GrayWolf

*CLARIFICATION* By Sexual Experience I am refering to sex itself.

I just had mine and, to be frankly honest, it wasn't what I thought. Not bad necessarily, but also not quite the...uh...extacy that I thought it would be. Granted, we both got off on it, but...*frowns and shrugs*

I'm interested to hear peoples' opinions.

meff

We were in a hotel, on our way driving to Texas after she just picked me up. She seduced me, took my clothes off, and started sucking on me. I nearly came right there, but wanted to see what sex could be like with someone I love..

We did it, slowly, and soo passionately. We've both been waiting for this for months. I came inside her, she screamed and we both laid down and held each other as we fell asleep...

(Note, I trusted her enough to not use a condom, etc... she was on the pill. This is the first time we've actually seen each other other than on-line. How we met, well, that's another story.)

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Slims

Yeah, sex is like that. It's not some magical thing that guarantees pure pleasure. I think you just realized the truth about preconceptions....you might be wrong. I think a lot of people who are 'saving' themselves do so because off a gatsbyesque notion that sex will be a purely blissfull experience if they wait for the right moment, only to be dissillusioned. But don't worry, it will get better with practice, and it is still the most intimate thing you can do with another person.

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Champvinyl

I was 19 and in my room with my mom downstairs i dont know whether it was nerves or stressing cause we could get caught or what but i never got off, we had to stop cause she couldn't go anymore. It definetly got better from there though

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Harshaw

I loved it because I loved/love the girl. But I don't think it did much for her (according to her, I got better). It was kind of fast and I spent most of the time trying to run off to get a condom. I think if she hadn't been there, I would have tried it with my clothes on. Then again if she hadn't been there, it would have been nothing new, so I would have known what I was doing.
It hasn't been that long since my first encounter, what you have described sounds fairly normal. It may never be the ecstasy you are looking for but with practice, you will get better, last longer and enjoy it more.

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hu-man

The first time I had sex was with my first real girlfriend (ie that I saw for more than a couple of weeks).
it happened on some matresses on my old school. In the Russian classroom. It was great!
I almost had sex one time before that - at a theater's afterparty. I helped putting down the stage, and a girl accidentally kicked me in the head. Good pickup-act (works for every guy) and we wound up in a bathroom that was lockable, totally naked. I almost fucked her, but then the janitor pounded on our door to make us come out - the party was over. Damn. Never saw her again.

Redlemon

My first time was a 2-nite stand, and it was OK. My second time was with the woman who is now my wife, and my thought after that was "might as well just have oral sex".

But that didn't stop us. It gets better (MUCH better) as you learn each other's bodies.

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Stare At The Sun

*Shrugs* i got rather horny one day, and plugged my girl friend of many months. Nothing special really, it was a good time, but not worth the risk, imo.

JStrider

was head over heals for the girl... been dating about 9 months... had just come back from a summer across the country and she wanted to give me a special treat... she was a virgin too... and started crying... and that was quite a buzzkill... and we didnt even finish... but it got better after a few times...

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legolas

I don't wanna get into too much detail of my first time but believe me, it gets better and better and BETTER! The first time should just be an intimate moment and as your love grows, so does the sex.

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h2ogo69

my first exprericne was i n the bakcx seat of my best friends car

slimshaydee

Well I'd like to say I came, I saw, I conquered...but I only got as far as the first bit. Luckily I've had sex about 100 times since then

seizei

my first time, I was with a good friend of mine. We had dated a few years before, but that didn't work. We became great friends later, and partied/drank alot together. I kissed her one of those times, and it was pretty nice, but we didn't want to date each other. The next party (always at my house), we talked about having an 'arrangement' - we'd just have sex whenever we wanted, while we were single. So that's what we did. Both of our first times, we were drunk at a party and had confused sex. Kinda sucked. but we tried if a bunch more times and got better

THen emotions kicked in, and a few months later she had her friend call me and say that she was pregnant. I didn't find out that she wasn't until a week later, by which point I had thoroughly freaked out. I didn't talk to her for about 6 months, then we made up and are great friends to this day!

still don't regret it.

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juanvaldes

We had been dating a week or two. I was horney, she invited me to sleep in her bed. Lots of petting, did it. done.

echo everyone else it gets MUCH MUCH MUCH better.

LaughinMon

oops didnt read it right, im a moron

Meta

I was.. 17, I think. In my room at my folks' house, there's still a mark on the wall from where her belt hit it.

I think I was more overwhelmed by the idea of what I was doing than what I was doing, and it distracted me. Kind of lame when I think about it.

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joe100

I think eveybody who is a virgin should just go somewhere and lose it. Then you can focus on having fun and experimenting, that is true fun stuff.

wraithhibn

I was 18 with a gf I loved, her first time too. Not a pleasent experience, after lots of pain and tears, we quit. Tried again the next night and it got better. Just takes practice.

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Loui

Mine was with my girlfriend of 2 months at the time (still is now 7 months today) and well it was.. well ok to begin with, but ya know it was special for us so it was kinda good.

Anywho as everyone has said here it gets far better with time.

maximus

My first time was with my 1st real gf in highschool. we were seniors and it was not her first time by far (although i did not find out more acurately what number i was until much later by one of her friends), but supposedly i was like #4ish. well, for me it was pretty good. it was in a church parkinglot in her car t night. the subequent few other times i did it with her in the future were not good at all because i was really nervous. all in all i felt like she stole something form me after she went on to break my heart. i would trade back my virginity that i lost from her in a heartbeat. with the last gf i had, i was her first and it was very auqwrd because i was taking it form her, and i felt like i did not want that responsibility. well were went on to dat for 3 years before she broke up with me in may, again, subsequently, breaking my heart. i hink virginity and innocence are one of the best things in the world, and i remember the first kiss and the feeling that came with it, and boy, i would do anything to feel that feeling again.......

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SabrinaFair

My first experience, at age 17 in the bed I've slept in since childhood, was physically not-so-good. It hurt, I cried, I gave up. But my partner, my long term boyfriend who I ended up dating for three years, was really really great about it. Every girl deserves someone who will hold her and tell her she's beautiful afterwards.

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rmarshall

When you're an old fart like me, you can't remember that far back. It was a whole other century.

Now if you ask me to compare and contrast the first time I had sex with the last three girlfriends, well maybe...

Now there's a topic!

sexymama

Oh, I'm an "old fart" too and I remember. It was horrible! I had no idea what foreplay was all about. I had been told to lay back and let him "do it" and to "think of other things." YUCK! I was dry and much too young (almost 16.) Everyone is right, it gets much, Much, MUCH better!

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im just a girl

it was with a boy who i was crazy about... it stated out great, no pain or discomfort. but he called me his ex girlfriends name in the middle. very traumatic and not such a great first experience

smithja0423

eh - senior in high school, back seat of a car, etc... pretty miserable and dissapointing. We got over it. By the time we'd broke up, we'd had the police called on us at two different apartments.. damn i miss that girl sometimes!

phantman

Got drunk at a graduation party and my girl's sister desided to take advantage of my drunken state. I was 17, she was 15. My girlfriend at the time got pissed off because she had the same idea and did not get the opportunity to be my first. all of what I remember is in a haze but 3 other people confirm that it happened. you got lucky I don't even remember if I enjoyed it or not.

B21

All i can say is fast and furious.

QuasiMojo

Lord help me.

early 20's

a seasoned gal.

I started it.

she finished it.

I was pathetic.

I was pathetic.

I was

pathetic.

Lord help me

I was pathetic.

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But I learned

Oh yes I Learned

I Learned How

I Learned How to

Do That Thing

That I Needed
That I Needed
That I Needed

To Do.


Lord Help Me

I Did.

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Fenster

It sucked.

meami

uncomfortable. it was in the missionary position. after a year of some really great sex, i realize that the first time sucked.

Shades

Mine is pretty humorous, and includes details that I learned when we talked about it much later.

I was 23 (which I mention to give hope to anyone who may need it), she was 21, not her first time. We had actually only known eachother for about 5 days (we have by now been together for 10 months). After I rather hurriedly got her clothes off (I'm good at getting bras off one handed, it's a good skill to have) on her sat up futon, I just went down on her for about a half a second.

Then I was suddenly struck by the fact that I had no idea as to the correct angle for insertion, so I thought fast. I knew if I took too much time, she'd figure me out (like she wouldn't later?), so I just grabbed her hips and lifted them up to mine (I was kneeling). It was over pretty damn quick, I really sucked up the place.

Strangely, my lifting her hips move made her uncertain as to wether or not this was my first time, since that's apparently a pro move. Haven't done it since, it's not real comfortable for either of us.

Shades

Wow, I killed the thread!

Apache

Well my first time was with the perfect guy. Infact he's now my husband. Anyway I was a virgin and so was he, we had been dating for a month and were serious over each other. We had been out with another couple(his best friend and mine, they introduced us) and we stopped by Wal-Mart on the way home, his mom had asked him to drop some film off for her, so him and his friend ran into the store by thereselves while my friend and I waited for them. My friend says to me, you know what he's planning don't you? I didn't of course and she filled me in, they had went in to buy condoms, the whole way back to his house I was so freakin nervous, didn't really say a whole lot. The actual experience was a little awkward I guess, everyone always talks about how your first time hurts, and all that so I was more scared than I was nervous. My my hubby being the perfect man that he is, was very gentle with me, and it got better after a few times. That was five years ago and our sex life is still great! It just takes time, the first few months we had sex I limited positions to me on top or him on top, now it's just like we're always seeing how many different ways we can go at it

Orion

the first time having sex is like the first time of anything else: you don't know what the hell you're doing. some of us take to it faster than others, but you still have to learn, and keep learning. with the same partner, you learn more about him/her. with a new partner, you start all over again.

hell, that's the fun part!

motdakasha

That comes with time and experimentation in a long term relationship. Great sex doesn't just happen overnight.

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bradexample

my first time sucked. mainly because i didn't love her and was just trying to get it over with.

w00t.

Robblee

Sex is one of those things it gets better after you do it for a bit. unlike the first time you blow your load. the first time i masterbated it was way better than any other time. but sex became better for me as I did it more and more. Good luck with the next times!

fallen_angel

my first time was very good, hurt a lot in the begining but once we got started, oh ya baby. and that night we did it 3 times. Plus it was on good friday, to me that was a very good friday.

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