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hobo 11-30-2003 07:17 PM

Asking the ladies...
 
What is the best way to ask a gal out? I am asking because doing it crappily increases chances of rejection. Please say more then "Just ask".

kel 11-30-2003 07:26 PM

I don't do pick up lines so it usually goes something like "You me date <day of the week I want to go out with her>." If she is leaving you hanging IE taking her time deciding then go into the details slowly and confidently of what you want to do on the date (Have something good and unique planned) so she doesn't feel pressured for time to answer.

It's important to do it with confidence, and as if you don't care too much whether she says yes or no. In fact you shouldn't care too much, it will make asking the next one out easier. I don't mean be rude, but don't be creepy and look like your happiness depends on her answer.

amonkie 11-30-2003 08:45 PM

Make good eye contact, and be sincere. If you're staring at the rack/legs/ass the whole time you ask, we do notice, and that may lose your chance right there.

StormBerlin 11-30-2003 11:09 PM

The best pick up line is "Hi, how is your evening going?" It should take off from there.

mirevolver 11-30-2003 11:12 PM

I agree with StormBerlin.

The best pickup line I've ever used is:
Look into her eyes, give a warm friendly smile and say "Hi."

Jaseca 11-30-2003 11:17 PM

If its someone you have a class with ask how their weekend was or something, then ask if they'd like to get together and do something. Just be yourself.

hu-man 12-01-2003 12:56 AM

In my opinion, it's better to be rejected than to spend the rest of your days thinking "what if..." I mean, it's better to know you can move on, than waiting for something to happen, that most likely isn't going to happen unless you take the first step.

zfleebin 12-01-2003 02:48 AM

I havent done it in a while considering im engaged but I always followed the hello model. The easiest way to do this is to first determine who your interested in and then to figure out where you run into them the most (yeah this isnt very good for one night stands).
-The way you start this is by obviously running into them (not literally). so for the sake of making this easy lets say you run into this girl often at a club/bar you go to.
-The first step is the pass. The pass is when you walk past this girl for some reason (going to the bar/bathroom whatever) and you get a chance to make contact. The easiest way to do this is to make eye contact as you pass her and say "hello". This first step might seem a little easy but if you are a reasonably perceptive person you can usually tell something about this girls character (I.E., she gives you a cold shoulder or smiles and says hi back).
-After doing this once or twice you can take this a step further by striking up a conversation (I.E., have I seen you here before? or you look familiar (dont confuse this for a bad pickup line if youve made eye contact before and said hello she should have some recollection of seeing you). Now if you get the cold shoulder you might just want to back out right here because she is either not interested with some other guy or in a bad mood or a combination of all three. If you think that shes just not having a good day or if you really want to get this girl give it a while and start from step one. It is important to note that beyond two tries is kinda creepy and it doesnt say anything positive about you.
-If you click or at least get her attention you can go to the next level and strike up some small talk (talk about the bar, music, what she likes about the place your at just dont drool or talk about her too much). Once you get that far your good and youll know the rest.
-The only other thing I can think of is if you want to come off classy dont talk too much about yourself and dont give her too many compliments (if your creative you can give her compliments in a smooth manner but never resort to "your so beautiful" "when I saw you my heart stopped"). Good luck and remember the respect you give women will always return to you in Karma.

Edit: I just noticed you wanted the ladies view so you can ignore my post. Ill read beter next time

kel 12-01-2003 05:53 AM

If I understand correctly he wants to ask out a girl he already knows, correct?

If you don't know her then yes... "Hi" works wonders.

Pragma 12-01-2003 06:13 AM

Honestly, here's what works for me - as simple as it sounds:
"Hi, I was wondering if you would like to get together later and grab dinner?" or something similar to that, substituting watching a movie (or anything else) for dinner.

Asking a girl isn't some hugely complicated thing, as long as you can convince yourself to do it.

Edit: And whups, just saw he wanted the ladies view. Oh well.

raeanna74 12-01-2003 07:09 AM

The more planned it is and the more stilted it sounds the less I would be interested. If the guy sounds sincere and open then I'm more willing. It helps if you have an idea of what you'd like to do too. I wuold respond better to "Would you like to go for some coffee tomarrow morning?" rather than "Would you go on a date with me tomarrow?" The guy sounds more focused on the fact that it's a date rather than really wanting to DO SOMETHING with me when he doesn't give me a clear idea of what he would like to do. Also it's harder to say no when it doesn't sound so terribly SERIOUS. A girl gets the jitters just the same as a guy. Start out small and you'll both be more comfortable.

Don't worry about funny pickup lines and things. I like the plain old simple "Hi" and the simple invite. I'm a girl who doesn't put on a show or lots of makeup. Someone who's REAL and Honest is more attractive to me.

vveronica 12-02-2003 08:25 AM

Best line i think is when a guy just says,,, Hi, i'm _____ ( enter name and something current to the place you are)____. I find you very striking and would to get to know you.

The word striking is great because it can be everything from exotic to beautiful and can show your interest without being lame.


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