Paq

So, my gf is on nuvaring and it's great, EXCEPT her sex drive has steadily been declining since being on it (probably about 13 months now) and it never fails. The very DAY she is off it to start her period, she is super ultra horny. Not that i mind, just that it's almost like clockwork. When we can do whatever freely, she isn't in the mood, but the second she's off it, BAM, wants it 24/7.

Anyway, said that to say this. Sunday was her day off the ring and she was just itching to go about it, but we had to take some pictures and do some thigns first. We're in the park and things are going well and she starts getting a bit more playful than normal. Then, out of the blue, she's flashing me and showing bits and parts for the camera and just being a bit more naughty. This is definitely NOT her normal behavior, by any means. She is normally much more conservative when it comes to things in public. She was also up for more fun stuff later on, but that's another matter.

Anyway, that leads to this. Does anyone notice a difference in what you enjoy based upon your level of horniness. Like, there are some things we both really enjoy only when we're really turned on and afterwards, the thought of it is...well, not bad, but not great, either. One of those things where you turn to each other and just say.."wtf was that?" Or, say things you'd never do post-orgasm just seem to be an absolute blast in the minutes before?

Just curious bc i've always had these urges and lusts that pass the instant the O is over, but i've never known someone else who exhibitted markedly different behaviours based on sexual arousal. It just seems so fascinating.

Thanks for reading, look forward to your responses

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JustJess

Actually, yeah - the levels of interest DEFINTELY affect what I'm interested in trying, or saying, or doing again. I'd think that's true of most people. The more caught up in the moment you are, the more you don't care about what's "proper", in fact, the more you want things to be IMproper, so to speak. Yeah. It's awesome.

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Martel

This is a bit off-topic, but IMO you should get your girlfriend to investigate other methods of birth control... There's fifty million of them out there and you two shouldn't settle for something that makes her not want to have sex when the whole point of birth control is that you can have sex a lot.

Sage (my wife) did the nuvaring for a while and it killed her sex drive too. She got off of that and we are really really glad of it.

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Lady Sage

This Sage (not Martels wife) is on the Nuvaring... I never had a sex drive to start with, but since I have been on it I have enjoyed sex MUCH more!
Funny how different things work on different people eh.

Sugar&Spice

I know exactly what you are talking about. Sometimes I can be really horny and want the kinkiest sex I can think of. I'll want him to cum on my face and then immediately afterwards want it off of my face that second! Or I'll want my ass slapped and my hair pulled. Other times I just want slow love making. So yeah, it definitely depends on my level of horniness.

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doncalypso

My girlfriend is also on the NuvaRing and her sex drive has decline drastically from when she was on the Patch. To make matters worse, she's also taking synthetic thyroid hormones because she suffers from hypothyroidism so the two medicines interact in such a way that her sex drive is virtually destroyed.

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abaya

Yes, horniness = increased willingness to get wild. Then again, I'm pretty open to getting wild for any reason in particular, even if I'm just bored and not particularly horny. I just love sex, anytime.

I'm on the NuvaRing and have not had any change in my sex drive... other than maybe INCREASE!! If your ladies are experiencing a decrease, then they had better get on a different kind of BC, and fast!

Don... sidenote, but I recall you saying about a year ago that you were planning to be celibate for four years in grad school or something? What gives?

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doncalypso

When I planned on being celibate throughout my graduate school career I made those predictions under some very false assumptions based on my limited dating experience with American women.

First off, I didn't think I would ever meet someone who would take an interest in me because I figured I'd be too busy doing research to meet anyone.

Second, I thought that if I met someone who did turn out interested in me she wouldn't stick around because she would feel I spent too much time doing my research and not enough time with her. The sad truth is that my last girlfriend was excessively needy and always picked fights on me over the fact that I spent more time in lab and studying at the library than I did with her---I was a bio major and she was an accounting major---and that the little free time I did have was devoted to extracurricular activities such as the various student organizations in which I was involved before meeting her.

Third, I figured no woman would want to get with me because they'd be scared off by how horny I am. I had been told by various female friends that I give off this very "hungry" vibe towards females and that it's a major turnoff. I therefore figured I would get no opportunities to date or get laid since women would run for the hills as soon as they sensed my horniness from miles away.

Fourth, I had never thought an older woman would ever go for a guy like me because back in my country women don't give a man the time of day unless he's at least 2 years older. A man being with someone 13 years older is unheard of, so it never crossed my mind that I would ever be the Ashton Kutcher to an older woman's Demi Moore.

So yeah, things turned out very differently than I expected but I'm glad because I'm happy with my girlfriend now and she treats me better than any woman ever has before. The only downside is that she has a very low libido to begin with, and the NuvaRing only served to lower it. But then again, being guy that I am I seriously doubt there's any woman on this planet who could match my desire for sex and who could satisfy my apetites in terms of quantity---I want sex for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and for snacks in between whereas my girlfriend would be satisfied with sex just once a week.

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