Bob Biter

For some reason, when I'm at work and feel to stressed out to actually do something productive, I head for the coffee machine and make myself a nice cup of generic coffee (2 creams/2 sugars), which I then proceed to NOT drink. I just bring it to my desk and let it sit there. I'll occasionally pick it up, maybe even smell it, but then I'll just put it back down. I throw it away when it gets too cold. I even do this in the summertime.

If there's tea, then my ritual goes on even longer, what with the fusion process involved, which I calculate methodically.

I don't know why I do this, but it calms me. It all started when I was a college freshman... I'd bring coffees to class, exams, the library... It baffles me and yet I can't stop doing it.

Anyone else have these weird little habits/rituals to calm down or otherwise occupy time?

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Frosstbyte

Haven't ever been able to figure out why, but flame meditation's always worked pretty well for me. I'll try to explain it, but no promises on how coherently it'll come out.

Basically you start by sitting down and closing your eyes. You picture an unlit match on a dark background. You "light" the match in your mind and let it start. You gradually increase the size and number of the flames from one match to a candle to many candles to a small fire all the way up to a raging bonfire.

The idea is to focus your negative thoughts and feelings into the fire to maintain it and that they are burned up as you focus on them like this. Once you've run out of "fuel," i.e. negative thoughts, you gradually let the fire die down, leaving you calm and cleansed. Yup, that's what I've got.

phoenix1002

Lets see....
Breath in all the way, count to 10 slowly, then let the air out slooowly. Repeat until calmed.
This one I think is funny.
Alternate nostril breathing: Using your fingers, close one nostril, inhale. Open the closed nostril, and close the other one. Exhale. Repeat.

Both are things i've picked up from musicians as ways of calming yourself before performances.

Other than that, I climb things. If I'm really stressed or something, I go find a brick wall or tree or something and climb it. While I'm climbing, I forget about everything else except for what I'm doing, and when I reach the top I feel like I've acheived something. Oddly enough, this usually calms me down.

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Dragonlich

Hmm...
1) Exercise. Also good against my RSI problems.
2) Pet the cat.
3) Close eyes, shut down brain, calm down.

All work.

redrum

i bounce My leg

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Janie

i religiously drink tea
running is also a great way to work off stress

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Johnny Rotten

Hmm, I go for goat sacrifice!

Oh, wrong ritual.

Fortunately, I'm one of those laid-back types. I listen to a lot of music and play some computer games, though.

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fracturedmind

Same with redrum, I bounce like crazy ><

/twitch

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World's King

Touch myself.

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snowy

i have a hard time dealing with stress, and i have no particular "ritual", say, to dealing with it. i do meditate a bit and do something called biofeedback (the idea is to master your body's responses to stressors so that you have control and not your body's involuntary reaction). i've also managed to learn to direct my chi, which is very helpful in releasing tension and dealing with various aches and pains. long showers are also great relief as are back rubs from willing givers

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Ciall

I think about sex,
I think about it a lot anyway, but when I need to remind myself that whatever I'm doing doesn't matter, I think about sex.
Or else I take drugs - whatever.

sapiens

I try to focus solely on what I am doing at a given moment. So if I am washing dishes, I pay as much attention to the movement of my hands, the feeling of the hot water, etc. If I am walking, I focus on each step, on the feeling of the ground against my feet, etc. It usually clears my mind of whatever I am obsessing about.

By the way, nice topic for a thread, thanks.

sixate

Go to the gym or go on a 20 mile bike ride.

paddyjoe

I'll go into the darkroom and make some photos. Three hours seem like three minutes and all my stress has melted away.

Spanky Johnson

My brother taught me this: Inhale deeply, hold your breath until it becomes uncomfortable, then exhale as slowly as possible. I don't know why, but it works.

oane

Masturbation. Seriously.

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NoCure

Listening to music really loud and screaming, that helps me

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oane

That sounds like Vipassana.[www.dhamma.org]

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yournamehere

Well, I used to smoke a cigarette - that always calmed me down (one of the reasons they're so hard to give up).
Since I quit, I'm still looking for a substitute ritual.

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In the lifestyle I lead, ritual and calmness are imperatives.. for being (SSC)

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gjbourke

Go to the gym and Squat heavy. That'll distract you sufficiently.
Sounds like you're a tad obsessive compulsive.
Take up a hobby that requires discipline and use that discipline to control chaotic areas of your life.

Try yoga. Seriously. Like teh breathing tricks mentioned above by phoenix, yoga extends that physical discipline to the whole body.

spectre

I can keep myself calm most of the time. If I ever get so stressed out that it starts having a negative impact, I usually turn up some really heavy music and start working out, or practice playing the guitar.

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