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hobo · 11-30-2003, 07:17 PM

What is the best way to ask a gal out? I am asking because doing it crappily increases chances of rejection. Please say more then "Just ask".

kel · 11-30-2003, 07:26 PM

I don't do pick up lines so it usually goes something like "You me date <day of the week I want to go out with her>." If she is leaving you hanging IE taking her time deciding then go into the details slowly and confidently of what you want to do on the date (Have something good and unique planned) so she doesn't feel pressured for time to answer.

It's important to do it with confidence, and as if you don't care too much whether she says yes or no. In fact you shouldn't care too much, it will make asking the next one out easier. I don't mean be rude, but don't be creepy and look like your happiness depends on her answer.

amonkie · 11-30-2003, 08:45 PM

Make good eye contact, and be sincere. If you're staring at the rack/legs/ass the whole time you ask, we do notice, and that may lose your chance right there.

StormBerlin · 11-30-2003, 11:09 PM

The best pick up line is "Hi, how is your evening going?" It should take off from there.

mirevolver · 11-30-2003, 11:12 PM

I agree with StormBerlin.

The best pickup line I've ever used is:
Look into her eyes, give a warm friendly smile and say "Hi."

Jaseca · 11-30-2003, 11:17 PM

If its someone you have a class with ask how their weekend was or something, then ask if they'd like to get together and do something. Just be yourself.

hu-man · 12-01-2003, 12:56 AM

In my opinion, it's better to be rejected than to spend the rest of your days thinking "what if..." I mean, it's better to know you can move on, than waiting for something to happen, that most likely isn't going to happen unless you take the first step.

zfleebin · 12-01-2003, 02:48 AM

I havent done it in a while considering im engaged but I always followed the hello model. The easiest way to do this is to first determine who your interested in and then to figure out where you run into them the most (yeah this isnt very good for one night stands).
-The way you start this is by obviously running into them (not literally). so for the sake of making this easy lets say you run into this girl often at a club/bar you go to.
-The first step is the pass. The pass is when you walk past this girl for some reason (going to the bar/bathroom whatever) and you get a chance to make contact. The easiest way to do this is to make eye contact as you pass her and say "hello". This first step might seem a little easy but if you are a reasonably perceptive person you can usually tell something about this girls character (I.E., she gives you a cold shoulder or smiles and says hi back).
-After doing this once or twice you can take this a step further by striking up a conversation (I.E., have I seen you here before? or you look familiar (dont confuse this for a bad pickup line if youve made eye contact before and said hello she should have some recollection of seeing you). Now if you get the cold shoulder you might just want to back out right here because she is either not interested with some other guy or in a bad mood or a combination of all three. If you think that shes just not having a good day or if you really want to get this girl give it a while and start from step one. It is important to note that beyond two tries is kinda creepy and it doesnt say anything positive about you.
-If you click or at least get her attention you can go to the next level and strike up some small talk (talk about the bar, music, what she likes about the place your at just dont drool or talk about her too much). Once you get that far your good and youll know the rest.
-The only other thing I can think of is if you want to come off classy dont talk too much about yourself and dont give her too many compliments (if your creative you can give her compliments in a smooth manner but never resort to "your so beautiful" "when I saw you my heart stopped"). Good luck and remember the respect you give women will always return to you in Karma.

Edit: I just noticed you wanted the ladies view so you can ignore my post. Ill read beter next time

kel · 12-01-2003, 05:53 AM

If I understand correctly he wants to ask out a girl he already knows, correct?

If you don't know her then yes... "Hi" works wonders.

Pragma · 12-01-2003, 06:13 AM

Honestly, here's what works for me - as simple as it sounds:
"Hi, I was wondering if you would like to get together later and grab dinner?" or something similar to that, substituting watching a movie (or anything else) for dinner.

Asking a girl isn't some hugely complicated thing, as long as you can convince yourself to do it.

Edit: And whups, just saw he wanted the ladies view. Oh well.

raeanna74 · 12-01-2003, 07:09 AM

The more planned it is and the more stilted it sounds the less I would be interested. If the guy sounds sincere and open then I'm more willing. It helps if you have an idea of what you'd like to do too. I wuold respond better to "Would you like to go for some coffee tomarrow morning?" rather than "Would you go on a date with me tomarrow?" The guy sounds more focused on the fact that it's a date rather than really wanting to DO SOMETHING with me when he doesn't give me a clear idea of what he would like to do. Also it's harder to say no when it doesn't sound so terribly SERIOUS. A girl gets the jitters just the same as a guy. Start out small and you'll both be more comfortable.

Don't worry about funny pickup lines and things. I like the plain old simple "Hi" and the simple invite. I'm a girl who doesn't put on a show or lots of makeup. Someone who's REAL and Honest is more attractive to me.

vveronica · 12-02-2003, 08:25 AM

Best line i think is when a guy just says,,, Hi, i'm _____ ( enter name and something current to the place you are)____. I find you very striking and would to get to know you.

The word striking is great because it can be everything from exotic to beautiful and can show your interest without being lame.

11-30-2003, 07:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	Asking the ladies... What is the best way to ask a gal out? I am asking because doing it crappily increases chances of rejection. Please say more then "Just ask".

11-30-2003, 07:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
kel WARNING: FLAMMABLE Location: Ask Acetylene	I don't do pick up lines so it usually goes something like "You me date <day of the week I want to go out with her>." If she is leaving you hanging IE taking her time deciding then go into the details slowly and confidently of what you want to do on the date (Have something good and unique planned) so she doesn't feel pressured for time to answer. It's important to do it with confidence, and as if you don't care too much whether she says yes or no. In fact you shouldn't care too much, it will make asking the next one out easier. I don't mean be rude, but don't be creepy and look like your happiness depends on her answer. __________________ "It better be funny"

11-30-2003, 08:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Make good eye contact, and be sincere. If you're staring at the rack/legs/ass the whole time you ask, we do notice, and that may lose your chance right there. __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

11-30-2003, 11:09 PM	#4 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	The best pick up line is "Hi, how is your evening going?" It should take off from there. __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

11-30-2003, 11:12 PM	#5 (permalink)
mirevolver Inspired by the mind's eye. Location: Between the darkness and the light.	I agree with StormBerlin. The best pickup line I've ever used is: Look into her eyes, give a warm friendly smile and say "Hi." __________________ Aside from my great plans to become the future dictator of the moon, I have little interest in political discussions.

11-30-2003, 11:17 PM	#6 (permalink)
Jaseca Tilted	If its someone you have a class with ask how their weekend was or something, then ask if they'd like to get together and do something. Just be yourself.

12-01-2003, 12:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
hu-man The one that got away Location: Over the hill and far away	In my opinion, it's better to be rejected than to spend the rest of your days thinking "what if..." I mean, it's better to know you can move on, than waiting for something to happen, that most likely isn't going to happen unless you take the first step.

12-01-2003, 02:48 AM	#8 (permalink)
zfleebin Addict	I havent done it in a while considering im engaged but I always followed the hello model. The easiest way to do this is to first determine who your interested in and then to figure out where you run into them the most (yeah this isnt very good for one night stands). -The way you start this is by obviously running into them (not literally). so for the sake of making this easy lets say you run into this girl often at a club/bar you go to. -The first step is the pass. The pass is when you walk past this girl for some reason (going to the bar/bathroom whatever) and you get a chance to make contact. The easiest way to do this is to make eye contact as you pass her and say "hello". This first step might seem a little easy but if you are a reasonably perceptive person you can usually tell something about this girls character (I.E., she gives you a cold shoulder or smiles and says hi back). -After doing this once or twice you can take this a step further by striking up a conversation (I.E., have I seen you here before? or you look familiar (dont confuse this for a bad pickup line if youve made eye contact before and said hello she should have some recollection of seeing you). Now if you get the cold shoulder you might just want to back out right here because she is either not interested with some other guy or in a bad mood or a combination of all three. If you think that shes just not having a good day or if you really want to get this girl give it a while and start from step one. It is important to note that beyond two tries is kinda creepy and it doesnt say anything positive about you. -If you click or at least get her attention you can go to the next level and strike up some small talk (talk about the bar, music, what she likes about the place your at just dont drool or talk about her too much). Once you get that far your good and youll know the rest. -The only other thing I can think of is if you want to come off classy dont talk too much about yourself and dont give her too many compliments (if your creative you can give her compliments in a smooth manner but never resort to "your so beautiful" "when I saw you my heart stopped"). Good luck and remember the respect you give women will always return to you in Karma. Edit: I just noticed you wanted the ladies view so you can ignore my post. Ill read beter next time Last edited by zfleebin; 12-01-2003 at 03:46 AM..

12-01-2003, 05:53 AM	#9 (permalink)
kel WARNING: FLAMMABLE Location: Ask Acetylene	If I understand correctly he wants to ask out a girl he already knows, correct? If you don't know her then yes... "Hi" works wonders. __________________ "It better be funny" Last edited by kel; 12-01-2003 at 05:55 AM..

12-01-2003, 06:13 AM	#10 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	Honestly, here's what works for me - as simple as it sounds: "Hi, I was wondering if you would like to get together later and grab dinner?" or something similar to that, substituting watching a movie (or anything else) for dinner. Asking a girl isn't some hugely complicated thing, as long as you can convince yourself to do it. Edit: And whups, just saw he wanted the ladies view. Oh well. __________________ Eat antimatter, Posleen-boy!

12-01-2003, 07:09 AM	#11 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	The more planned it is and the more stilted it sounds the less I would be interested. If the guy sounds sincere and open then I'm more willing. It helps if you have an idea of what you'd like to do too. I wuold respond better to "Would you like to go for some coffee tomarrow morning?" rather than "Would you go on a date with me tomarrow?" The guy sounds more focused on the fact that it's a date rather than really wanting to DO SOMETHING with me when he doesn't give me a clear idea of what he would like to do. Also it's harder to say no when it doesn't sound so terribly SERIOUS. A girl gets the jitters just the same as a guy. Start out small and you'll both be more comfortable. Don't worry about funny pickup lines and things. I like the plain old simple "Hi" and the simple invite. I'm a girl who doesn't put on a show or lots of makeup. Someone who's REAL and Honest is more attractive to me. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

12-02-2003, 08:25 AM	#12 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	Best line i think is when a guy just says,,, Hi, i'm _____ ( enter name and something current to the place you are)____. I find you very striking and would to get to know you. The word striking is great because it can be everything from exotic to beautiful and can show your interest without being lame. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...