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Baraka_Guru · 04-15-2010, 07:08 AM

See? This is why I keep sex to a minimum. It's too damn complicated.

Plan9 · 04-15-2010, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Baraka_Guru

See? This is why I keep sex to a minimum. It's too damn complicated.

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Originally Posted by Baraka's Giant Throbbing Balls

RAWWWRRR!

Baraka_Guru · 04-15-2010, 07:13 AM

I said "sex," not "masturbation."

Masturbation is ridiculously simple. Or at least it should be.

Bill O'Rights · 04-15-2010, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Baraka_Guru

See? This is why I keep sex to a minimum. It's too damn complicated.

Yeah. That's why.

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Originally Posted by Baraka_Guru

Masturbation is ridiculously simple. Or at least it should be.

Then you're not doing it right.

Plan9 · 04-15-2010, 07:21 AM

Yeah, masturbation is totally not the same as sex, Bret Easton Ellis.

Baraka_Guru · 04-15-2010, 07:34 AM

Yeah, sex is for making babies.

I know it's not the same as masturbation, but if sex were so simple, wouldn't we have it all the time? Like daily or whatever?

EDIT: I'm not an expert. Most teenagers have had more sex than I have.

Lasereth · 04-15-2010, 07:44 AM

WOW this guy got grilled excessively. Entertaining thread though. Glad the ordeal is over. Use the experience to prevent the same from happening in the future.

Bill O'Rights · 04-15-2010, 07:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Lasereth

Use the experience to prevent the same from happening in the future.

And we have ourselves a winnah!

Seriously, what more could anyone possibly hope for out of all of this?

MSD · 04-15-2010, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by a_hero

As an update, my relationship with her has been cleared up and now all is well. Thank to those who gave advice, this has all somehow turned out for the better.

ps. I know im still a terrible person

Reflect on this, ask yourself how you really feel deep within the back of your mind, and make a conscious effort to come out of this a better person, one who be repulsed by this statement:

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Originally Posted by a_hero

I know im going to get ripped to shreds but i feel a little proud of myself that i could make a person have those feelings. It made me feel powerful, i actually giggled a little when she started getting teary eyes. Theres a few more levels i can go to on this but i think ive done enough to attract some more hate.

Thrombatic Pyle · 04-15-2010, 10:14 AM

Keep pounding her.

Jove · 04-15-2010, 10:46 AM

Well, I am not going to criticize your actions because it doesn't matter, but just suggest next time a scenario like this happens to you again, tell the girl you just want sex and not interested in a current/future relationship and you don't find her at all attractive. If after hearing all this information and she still agrees to have sex with you, then you are good to go.

Wes Mantooth · 04-15-2010, 12:28 PM

Mistake number one when having a fuck buddy is not laying out the terms from the beginning, when you don't you...well the above thread lays it out pretty well. I've learned that painful lesson many many times when I was younger and I don't think it ever ended well. I guess we all do dumb things when we're young, all we can do is learn from it and try not to make the same mistake again.

On a side note its rather amazing how quickly feelings develop once sex enters the picture...its like warp speed to relationship land if you're not careful. Human nature I suppose.

"Hey your hot"
"yeah so are you, wanna fuck?"

****hot passionate sex******

Next morning
"So whens a good time to introduce you to my family?"
"sigh"

a_hero · 04-15-2010, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Wes Mantooth

Mistake number one when having a fuck buddy is not laying out the terms from the beginning

Definitely should have done that. Spoke to her last night and told her that i had been telling a few fib's and that i had basically stayed open to the idea of a relationship so she wouldnt tell my sister and because i enjoyed the sex. Surprisingly she took it really well and said that shes "over" guys anyway so its not a big deal to her that we can't date, but that shes keen to keep having our rendezvous at night.

So basically ive hit a double combo by managing to keep the sex but also lose her desire for a relationship. If only i could hit the trifecta and somehow make her hot.

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Originally Posted by Lucifer

it's about to get lonelier in your lost world

I think that woke me up and made me realise i had to proactively do something about this otherwise things might hit the shit. Cheers buddy and to everyone else who guided me.

genuinegirly · 04-16-2010, 01:28 PM

So glad you cleared the air and made it a positive situation for everyone involved. Thanks for following-up with the update, too.

Manic_Skafe · 04-16-2010, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Plan9

Dude, you've got this "So what?!" guilty conscience that just won't quit. Heh, there is nothing to coax. I'm totally not that variety of dickhead, Skafe. And survey says we already have plenty of that type here at TFP, no? I was just stating that we've all done "bad things" in the past, especially at that age while hopped up on some Rob Zombie-style Superbeast hormones, and that I freely admit that I've done similar things myself back in the day. I'm not talking about others in specific, although your sentiment certainly applies to this thread given TFP's huge potential pool of applicants for sainthood.

Sorry I didn't see this earlier.

It's not about my conscience in the least. I regularly instigate these sorts of things because I'm sick and tired of the underhanded and passive aggressive bullshit that goes on around here. Whether it mysteriously finds its way into my inbox or I see it in chat - I'd rather the perpetrators grow a set and have it out already.

Just look at your last sentence that I've quoted above. This isn't the first time you've condemned much of the advice offered as idealistic and hypocritical bullshit. I'd much rather you have it out in a manner that actually means something to someone other than yourself.

Congrats on a smooth exit, a_hero.

Plan9 · 04-16-2010, 03:47 PM

Oh, good. Angst-related meta discussion.

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Originally Posted by Manic_Skafe

Sorry I didn't see this earlier.

It's not about my conscience in the least. I regularly instigate these sorts of things because I'm sick and tired of the underhanded and passive aggressive bullshit that goes on around here. Whether it mysteriously finds its way into my inbox or I see it in chat - I'd rather the perpetrators grow a set and have it out already.

Like I said: You're reading way too much into my posts, bro. Remember: My IQ and your pants size are similar. I don't go that deep.

And let's not use male genitalia as a measure of assertiveness. We all know how I measure up. *rubs smoothspot*

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Just look at your last sentence that I've quoted above. This isn't the first time you've condemned much of the advice offered as idealistic and hypocritical bullshit. I'd much rather you have it out in a manner that actually means something to someone other than yourself.

How have I not been clear? I'm working with hammers and pitchforks here, not scalpels and sewing scissors. Please enlighten me.

...

Or don't. This is probably a waste of effort.

Squishy10 · 04-18-2010, 02:35 PM

Next stop on this train- Hell

Fire · 04-19-2010, 11:36 PM

well, the OP is only 20, an age not inclined to reason or, really , anything but getting your nubbly bits rubbed, and yet showed a concern for his partner, and an ability to analyze the the situation and move forward in a fairly human fashion- not too bad, overall, and hopefully he can in fact learn from this early possible debacle.....

Toaster126 · 04-21-2010, 07:55 PM

Generally, if you feel like you need to hide something from someone / lie / etc., you really need to be thinking if you should continue your course of action.

Appreciate the update.

PhD · 04-22-2010, 12:15 PM

First, I will assume this post is a fake. most likely from someone seeking cheap kicks.

Second, I'll play it out anyway. Who cares, they are 18/20... summer lovin', happened so fast...

a_hero · 04-23-2010, 12:02 AM

PhD,

Clearly a psychologist, you got me on this one, well kinda.

It was a legitimate post right until the end, then my "update" was bullshit.. Thought it would be great to give all my critics a reason to get pissed.

I decided to take the route of stonewalling her out of my life. Im not sure if i wrote it in an earlier post but the last time i saw her i had her phone and deleted my messages, my number and even made sure i went to recently dialed numbers and deleted my number from there as well. Its worked out great, no contact since and my sister might know but i doubt shes going to bring up me fucking her friend in a conversation anytime soon.

Cynthetiq · 04-23-2010, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by a_hero

PhD,

Clearly a psychologist, you got me on this one, well kinda.

It was a legitimate post right until the end, then my "update" was bullshit.. Thought it would be great to give all my critics a reason to get pissed.

I decided to take the route of stonewalling her out of my life. Im not sure if i wrote it in an earlier post but the last time i saw her i had her phone and deleted my messages, my number and even made sure i went to recently dialed numbers and deleted my number from there as well. Its worked out great, no contact since and my sister might know but i doubt shes going to bring up me fucking her friend in a conversation anytime soon.

that's the mature route!

don't forget to go to her house and find all her old wireless bills because your number will be printed on those too.

Baraka_Guru · 04-23-2010, 05:17 AM

Wow, way to skirt responsibility.

Do the world a favour: seek help before starting a relationship (of any kind) with another woman.

You have serious self-esteem issues.

a_hero · 04-23-2010, 11:49 PM

Yeh sure i could have come clean to the world and acknowledged my wrong doing, faced the problem head on. Yet i dont think the end result would have been as good as doing absolutely nothing. Im very pleased with the end result.

I think i do have self esteem issues. I know im a better person then i give myself credit for and i think its making me a terrible person. Maybe if i get more girls to like me it will help.

Craven Morehead · 04-24-2010, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by a_hero

I think i do have self esteem issues. I know im a better person then i give myself credit for and i think its making me a terrible person. Maybe if i get more girls to like me it will help.

You have that exactly backwards. If you take care of your own issues and make yourself a better person then more people (including girls) will like you.

Improve yourself before you seek adulation.

It might take a while.

MSD · 04-28-2010, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by a_hero

I think i do have self esteem issues. I know im a better person then i give myself credit for and i think its making me a terrible person. Maybe if i get more girls to like me it will help.

The human species has gone through 2 million years of design revisons to weed out the ones who can't get laid, that's a pretty low goal to set for yourself. In fact, literally the only way to set the bar lower is for your goal in life to be "not dying." That's not even getting into the psychological issues displayed by basing your sense of self-worth on who will let you stick your dick in them rather than who you are as a person.

gentlesoul43 · 05-04-2010, 08:13 AM

Whatever you think is cleared up now, it hasn't. It'll come back to haunt you again.

Prepare yourself for this:

She will talk. Then her friends will talk. If she's really butt ugly like you said, she's probably proud to have scored with you. And she'll talk once she's gotten over you. Eventually, your sis and your friends will find out.

You had better have something nice to say then, and not break her heart twice by slagging her. It will be terrible to disrespect her again.

macmanmike6100 · 05-05-2010, 08:26 PM

agree with several posters: live with your choice of not wanting a relationship with this girl, *tell her* (you owe her honesty, and you should want to owe everyone honesty), and deal with it. in the end, it'll be OK anyway.

so what if you sister finds out? there was a reason why you and her friend hooked up and it's not really her business, anyway.

oldoly · 05-07-2010, 04:57 PM

You are a sad excuse for a man!

a_hero · 05-07-2010, 08:03 PM

update: i saw her out last night and i decided i really do think shes a great person and i dont care what she looks like. I shouldnt care what other people think about us if i enjoy her company.

We are catching a movie tonight for our first real date ever. Im going to treat her like a princess this time.

Craven Morehead · 05-08-2010, 05:29 AM

Great, let us know if you get lucky.

Plan9 · 05-08-2010, 05:58 AM

Hmm, I wonder... am I the only person that wants to know "how ugly" here?

I mean, the OP needs to compare her to something we can relate to so we understand.

How ugly is this girl? Is she total Barfy Von Wooftastic or is she just a little chunky?

Baraka_Guru · 05-08-2010, 06:12 AM

It's the Internet, where a whole lot of real-life sexy becomes "ugly."

Plan9 · 05-08-2010, 06:28 AM

Maybe in your world, brother. In my world... we all blow our nose and wipe our ass. To quote Richard Bachman, "But as Warner Brothers, John D. MacDonald, and Long Island Dragway know so well, there's a Mr. Hyde for every happy Jekyll face, a dark face on the other side of the mirror." And in this case... that face has zits big enough to crack a beer cap on. So... "for every beautiful woman, there is a many somewhere that is tired of her shit." And for every "ugly" girl out there... there's a man who can't get enough of her.

I like to see what other people see as ugly... because I've seen what passes for beautiful and it doesn't do a whole lot for me.

Baraka_Guru · 05-08-2010, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Plan9

Maybe in your world, brother.

Make no mistake: the Internet is not my world.

Plan9 · 05-08-2010, 06:33 AM

Dude, there's a whole lotta ugly on the Web.

a_hero · 05-14-2010, 10:38 PM

shes basically a chubby asian, i wish i could go into more details to get things a little clearer but its difficult to pick anything about her that would help. I think the easiest way to get you guys to understand is by going onto xnxx.com and then typing into the search box "chubby asian", it should come up with "two dicks for chubby asian jazmin" as one of the first results, have a look. Ive spent about 10mins looking for what represents her the best, and this chicks body is basically the same. The only difference is her face which is of equal value, and her skin, my asians got a lighter shade.

Shes just simply not sexy.

Cynthetiq · 05-14-2010, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by a_hero

Shes just simply not sexy.

but sexy enough to get your dick hard and want to stick it inside her.

it's not like your dick was limp, and you weren't aroused. You were aroused enough to stick it to her.

You just don't think that OTHER people think she's sexy.

Plan9 · 05-15-2010, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by a_hero

shes basically a chubby asian, i wish i could go into more details to get things a little clearer but its difficult to pick anything about her that would help. I think the easiest way to get you guys to understand is by going onto xnxx.com and then typing into the search box "chubby asian", it should come up with "two dicks for chubby asian jazmin" as one of the first results, have a look. Ive spent about 10mins looking for what represents her the best, and this chicks body is basically the same. The only difference is her face which is of equal value, and her skin, my asians got a lighter shade.

This is a prime example of how fucked up you are, bro.

Xerxys · 05-15-2010, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Plan9

This is a prime example of how fucked up you are, bro.

04-15-2010, 07:08 AM	#41 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	See? This is why I keep sex to a minimum. It's too damn complicated. __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

04-15-2010, 07:13 AM	#43 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	I said "sex," not "masturbation." Masturbation is ridiculously simple. Or at least it should be. __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

04-15-2010, 07:21 AM	#45 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Yeah, masturbation is totally not the same as sex, Bret Easton Ellis. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

04-15-2010, 07:34 AM	#46 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	Yeah, sex is for making babies. I know it's not the same as masturbation, but if sex were so simple, wouldn't we have it all the time? Like daily or whatever? EDIT: I'm not an expert. Most teenagers have had more sex than I have. __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

04-15-2010, 07:44 AM	#47 (permalink)
Lasereth Knight of the Old Republic Location: Winston-Salem, NC	WOW this guy got grilled excessively. Entertaining thread though. Glad the ordeal is over. Use the experience to prevent the same from happening in the future. __________________ "A Darwinian attacks his theory, seeking to find flaws. An ID believer defends his theory, seeking to conceal flaws." -Roger Ebert

04-15-2010, 10:14 AM	#50 (permalink)
Thrombatic Pyle Upright	Keep pounding her.

04-15-2010, 10:46 AM	#51 (permalink)
Jove Groovy Hipster Nerd Location: Michigan	Well, I am not going to criticize your actions because it doesn't matter, but just suggest next time a scenario like this happens to you again, tell the girl you just want sex and not interested in a current/future relationship and you don't find her at all attractive. If after hearing all this information and she still agrees to have sex with you, then you are good to go.

04-15-2010, 12:28 PM	#52 (permalink)
Wes Mantooth Junkie Location: Tennessee	Mistake number one when having a fuck buddy is not laying out the terms from the beginning, when you don't you...well the above thread lays it out pretty well. I've learned that painful lesson many many times when I was younger and I don't think it ever ended well. I guess we all do dumb things when we're young, all we can do is learn from it and try not to make the same mistake again. On a side note its rather amazing how quickly feelings develop once sex enters the picture...its like warp speed to relationship land if you're not careful. Human nature I suppose. "Hey your hot" "yeah so are you, wanna fuck?" **hot passionate sex**** Next morning "So whens a good time to introduce you to my family?" "sigh" __________________ “My god I must have missed it...its hell down here!”

04-16-2010, 01:28 PM	#54 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	So glad you cleared the air and made it a positive situation for everyone involved. Thanks for following-up with the update, too. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

04-18-2010, 02:35 PM	#57 (permalink)
Squishy10 Upright	Next stop on this train- Hell

04-19-2010, 11:36 PM	#58 (permalink)
Fire Warrior Smith Location: missouri	well, the OP is only 20, an age not inclined to reason or, really , anything but getting your nubbly bits rubbed, and yet showed a concern for his partner, and an ability to analyze the the situation and move forward in a fairly human fashion- not too bad, overall, and hopefully he can in fact learn from this early possible debacle..... __________________ Thought the harder, Heart the bolder, Mood the more as our might lessens

04-21-2010, 07:55 PM	#59 (permalink)
Toaster126 Extreme moderation Location: Kansas City, yo.	Generally, if you feel like you need to hide something from someone / lie / etc., you really need to be thinking if you should continue your course of action. Appreciate the update. __________________ "The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand) "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck)

04-22-2010, 12:15 PM	#60 (permalink)
PhD Upright	First, I will assume this post is a fake. most likely from someone seeking cheap kicks. Second, I'll play it out anyway. Who cares, they are 18/20... summer lovin', happened so fast...

04-23-2010, 12:02 AM	#61 (permalink)
a_hero Upright	PhD, Clearly a psychologist, you got me on this one, well kinda. It was a legitimate post right until the end, then my "update" was bullshit.. Thought it would be great to give all my critics a reason to get pissed. I decided to take the route of stonewalling her out of my life. Im not sure if i wrote it in an earlier post but the last time i saw her i had her phone and deleted my messages, my number and even made sure i went to recently dialed numbers and deleted my number from there as well. Its worked out great, no contact since and my sister might know but i doubt shes going to bring up me fucking her friend in a conversation anytime soon.

04-23-2010, 05:17 AM	#63 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	Wow, way to skirt responsibility. Do the world a favour: seek help before starting a relationship (of any kind) with another woman. You have serious self-esteem issues. __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

04-23-2010, 11:49 PM	#64 (permalink)
a_hero Upright	Yeh sure i could have come clean to the world and acknowledged my wrong doing, faced the problem head on. Yet i dont think the end result would have been as good as doing absolutely nothing. Im very pleased with the end result. I think i do have self esteem issues. I know im a better person then i give myself credit for and i think its making me a terrible person. Maybe if i get more girls to like me it will help.

05-04-2010, 08:13 AM	#67 (permalink)
gentlesoul43 Tilted	Whatever you think is cleared up now, it hasn't. It'll come back to haunt you again. Prepare yourself for this: She will talk. Then her friends will talk. If she's really butt ugly like you said, she's probably proud to have scored with you. And she'll talk once she's gotten over you. Eventually, your sis and your friends will find out. You had better have something nice to say then, and not break her heart twice by slagging her. It will be terrible to disrespect her again.

05-05-2010, 08:26 PM	#68 (permalink)
macmanmike6100 High Honorary Junkie Location: Tri-state.	agree with several posters: live with your choice of not wanting a relationship with this girl, tell her (you owe her honesty, and you should want to owe everyone honesty), and deal with it. in the end, it'll be OK anyway. so what if you sister finds out? there was a reason why you and her friend hooked up and it's not really her business, anyway.

05-07-2010, 04:57 PM	#69 (permalink)
oldoly Upright	You are a sad excuse for a man!

05-07-2010, 08:03 PM	#70 (permalink)
a_hero Upright	update: i saw her out last night and i decided i really do think shes a great person and i dont care what she looks like. I shouldnt care what other people think about us if i enjoy her company. We are catching a movie tonight for our first real date ever. Im going to treat her like a princess this time.

05-08-2010, 05:29 AM	#71 (permalink)
Craven Morehead Custom User Title	Great, let us know if you get lucky.

05-08-2010, 05:58 AM	#72 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Hmm, I wonder... am I the only person that wants to know "how ugly" here? I mean, the OP needs to compare her to something we can relate to so we understand. How ugly is this girl? Is she total Barfy Von Wooftastic or is she just a little chunky? __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

05-08-2010, 06:12 AM	#73 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	It's the Internet, where a whole lot of real-life sexy becomes "ugly." __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

05-08-2010, 06:28 AM	#74 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Maybe in your world, brother. In my world... we all blow our nose and wipe our ass. To quote Richard Bachman, "But as Warner Brothers, John D. MacDonald, and Long Island Dragway know so well, there's a Mr. Hyde for every happy Jekyll face, a dark face on the other side of the mirror." And in this case... that face has zits big enough to crack a beer cap on. So... "for every beautiful woman, there is a many somewhere that is tired of her shit." And for every "ugly" girl out there... there's a man who can't get enough of her. I like to see what other people see as ugly... because I've seen what passes for beautiful and it doesn't do a whole lot for me. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

05-08-2010, 06:33 AM	#76 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Dude, there's a whole lotta ugly on the Web. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

05-14-2010, 10:38 PM	#77 (permalink)
a_hero Upright	shes basically a chubby asian, i wish i could go into more details to get things a little clearer but its difficult to pick anything about her that would help. I think the easiest way to get you guys to understand is by going onto xnxx.com and then typing into the search box "chubby asian", it should come up with "two dicks for chubby asian jazmin" as one of the first results, have a look. Ive spent about 10mins looking for what represents her the best, and this chicks body is basically the same. The only difference is her face which is of equal value, and her skin, my asians got a lighter shade. Shes just simply not sexy.