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Akuma7g · 08-21-2003, 10:45 AM

Just curious how easy it is for some of you women to get off?

My last girlfriend was very difficult to bring to orgasm. I never had trouble getting a woman there in the past but with her it was damn hard to do.
A girl that I've been dating now is the exact opposite...I can get her to orgasm 2,3...4 times a night if I want to.

What's the deal?

Averett · 08-21-2003, 10:59 AM

It all depends on the girl. Have you talked to your current girl about it? Maybe she need something else... I'm not knocking you, just sayin what might have worked for others, might not work for her.

Me? It can be pretty easy, or damn near impossible. Depends on a few things. I'll admit I'm still fairly inexperienced, so I find it hard to relax. That's never any good...

skysooner · 08-21-2003, 11:16 AM

It's all in the communication and trust. My wife used to just take orgasms when she could get off easily and would just self-stimulate on other nights. Frankly her sex drive was pretty low. I finally convinced her that I was more than willing to do whatever it took as my orgasms are so much better when I know she has gotten off. It is amazing what regular orgasms will do to a woman's sex drive. Now it is much more frequent and much better than it used to be.

She had a friend who had been married for 10 years, and her and her husband were only having sex about once a month when they got drunk. She claimed he didn't do it for her. I contend it was because he didn't work at it with her. He would get drunk and expect to just go at it immediately. After they got divorced, she met a man, and they become like bunny rabbits. She said she didn't like sex before and now wham.

My wife says that a majority of women don't like sex. I don't believe that is true. What I do believe is that there are many women who either don't know what they like or don't know how to communicate it (or their husbands won't listen).

Averett · 08-21-2003, 11:28 AM

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Originally posted by skysooner
My wife says that a majority of women don't like sex. I don't believe that is true. What I do believe is that there are many women who either don't know what they like or don't know how to communicate it (or their husbands won't listen).

Well said!

im2smrt4u · 08-21-2003, 11:48 AM

With my g/f it can be really easy or take forever. One major component is the way she is feeling. If she is relaxed, it will be much easier than if she is tense or worried.

micah67 · 08-21-2003, 11:56 AM

Exactly. She has to be in the mood; warmed-up. I've had it take 30 seconds and 30 minutes.

Akuma7g · 08-21-2003, 12:42 PM

Oh yeah that's very true: she has to be relaxed no matter what.

Even very relaxed the ex was still a tough one to get off.
The 'new' girl is so easy it's almost ridiculous.

At the risk of sounding like an arrogant ass, I pride myself on my ability to get a woman to orgasm. Mostly it's because I don't feel right if she doesn't becase she should be able to share just as much or more of the experience that I have. Men in general have this stereotype of not caring about the women that they are with.

Alternatively...a woman that I was with even farther back than either of these day only got off when she was on top. We eventually figured out how to rub her the same way whilst I was on top but it was still a hit or miss thing unless she was on top. Interesting that one was...

collide · 08-21-2003, 02:51 PM

Passion is the single most powerful stimulator of orgasms. Without it, she's unlikely to be enjoying herself enough to have an orgasm.

blackdas · 08-21-2003, 03:48 PM

It's kinda weird...sometimes I can get her to in less than a minute and other times even after 10 minutes nothing will happen (this is all thru sex btw). I don't really know how to get more consistent...

asshopo · 08-21-2003, 04:58 PM

Dunno, with my S.O., my first time ever having sex, I was able to have her orgasm 4 times or so before I went once! Unfortunitly, I haven't been able to do it since, but there are other methods of stimulation that work well, if she is in the mood. If she is the slightest unintrested, I can't bring her to orgasm for $1,000,000!

morlock · 08-21-2003, 05:09 PM

I find it really wrong when a guy can't make a girl orgasm. my last girlfriend, I could make her orgasm literally 30 times a minute, after about five minutes she was completely tired and passed out asleep. My current girlfriend even though she has been with a couple guys, none of them ever made her orgasm. Then I come along and ask, and she doesn't know what one is, I asked her about how it was with me, and listed off the chracterisitcs of an orgasm, and she said yes to all of them, and I witnessed it myself, then I asked if she had ever felt that way with any of her exes or even by herself, and she said she hadn't. It feels good to finally make your girl orgasm, especially when she hasn't had one before. There need to be more guys out there like me that have that touch to make a woman cum, there are for too many deprived women out there.

Akuma7g · 08-21-2003, 10:28 PM

Some women just really make you work for it where other's you don't really have to I guess.

Here's the funniest part...the one that I really had to work at liked all the erotic stuff and I knew where all her "spots" were/are. But no matter what she just took a lot of energy to get there.

em1014 · 08-21-2003, 10:37 PM

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Originally posted by morlock
I find it really wrong when a guy can't make a girl orgasm. my last girlfriend, I could make her orgasm literally 30 times a minute, after about five minutes she was completely tired and passed out asleep. My current girlfriend even though she has been with a couple guys, none of them ever made her orgasm. Then I come along and ask, and she doesn't know what one is, I asked her about how it was with me, and listed off the chracterisitcs of an orgasm, and she said yes to all of them, and I witnessed it myself, then I asked if she had ever felt that way with any of her exes or even by herself, and she said she hadn't. It feels good to finally make your girl orgasm, especially when she hasn't had one before. There need to be more guys out there like me that have that touch to make a woman cum, there are for too many deprived women out there.

..I'm not too sure I like this post but I'm gonna be nice.

collide · 08-21-2003, 10:54 PM

Heh, I was thinking exactly what em1014's thinking too. But we know better.

Devilinmypants · 08-21-2003, 11:21 PM

i too agree with em and collide, but i am not so polite. anyone who says that the can make a girl come once every two seconds needs to cut back on the liquid machismo enemas and go to a psychologist to have their reality oil checked because they are obviouly low a quart.

They key to giving a girl an orgasm is not to give them one, but to let them to have one on thier own first. there are conditions that must be met for most girls to orgasm, they must be comfortable with you and with sex, which can take years. Make sure she knows she is in control. Being in love helps alot. let them be in control and be patient. it will happen only when they are ready, you CANNOT make it happen (without hooking thier brains up to batteries, that is a different story though).

argh, i be a scurvy dog

em1014 · 08-21-2003, 11:30 PM

sorry Akuma7g I never answered your ?...

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Originally posted by Averett
I'll admit I'm still fairly inexperienced, so I find it hard to relax. That's never any good...

Yeah, what she said!

Averett · 08-22-2003, 06:17 AM

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Originally posted by Ekirk81
There are conditions that must be met for most girls to orgasm, they must be comfortable with you and with sex, which can take years.

Exactly Ekirk!

seven7 · 08-22-2003, 12:44 PM

skysooner should teach a class.

Thagrastay · 08-22-2003, 04:50 PM

If there is one thing I have realized in the course of my lifetime, it is that there is nothing worth doing if it is not going to be done well. Sex falls into that category. Patience, attention, affection, encouragement, compromise- these elements are significant in building a rapport with your woman. Don't get me wrong- quickies have their virtues, but there is nothing wrong with taking your time on a romp and enjoying the nuances in the getting to the climax. In the long run, your woman will be more inclined to relax and expand her sexual repetoire if you slow down and learn to enjoy stimulating her more and you will find much gratification in helping her finish. I decided a long time ago that the female body is too beautiful to hurry with. I decided to direct my attentions to mastering that unique instrument and in the process I learned that delaying gratification has its own rewards.
Your woman knows if you are there for sex or there for a "nut".
She'll respond accordingly. Likewise, if she is there only for a nut, either slow her down or join her in that. But each episode of interaction is yours, too.
Be patient. Enjoy!

08-21-2003, 10:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
Akuma7g Tilted	Ease of orgasm Just curious how easy it is for some of you women to get off? My last girlfriend was very difficult to bring to orgasm. I never had trouble getting a woman there in the past but with her it was damn hard to do. A girl that I've been dating now is the exact opposite...I can get her to orgasm 2,3...4 times a night if I want to. What's the deal?

08-21-2003, 10:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	It all depends on the girl. Have you talked to your current girl about it? Maybe she need something else... I'm not knocking you, just sayin what might have worked for others, might not work for her. Me? It can be pretty easy, or damn near impossible. Depends on a few things. I'll admit I'm still fairly inexperienced, so I find it hard to relax. That's never any good... __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

08-21-2003, 11:48 AM	#5 (permalink)
im2smrt4u Beer Aficionado Location: Rancho Cucamonga, CA	With my g/f it can be really easy or take forever. One major component is the way she is feeling. If she is relaxed, it will be much easier than if she is tense or worried. __________________ Starkizzer Fan Club - President & Founder

08-21-2003, 11:56 AM	#6 (permalink)
micah67 Thor Location: 33:08:12N 117:10:23W	Exactly. She has to be in the mood; warmed-up. I've had it take 30 seconds and 30 minutes. __________________ ~micah

08-21-2003, 02:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
collide Turn off your TV. Location: ... .- -. ..-. .-. .- -. -.-. .. ... -.-. --- --..-- -.-. .-	Passion is the single most powerful stimulator of orgasms. Without it, she's unlikely to be enjoying herself enough to have an orgasm. __________________ "inhuman fiery goat worship" is an anagram for "information superhighway" -kingvolc

08-21-2003, 11:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	It's all in the communication and trust. My wife used to just take orgasms when she could get off easily and would just self-stimulate on other nights. Frankly her sex drive was pretty low. I finally convinced her that I was more than willing to do whatever it took as my orgasms are so much better when I know she has gotten off. It is amazing what regular orgasms will do to a woman's sex drive. Now it is much more frequent and much better than it used to be. She had a friend who had been married for 10 years, and her and her husband were only having sex about once a month when they got drunk. She claimed he didn't do it for her. I contend it was because he didn't work at it with her. He would get drunk and expect to just go at it immediately. After they got divorced, she met a man, and they become like bunny rabbits. She said she didn't like sex before and now wham. My wife says that a majority of women don't like sex. I don't believe that is true. What I do believe is that there are many women who either don't know what they like or don't know how to communicate it (or their husbands won't listen).

08-21-2003, 12:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
Akuma7g Tilted	Oh yeah that's very true: she has to be relaxed no matter what. Even very relaxed the ex was still a tough one to get off. The 'new' girl is so easy it's almost ridiculous. At the risk of sounding like an arrogant ass, I pride myself on my ability to get a woman to orgasm. Mostly it's because I don't feel right if she doesn't becase she should be able to share just as much or more of the experience that I have. Men in general have this stereotype of not caring about the women that they are with. Alternatively...a woman that I was with even farther back than either of these day only got off when she was on top. We eventually figured out how to rub her the same way whilst I was on top but it was still a hit or miss thing unless she was on top. Interesting that one was...

08-21-2003, 03:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
blackdas Crazy	It's kinda weird...sometimes I can get her to in less than a minute and other times even after 10 minutes nothing will happen (this is all thru sex btw). I don't really know how to get more consistent...

08-21-2003, 04:58 PM	#10 (permalink)
asshopo Insane Location: Michigan	Dunno, with my S.O., my first time ever having sex, I was able to have her orgasm 4 times or so before I went once! Unfortunitly, I haven't been able to do it since, but there are other methods of stimulation that work well, if she is in the mood. If she is the slightest unintrested, I can't bring her to orgasm for $1,000,000! __________________ Patterns have a habit of repeating themselves.

08-21-2003, 05:09 PM	#11 (permalink)
morlock Loser	I find it really wrong when a guy can't make a girl orgasm. my last girlfriend, I could make her orgasm literally 30 times a minute, after about five minutes she was completely tired and passed out asleep. My current girlfriend even though she has been with a couple guys, none of them ever made her orgasm. Then I come along and ask, and she doesn't know what one is, I asked her about how it was with me, and listed off the chracterisitcs of an orgasm, and she said yes to all of them, and I witnessed it myself, then I asked if she had ever felt that way with any of her exes or even by herself, and she said she hadn't. It feels good to finally make your girl orgasm, especially when she hasn't had one before. There need to be more guys out there like me that have that touch to make a woman cum, there are for too many deprived women out there.

08-21-2003, 10:28 PM	#12 (permalink)
Akuma7g Tilted	Some women just really make you work for it where other's you don't really have to I guess. Here's the funniest part...the one that I really had to work at liked all the erotic stuff and I knew where all her "spots" were/are. But no matter what she just took a lot of energy to get there.

08-21-2003, 10:54 PM	#14 (permalink)
collide Turn off your TV. Location: ... .- -. ..-. .-. .- -. -.-. .. ... -.-. --- --..-- -.-. .-	Heh, I was thinking exactly what em1014's thinking too. But we know better. __________________ "inhuman fiery goat worship" is an anagram for "information superhighway" -kingvolc

08-21-2003, 11:21 PM	#15 (permalink)
Devilinmypants Hippie relocationist. Location: Greensboro NC	i too agree with em and collide, but i am not so polite. anyone who says that the can make a girl come once every two seconds needs to cut back on the liquid machismo enemas and go to a psychologist to have their reality oil checked because they are obviouly low a quart. They key to giving a girl an orgasm is not to give them one, but to let them to have one on thier own first. there are conditions that must be met for most girls to orgasm, they must be comfortable with you and with sex, which can take years. Make sure she knows she is in control. Being in love helps alot. let them be in control and be patient. it will happen only when they are ready, you CANNOT make it happen (without hooking thier brains up to batteries, that is a different story though). argh, i be a scurvy dog Last edited by Ekirk81; 08-21-2003 at 11:28 PM..

08-22-2003, 12:44 PM	#18 (permalink)
seven7 Tilted Location: flatlands	skysooner should teach a class.

08-22-2003, 04:50 PM	#19 (permalink)
Thagrastay Crazy Location: Handrail, Montana	If there is one thing I have realized in the course of my lifetime, it is that there is nothing worth doing if it is not going to be done well. Sex falls into that category. Patience, attention, affection, encouragement, compromise- these elements are significant in building a rapport with your woman. Don't get me wrong- quickies have their virtues, but there is nothing wrong with taking your time on a romp and enjoying the nuances in the getting to the climax. In the long run, your woman will be more inclined to relax and expand her sexual repetoire if you slow down and learn to enjoy stimulating her more and you will find much gratification in helping her finish. I decided a long time ago that the female body is too beautiful to hurry with. I decided to direct my attentions to mastering that unique instrument and in the process I learned that delaying gratification has its own rewards. Your woman knows if you are there for sex or there for a "nut". She'll respond accordingly. Likewise, if she is there only for a nut, either slow her down or join her in that. But each episode of interaction is yours, too. Be patient. Enjoy! __________________ "That's it! They've got the cuffs on him, he's IN the car!"