their problems. But the problems were WAY different. To summarize, younger woman, less secure, older woman, more desperate. Kinda like you'd expect. Sex with the older woman was definitly some of the best I've had though...

HurleyBoy

I just got in trouble over this tonight Wasn't really anyones fault I just met a girl that works at a ice cream shop that is drop dead beautiful and i got her number. Well I called her and her mom answer and I was going to leave a message for the girl to call me back and she ask for my age which I didn't lie and told her I was 20 she said her daughter was 16 and to never call again, well come to find out the girls mom called the girl at work and got mad at her over that and so I came there and apologize cause of it cause I felt bad for her getting in trouble. Neither of us knew our ages. Sorry for the thread jack carry on

fishguts

my wife is 10 years older than i am. we just celebrated our 4th anniversary. the only thing i advise is make sure that when one grows up the other does as well. i'm 28, she's 38. she's entering a stage in her life now that i'm not quite too yet, so it creates a little friction. but it's something we're both working on getting through, it can be a lot of work tho.

unoaman

I was married for nearly 30 years to a wonderful woman, who was 8 years my junior. Early in the marriage, the age made no difference whatsoever, but as we both grew older, the gap seemed to widen in that she was still into some things that I had already passed. Nothing serious, just small things that partners need to discuss now and then...all in all it was great, because she kept me young.

analog

What a bitch, dude.

anleja

Thanks for all these posts, everyone. I'm posting now just so you know I'm actually reading these. I think its rude to post a request for something and never respond.

I'll post my story when I have more time.

(I used the word "post" in each sentence. I'm cool.)

NotMinus

I enjoyed dating an older women but at the time I was 15, just started highschool and started dating an 18 year old senior (yep, that takes balls) . The age gap was huge simply due to experience but she taught me alot about life and love. We dated for about 6 or 7 months before I broke up with her but in that time I saw the diffrence in how much people change through four years in highschool and it helped me mature faster then the people around me I belive. I would do it and use the experience to teach out about life.

bookerV

When I was 17 I hooked up with a 27 year old. It was just a fling though, since she was a hot older woman I had much fun stuff to learn. We both knew it was just a sec romp and nothing more though so that helped to keep the boundaries definied. For me at that time the age gap was way too much.

As for now I am 24 and am currently getting together with a 20 year old (she was 19 when we first started dating). Usually that age gap is too much for me since the differences in lifestyle are huge, but she is incredibly mature for her age and pretty much at the same stage in life that I am at as far as relationships go.

So all in all I think what really matters is that you are both REALLY clear on what you want / what you expect from each other / and that you're at the same stage in life.

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Flyguy

My wife's 4 months older than me. Does that count?

HurleyBoy

dude I know it sucked, I really wanted to get to know the girl too

blahblah454

well right now this girl has a mad crush on me, ive known her for about 6 or 7 years now, she is 15 and i am 19. i think that the age gap is too much right now (in a maturity sence) ive going on to being out of school for my second year now whereas she is just into highschool so ive got a big head start on her in that department. i guess i dont really have a "relationship" with her but i think in about 4 years i would totaly be up for dating her. sounds like 4 years is alot but we live in different cities so hardly ever see eachother so the time seems to go by faster that way

Kazic

So after reading through this. The moral of the story. Go for it. And be happy. heh

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Coronaboy72

Ok, I don't feel so bad looking at these gals who are 10 years younger than me. I'm 31 and here I thought I was being some kinda sicko. lmao

As mentioned already, I would find out if this is a relationship that she is wanting or if she's just wanting a boytoy.

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Holo

Age != maturity. at age 21 I dated a 44 year old woman. We were together 3 years, and she was a gambling addict, a liar, and she was half as good in bed as my current gf who is 4 months younger than me.Older women are just as diverse and as shitty/wonderful as girls in their 20s. You will get looks in public and unless she looks particularly young you may get her mistaken for your mother. I got with her because of the "experienced" myth, and while she wasn't a *bad* fuck she doesn't hold a candle to my current gf when we met @25 years old. Don't go in with any preconceptions of her age and just enjoy her.

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