Cervantes

I've been going nuts trying to google this word but I can't find anything about this subject.

I remember a couple of years ago, I saw a talkshow where a lesbian woman was interviewed because of her rather novel approach to sexuality.

Basically she focuses only on the pleasure of her partner, not wanting nor allowing her partner to reciprocate. Her whole focus was only on pleasuring, refusing to be pleasured.

What I'm looking for is the word for this specific "attitude". Two hours of googiling and all I can find is lists of paraphilias which I doubt this specific attitude falls under.

Would appreciate any help on this subject..

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Halx

"Datable"

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Ayashe

What comes to mind for me is Tantra or Sensate Focus.

Xerxys

Try wordweb, its free and you can also search for synonyms as well as paraphrases, quickly now, I want to know what that is!!!

applesauce

I believe the term you're looking for is stone butch.

LoganSnake

Ummm, giver?

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inBOIL

Altruism, self-denial, devotion. None of these fit exactly, but maybe they'll help.

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allfullup

Compersion?

Cervantes

This is probably the closest one suggested though it didn't fit the female in the talkshow other than looks, she looked butch but acted extremely submissive.

The problem is that I seem to remember that she used a term that wasn't gender/orientation specific.

So far I've found only one other potential candidate:
Mudita - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
But that one doesn't have a specific sexual context..

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- "Philosophy is questions that may never be answered. Religion is answers that may never be questioned.."
- "Religions take everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive and pro-create and makes it wrong."
- "There is only one absolute truth and that is that there is only one absolute truth."

digme

masochist?

jewels

A couple of related words : limerence or concupiscence (more like an antonym, depending whose slant you take)?

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Xerxys

Did you ever find it!!! Damn my OCD!!

Cervantes

Unfortunately not.. seems to be either a very private group or extremely rare, nothing really sticks out as the correct answer.. Perhaps they used a term they made up themselves that hasn't come into public use.

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- "Philosophy is questions that may never be answered. Religion is answers that may never be questioned.."
- "Religions take everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive and pro-create and makes it wrong."
- "There is only one absolute truth and that is that there is only one absolute truth."

Xerxys

Could you let me have the name of the talk show as well as the time/year you may have seen it??

Cervantes

It was an old episode of Rikki Lake some seven or eight years ago... can't remember fully (Don't know how the dates work out since there is some additional delay before the shows air here..), I remember that she got a second visit because of the amount of viewer responses to her story though.

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- "Philosophy is questions that may never be answered. Religion is answers that may never be questioned.."
- "Religions take everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive and pro-create and makes it wrong."
- "There is only one absolute truth and that is that there is only one absolute truth."

777

Maybe you can find a transcript of the episode. I remember I was writing a paper for a philosophy class and was able to quote an old 20/20 episode on addiction using the transcript from their site. It was a pain in the ass to find though.

Good luck

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