Does your partner *KICK* in bed? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

ratbastid · 10-09-2003, 12:21 PM

In lurkette and my household, one of us (I shan't name names) has the dreaded Jimmy Legs. This person's legs sort of... twitch... or, maybe "shift" is a better word.... His-or-her knees bend and his-or-her ankles flex, s/he holds that for a couple seconds, and then relaxes. Sometimes this is a big motion, and sometimes you hardly notice it.

Here's the "kicker". This happens every eight to ten seconds, all night long.

The other night it got so out-of-hand that this person's spouse kicked him-or-her out of bed. The spouse felt bad about it, but there it was.

Who else has a partner with the nocturnal "happy feet"? What do you do about it?

BonesCPA · 10-09-2003, 12:33 PM

I "know" somebody who doesn't have the leg issue, that person has a spouse that has a whole body issue. I've "heard" that this spouse has a tendency to turn so much in bed that it reminds him of a chicken on a rotisserie. At one point this actually led the stationary spouse to have a dream where he ended up "allegedly" throwing a couple of solid rights to the head of his spouse. That weekend the couple bought a king sized bed. All has been well in "that" household since then.

My advice, get a larger bed, or start slipping the spouse who is chasing rabbits in her or his dreams a nice little valium before bed.

quadro2000 · 10-09-2003, 12:37 PM

Maybe it's time to tie Lurkette's feet together or maybe tape them to the bed?

I mean, maybe it's time to tie his-or-her feet together and maybe tape them to the bed?

Good advice from Bones. What size is your bed? I used to bug Quadrette a lot (I'm a spooner) in our full-size bed. We just got a queen and it happens a lot less often. (although I'm sure I will eventually go back to old habits.)

The other idea I have is that maybe you can buy one of those full-length "body pillows" that will essentially create a soft barrier between the two of you.

My last idea involves tar and feathers, but maybe we should talk privately about it.

ratbastid · 10-09-2003, 12:45 PM

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Originally posted by quadro2000
Maybe it's time to tie Lurkette's feet together or maybe tape them to the bed?

I mean, maybe it's time to tie his-or-her feet together and maybe tape them to the bed?

Was I that transparent?

Redlemon · 10-09-2003, 12:50 PM

There is a medical condition known as "restless leg syndrome"; just googled, there a foundation for it. Have lurkette (or whoever else you are sleeping with

) check out the board and see if it applies to her. There's medication available.

BonesCPA · 10-09-2003, 01:01 PM

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Originally posted by ratbastid
Was I that transparent?

I know I had no idea until Quad explained it.

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Originally posted by quadro2000
Good advice from Bones. What size is your bed? I used to bug Quadrette a lot (I'm a spooner) in our full-size bed. We just got a queen and it happens a lot less often. (although I'm sure I will eventually go back to old habits.)

(I always like hearing praise!) We (or rather "friends") got the king and still spoon occasionally, but it always ends up having us separate for the night. On vacations if the hotel doesn't have at least a queen sized bed, by the second night someone ends up moving to an extra bed.

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Originally posted by quadro2000
Maybe it's time to tie Lurkette's feet together or maybe tape them to the bed?

I mean, maybe it's time to tie his-or-her feet together and maybe tape them to the bed?

I thought that is going on already. They are talking about when they sleep.

ratbastid · 10-09-2003, 04:31 PM

Yeah, we're in a full-size bed. We've talked about upgrading, but we sort of don't wanna.

This didn't really get to be much of an issue until this year. It's always been going on a little, but this year it really got a lot worse--to the point that there are some nights that neither of us sleep much.

lurkette · 10-09-2003, 04:34 PM

At least I don't snore. My brother-in-law snores like a fucking buzzsaw. Count yourself lucky, buster

And it is I...I who have the Jimmylegs. I'll admit it. Ha!

Cynthetiq · 10-09-2003, 04:40 PM

skogafoss stays on her side of the bed

quadro2000 · 10-09-2003, 07:22 PM

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Originally posted by ratbastid
Yeah, we're in a full-size bed. We've talked about upgrading, but we sort of don't wanna.

This didn't really get to be much of an issue until this year. It's always been going on a little, but this year it really got a lot worse--to the point that there are some nights that neither of us sleep much.

How long have you been in a full sized bed? Quadrette and I did it for six years, and I too was reluctant to upgrade, but it was worth it. You two are going to kill each other!

Rodney · 10-09-2003, 10:01 PM

Had something of this problem with my wife for a number of years, though not every night and not all night. In her youth she studied ballet for a number of years, and some nights she would dream she was dancing. Turned out those were the nights she kept pointing and unpointing her feet. Eventually, it stopped.

Does Lurkette have a classic/modern dance background? Ya never know.

anti fishstick · 10-10-2003, 01:21 AM

whats so bad about spooning that you'd have to upgrade beds?

ratbastid · 10-10-2003, 06:27 AM

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Originally posted by Rodney
Does Lurkette have a classic/modern dance background? Ya never know.

No, she doesn't. I sort of like BonesCPA's thought that she's chasing rabbits. :laugh:

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Originally posted by anti fishstick
whats so bad about spooning that you'd have to upgrade beds?

Well, it's not the spooning I mind so much as the kicking and nudging. It's actually the LACK of spooning in a great big bed that has me not want to upgrade. I sort of feel like I'd lose her somewhere in a king or queen.

BonesCPA · 10-10-2003, 08:26 AM

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Originally posted by ratbastid
Well, it's not the spooning I mind so much as the kicking and nudging. It's actually the LACK of spooning in a great big bed that has me not want to upgrade. I sort of feel like I'd lose her somewhere in a king or queen.

Haven't had any problems with our king. The key is that you start spooning, and then roll away when the rabbits appear. Like on Friends: "First you squeeze, and then you roll."

quadro2000 · 10-10-2003, 09:18 AM

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Originally posted by ratbastid
Well, it's not the spooning I mind so much as the kicking and nudging. It's actually the LACK of spooning in a great big bed that has me not want to upgrade. I sort of feel like I'd lose her somewhere in a king or queen.

As opposed to losing her in a full because she kicked your sorry ass out of the bed.

Quadrette and I tried to think about this further last night, but other than the larger bed and the body pillow, couldn't come up with anything. Unless you want to invest in one of those electric fence thingies for your half of the bed.

skysooner · 10-10-2003, 09:51 AM

Yes, restless leg syndrome could be the culprit. My wife had it for a short time till she started taking iron supplements.

Redlemon · 10-10-2003, 09:51 AM

I guess my theory was considered to be without merit?

Rubyee · 10-10-2003, 02:21 PM

In a related topic, is it called snoring if your sleeping partner makes funny noises when releasing the air from his mouth? Ryan sleeps silently for a couple of hours, then he starts sounding like a balloon releasing air. It scares the hell out of me. I think I will get a tape recorder just to prove to him that I am not making it up.

tekaweni · 10-10-2003, 03:37 PM

My wife sleeps on her back and opens and shuts her legs all ... night ... long

Any attempt to cure it results in me being savagely attacked by a fast-asleep lady who denies <b>everything</b> in the morning.

Ive given up complaining and just got used to it

ratbastid · 10-10-2003, 06:00 PM

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Originally posted by redlemon
I guess my theory was considered to be without merit?

Not at all, redlemon, sorry I didn't comment about it.

In some ways the description of RLS resembles lurkette's behavior, and in some ways not. It's funny. I explored that site pretty thoroughly, and found that there really isn't much to be done to treat RLS. There are some suggestions for ameilorating it, though, and we might very well take a look at those.

If there was a pill you could take that would stop it, that'd be one thing. The advice on that site, though, was stuff like "Eat well-balanced meals and take vitamin supplements." Not bad advice for anybody, of course, but the link with what <b>lurkette's</b> doing isn't totally clear, I don't think.

ratbastid · 10-10-2003, 06:02 PM

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Originally posted by tekaweni
My wife sleeps on her back and opens and shuts her legs all ... night ... long

I think I've heard a joke that starts like that!

Sorry.

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Ive given up complaining and just got used to it

I hear you. Word on the street is, you and I both need to buy new beds.

mew · 10-10-2003, 07:44 PM

Oo~Your talking to Ms. Bruce Lee here.. I kick and wail my arms around all the time. Thats one of the reasons why my cat wont sleep with me in bed anymore. When I sleep with my bf he says he doesnt feel anything-which is always a good thing to find yourself a real heavy sleeper! I ended up kneeing him in the gnads once or twice while sleeping. OUCH! Im sorry hunny! My poor baby.

numist_net · 10-11-2003, 01:42 AM

sorry I cant help, I can sleep in a twin with my g/f. Sometimes we roll around, but when we sleep together we never move at all, we just spoon like fine cutlery

ratbastid · 10-11-2003, 07:07 AM

Used to be that way with us too. All through college we'd sleep together in a twin at least once or twice a week. Never any trouble.

giblfiz · 10-11-2003, 10:24 PM

its pretty common that as people age they start sleeping less soundly. It may be that she used to a little and you just slept through it.

I have also heard that vitamin deficiencies, particularly B or Iron can do it. Maybe she should try some Iron supplements. I have also heard that exercise can help. I know this is all "try clean living" advice but thats more or less what I know.

Oh, also if she is taking coke, speed, crack, or any of the prescription variants (Ritalin, Adderal, ect) that might be doing it.

ratbastid · 10-12-2003, 05:39 AM

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Originally posted by giblfiz
Oh, also if she is taking coke, speed, crack, or any of the prescription variants (Ritalin, Adderal, ect) that might be doing it.

Hm. I've advised her to put down the pipe before....

yellowgowild · 10-12-2003, 08:29 AM

She doesn't kick but I sure do. I'm violent when I sleep.

arcane · 10-12-2003, 09:45 PM

i am a bed and blanket hog

i like to spread out....a LOT

Stare At The Sun · 10-13-2003, 01:56 PM

Seems like the only time i sleep with people is when im drunk, hence, passed out, so i never notice either way...

LutherMac · 10-14-2003, 02:10 PM

My wife tends to migrate to my side of the bed. We've got a king size bed, and almost every night, I end up with about 1-2 feet to myself...

10-09-2003, 12:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	*Does your partner KICK* in bed? In lurkette and my household, one** of us (I shan't name names) has the dreaded Jimmy Legs. This person's legs sort of... twitch... or, maybe "shift" is a better word.... His-or-her knees bend and his-or-her ankles flex, s/he holds that for a couple seconds, and then relaxes. Sometimes this is a big motion, and sometimes you hardly notice it. Here's the "kicker". This happens every eight to ten seconds, all night long. The other night it got so out-of-hand that this person's spouse kicked him-or-her out of bed. The spouse felt bad about it, but there it was. Who else has a partner with the nocturnal "happy feet"? What do you do about it?

10-09-2003, 12:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
BonesCPA No. It's not done yet. Location: sorta kinda phila	I "know" somebody who doesn't have the leg issue, that person has a spouse that has a whole body issue. I've "heard" that this spouse has a tendency to turn so much in bed that it reminds him of a chicken on a rotisserie. At one point this actually led the stationary spouse to have a dream where he ended up "allegedly" throwing a couple of solid rights to the head of his spouse. That weekend the couple bought a king sized bed. All has been well in "that" household since then. My advice, get a larger bed, or start slipping the spouse who is chasing rabbits in her or his dreams a nice little valium before bed. __________________ Back into hibernation.

10-09-2003, 12:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
quadro2000 All Possibility, Made Of Custard Location: New York, NY	Maybe it's time to tie Lurkette's feet together or maybe tape them to the bed? I mean, maybe it's time to tie his-or-her feet together and maybe tape them to the bed? Good advice from Bones. What size is your bed? I used to bug Quadrette a lot (I'm a spooner) in our full-size bed. We just got a queen and it happens a lot less often. (although I'm sure I will eventually go back to old habits.) The other idea I have is that maybe you can buy one of those full-length "body pillows" that will essentially create a soft barrier between the two of you. My last idea involves tar and feathers, but maybe we should talk privately about it. __________________ You have to laugh at yourself...because you'd cry your eyes out if you didn't. - Emily Saliers

10-09-2003, 12:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	There is a medical condition known as "restless leg syndrome"; just googled, there a foundation for it. Have lurkette (or whoever else you are sleeping with ) check out the board and see if it applies to her. There's medication available. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-09-2003, 04:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	At least I don't snore. My brother-in-law snores like a fucking buzzsaw. Count yourself lucky, buster And it is I...I who have the Jimmylegs. I'll admit it. Ha! __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-09-2003, 04:31 PM	#7 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Yeah, we're in a full-size bed. We've talked about upgrading, but we sort of don't wanna. This didn't really get to be much of an issue until this year. It's always been going on a little, but this year it really got a lot worse--to the point that there are some nights that neither of us sleep much.

10-09-2003, 04:40 PM	#9 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	skogafoss stays on her side of the bed __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

10-09-2003, 10:01 PM	#11 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	Had something of this problem with my wife for a number of years, though not every night and not all night. In her youth she studied ballet for a number of years, and some nights she would dream she was dancing. Turned out those were the nights she kept pointing and unpointing her feet. Eventually, it stopped. Does Lurkette have a classic/modern dance background? Ya never know.

10-10-2003, 01:21 AM	#12 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	whats so bad about spooning that you'd have to upgrade beds? __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

10-10-2003, 09:51 AM	#16 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Yes, restless leg syndrome could be the culprit. My wife had it for a short time till she started taking iron supplements.

10-10-2003, 09:51 AM	#17 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	I guess my theory was considered to be without merit? __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-10-2003, 02:21 PM	#18 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	In a related topic, is it called snoring if your sleeping partner makes funny noises when releasing the air from his mouth? Ryan sleeps silently for a couple of hours, then he starts sounding like a balloon releasing air. It scares the hell out of me. I think I will get a tape recorder just to prove to him that I am not making it up. __________________ You don't know from fun.

10-10-2003, 03:37 PM	#19 (permalink)
tekaweni It wasnt me Location: Scotland	My wife sleeps on her back and opens and shuts her legs all ... night ... long Any attempt to cure it results in me being savagely attacked by a fast-asleep lady who denies <b>everything</b> in the morning. Ive given up complaining and just got used to it __________________ If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten

10-10-2003, 07:44 PM	#22 (permalink)
mew Psycho Location: Canada	Oo~Your talking to Ms. Bruce Lee here.. I kick and wail my arms around all the time. Thats one of the reasons why my cat wont sleep with me in bed anymore. When I sleep with my bf he says he doesnt feel anything-which is always a good thing to find yourself a real heavy sleeper! I ended up kneeing him in the gnads once or twice while sleeping. OUCH! Im sorry hunny! My poor baby.

10-11-2003, 01:42 AM	#23 (permalink)
numist_net Banned Location: UCSD	sorry I cant help, I can sleep in a twin with my g/f. Sometimes we roll around, but when we sleep together we never move at all, we just spoon like fine cutlery

10-11-2003, 07:07 AM	#24 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Used to be that way with us too. All through college we'd sleep together in a twin at least once or twice a week. Never any trouble.

10-11-2003, 10:24 PM	#25 (permalink)
giblfiz is a shoggoth Location: LA	its pretty common that as people age they start sleeping less soundly. It may be that she used to a little and you just slept through it. I have also heard that vitamin deficiencies, particularly B or Iron can do it. Maybe she should try some Iron supplements. I have also heard that exercise can help. I know this is all "try clean living" advice but thats more or less what I know. Oh, also if she is taking coke, speed, crack, or any of the prescription variants (Ritalin, Adderal, ect) that might be doing it. __________________ Use the star one and you'll be fighting off the old ones with your bare hands -A Shoggoth on the Roof

10-12-2003, 08:29 AM	#27 (permalink)
yellowgowild Psycho Location: Tampa	She doesn't kick but I sure do. I'm violent when I sleep.

10-12-2003, 09:45 PM	#28 (permalink)
arcane Insane Location: SLC, UT	i am a bed and blanket hog i like to spread out....a LOT __________________ <Arcane> so if you banged 2000 chicks then at least one had a pen0r?

10-13-2003, 01:56 PM	#29 (permalink)
Stare At The Sun Eh? Location: Somewhere over the rainbow	Seems like the only time i sleep with people is when im drunk, hence, passed out, so i never notice either way...

10-14-2003, 02:10 PM	#30 (permalink)
LutherMac Crazy Location: St. Louis, MO	My wife tends to migrate to my side of the bed. We've got a king size bed, and almost every night, I end up with about 1-2 feet to myself... __________________ Always remember that you are unique... just like everyone else!