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Coll Storm · 04-09-2004, 03:45 PM

Tuesday a situation came up between myself and my boss, who happens to be a really good friend.

Well, lately I'm questioning our friendship. She did something to me on Monday that I'll never, ever forget. Usually friends are who we expect to be there when we're feeling down or just bad about ourselves.

Well, Monday was my doctors appointment to see about my hair tragedy. I went into work, when I could have taken the rest of the day off, but didn't because we had a meeting right afterwards.

Everything is fine at the meeting until the very end. She breaks out a picture that she took of me and just started making fun of me. I'm talking about seriously ripping me apart. She then mentioned to my co-workers a bill that I owe on and the price of the bill. After she did that, I got up, got my belonging and walked out without saying a word to anyone.

The next day my assistant in my classroom said that she mentioned to our boss that "what she did was inappropriate and rude" and that "he didn't even have to come into work, but he did, because he loves his job".

My boss and so called friend is then missing for the past three days. On two of these days there was no school on both days and we were swamped with 60 kids. She called in saying that she had a meeting. I found out the next day that this meeting took place at a diner with a former co-worker. She then went home early yesterday to attend a hockey game ( B.C. vs Maine: Her college team of B.C. lost and I was grinning about that today ).

Today was another day of no school and I was there at 6:30am this morning and worked until 3:30. She didn't show up until 3pm.

We're also suppose to have a big event tomorrow that requires major set up, but she hasn't been there for the past couple of days to do anything. Myself and the rest of my coworkers are giving up our Saturday morning to go into work to be with the kids and their families for an Easter bash. She is now working all alone trying to put things together for the bash. Normally I would be there with her helping out. She hinted many times today that she would like my help, but I told her that I was busy tonight. ( Final Fantasy will keep my busy enough to stay away. ) I'm normally the type of person that doesn't hold a grudge, but something is not letting me forget about what she did on Monday.

I then found out tonight that our yearly reviews went through and that I got a stellar review, but that none of us are getting raises like in the past years. What is the incentive of a review, when we're not getting something to work towards?

Myself and my co-workers do everything for these kids, their families, and our work. We're getting nothing in return. I've basically told my assistant that I'm just going through the motions now, but will not be there to help out after this, because this nice guy is done finishing last.

Does this happen to anyone else or is it just me? I'm really sick of it at this point and just need to hear someone tell me that they might feel the same way.

04-09-2004, 03:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
Coll Storm Crazy Location: Boston	Have you ever felt under-appreciated? Tuesday a situation came up between myself and my boss, who happens to be a really good friend. Well, lately I'm questioning our friendship. She did something to me on Monday that I'll never, ever forget. Usually friends are who we expect to be there when we're feeling down or just bad about ourselves. Well, Monday was my doctors appointment to see about my hair tragedy. I went into work, when I could have taken the rest of the day off, but didn't because we had a meeting right afterwards. Everything is fine at the meeting until the very end. She breaks out a picture that she took of me and just started making fun of me. I'm talking about seriously ripping me apart. She then mentioned to my co-workers a bill that I owe on and the price of the bill. After she did that, I got up, got my belonging and walked out without saying a word to anyone. The next day my assistant in my classroom said that she mentioned to our boss that "what she did was inappropriate and rude" and that "he didn't even have to come into work, but he did, because he loves his job". My boss and so called friend is then missing for the past three days. On two of these days there was no school on both days and we were swamped with 60 kids. She called in saying that she had a meeting. I found out the next day that this meeting took place at a diner with a former co-worker. She then went home early yesterday to attend a hockey game ( B.C. vs Maine: Her college team of B.C. lost and I was grinning about that today ). Today was another day of no school and I was there at 6:30am this morning and worked until 3:30. She didn't show up until 3pm. We're also suppose to have a big event tomorrow that requires major set up, but she hasn't been there for the past couple of days to do anything. Myself and the rest of my coworkers are giving up our Saturday morning to go into work to be with the kids and their families for an Easter bash. She is now working all alone trying to put things together for the bash. Normally I would be there with her helping out. She hinted many times today that she would like my help, but I told her that I was busy tonight. ( Final Fantasy will keep my busy enough to stay away. ) I'm normally the type of person that doesn't hold a grudge, but something is not letting me forget about what she did on Monday. I then found out tonight that our yearly reviews went through and that I got a stellar review, but that none of us are getting raises like in the past years. What is the incentive of a review, when we're not getting something to work towards? Myself and my co-workers do everything for these kids, their families, and our work. We're getting nothing in return. I've basically told my assistant that I'm just going through the motions now, but will not be there to help out after this, because this nice guy is done finishing last. Does this happen to anyone else or is it just me? I'm really sick of it at this point and just need to hear someone tell me that they might feel the same way.