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Old 10-28-2003, 03:47 PM   #1 (permalink)
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If you are 18, is 15 too young to date?

Okay, so I met this girl. She was pretty cool. Then I find out she is 15 or 16. Now what? Should I back off now? Note that this is a dating issue only, no sex involved.
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Old 10-28-2003, 04:02 PM   #2 (permalink)
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meh if your 18 and she is 15 I would say go for it. Just tred kinda lightly and dont push her at all. Let her make the first move for sex and all that. And yes chances are if your a cool guy then her parents will be okay with it cause my brother is dating someone who is 16 now but was 15 when they started dating and he was 17 but turned 18 when she was still 15.
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Old 10-28-2003, 04:05 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I dont know. Personally, I wouldnt. How well do you know her? The biggest question is maturity--there is a huge difference between an 18 year old and a 15 year old. Also realize that she is going to change a lot, quickly (and I dont mean physically). At that age, she is just entering high school, a vastly different world from middle school, and she is likely to change a great deal over her freshman year.

Its up to you, though. If you know her well, and she is a good girl, not too much can stop you.
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Old 10-28-2003, 04:08 PM   #4 (permalink)
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meh if your 18 and she is 15 I would say go for it. Just tred kinda lightly and dont push her at all. Let her make the first move for sex and all that. And yes chances are if your a cool guy then her parents will be okay with it cause my brother is dating someone who is 16 now but was 15 when they started dating and he was 17 but turned 18 when she was still 15.
Well as I mentioned before, sex isn't really an issue. I am in no rush and I'd have no problem waiting for her to hit 18. If sex is the only real problem with this then I guess I don't have a problem. Then again, even if there is no sex her parents probably won't like it.
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Old 10-28-2003, 04:19 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Personally I wouldn't but if it is important to you then you will probably be happier doing it than not.

Whatever floats your boat dude.
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Old 10-28-2003, 04:47 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Just go for it and whats the worst that happens? You end up having triplets with her even though you used a condom and she was on the pill and the condom didnt bust. Her dad disowns you and you guys end up living on the street where you have to give random pervs head for cash to support your family but you dont get enough customers so you all end up slowly starving to death? hehe I can come up with some pretty messed up situations.

But seriously dont over analize. Just go with it and who knows maybe some day you two will have kids together and the such. Hell my parents are 5 years differect I beleive.
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Old 10-28-2003, 04:49 PM   #7 (permalink)
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By all means do if you wish.
Many cultures have ingrained customs of variable age dating.
Most state laws state that if one party is 18 or over, if the other party is a minor there can not be more than a three year age difference. check local codes as well.
Your mileage may vary.
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Old 10-28-2003, 05:05 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I wouldnt, personally..
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Old 10-28-2003, 05:07 PM   #9 (permalink)
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You're never mature enough for girls your own age.

Go for it.
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Old 10-28-2003, 05:34 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I'm 18 and am starting to see a girl who's 16. I posted here on TFP about it and got a lot different response than here. If you want to see some of the comments in that thread search high school junior college freshman,, that should bring it up.

Anyway, people pretty much suggested I should stick to college girls my age, but I just can't help myself,, theres something about her I can't get out of my head.

So just go with what feels right to you.
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Old 10-28-2003, 06:10 PM   #11 (permalink)
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my girl friend is 16. im 18. she was 15 for a while when i was 18. i really dont think its a bad thing. just dont pressure her. my girlfriend is the one who brought up sex, she wanted it. so we do it. her parents LOVE me. so i say go for it
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Old 10-28-2003, 06:35 PM   #12 (permalink)
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my current gf was 15 when i was 18. I'm 3 years and 2 months older than her. 3 years is nothing, look at the differences between Rod Stewart & Paul Mcartney's ladies...both 26 years difference!
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Old 10-28-2003, 06:47 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I don't know..... I mean, I started dating a guy when I was sixteen, he was nineteen. It was great for a while, but I never realized that my high school years were different than what they probably should have been. I didn't get to date anyone else, and I didn't really have too many friends after a while because (especially in high school), people stop hanging out with their friends so much once they get a steady boyfriend. I changed a lot, and still ended up marrying the guy right after my 18th birthday, even though he was totally unappreciative of those changes (but that's another story altogether...). Turned out to be absolute hell. I ended up wising up and asking for a divorce before we'd even been married a year. If you decide to continue dating her, just make sure that you give her room to grow, and pay attention to changes. Go where your heart leads you, and remember to keep communication open in both directions. If either of you ever feel that it isn't right, or that one of you needs something more or different, be sure to be honest and open enough with each other that you'll communicate it. *all based on my own experience, btw*
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Old 10-28-2003, 06:57 PM   #14 (permalink)
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okay. my biggest concern would be your experience throught the relationship. how are you gonna feel going to the high school campus to suprise her for lunch, how will it feel when she asks you to come to a party her friends are having and you find yourself in the throngs of a bunch of high school kids. if you're cool with that, then go for it. if you think it's gonna be kinda odd, then just let it go. you're 18, will you be going to college soon? once you do that, your whole world is gonna change, just make sure you're not preventing yourself from growing up by holding on to this girl and the what she represents.
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Old 10-28-2003, 07:01 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Been there, done that. It didn't work out. Things are just too different at that age. That age gap really starts to matter less as you grow older, but she isn't even fully matured yet, both mentally and physically. At least thats in my experience.
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Old 10-28-2003, 07:04 PM   #16 (permalink)
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In California, the law is 18 can date as young as 17, but not younger. You should check into your statutory laws.
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Old 10-28-2003, 07:26 PM   #17 (permalink)
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i don´t really find age difference a serious problem. personally i wouldn´t do this, but then, i´ve never been attracted to younger girls (or least until very very recently).
if shes mature, and you both really click, then i say go for it.
but, like phred said, you´ll find yourself hanging out with her highschool friends, who won´t be nearly as cool as she is.
i have one friend who is my age, 23, and he started seeing a 17 year old recently.
he loves it. he´s the BMC (big man on campus). all her friends worship him, and it doesn´t do his ego any damage.

good luck to you.
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Old 10-28-2003, 08:07 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Personally, I wouldn't.
I'm currently 19 and I wouldn't want to date someone who's more than 1 year younger or older than me.

Then again, it's a personal decision, do what you feel is the best for you and her.
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Old 10-28-2003, 08:26 PM   #19 (permalink)
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In California, the law is 18 can date as young as 17, but not younger. You should check into your statutory laws.
im pretty sure the law would be that you cannot have sex with... dating is different i dont think thats against the law
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Old 10-28-2003, 08:31 PM   #20 (permalink)
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When I was 18 the girl I dated was 15, but she looked 18-19.Beautiful girl.She was mature.She knew what she liked and not.

Every lunch hour we'd go to her dads house and eat a sandwich or Kraft dinner and fuck then get back to school for class. I bet I was getting more than most teachers. Heh heh,..something for all you teachers to think about.
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Old 10-29-2003, 12:16 AM   #21 (permalink)
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I don't agree with the idea, but I have 2 friends in this exact situation. Except one of them is having sex but yea... It's really illegal if you ever do anything. I would just stay friends, and if there is still a connection in 3 years then take action. But your maturity levels are at very different places. It is pretty bad if you have to go on probation for life and have to be a register sex offender. Just thing long and hard about it. Oh yea, and the courts ALWAYS side with the girl. But I would seriously stay friends, because you don't want that temptation.
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Old 10-29-2003, 12:40 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Old 10-29-2003, 12:56 AM   #23 (permalink)
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if you think she's worth it after taking phredgreen's comments into consideration, go for it
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Old 10-29-2003, 01:12 AM   #24 (permalink)
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they'd have to be exceptionally mature for 15 for me to want to date them. i've had one 15yo interested before, as fine as she was, couldn't bring myself to take it, just didnt connect.

i've had mates that have gone that young before... each to their own in this sense.
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Old 10-29-2003, 05:56 AM   #25 (permalink)
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I don't think that is something that I would have done back then, but as long as there's no sex, it's alright. I'm sure her father might think differently though. If you are still in HS as is she, then there is no issue, but if you are out, then the issues were raised above about comfortableness(is that a word) around her friends/parties, etc.
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Old 10-29-2003, 06:37 AM   #26 (permalink)
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15 yr olds are great
even better if you start even younger
put them on the 5 yr plan
molding them into the perfect girlfriend when they turn 18

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Old 10-29-2003, 06:39 AM   #27 (permalink)
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I was 18 and having sex with a 15 year old. It was okay although as posters are saying she won't be really mature yet, and it can lead to some problems. After that girl and I broke up, her 14 year old best friend wanted to "date" (basically she was there to lose her virginity, and I said absolutely no to that).
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Old 10-29-2003, 07:48 AM   #28 (permalink)
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There is nothing wrong with that. A friend of mine is 20 and dates a 16 year old girl.
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Old 10-30-2003, 10:08 AM   #29 (permalink)
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I dunno, even though my wife and I are 4 years apart she was 18 when I met her. I guess technically she falls in the 1/2+7 rule, but it's a little shady to be dating someone when you could be arrested for statutory rape if you ever did anything.

All I know is I've got a 15 year old sister, and if she ever introduced me to her 18+ year old boyfriend she'd be one boyfriend short...

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Old 10-30-2003, 10:37 AM   #30 (permalink)
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not a chance - too much crap to put on a kid - you'll be college and she'll be a sopmore or junior at best - too impressionable if you ask me...
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Old 10-30-2003, 12:08 PM   #31 (permalink)
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Yes, too young.

Its illegal..well, not to date...

Would you want your 15 year old dating an 18 year old?
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Old 10-30-2003, 12:35 PM   #32 (permalink)
 
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I'd say it's okay but only if you're fucking her.

In all seriousness, I used to be pretty touchy about age when I was younger. Now that I'm older and a little wiser, I understand that life is too complicated to make blanket statements and too short to pass up a good chance.

You know better than any of us if she's mature enough to have the kind of relationship you are looking for. Just because she's young doesn't mean she's not mature (although most young girls are not).

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Old 10-30-2003, 03:14 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Old 10-30-2003, 04:42 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Fifteen's too young to date...but not too young to screw.
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Old 10-30-2003, 06:32 PM   #35 (permalink)
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When I was 14 I dated a 19 year old...not a good idea. I thought the guy was the shit and all my friends were jealous, but looking back on it not that im that age I think it's pretty sad for a guy that old to be dating a little girl. We never had sex or anything, and he didn't even mention it, but still.

I think that 15 and 18 is not a good thing having a "realtionship" at that age really makes you miss a lot of the things you need to do when you're a kid. I don't recomend it the girl is probably being fake just to impress you, there's many other fishies in the sea.
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Old 10-30-2003, 06:43 PM   #36 (permalink)
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When I was 18 I got asked on a date by a (very mature) 15 year old. I went, but despite getting along rather well with her decided against a second date because the age thing was starting to freak me out.

Years later, I sort of regret not going for another date, but it's not eating me up or anything like that.

I don't think there would be anything terribly wrong with giving it a try, if she's mature enough. I however imagine there will be all sorts of complications.
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Old 10-30-2003, 07:52 PM   #37 (permalink)
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I wouldn't care about the law, its USA anyway so the laws are pretty fucked up, anyway, just see how it goes, if she's ok and you like the whole situation, stick to it.
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Old 10-30-2003, 08:26 PM   #38 (permalink)
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I personaly, wouldn't date her. You are going to run into a lot of problems if you're still with her when you turn 21 and want to go out. She'll start feeling really left out because she -can't- go, even if she doesn't want to, I've found most girls still want the option to decline... Second of all, you're going to find yourself going up against a big maturity wall in the near future, if not now. Things that SHOULD be important to you, arn't for her, and won't be anytime soon. She's still at the age where who's dating who this week, is still important.
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Old 10-30-2003, 08:55 PM   #39 (permalink)
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Old 10-30-2003, 08:58 PM   #40 (permalink)
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Yeah stick to the girls closer to your age. Younger girls are real emotional and you can run into a lot of problems.
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