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Originally Posted by shakran
We generally don't. But when your reason for not sleeping with this coworker is that you're worried about your friendship with the coworker, when the reason SHOULD be that you're not sleeping with your coworker because you don't want to devastate your girlfriend, well that's when our attitudes change.
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Just because I didn't confess the reasons why I love my girlfriend and why I don't want to do anything to hurt her doesn't mean that I'm going to cheat on her and break her heart.
We all know that the nature of relationship between a man and woman changes drastically the moment they share an intimate moment. There is an invisible barrier that breaks as a result of two people exchanging boldily fluids. There is a force that causes us to hold back and not express certain silly and negative thoughts and emotions that we have towards the other person. People who are sex partners tend to have uglier fights than people who are just friends and they tend to say far more hurtful things to each other as a result of the intimacy they shared. Maybe that barrier is broken due to the fact that each person feels a certain possession and ownership towards the other person.
For as much as I love my best friend. I don't see her as my partner, nor as someone I would like to spend the rest of my life with. But I don't want to lose the friendship I have with her.
As for my girlfriend, I love her to death.
I am very happy where I am. And I will put myself between her and a speedy bullet without a moment's hesitation.
I can see how my initial post may have been misunderstood by some.
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Originally Posted by guthmund
Relax a bit, would you? I think there's some misunderstanding going on here. Let's see if we can't clear that up, yes?
First, no troll implied. It was an honest question.
Second, I like to dig a little into the post history when replying to things like this, especially in 'Tilted Sexuality.' It helps me to relate, which is helpful when putting things together to say. To help fill out the backstory a bit, if you prefer. Sage sparked my interest and I dug a little. I found something I thought was interesting. I made a comment and asked a few questions.
Last, but certainly not least, you've been around long enough to know that if you feel unwelcome here, it ain't any of us. One thing for certain (I imagine that's due quite a bit to the caliber of people who play here) the TFP is a damn friendly place. If you feel uncomfortable, maybe your shoes are too tight, eh?  |
Thank you for clarifying.
I really appreciate it.
Like I said, I have never been in trouble with anyone in any of the forums that I frequent. I do have a thick skin, but I just couldn't help but to get on the defensive with all the judgement passed on me.
Thanks again.