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Martian · 11-19-2007, 12:21 PM

Is it just me, or does there seem to be an awful lot of this kind of thread necromancy going on lately?

LoganSnake · 11-19-2007, 12:23 PM

Looks more like thread necrophilia to me...

healer · 11-19-2007, 12:48 PM

I now want to watch The Chronicles of Riddick. Thanks.

Bill O'Rights · 11-19-2007, 01:30 PM

Hey, Rococo.
I know that you're still out there. So...out of curiosity...after four years, how did this work out for you? Still with the same gal?

Damn, the cobwebs on this thread are thick.

Bear Cub · 11-19-2007, 04:05 PM

He's probably so busy banging other girls, that he hasn't had time to reply...

Jenna · 11-19-2007, 04:35 PM

I still want to bang other girls and guys and I've been in a relationship for 3 years.

Ask for a threesome, that's what I do.

Cyborg Ninja · 11-19-2007, 10:42 PM

Having a threesome: typical teen/young 20-something male response. And by far the dumbest "solution" anyone could come up with for this problem. It shows how little one knows of not only the female sex, but also of human behavior in general. Before I read the posts suggesting a threesome, I was going to just state that because your girlfriend stated explicitly that she doesn't want you to tell her about any outside sex that you have, that you should realize that she isn't comfortable with you sleeping around. It is still your own choice, but you just need to understand the hidden meaning behind what little she had said about this to you.

There are few heterosexual couples I have come across that are comfortable with having "open" relationships. There are many straight girls who have FMF threesomes, because they really like the man they're with and convinced themselves that this will help them stay together. I have never met a mature woman who had a FMF threesome while in a relationship with a man unless it was an open relationship and they had numerous sexual encounters with other people already. Needless to say, those women are rare, and you certainly aren't going to find one who is a college undergraduate. Sorry, fratboys, but that girl who agrees to have a threesome is not sexually self-confident, but in fact the opposite. Anyway, I digress. Usually if the average couple has a threesome, it equals the beginning of the end for their relationship. Having a threesome is jumping too far down the road in terms of sexual exploration when here you are skipping the mile markers along the way. Like I said, she isn't comfortable enough to know who you are sleeping with or when. And that's perfectly normal. But she shouldn't feel like she should have to engage in a threesome for your enjoyment in order to feel like it's the only way to keep you from straying: and that is basically what you are saying to her, and it is far more immoral and chauvinistic than just having a brief tryst, no matter what silly notion of "I want her to enjoy this, too" that may be popping into your head. I should add that I'm not attacking the topic creator for thinking this: but any young man who thinks this is a good idea.

Bill O'Rights · 11-20-2007, 06:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jennaboo4u

Ask for a threesome, that's what I do.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cyborg Ninja

Having a threesome: typical teen/young 20-something male response. It shows how little one knows of not only the female sex, but also of human behavior in general.

Ummm...just for the record...jennaboo4u is female. Just sayin'...

Xazy · 11-20-2007, 09:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bill O'Rights

Ummm...just for the record...jennaboo4u is female. Just sayin'...

NICE!

Impetuous1 · 11-21-2007, 06:52 PM

Actually, I'm a female and I largely agree with Cyborg Ninja. The only way I would have a threesome is if I had no emotional attachment to the man. Though if I did have a threesome it would be with two men. I'm not into women. BTW, men are not the only ones who have this issue. So "stop being male" or "get an injection of estrogen" are not exactly the best responses.

Jenna · 11-22-2007, 08:01 AM

Well I don't know what his girlfriend is like, or if she's completely against it. I'm just saying that he could always ask but you have to go around it in a smart way. She could be very offended, or she could be thrilled. And hopefully she wouldn't just agree and keep her feelings bottled up inside.

I'm just saying, if the other partner is up for it, it's a good way to get some of those feelings out. But I know it isn't for everyone, considering the fact that not every woman is attracted to other women.

Ustwo · 11-22-2007, 08:26 AM

Best way to stop wanting to bang other chicks is to bang other chicks.

Yes this can lead to issues with your current chick.

Another fix is for your current chick to get more attractive to you. Physically, emotionally, whatever. The problem of course is that one is in her control not yours.

So this leads us to the meat here, you will always want to bang other chicks, until you get to a point in life where you want to bang no chicks. There is no magic point where you say 'this is the one forever' and feel that way until death do you part, unless of course death comes swiftly. Sure you might feel it for a while, but for every gorgeous woman out there, there is a guy bored of fucking her. Its just how we are wired as gene spreading machines.

So either suffer through it the good Christian way, or bang other chicks. There really isn't any other way.

Leto · 11-22-2007, 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martian

Is it just me, or does there seem to be an awful lot of this kind of thread necromancy going on lately?

I think it's a result of posters exercising due diligence and actually searching for related topics, rather that starting a new thread.

Prince · 11-29-2007, 03:40 PM

It didn't seem to me as though he was looking for advice as much as just an outside justification for going ahead and cheating on his girlfriend.

Mantus · 12-06-2007, 12:30 AM

This was a huge hurdle for me.

You don’t fix it. You embrace it. You become honest with yourself and your loved one. As a men we love women. We WANT women. We get hardons for women. It’s who we are. To deny this is to lie to oneself.

A relationship is at it’s very core an AGREEMENT. If your agreement involves monogamy (as mine does) all we are doing is making a choice NOT TO ACT on our nature. We are making a choice to use all that zest and energy and love for all the women in this world and turn it all towards our girl. But that doesn’t change who we are. To try to hide it from ourselves is dangerous. To hide it from our lover is lying. To hide it from the world is sad.

It’s up to every man to figure out how to manifest his true nature.

I love women. My girl knows this. She knows that I adore and appreciate women for everything that makes them feminine. I don’t hide this from her. I don’t hide this from the other girls. I want women to know that I appreciate them. They light up my world; the least I can do is make them feel good about themselves.

Doesn’t that mean I might “slip up” one day? No. I am totally honest with my girl and myself. This is not something dark and unwanted within me. I embrace it. I am cool with it. As such I have a very clear perspective on why I CHOOSE to stay with my girlfriend. There are many, many women out there. Most of them have some quality that shines above all others – including my girl. But it’s not just about an ass, or energy or wit. It’s about the total package. My girl is perfect for me. She makes me happy in every way. I love her for that. I may appreciate other women but I will never forget what’s important to me. My CHOICE is the only power I have in this world. I don’t take it lightly.

Can a better girl come along? Will my behavior increase the chance of me finding someone else? Lets be honest. YES. But I won’t betray who I am. I won’t lie to my love about my nature. Most importantly I have FAITH in us. It’s not certain. Love is not a science. Love is about having faith in yourself and the one you truly care for. This faith has to come from an honest place otherwise you’ll create a monster that will eat away at you and the relationship.

That’s my prerogative. Honesty, open communication, faith.

skada · 12-06-2007, 09:43 AM

Nice post Mantus.. just out of curiosity what do you do? Are/were you a teacher/lecturer/preacher/speaker of a party or what ?

croleva · 01-30-2008, 09:01 AM

Hi folks,

Yes, this act of "necromancy" was my doing. I was in the beginning of what is now a slightly longer monogomous relationship, having doubts about my own ability to stay faithful. Some of the posts here have helped me immensely and I just wanted to say thank you.

Time to re-aim the laser cannon again...

- Dave

loquitur · 01-30-2008, 10:15 PM

yeah, wanting to bang other girls is part of what most men are. Right after we got married I told my wife "when I stop looking, take my pulse."

11-19-2007, 12:21 PM	#41 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	Is it just me, or does there seem to be an awful lot of this kind of thread necromancy going on lately? __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame

11-19-2007, 12:23 PM	#42 (permalink)
LoganSnake We work alone Location: Cake Town	Looks more like thread necrophilia to me... __________________ Maturity is knowing you were an idiot in the past. Wisdom is knowing that you'll be an idiot in the future. Common sense is knowing that you should try not to be an idiot now. - J. Jacques

11-19-2007, 01:30 PM	#44 (permalink)
Bill O'Rights will always be an Alyson Hanniganite Location: In the dust of the archives	Hey, Rococo. I know that you're still out there. So...out of curiosity...after four years, how did this work out for you? Still with the same gal? Damn, the cobwebs on this thread are thick. __________________ "I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires." - Susan B. Anthony "Hedonism with rules isn't hedonism at all, it's the Republican party." - JumpinJesus It is indisputable that true beauty lies within...but a nice rack sure doesn't hurt. Last edited by Bill O'Rights; 11-19-2007 at 01:32 PM..

11-19-2007, 10:42 PM	#47 (permalink)
Cyborg Ninja Crazy	Having a threesome: typical teen/young 20-something male response. And by far the dumbest "solution" anyone could come up with for this problem. It shows how little one knows of not only the female sex, but also of human behavior in general. Before I read the posts suggesting a threesome, I was going to just state that because your girlfriend stated explicitly that she doesn't want you to tell her about any outside sex that you have, that you should realize that she isn't comfortable with you sleeping around. It is still your own choice, but you just need to understand the hidden meaning behind what little she had said about this to you. There are few heterosexual couples I have come across that are comfortable with having "open" relationships. There are many straight girls who have FMF threesomes, because they really like the man they're with and convinced themselves that this will help them stay together. I have never met a mature woman who had a FMF threesome while in a relationship with a man unless it was an open relationship and they had numerous sexual encounters with other people already. Needless to say, those women are rare, and you certainly aren't going to find one who is a college undergraduate. Sorry, fratboys, but that girl who agrees to have a threesome is not sexually self-confident, but in fact the opposite. Anyway, I digress. Usually if the average couple has a threesome, it equals the beginning of the end for their relationship. Having a threesome is jumping too far down the road in terms of sexual exploration when here you are skipping the mile markers along the way. Like I said, she isn't comfortable enough to know who you are sleeping with or when. And that's perfectly normal. But she shouldn't feel like she should have to engage in a threesome for your enjoyment in order to feel like it's the only way to keep you from straying: and that is basically what you are saying to her, and it is far more immoral and chauvinistic than just having a brief tryst, no matter what silly notion of "I want her to enjoy this, too" that may be popping into your head. I should add that I'm not attacking the topic creator for thinking this: but any young man who thinks this is a good idea. __________________ Become an organ donor

11-22-2007, 08:26 AM	#52 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	Best way to stop wanting to bang other chicks is to bang other chicks. Yes this can lead to issues with your current chick. Another fix is for your current chick to get more attractive to you. Physically, emotionally, whatever. The problem of course is that one is in her control not yours. So this leads us to the meat here, you will always want to bang other chicks, until you get to a point in life where you want to bang no chicks. There is no magic point where you say 'this is the one forever' and feel that way until death do you part, unless of course death comes swiftly. Sure you might feel it for a while, but for every gorgeous woman out there, there is a guy bored of fucking her. Its just how we are wired as gene spreading machines. So either suffer through it the good Christian way, or bang other chicks. There really isn't any other way. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.

11-19-2007, 04:05 PM	#45 (permalink)
Bear Cub The Reverend Side Boob Location: Nofe Curolina	He's probably so busy banging other girls, that he hasn't had time to reply...

11-19-2007, 04:35 PM	#46 (permalink)
Jenna Psycho Location: Wisconsin	I still want to bang other girls and guys and I've been in a relationship for 3 years. Ask for a threesome, that's what I do.

11-21-2007, 06:52 PM	#50 (permalink)
Impetuous1 Insane Location: Arizona	Actually, I'm a female and I largely agree with Cyborg Ninja. The only way I would have a threesome is if I had no emotional attachment to the man. Though if I did have a threesome it would be with two men. I'm not into women. BTW, men are not the only ones who have this issue. So "stop being male" or "get an injection of estrogen" are not exactly the best responses.

11-22-2007, 08:01 AM	#51 (permalink)
Jenna Psycho Location: Wisconsin	Well I don't know what his girlfriend is like, or if she's completely against it. I'm just saying that he could always ask but you have to go around it in a smart way. She could be very offended, or she could be thrilled. And hopefully she wouldn't just agree and keep her feelings bottled up inside. I'm just saying, if the other partner is up for it, it's a good way to get some of those feelings out. But I know it isn't for everyone, considering the fact that not every woman is attracted to other women.

11-29-2007, 03:40 PM	#54 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	It didn't seem to me as though he was looking for advice as much as just an outside justification for going ahead and cheating on his girlfriend. __________________ Who is John Galt?

12-06-2007, 12:30 AM	#55 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	This was a huge hurdle for me. You don’t fix it. You embrace it. You become honest with yourself and your loved one. As a men we love women. We WANT women. We get hardons for women. It’s who we are. To deny this is to lie to oneself. A relationship is at it’s very core an AGREEMENT. If your agreement involves monogamy (as mine does) all we are doing is making a choice NOT TO ACT on our nature. We are making a choice to use all that zest and energy and love for all the women in this world and turn it all towards our girl. But that doesn’t change who we are. To try to hide it from ourselves is dangerous. To hide it from our lover is lying. To hide it from the world is sad. It’s up to every man to figure out how to manifest his true nature. I love women. My girl knows this. She knows that I adore and appreciate women for everything that makes them feminine. I don’t hide this from her. I don’t hide this from the other girls. I want women to know that I appreciate them. They light up my world; the least I can do is make them feel good about themselves. Doesn’t that mean I might “slip up” one day? No. I am totally honest with my girl and myself. This is not something dark and unwanted within me. I embrace it. I am cool with it. As such I have a very clear perspective on why I CHOOSE to stay with my girlfriend. There are many, many women out there. Most of them have some quality that shines above all others – including my girl. But it’s not just about an ass, or energy or wit. It’s about the total package. My girl is perfect for me. She makes me happy in every way. I love her for that. I may appreciate other women but I will never forget what’s important to me. My CHOICE is the only power I have in this world. I don’t take it lightly. Can a better girl come along? Will my behavior increase the chance of me finding someone else? Lets be honest. YES. But I won’t betray who I am. I won’t lie to my love about my nature. Most importantly I have FAITH in us. It’s not certain. Love is not a science. Love is about having faith in yourself and the one you truly care for. This faith has to come from an honest place otherwise you’ll create a monster that will eat away at you and the relationship. That’s my prerogative. Honesty, open communication, faith.

12-06-2007, 09:43 AM	#56 (permalink)
skada Upright	Nice post Mantus.. just out of curiosity what do you do? Are/were you a teacher/lecturer/preacher/speaker of a party or what ? __________________ No Signature

01-30-2008, 09:01 AM	#57 (permalink)
croleva Upright Location: Nawlins	thanx y'all Hi folks, Yes, this act of "necromancy" was my doing. I was in the beginning of what is now a slightly longer monogomous relationship, having doubts about my own ability to stay faithful. Some of the posts here have helped me immensely and I just wanted to say thank you. Time to re-aim the laser cannon again... - Dave

01-30-2008, 10:15 PM	#58 (permalink)
loquitur Junkie Location: NYC	yeah, wanting to bang other girls is part of what most men are. Right after we got married I told my wife "when I stop looking, take my pulse."