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hu-man · 12-08-2003, 07:11 AM

So I'm walking out of a café, and one of the girls who work there comes running after me, and with a smile says "hey, this is from my friend", and hands me a note.
I say "er, thanks" and walk to my car, unfolding the note as I walk. It simply said

Call me!!

Emilie = ########

Now, I have a girlfriend and would never consider calling her, but she was very nice looking and pretty hot, and it just gave me one of those boosts of confidence, and it was almost as if "I Feel Good" started playing... Well, it made my day anyway.
Anyway, just sharing.

-Anders · 12-08-2003, 07:16 AM

Now how come this never happens to me?

But nice!

*Nikki* · 12-08-2003, 07:39 AM

I like hope you threw the number away so your girl will not find it!

Prince · 12-08-2003, 08:07 AM

Keep it in your wallet...make sure she finds it...will make for an interesting evening.

Mango · 12-08-2003, 11:52 AM

You should call her and tell her why you shouldn't call her. Otherwise her confidence/self image will take a hit. It probably took alot of courage for her to write that note.

chrisg299 · 12-08-2003, 12:10 PM

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Originally posted by Mango
You should call her and tell her why you shouldn't call her. Otherwise her confidence/self image will take a hit. It probably took alot of courage for her to write that note.

I totally agree with that

When you call her you might wanna consider when you actually tell her that you have a g/f and you thank her for giving it a try blah blah and which by then she'll probably totally feel like a fool about the situation already,but tell her that you'll hang onto her number and if you and your g/f happen to break up that she's the first one you're gonna call b/c you'll be single and interested in her

So in that case she won't feel totally stupid about it AND you'll still have a hott chick waiting for your single days

(If that happens :-P)

Evil Milkman · 12-08-2003, 12:30 PM

Yup, call her anyway and tell her why you can't be interested.

absorbentishe · 12-08-2003, 12:30 PM

Nothing wrong with at least calling and talking to her, esp. if you tell her about your GF. A new friendship may bloom if nothing else?

Averett · 12-08-2003, 12:32 PM

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Originally posted by Mango
You should call her and tell her why you shouldn't call her. Otherwise her confidence/self image will take a hit. It probably took alot of courage for her to write that note.

I agree as well. It'll do wonders for your karma. And it's a nice thing to do. Who knows, you might just gain a friend out of the situation.

I would let your girlfriend know though.... If she's not the jealous type she should be fine with it. And she'll most likely feel proud. "Hey, girls find my man attractive, and he's all mine!"

Pragma · 12-08-2003, 02:18 PM

I agree with the general consens (especially Averett's last remark):

Call the girl up, explain the situation to her (you have a girlfriend), and I'd also tell it to your girlfriend (so that if nothing else it doesn't later turn into a "why didn't you tell me about that girl?" argument).

But yea, I've had situations where girls have given me compliments, one in particular that was amusing when my girlfriend was nearby, and she's gotten laughs out of them.

herostar · 12-08-2003, 02:24 PM

I deffinately agree with averett's last remark too...

I'd call her and tell her why you can't be interested. Who knows... maybe you've got a new friend.

analog · 12-08-2003, 10:50 PM

Yup. Call her.

When you talk to her, tell her you almost didn't call her, because you have a girlfriend, but you decided since she was so cool you'd at least give her a ring just to chat. Can't hurt, and you can never have too many friends- especially attractive female ones.

numist · 12-09-2003, 04:12 AM

why doesnt this ever happen to a shmuck like me?

bah..

call her anyway, and make sure your woman knows the story first.

FallenAvatar · 12-09-2003, 04:56 AM

I'd say call and say you're involved, it would not leave her hanging.

Holo · 12-09-2003, 06:04 AM

I'll add to the call her with my own thoughts...you should call her because generally women do not act so forward and we as men should do everything possible to encourage this.

Something similar to this happened to me whilst working freight delivery years ago, but a co-worker told me someone there liked me (it didn't turn out to be her). I explained I had a gf and I was very flattered, which I was. I'd like to see every woman ask a man out just once at least. Guys like to feel wanted too, and they know all too well the risk you are taking so they should be cool about if they can't accept.

hu-man · 12-09-2003, 08:32 AM

What's with the 7's?
I threw away her number, so I can't call her. But I come to that place 2 times a week, business related.
It might still be in the trashcan at work, though.
I didn't want to call her, because:
1. I have a girlfriend
2. Then she would have my number, and might call me up at weird times... try explaining that to the girlfriend... "Erm, that was just this girl, who thinks I'm hot"
Anyway, the next time I come there I'll smile and say thanks. If I can remember who of the girls it was... I visit 50 cafés a week, business related, and all of the pretty girls kinda blend together

But I agree with you that this kind of thing should be praised. I wish more girls would have that kind of confidence and courage.

Averett · 12-09-2003, 09:31 AM

Well, I should hope she wouldn't call back and become a creepy stalker type...

Yup, if you happen to see her again say hi.

Girl has courage, thats for sure. I dont think I could do that at this point.

shileno · 12-09-2003, 09:36 AM

i envy you

HockeyGuy · 12-09-2003, 07:44 PM

I met my current gf like that.. except i was the one working when before leaving she asked for my number =D
It is great on the confidence and to me showed a lot of stability from her.
note to ladies- dont be shy, there is no problem with the 'unconventional' method (woman asking man)

watupyo · 12-09-2003, 08:28 PM

7 means good work dude :>

Bloodslick · 12-10-2003, 08:57 AM

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Originally posted by watupyo
7 means good work dude :>

Why does 7 mean "good work" when it's so far from a perfect 10?

hu-man, just remember to look for name tags that read "Emilie". It's not that hard.

Holo · 12-10-2003, 09:17 PM

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Originally posted by hu-man

2. Then she would have my number, and might call me up at weird times

payphone.

I'm telling you, call her if only to tell her why you can't date her. You must do this for mankind.

torn lace · 12-10-2003, 11:15 PM

please talk to her at least! it will mean a lot even if you just tell her you can't chill...a thanks but no thanks. it will put her mind at ease. trust me on this...*smiles*

sub zero · 12-11-2003, 12:30 PM

I agree with everyone else...even if you aren't gonna do anything with her later on...calling her and let her know how you felt after getting her number would do wonders for her.

hobo · 12-11-2003, 07:06 PM

any girl that needs a friend to act as an intermediary between herself and a guy has low self-esteem. call her like the other guys said cuz it always brings me down to see a hot girl crushed by insecurity

RemyLebeau97 · 12-11-2003, 09:59 PM

Is it just me or is it always the one running after you to give you her friends number (because she has low self esteem) the really hot one??

BooRadley · 12-12-2003, 09:54 PM

I disagree with those who say to call her.

One side of me says , "Wow, that would be a decent thing to do and she would be much better off if you called her, and it would encourage her to continue being forward in the future"

The other side says, " Wow. You have a chance to be completely and blatently disrepectful and wholly reject this woman. You have a chance maybe .5% of males have. And 95% of females have this same chance ( coldly rejecting a man ) and do it on a regular basis. Lets score one for men!"

As bitter as I'd like to be, I say encourage women to be more forward, even if she did go through a friend. Talk to her at the store.

Reese · 12-13-2003, 06:10 AM

I would have told my girlfriend and see what she thought about calling and at least giving her a boost of confidence. If the GF thinks it's a bad idea don't do it.

ismark · 12-13-2003, 03:31 PM

Totally agree with cybermike, I would tell my g/f (wife) and ask her what she thought would be the best thing to do.... I think I know what the answer would be but these things have a really bad habit of coming back at you later and biting you real bad

Woody182 · 12-13-2003, 03:55 PM

My girlfriend had a voicemail the other day from some guy in one of her classes that asked her out. She told me about it as soon as she checked it (granted I was there) but we just sort of laughed about it and I told her to make sure she at least called the guy or talked to him. I used to be shy too and if I worked up the courage to ask a girl out I'd be pretty pissed if I didn't hear anything, rather a "no" than being unomfortable around that girl from that point on.

BooRadley · 12-13-2003, 07:11 PM

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Originally posted by Woody182
My girlfriend had a voicemail the other day from some guy in one of her classes that asked her out. She told me about it as soon as she checked it (granted I was there) but we just sort of laughed about it and I told her to make sure she at least called the guy or talked to him. I used to be shy too and if I worked up the courage to ask a girl out I'd be pretty pissed if I didn't hear anything, rather a "no" than being unomfortable around that girl from that point on.

You're a good man. That's a good attitude to have towards things, and your girlfriend will respect you more for it.

macro · 12-18-2003, 05:20 AM

If you're not going to call her, can you give one us the number?

absorbentishe · 12-18-2003, 07:59 AM

So.... Have you, or haven't you called yet? We're sitting on the edge of our seats!

ducatiboy · 12-18-2003, 09:07 AM

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Originally posted by Holo
payphone.

I'm telling you, call her if only to tell her why you can't date her. You must do this for mankind.

Yep dude!!! CALL HER --- NOW !

I've found that confident women, are the most fun, and seem to give the Z-Best Sex

HockeyGuy · 12-18-2003, 07:21 PM

I too must beg the question, did you call?

wry1 · 12-19-2003, 05:21 AM

Personally, I'd probably just talk to Emilie the next time I was in there...explain to her that I had a girlfriend, and that I was flattered that she'd given me her number, but that I just wouldn't have felt right in keeping it as it would have smacked of being unfaithful to the S.O.

Now, that's all well and good, but I'd have to get a girlfriend first!

Good for you, though.

Sleepyjack · 12-19-2003, 05:56 AM

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hu-man said
Emilie = ########

I think that number's bogus!

hu-man · 12-20-2003, 01:23 AM

No, I didn't call her, because I threw out her number!
I was in the café a couple more times though, and she was there the last time. I just smiled at her and said merry christmas, and she smiled back and said the same. She didn't seem upset or anything, anyway, I couldn't talk to her because she was serving people, but I think she knows that I don't think she's the devil or anything. She /is/ pretty good looking, and I think she knows that.

12-08-2003, 07:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
hu-man The one that got away Location: Over the hill and far away	I got a girl's phone number today :) So I'm walking out of a café, and one of the girls who work there comes running after me, and with a smile says "hey, this is from my friend", and hands me a note. I say "er, thanks" and walk to my car, unfolding the note as I walk. It simply said Call me!! Emilie = ######## Now, I have a girlfriend and would never consider calling her, but she was very nice looking and pretty hot, and it just gave me one of those boosts of confidence, and it was almost as if "I Feel Good" started playing... Well, it made my day anyway. Anyway, just sharing.

12-08-2003, 07:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
-Anders Custom title. Location: Denmark.	Now how come this never happens to me? But nice! __________________ Signature 101

12-08-2003, 08:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Keep it in your wallet...make sure she finds it...will make for an interesting evening. __________________ Who is John Galt?

12-08-2003, 02:18 PM	#10 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	I agree with the general consens (especially Averett's last remark): Call the girl up, explain the situation to her (you have a girlfriend), and I'd also tell it to your girlfriend (so that if nothing else it doesn't later turn into a "why didn't you tell me about that girl?" argument). But yea, I've had situations where girls have given me compliments, one in particular that was amusing when my girlfriend was nearby, and she's gotten laughs out of them. __________________ Eat antimatter, Posleen-boy!

12-08-2003, 02:24 PM	#11 (permalink)
herostar Psycho Location: South Dakota	I deffinately agree with averett's last remark too... I'd call her and tell her why you can't be interested. Who knows... maybe you've got a new friend. __________________ Got time to chill?

12-08-2003, 07:39 AM	#3 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	I like hope you threw the number away so your girl will not find it!

12-08-2003, 11:52 AM	#5 (permalink)
Mango Banned	You should call her and tell her why you shouldn't call her. Otherwise her confidence/self image will take a hit. It probably took alot of courage for her to write that note.

12-08-2003, 12:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
Evil Milkman Addict Location: Illinois	Yup, call her anyway and tell her why you can't be interested.

12-08-2003, 12:30 PM	#8 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Nothing wrong with at least calling and talking to her, esp. if you tell her about your GF. A new friendship may bloom if nothing else?

12-08-2003, 10:50 PM	#12 (permalink)
analog Banned	Yup. Call her. When you talk to her, tell her you almost didn't call her, because you have a girlfriend, but you decided since she was so cool you'd at least give her a ring just to chat. Can't hurt, and you can never have too many friends- especially attractive female ones.

12-09-2003, 04:12 AM	#13 (permalink)
numist Banned Location: UCSD, 510.49 miles from my love	why doesnt this ever happen to a shmuck like me? bah.. call her anyway, and make sure your woman knows the story first.

12-09-2003, 04:56 AM	#14 (permalink)
FallenAvatar Psycho	I'd say call and say you're involved, it would not leave her hanging. __________________ Fetch me the spirit, the son and the father, Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.

12-09-2003, 06:04 AM	#15 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	I'll add to the call her with my own thoughts...you should call her because generally women do not act so forward and we as men should do everything possible to encourage this. Something similar to this happened to me whilst working freight delivery years ago, but a co-worker told me someone there liked me (it didn't turn out to be her). I explained I had a gf and I was very flattered, which I was. I'd like to see every woman ask a man out just once at least. Guys like to feel wanted too, and they know all too well the risk you are taking so they should be cool about if they can't accept. __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

12-09-2003, 08:32 AM	#16 (permalink)
hu-man The one that got away Location: Over the hill and far away	What's with the 7's? I threw away her number, so I can't call her. But I come to that place 2 times a week, business related. It might still be in the trashcan at work, though. I didn't want to call her, because: 1. I have a girlfriend 2. Then she would have my number, and might call me up at weird times... try explaining that to the girlfriend... "Erm, that was just this girl, who thinks I'm hot" Anyway, the next time I come there I'll smile and say thanks. If I can remember who of the girls it was... I visit 50 cafés a week, business related, and all of the pretty girls kinda blend together But I agree with you that this kind of thing should be praised. I wish more girls would have that kind of confidence and courage.

12-09-2003, 09:31 AM	#17 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Well, I should hope she wouldn't call back and become a creepy stalker type... Yup, if you happen to see her again say hi. Girl has courage, thats for sure. I dont think I could do that at this point. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-09-2003, 09:36 AM	#18 (permalink)
shileno Upright	i envy you

12-09-2003, 07:44 PM	#19 (permalink)
HockeyGuy Psycho Location: London, England	I met my current gf like that.. except i was the one working when before leaving she asked for my number =D It is great on the confidence and to me showed a lot of stability from her. note to ladies- dont be shy, there is no problem with the 'unconventional' method (woman asking man)

12-09-2003, 08:28 PM	#20 (permalink)
watupyo Banned Location: New Zealand	7 means good work dude :>

12-10-2003, 11:15 PM	#23 (permalink)
torn lace Upright Location: East Village, NYC	please talk to her at least! it will mean a lot even if you just tell her you can't chill...a thanks but no thanks. it will put her mind at ease. trust me on this...smiles __________________ make it electric.

12-11-2003, 12:30 PM	#24 (permalink)
sub zero Addict Location: The one state that doesn't have black outs: TEXAS BABY!!!	I agree with everyone else...even if you aren't gonna do anything with her later on...calling her and let her know how you felt after getting her number would do wonders for her. __________________ Did you Google it yet? Join the TFP Typing team!!

12-11-2003, 07:06 PM	#25 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	any girl that needs a friend to act as an intermediary between herself and a guy has low self-esteem. call her like the other guys said cuz it always brings me down to see a hot girl crushed by insecurity

12-11-2003, 09:59 PM	#26 (permalink)
RemyLebeau97 I stole my boyfriends TFP, hehe !! Location: Galveston, TX	Is it just me or is it always the one running after you to give you her friends number (because she has low self esteem) the really hot one??

12-12-2003, 09:54 PM	#27 (permalink)
BooRadley Insane Location: Kentucky	I disagree with those who say to call her. One side of me says , "Wow, that would be a decent thing to do and she would be much better off if you called her, and it would encourage her to continue being forward in the future" The other side says, " Wow. You have a chance to be completely and blatently disrepectful and wholly reject this woman. You have a chance maybe .5% of males have. And 95% of females have this same chance ( coldly rejecting a man ) and do it on a regular basis. Lets score one for men!" As bitter as I'd like to be, I say encourage women to be more forward, even if she did go through a friend. Talk to her at the store.

12-13-2003, 06:10 AM	#28 (permalink)
Reese Delicious	I would have told my girlfriend and see what she thought about calling and at least giving her a boost of confidence. If the GF thinks it's a bad idea don't do it. __________________ “It is better to be rich and healthy than poor and sick” - Dave Barry

12-13-2003, 03:31 PM	#29 (permalink)
ismark Crazy Location: Sydney	Totally agree with cybermike, I would tell my g/f (wife) and ask her what she thought would be the best thing to do.... I think I know what the answer would be but these things have a really bad habit of coming back at you later and biting you real bad __________________ The Grumpy Old Bloke

12-13-2003, 03:55 PM	#30 (permalink)
Woody182 Crazy Location: Near Chicago, IL	My girlfriend had a voicemail the other day from some guy in one of her classes that asked her out. She told me about it as soon as she checked it (granted I was there) but we just sort of laughed about it and I told her to make sure she at least called the guy or talked to him. I used to be shy too and if I worked up the courage to ask a girl out I'd be pretty pissed if I didn't hear anything, rather a "no" than being unomfortable around that girl from that point on. __________________ If I fall in love, will you forgive me? If I lose my way, will you choose me? If I change my mind, will you change me? -Smashing Pumpkins

12-18-2003, 05:20 AM	#32 (permalink)
macro Crazy Location: where you live	If you're not going to call her, can you give one us the number?

12-18-2003, 07:59 AM	#33 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	So.... Have you, or haven't you called yet? We're sitting on the edge of our seats!

12-18-2003, 07:21 PM	#35 (permalink)
HockeyGuy Psycho Location: London, England	I too must beg the question, did you call?

12-19-2003, 05:21 AM	#36 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	Personally, I'd probably just talk to Emilie the next time I was in there...explain to her that I had a girlfriend, and that I was flattered that she'd given me her number, but that I just wouldn't have felt right in keeping it as it would have smacked of being unfaithful to the S.O. Now, that's all well and good, but I'd have to get a girlfriend first! Good for you, though.

12-20-2003, 01:23 AM	#38 (permalink)
hu-man The one that got away Location: Over the hill and far away	No, I didn't call her, because I threw out her number! I was in the café a couple more times though, and she was there the last time. I just smiled at her and said merry christmas, and she smiled back and said the same. She didn't seem upset or anything, anyway, I couldn't talk to her because she was serving people, but I think she knows that I don't think she's the devil or anything. She /is/ pretty good looking, and I think she knows that.