Coll Storm

Tuesday a situation came up between myself and my boss, who happens to be a really good friend.

Well, lately I'm questioning our friendship. She did something to me on Monday that I'll never, ever forget. Usually friends are who we expect to be there when we're feeling down or just bad about ourselves.

Well, Monday was my doctors appointment to see about my hair tragedy. I went into work, when I could have taken the rest of the day off, but didn't because we had a meeting right afterwards.

Everything is fine at the meeting until the very end. She breaks out a picture that she took of me and just started making fun of me. I'm talking about seriously ripping me apart. She then mentioned to my co-workers a bill that I owe on and the price of the bill. After she did that, I got up, got my belonging and walked out without saying a word to anyone.

The next day my assistant in my classroom said that she mentioned to our boss that "what she did was inappropriate and rude" and that "he didn't even have to come into work, but he did, because he loves his job".

My boss and so called friend is then missing for the past three days. On two of these days there was no school on both days and we were swamped with 60 kids. She called in saying that she had a meeting. I found out the next day that this meeting took place at a diner with a former co-worker. She then went home early yesterday to attend a hockey game ( B.C. vs Maine: Her college team of B.C. lost and I was grinning about that today ).

Today was another day of no school and I was there at 6:30am this morning and worked until 3:30. She didn't show up until 3pm.

We're also suppose to have a big event tomorrow that requires major set up, but she hasn't been there for the past couple of days to do anything. Myself and the rest of my coworkers are giving up our Saturday morning to go into work to be with the kids and their families for an Easter bash. She is now working all alone trying to put things together for the bash. Normally I would be there with her helping out. She hinted many times today that she would like my help, but I told her that I was busy tonight. ( Final Fantasy will keep my busy enough to stay away. ) I'm normally the type of person that doesn't hold a grudge, but something is not letting me forget about what she did on Monday.

I then found out tonight that our yearly reviews went through and that I got a stellar review, but that none of us are getting raises like in the past years. What is the incentive of a review, when we're not getting something to work towards?

Myself and my co-workers do everything for these kids, their families, and our work. We're getting nothing in return. I've basically told my assistant that I'm just going through the motions now, but will not be there to help out after this, because this nice guy is done finishing last.

Does this happen to anyone else or is it just me? I'm really sick of it at this point and just need to hear someone tell me that they might feel the same way.

Kaos

While mine is no where near as bad as yours, I have just begun to feel very under-appreciated in my job.

I bust my ass, everyday. I'm never late, whereas the boss is always strolling in 30 minutes to an hour an a half late every day. When I'm not going to be in the next day (Weds I have off) I make sure the cash float is done and ready for him. I don't get the same consideration so I scramble some mornings to get the cash while I have customers coming into the store in the morning.

When I say I bust my ass, I mean I don't stop working. From opening to close, I am on the floor helping customers, carrying purchases to people's cars, running the cash register, dealing with incoming merchandise, answering phone calls and managing volunteer employees. I don't get 15 minute breaks, hell I never get 30 minutes for lunch. I wait until it slows down in the store and I furiously chomp down a couple bites of an apple or a sandwich when I get a chance or get out for a cigarette a couple times which I never get to finish.

Now, normally I had no problem with this. Keep the pace up and the day goes by pretty fast. But now that my efforts have apparently gone unnoticed, it's starting to get to me and I started to realize it last Saturday.

On Friday, I smashed my knee pretty bad after work. Saturday I go limping in. I may have called in, but it's a busy day and I didn't want to screw over my boss when he had a bunch of stuff to do (Large shipment of merchandise that had to be inventoried) Well, I made a few mistakes. Nothing major just things not done to his perfection. Near the end of the day, a customer was mad because the thought he had claim to one of our items. He was totally in the wrong but I decided to let it go and not argue with him or the boss in front of everyone. Later, I'm not allowed to explain the situation, the boss didn't even want to hear it. I shouldn't have even gone it with my knee all swelled up, but I did...to help him.

So all this week, the boss is in a shitty mood. And what's even more pathetic, he's acting like a 12 year old giving me "The Silent Treatment." And he's carefully analyzing every thing I'm doing under a microscope. It's like everything I have done for the last year means nothing.

Sorry if that was long. I've been holding that in for awhile.

/end rant

So now I'm going to look for another job. So you are definitely not alone in this Coll Storm.

Coll Storm

Sounds like you need to get out of there. My situation is that I'm a Kindergarten teacher and afterwards I work in an after-school program. I can honestly say that, I love my job, but not the company that I work for. ( Non-profit )

I'm not at the point of leaving my job, but I'm at the point where I'm going to force them to take notice, because I'm going to take a step back in what and when I do it for them.

I've had numerous times where I would stay two hours late to help out my boss, because we were friends. I just don't think I'll ever do that again.

Kaos

Sounds like we are in the same boat. The place I work for is also non-profit. I loved my job also, liked the customers who came in and the people I got to work with. I had no problem staying longer if customers were still in the store, or if something needed to be done. But no more. For awhile, me and the boss were like friends. Not ones that would hang out or go to the bar for a drink after but work friends.

Coll Storm

We were friends, before she became my boss. I knew that it would eventually go down hill, because it usually does. What she did was wrong and uncalled for and she's lost me as her best worker, and more importantly a close friend.

NotMinus

I guess these stories make me relize who good my job is. I have been getting usasked for raises everymonth now along with a bonus of $150 monthly (and this is the slow season) I think that you just need to deal with the situation direcly instead of coying around it, just talk to your boss and explain what she did was un-acceptable and that you can't tolerate that kind of behavoir. It will probaly be awkard for a few days until the air clears between you to but if you directly discuss the problems you are having you can make an informed decision immediatly about wheather you want to stay with the company you are at or leave.

hunnychile

oh, yeah, for the last 25 years.

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Coll Storm

We've gone through stupid shit like thie before and to bring it up again would be pointless, and would be like beaten a broken drum.

I also did something that, to be honest I'm not happy personally about, but I had to do it.

I was suppose to volunteer my time on Saturday for a family event. This is the third weekend in a row that I would have taken a time out of my life to volunteer for them, and after my boss has been a no show for the past three days, well I have run the ship.

So, I did my best impression and knew that some of my co-workers were getting sick with a 24 hour stomach virus. So, I called in sick and told her ( my boss ) that I've been up all night vomitting.

I've pretty much decided that getting out of there is my only option, but finding a job in this state ( M.A. ) right now is not that much of an option.

SpikeQX99

Underappreciated? Yep. I know all about it.

Where I work we're all pretty much on the same level, but the boss has his one "go to" guy that can do no wrong. He's golden.

And I'm just there to play 2nd fiddle I guess.

I know I'm much smarter than the two of them, and I have really great ideas for making the job easier, but when I bring it up to the boss, he's like "huh?.. oh yeah, but I don't think that'll work"

Then when "goldie" brings up the idea like an hour later, all of a sudden it's the greatest idea ever presented to man.

Fuck that's annoying. I've been told I'm too smart for my job anyway, but this is really re-affirming it.

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Jam

yep i have... thats why i quit my job last tuesday

H12

Never in a job-situation, but I have often-times felt that way when it came to sports. The best thing to do is either stick it through and try to get noticed for what you do best, or get out while you still can.

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sailor

Sure, who hasnt?

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final_identity

I used to think, that if you were really really nice to the girl, and sweet and kind and did everything that women said they wanted their men to do, give them chocolates and flowers and commit to them before sex, that eventually you'd get to date love (and maybe even marry!) the girl. Now I know that, meanwhile, she was fucking biker-dudes to get her jollies, and all those stories about "be sweet and kind" were meant as much to put me in my place, as to fool herself into feeling less guilty about fucking the biker-dudes because she really wanted to believe she was a "better" person than that.

I used to think that getting up early, working hard all day, and fulfilling all the explicit details of my job description would mean that some day I would be promoted, get to do the things I really wanted to do, have enough money and vacation, and maybe even run the company. Now I know that all those stories about how I was supposed to act were made-up, and that meanwhile the bosses were living off of my excess effort and taking advantage of it to reduce their own, and that they said those stories as much to keep me in my place as to assuage their own guilt at having abused the system because they wanted to fool themselves that they were "better" than their actions.

Sound familiar?

Nowadays, I try to manage PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS rather than to follow the rules of what I'm "supposed" to do. People at work call me arrogant, decisive, direct, unemotional, selfish. And they also hire me and promote me a lot more often than they used to. People I want to date say I'm too aggressive, I don't treat a lady the way a lady "deserves" to be treated. And then they suck my cock and, if I want to, let me cum on their faces.

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samiam

If you learn to appreciate yourself, a lot of this crap will seem unimportant. From your note, you seem to be a valued employee and an asset to the agency. Keep this in mind and don't worry about others not appreciating you. In the present job climate this just doesn't happen. As far as the meeting goes, this sounds very much like harassment, which no-one has to tolerate. You should discuss this with some people you trust and if they agree, speak clearly and directly to your boss. No-one has to tolerate being harassed at work or elsewhere.

final_identity

Sometimes appreciating yourself isn't enough. Me, for example, I know I'm very bright, capable of doing my job, probably an excellent asset for the company. But I'm making below entry-level pay, which is a great discrepancy from my "actual" worth assessed in any of a number of ways -- experience, productivity, contribution, dedication, wuddever. To get more money, I can't simply be self-appreciative. I have to figure out some kind of social skills that will make OTHERS appreciate me. Preferably, others who make salary decisions.

Same with chicks. It's always frustrated me, but the old cliche, "Don't care what other people think" won't get you laid. You HAVE TO care what the other person thinks, in some manner, if you want her to fuck you.

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