ttoozz

Over the past few years I have become very good friends with this girl I work with. She is an extremely attractive girl and I have had many fantasies about her. But the nature of our friendship is such that we have never done anything physical. We are so close that we freely talk about aything and everything, from work gossip, to sexual experiences.

This morning she told me a story about her date last night that drove me completely insane. She went out with this guy last night and they end up going to a strip club together. It was her very first time at a club. So her date gets a private booth and picks a stripper to dance for both of them. The stripper starts by givng her a lap dance and starts to fondle her breasts and her private areas over her clothes then she starts kissing my friend between her legs. She did not let the stripper slide under her clothes. Then the stripper tells her date to come sit next to her and while she gave both of them a lap dance. My friend and her date start kissing ans the stripper starts rubbing both their privates with her hands and the two of them came at the same time while kissing. She told me that it was the most intense orgasm she had ever felt without having sex.

I was sitting there listening to her in complete shock and disbelief. But I could vividly picture everything she was telling me. I've pretty much been daydreaming about her all day. But I'm gonna go home tonight and take all my frustrations out on my girlfriend.

Just thought I shared this with everyone.

Seaver

You're in the friend zone, and will probably never get out. But that is a nice thing to picture when your gf is giving you a bj....

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ttoozz

I know. For as much as I desire this girl, I don't want to do anything to risk damaging the friendship or breaking the trust we have in how we confide in each other and share personal things.

rmarshall

Well, take YOUR girlfriend to the same stribclub and get the same stripper to do you and your girlfriend the same way. You did get all that info, right?

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pornclerk

Seaver is right. You are definitely in the friend zone. Any girl who shows interest in a guy would not tell him a story like that. Too bad for you though.
I would say leave things the way they are. She obviously enjoys your friendship, otherwise she wouldn't be telling you such personal things. You don't want to scare her off and ruin a friendship.

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SugahBritches

That was MY thoughts! Heh.


Yeah, I'm in agreement with pornclerk. Just keep enjoying your current relationship with her. It's really nice having a friend of the opposite sex.

ttoozz

My thoughts exactly.

I have way too much fun with her. And for as much as I would enjoy being intimate with her. I don't want to los what I have with her.

longbough

When a "friend" like this throws down a story like that ... you're now forced to top that adventure with one of your own then tell her all about it. For that matter you might as well talk to her casually about sex.

While that may not make her "desire "you - it'll at least force her to see you as a sexual being and not just an androgynous life form ... plus you'll probably get more juicy details about her sex-life. So, even if you decide to live as a schitzotypal hermit in a small basement apartment, you can have a wealth of masturbatory fantasies to sustain yourself ....

NoSoup

Or risk hurting your girlfriend....?


I'll second the notion that you bring your current S/O there and see if you can get a repeat

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Jim Kata

whoa whoa whoa! where is this strip club?? i gotta take my wife there!

By the way. Welcome to the Friend Zone.

ttoozz

She's a little too shy for a club. I have barely managed to get her to watch lesbian porn with me while I eat her out.

777

Cool date ideas, keep'em coming

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Deltona Couple

Am I the only one getting mildly turned on by that story?...I would LOVE to have a goodlooking coworker that tells me stories like this. An even better idea would be if you could get the co-worker to give you and your wife a private lapdance at your place...lmao.

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Higgis

Don't kid yourself ! You're going half crazy by not being able to have her and you would jump at the chance to get something going with her !

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Sage

Sorry to be the party pooper, but... shouldn't he be refraining from wanting to sleep with his co-worker if he's already got a girlfriend? The only reason I hear for him not jumping in the sack with his co-worker is the fact he doesn't want to damage his friendship with her. The girlfriend seems to be an afterthought.

That's your problem.

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fightnight

This is all I could think of too..... OP doesn't seem to give so much as a thought to her.

guthmund

Bingo!

3 some odd paragraphs, comprised of 16 sentences all about the hot friend and only one little blurb at the end about the girlfriend.

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Jinn

I really want to print this quote out and frame it. This wins the thread, honestly. Game over.

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ttoozz

The thread is a story about my hot friend. I don't think I'm the only one in this forum with a girlfriend who also happens to fantasize about other women.

Sage

There's a difference between saying "I love my girlfriend, she's great, but sometimes I have thoughts about sleeping with my co-worker" and saying "And for as much as I would enjoy being intimate with her (co-worker), I don't want to lose what I have with her (co-worker)."

That sounds like you're saying "I would bone her from here to Sunday, but I don't want to jeapoardize our friendship." And if you have a girlfriend, that's a pretty low reason to not bone your friend from work.

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ttoozz

The love that I have for my girlfriend goes without say. But for me having a friend of opposite sex that is so close to me that we share all our secrets is far more important than the pleasure of sleeping with her.

I am fully aware of the ramifications of cheting and being cheated on.

SugahBritches

HA!!!

I don't know. It just struck me as funny. *shrugs* I'm in education so....well, I don't really have time for this so it was funny. Sorry for the flow of energy.

imkeen

My god that's hot...

Oh, yeah, friend, girlfriend...

No idea...that's hot...

guthmund

No, you're not.

Of 132 some odd posts over the last three years here, you've got three posts outside the "Erogenous Zone" not including this particular thread. Of those three, the only one I found that mentioned a girlfriend concerned a list of places you guys have had sex. I know you like porn (and hey, who doesn't) and that you and girlfriend have fucked in some fairly interesting places. Just because you call her your girlfriend, I'm not going to assume that love is involved because experience has taught me that the two notions aren't mutually exclusive. So while it might go without saying to you, to us here on the boards a couple, "but I love my girlfriend very much"(s) might be a good idea to help us in forming our opinions.

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ttoozz

I am honored and flattered that you spent the tme to researched my post history, I don't see why I am being put on the stand here and crucified.

Yes, I initially joined this forum because someone posted a link to this forum on austin.axg.net. One of my close friends joined this forum a while ago and he is somewhat of a regular poster here and he's been telling me about his interactions with people and it sparked my interest and now I am posting in this forum as well. I am not a troll nor have I ever done or said anything to get in trouble with any other member or the site officials. And I don't think I have done anything to warrant me being unwelcme in this forum.

Last time I checked this forum it's name was still "tilted sexuality" and not "catholic school morals".

Impetuous1

"Catholic school morals" huh.

Well, all I have to say is that the initial post actually pissed me off quite a bit because I've been the girlfriend whose boyfriend was "just friends" with another girl. At least that's how it started out.

So, since this all seems okay in your book, you would be okay with your girlfriend reading this thread right? Or would you try to force more lesbian porn down her throat?

ttoozz

I am sorry about your bad experience.

And I have nothing to hide from anyone. My girlfriend and this girl have already met. She has been to our house and the 3 of us have been out on numerous occasions.

So please don't just "assume" everyone who tells a story about a third person of opposite sex is low life scum...

Deltona Couple

Where did THAT come from? I dn't remember mentioning porn in the thread? lmao...Or did I miss something AGAIN...(closing lesbian porn website) Maybe I should pay more attention here..

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shakran

We generally don't. But when your reason for not sleeping with this coworker is that you're worried about your friendship with the coworker, when the reason SHOULD be that you're not sleeping with your coworker because you don't want to devastate your girlfriend, well that's when our attitudes change.

guthmund

Relax a bit, would you? I think there's some misunderstanding going on here. Let's see if we can't clear that up, yes?

First, no troll implied. It was an honest question.

Second, I like to dig a little into the post history when replying to things like this, especially in 'Tilted Sexuality.' It helps me to relate, which is helpful when putting things together to say. To help fill out the backstory a bit, if you prefer. Sage sparked my interest and I dug a little. I found something I thought was interesting. I made a comment and asked a few questions.

Last, but certainly not least, you've been around long enough to know that if you feel unwelcome here, it ain't any of us. One thing for certain (I imagine that's due quite a bit to the caliber of people who play here) the TFP is a damn friendly place. If you feel uncomfortable, maybe your shoes are too tight, eh?

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ttoozz

Just because I didn't confess the reasons why I love my girlfriend and why I don't want to do anything to hurt her doesn't mean that I'm going to cheat on her and break her heart.

We all know that the nature of relationship between a man and woman changes drastically the moment they share an intimate moment. There is an invisible barrier that breaks as a result of two people exchanging boldily fluids. There is a force that causes us to hold back and not express certain silly and negative thoughts and emotions that we have towards the other person. People who are sex partners tend to have uglier fights than people who are just friends and they tend to say far more hurtful things to each other as a result of the intimacy they shared. Maybe that barrier is broken due to the fact that each person feels a certain possession and ownership towards the other person.

For as much as I love my best friend. I don't see her as my partner, nor as someone I would like to spend the rest of my life with. But I don't want to lose the friendship I have with her.

As for my girlfriend, I love her to death. I am very happy where I am. And I will put myself between her and a speedy bullet without a moment's hesitation.

I can see how my initial post may have been misunderstood by some.

Thank you for clarifying. I really appreciate it.

Like I said, I have never been in trouble with anyone in any of the forums that I frequent. I do have a thick skin, but I just couldn't help but to get on the defensive with all the judgement passed on me.

Thanks again.

balinksi

Friends go with Friends to strip clubs. Ask her if she would like to visit a strip club with you. It could mesmerize her into giving you a good time :wink:

Kaliena

Now that the girlfriend bit is cleared up...

Man, what a hot story. Where's that strip club at? I've never been to one but damn, a first time experience like that would seal the deal for me!

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TexanAvenger

My thoughts exactly on seeing it. Maybe I can get it tattooed across my chest...

Cynthetiq

Actually that's only true for SOME people, otherwise, there would be no porn stars, swingers, polyamory, friends with benefits, fuck buddies and cheaters....

There are plenty of people in this world who can just walk away from someone who is a sex partner...

the above is a belief YOU hold for your own morality, I share some of it, as do a number of people, but again, there are some who don't.

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