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Location: The Burgh
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cannot orgasm
I have been with my finacee for over 3 years and she has never gotten me to orgasm. When she gives me oral sex it does feel really really good but I just cannot go. Sex is great for her because I have lasted a long time each time( only have had sex 6 times and each time have lasted between 45 mins to 3 hours) She loves it because she orgasms more times than she can count. I don't mind not being able to orgasm around her but am making sure nothing is wrong and for possible solutions why.
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Registered User
Location: Oklahoma
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I gather you don't even orgasm through intercourse? If it is just not being able to orgasm through oral sex, there are lots of people that can't (I'm one). Are you able to orgasm through masturbation? If so, it is probably just mental, and you should just work on it with her and tell her exactly what you like. My wife didn't really orgasm with me consistently until I got her to tell me exactly what she liked and not to be afraid to tell me during. Now she orgasms every single time, but it takes a lot of work and communication.
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Is mad at you.
Location: Bored in Sacramento
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Do you masturbate much? If you do, this could be the cause. Dan Savage wrote an article on this one, I can't find it (I will keep looking) but what it boiled down to was, the guy used what amounted to a death grip when jerking off, so it got to the point where he could only get off this way. You might want to avoid jerking off for a while and see if that helps.
This is one possible cause.
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Tilted
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I'm kinda with harshaw on the first course of action.
try no stimulation of your penis for like a week (i know that sounds difficult) and then see what happens. that doesnt mean you cant still take care of the little lady *wink wink*. just dont let mr. happy get any lovin no matter how much he begs.
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Loser
Location: Far too far from my Angel....
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Try letting her take charge sometime. It could be something as simple as a subconscious feeling that you're the one in charge and it's your responsibility to make sure she's taken care of.
Letting her do all the work might be just what you need, my friend. |
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My own person -- his by choice
Location: Lebell's arms
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I've read that fear of getting a woman pregnant can hold a man back. Could that be the problem? If so, just be careful about your bc method and enjoy. Other than that, I agree with the above advice.
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Knight of the Old Republic
Location: Winston-Salem, NC
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If I'm worried about ANYTHING, I can't come even if I want to. Seriously, if there is anything on my mind, or anything that makes me nervous while me and my girlfriend are pleasuring each other, I can't come at all. I just go soft and it takes me forever to get hard again.
On the other hand, I find it MUCH harder to come from intercourse than from oral sex. My girlfriend can get me off 100% of the time when we have oral sex, but I only come about 50-60% of the time when we have intercourse. I have a hard time relaxing during intercourse. I find it much easier to relax during oral sex. That's probably why oral sex feels 10 times better than intercourse to me. -Lasereth
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