Cervantes

This is probably the closest one suggested though it didn't fit the female in the talkshow other than looks, she looked butch but acted extremely submissive.

The problem is that I seem to remember that she used a term that wasn't gender/orientation specific.

So far I've found only one other potential candidate:
Mudita - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
But that one doesn't have a specific sexual context..

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