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MrFriendly · 10-17-2007, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Datalife2

Its true what I said. If you involve yourself with a girl with a strong close family with both original parents, you wont have to worry that they grew up all screwed up and never learned how to keep a relationship sacred.

That's interesting, because I know quite a few woman who had a very healthy family life and were raised in stable homes who've cheated on their SO.

Cheating in my view essentially comes down to someone being entirely selfish.

People cheat on / with someone for a lot of different reasons.

I think to say that the only people who cheat or that people most likely to cheat are people from broken families is a pretty baseless comment.

But hey, if you can back that up with any psychological or sociological studies I'm more than willing to change my opinion.

hrandani · 10-18-2007, 04:05 PM

To the OP - you're a good man, and it sucks it isn't more rewarding; but that's life.

JinnKai - you're a cunt, the devil has got enough advocates as it is.

AllyM · 10-22-2007, 07:42 PM

Really it's all about what your comfortable with. If it bugs you don't do it, not to mention you'd probably be screwing away any funture realtionship with this girl. If she can have you anyway, and Mr. 'safe', why change things?

frozenstellar · 10-24-2007, 02:21 AM

interestingly enough, our paths (me & her partner) crossed again last weekend. Interestingly enough, he still threatens that he wants to kick the living crap out of me, just wont step up to the plate - big words, nothing else.

i'm of the opinion now that she wanted to be able to have her cake and eat it to - either way, a bad ending for all involved, and I'm glad i steered clear of this whole debacle.

Seer666 · 10-25-2007, 12:29 AM

Interesting topic. Well, let's see here.
I've been the one cheated on. The betrayal is the worst feeling in the world.
I've been the one cheated with. I can't say, in all honesty, it left me feeling bad about myself. In my defense, most of the times that has happened, I didn't find out until well after the fact. A few times I knew and didn't care, once I went after simply because I really didn't like the guy she was with and wanted to take something from him. That was when I was 16 though, so I don't really count it. On the times I have been cheated on, only once did I hold the guy in any blame, and that was because he was supposed to have been my friend. The others, well, they didn't know me, and they owe me no loyalty. She did, so the blame is solely on her. A cheater will cheat. So with who doesn't matter. Unless I know them. My view on it is not my relationship, not my problem. Unless they are dating a friend, and then they are off limits. Unless I've been given permission. Yes, that has happened.

I will say however, I applaud your stance. In this, you are a better man then I.

Mav · 10-25-2007, 03:51 AM

A couple of my earlier sexual experiences were with girls who had boyfriends. In the end, I was able to get away from it without any consequences except for guilt. My reasoning at the time was that it's the person in the relationships responsibility to stay true to their own relationships. If they were going to go after me, I wasn't going to get in their way. As other people have said, 'a relationship is between two people' and not three, so I figured it wasn't my responsibility.

Now I'm not so sure. I definitely think it's morally wrong, but I'm not sure if I would do it again. I think it's definitely a 'no go' if you have any connection to the boyfriend or if you are actually close to the girl. If anything happens, that relationship is going to change. You also have to consider how much of her wants you, and how much of her wants out of the relationship...if she was all about you, wouldn't she just end it?

10-25-2007, 12:29 AM	#45 (permalink)
Seer666 Oh dear God he breeded Location: Arizona	Interesting topic. Well, let's see here. I've been the one cheated on. The betrayal is the worst feeling in the world. I've been the one cheated with. I can't say, in all honesty, it left me feeling bad about myself. In my defense, most of the times that has happened, I didn't find out until well after the fact. A few times I knew and didn't care, once I went after simply because I really didn't like the guy she was with and wanted to take something from him. That was when I was 16 though, so I don't really count it. On the times I have been cheated on, only once did I hold the guy in any blame, and that was because he was supposed to have been my friend. The others, well, they didn't know me, and they owe me no loyalty. She did, so the blame is solely on her. A cheater will cheat. So with who doesn't matter. Unless I know them. My view on it is not my relationship, not my problem. Unless they are dating a friend, and then they are off limits. Unless I've been given permission. Yes, that has happened. I will say however, I applaud your stance. In this, you are a better man then I. __________________ Bad spellers of the world untie!!! I am the one you warned me of I seem to have misplaced the bullet with your name on it, but I have a whole box addressed to occupant. Last edited by Seer666; 10-25-2007 at 12:32 AM..

10-18-2007, 04:05 PM	#42 (permalink)
hrandani Insane	To the OP - you're a good man, and it sucks it isn't more rewarding; but that's life. JinnKai - you're a cunt, the devil has got enough advocates as it is.

10-22-2007, 07:42 PM	#43 (permalink)
AllyM Upright Location: NC	Really it's all about what your comfortable with. If it bugs you don't do it, not to mention you'd probably be screwing away any funture realtionship with this girl. If she can have you anyway, and Mr. 'safe', why change things?

10-24-2007, 02:21 AM	#44 (permalink)
frozenstellar Without Wings Location: Australia	interestingly enough, our paths (me & her partner) crossed again last weekend. Interestingly enough, he still threatens that he wants to kick the living crap out of me, just wont step up to the plate - big words, nothing else. i'm of the opinion now that she wanted to be able to have her cake and eat it to - either way, a bad ending for all involved, and I'm glad i steered clear of this whole debacle.

10-25-2007, 03:51 AM	#46 (permalink)
Mav Upright	A couple of my earlier sexual experiences were with girls who had boyfriends. In the end, I was able to get away from it without any consequences except for guilt. My reasoning at the time was that it's the person in the relationships responsibility to stay true to their own relationships. If they were going to go after me, I wasn't going to get in their way. As other people have said, 'a relationship is between two people' and not three, so I figured it wasn't my responsibility. Now I'm not so sure. I definitely think it's morally wrong, but I'm not sure if I would do it again. I think it's definitely a 'no go' if you have any connection to the boyfriend or if you are actually close to the girl. If anything happens, that relationship is going to change. You also have to consider how much of her wants you, and how much of her wants out of the relationship...if she was all about you, wouldn't she just end it?