When do / did you know (s)he's The One? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

isandro · 10-07-2003, 11:34 AM

Let me start off by saying that I'm not much of a romantic person- or atleast, didn't use to be.
But then I meet this girl that just blew me away. Not instantly, I had some reservations, but we went out as friends once and the longer we talked the more impressed I got. Long story short: in a month's time we fell in love and it's been a rollercoaster ride eversince. It's like every time we're together we have a whole weeks' worth of experiences in a day or so. you know the feeling?
She just rekindled my belief in true love and all those other 'quaint romantic notions'. Things just feel...right.

Anyway, within three weeks into the relationship I get this feeling that she might actually be The One. Nice feeling, but scary as hell!
I mean, you can't really know that so quickly, right?
I should inform you that I've been pretty much single for three years (bad flirt, high standards, bad luck and such), and kind of figure to be so happy to finally be close to someone again, that I'm acting irrationally. But then, love is irrational, so..ehm..*confuse*

Anyway, especially for the people who have found their lifelonglove, when did you know? And mostly, how?
Guess I just need some perspective on this...

Thraeryn · 10-07-2003, 11:41 AM

Have you said anything truly strange yet, or shared some odd opinion that you think you alone hold?

If you have and she still takes you as you are (and vice versa, she should have done it, too), then it's the real thing.

lurkette · 10-07-2003, 11:42 AM

I didn't really "know" until we'd been dating for about three years, and one day it occurred to me that I thought about Ratbastid first thing in the morning and last thing at night, and if we'd been apart I couldn't wait to see him, and that he was my favorite person in the world to spend time with. And I never got tired of him. He was my best friend, and really, really fun to have sex with. How can you beat that?

But I had strong suspicions all along - I was pretty smitten the first time we met, and we just never seem to get tired of each other, even now 12 years later.

Cynthetiq · 10-07-2003, 12:12 PM

I knew after I was dating lots of other girls at the same time... and she was still there... waiting patiently.

the clincher was when i realized that she let me be me.. 100% all the time... 7/24

G_Whiz · 10-07-2003, 03:11 PM

My wife and I knew within the first month or so. I don't know the exact moment when we knew, but it was early in our relationship.

What clinched it was when we had a disagreement. We both realized that we could disagree and trust the other to work with us to resolve our differences. The key to a lifelong relationship is being able to work through your problems together.

We have been married for over 36 years and dated for about a year and a half before we got married.

mr sticky · 10-07-2003, 04:04 PM

I knew I would marry my wife two weeks into the dating game.

After being with her for ten years, I now realize that relationships exist for as long as the participants want them to. My wife and I give each other what we need without expectations of reimbursement.
I also realize that I'm the marrying type and could be married to someone not so "perfect" (mostly because I do my part, everyday). It turns out to be a little more "business-like" than what's in the brochure, but life's like that.

hobo · 10-07-2003, 04:28 PM

Since love always starts off as infatuation, it is hard to tell when you have made the leap. I guess if she still likes you after knowing your weirder side, she is the one.

Jonsgirl · 10-07-2003, 08:00 PM

3 months into our relationship, I knew. Can't really explain how I knew. It just was there one day.
I was standing outside in the freezing cold, watching him drive away, and it dawned on me that it felt right being with him and that it actually had for awhile.
It was like that feeling you get when you get high and you're waiting for it, but then you realize that you've actually been high and staring at the ceiling for the past half hour.

*Nikki* · 10-08-2003, 05:30 AM

I knew almost right away.

Although we are not married yet, we talked about it very early on.

There was just this something that he had that clicked with me like no one else ever had.

You just know. There is no set amount of time that is right or wrong.

mb99usa · 10-08-2003, 06:33 AM

My wife and I have not spent more than a few days apart in 7 years. We've been married for almost 4 of those.

After the first few months of not getting bored or overly irritated with each other we decided to move in together. We wanted to make sure we could live with each other before deciding what the next step should be. We survived and enjoyed each other so we knew it was right.

isandro · 10-08-2003, 08:47 AM

heh, it kind of surprises me how quickly people know. Before, I would have never expected this. Atleast, not to be so lucky

Thraeryn: not truely strange, but i'm expecting a burst of winter depression pretty soon, see how that goes. I'm usually the biggest ass in those days

Cynthetiq: for how long were you seeing her, by then?

*Nikki*

Quote:

There was just this something that he had that clicked with me like no one else ever had.

yep, that's basically it, like normally there's always some distance, like receptors not connecting or something like that.
With her, I feel at ease- not in a boring way, but more like everything's allright, things are in place.
I'm constantly reminded of that matrix quote: '...it's like being in love: no one can tell you you're in love, you just know it, balls to bones'

thanks for the replies everyone. we're planning a trip to thailand somewhere around februari. I'm thinking, if all goes well and i'm still not bored with or annoyed at her, it might be a beautiful place to propose...

(hope she doesn't find this place in the mean time, that would kindof ruin the surprise

)

bermuDa · 10-08-2003, 08:59 AM

I'm glad you've found a true love. I thought I had it a couple years back.

then she dumped me a week after we said "i love you" to each other. Not something I'd care to repeat... I'm a bit more wary about love now, it's a dangerous word and a precarious emotion.

Dano069 · 10-08-2003, 10:54 AM

When she kept sending me letters, just to say "Hi" after we broke up. We still stayed in touch and it was after the one letter a week for a month stage that I knew she was the one.

daydream · 10-10-2003, 11:17 AM

I knew he was really something special the first time that I spent some time with him alone. Normally, I'm a very shy person and it takes me a while to warm up to someone, but right from the start I felt comfortable with him. I could be myself and just relax... It was great. I also got this vibe that he was a real genuine guy and that I could trust him. We always had so much fun together and I looked foward to seeing him... cause he always brightened up my day.
At first I thought we were just going to be really great friends, but after a short amt of time I realized that I had feelings for him...and of course the attraction was there, he's such a cutie!! We're currently dating exclusively and have been for almost a year. I love him with all my heart

skysooner · 10-10-2003, 12:14 PM

I knew after one week. The wife and I met through a personal ad. The first date was okay, but we were still getting to know each other. The second date blew me away as we really got to know each other (nothing physical, she was a virgin and noone had even got in her shirt before). We just seemed to connect on a whole different level. We were talking marriage after a month, were officially engaged after 4 months and married after a year. It is now 12 years later (with 2 kids), and we love each other even more intensely. It does happen when it is right.

Apex Shok · 10-10-2003, 12:42 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cynthetiq
the clincher was when i realized that she let me be me.. 100% all the time... 7/24

And for some reason she still loves you.

Thats it!!!

yellowgowild · 10-12-2003, 08:24 AM

There's no such thing as "The one". There are too many people on this planet to believe you found the needle in the stack of needles.

isandro · 10-13-2003, 03:36 AM

Well, yeah, most of the time people end up with a partner that lives in a 15 mile radius.
I didn't mean so much that there's just one good match, but rather the one you end up spending your life with, the one that makes you feel like no one else ever did.
Atleast, that's what my girl does for me, and it's like nothing i've ever felt before.
So in terms of uniqueness, i'd say there's a pretty strong sense of Oneness there

wwcd101 · 10-13-2003, 05:43 AM

The next morning.

Woke up... no, not with her... the day after we had first had a chance to spend a lot of time together. We met at a big outdoor party and basically hung out until 4 am.

Clearly, the world had changed. 23 years later it's still right.

Thanks for listening.

homerhop · 10-13-2003, 01:34 PM

Saturday when we got engaged

isandro · 10-13-2003, 01:53 PM

Hey congrats homerhop

homerhop · 10-13-2003, 02:03 PM

Thanks.
Its been a long road, but we are getting there.

Semi-Normal · 10-14-2003, 12:17 AM

Awesome homer, congrats and good luck for the future.

Dano069 · 10-14-2003, 09:31 AM

Congrats Homer! Good luck!

omega2K4 · 10-18-2003, 10:11 PM

I knew my girl was the one ever since I first met her a little over 3 years ago. We've talked about marriage, but we really don't want to get married right now (I'm 23, she's about to turn 22). We'll probably stay 'lovers" ("Lovers" is in quotation marks because I find the word to be a little cheesy.) until we're old and wrinkly as a raisin. If things would happen to not work out (Knock on wood), and she finds someone else, as long as she's happy, I would be fine with it.

SecretMethod70 · 10-19-2003, 10:38 AM

My advice? Just because you feel she's the one, that doesn't mean you have to get married right now. I've always had a personal rule since I was young enough to understand any aspect of relationships that I would date someone for at least a few years before getting married. So far, it's working

If she's the one, then there's no rush, and the more time you give to get to know eachother, then the more positive you will be by the time the time comes - far less pre-wedding jitters

Of course, this is also something that needs to be mutually understood. For example, onodrim knows very well that I will not get married until I've gone out with someone for 5 - absolute minimum, 3 - years and am 25/26. We've been going out for 4 years now and I'm goign to be 21 in a few months. I'd rather play it safe than sorry - and if this is someone I plan on spending the rest of my life with, I don't see why there should be a rush to get married. I have a whole lifetime

tikki · 10-19-2003, 10:39 PM

I knew when I realized I couldn't live my life without her in it, and would be totally content if it was just the two of us together forever.

Then, my world came tumbling down when she left me.

BlueBongo · 03-20-2004, 08:09 PM

The first time I met phred... though the feelings were there.. just took a few years for everything to make it happen. Was always bad timing... but things work out verious ways for a reason... and I couldn't be happier.

03-21-2004, 11:36 AM

When you can't find words for the feelings you have. Simple as that.

StormBerlin · 03-22-2004, 09:24 AM

I always kinda knew I would end up with Chewy... But the actual "Know" part came after we moved up to Salt Lake. It gave us a chance to depend on each other and learn a lot about our relationship... I feel like I did when we first started dating two and half years ago. All butterfly-ee and giddy and stuff.

Hehe...

wubbawubba · 03-22-2004, 09:43 AM

After I messed up real big one time and had to go crawling back to her.
I never would have done that for anyone else.

stevie667 · 03-22-2004, 11:13 AM

theres a saying i like to use 'no-one can tell you your in love, you just know'.
i go by the fact that the moment your willing to put your life on the line for them, then you need to start saving for the ring.

Prince · 03-22-2004, 10:04 PM

Well, for me, it wasn't about thinking about her 24/7, or having the same favourite colour. Actually, it was far more simple than that.

She made me feel 100% comfortable.

I hear some married couples can't even share a bathroom, even after 2 years of marriage. Sometimes the overbearing heat here irritates my skin, and after a cold shower I may get on my back and ask her if she'll "take a look at my ass and see if it's really really red, as it feels irritated". And she does, and neither of us makes nothing of it.

I've never been a people person, I've trouble relaxing even when I am around my parents. But with her, there were no uncomfortable silences, no judgment, no disrespect, not even in passing. And what's most of all, we always fight constructively, not destructively...something that is fairly rare between two people.

All of these things put together were more than enough for me to know.

jay-g · 03-24-2004, 12:17 AM

diddagirl · 03-24-2004, 06:30 PM

When I was with him, and felt so completely comfortable being myself. When all I thought about was him 24/7.

raeanna74 · 03-24-2004, 07:05 PM

To be honest hubby and I got married for many wrong reasons. About two years ago we came close to one or the other walking on the door. In the past couple years we've gone through a lot and talked about a lot. We've fallen in love all over again. In a much more real, better way. I kindof feel like we just discovered that they other was the one about a year ago. We have also become "the one" for the other person at that time too. I know this sounds wierd but I don't know how else to say it. We weren't the ones for each other 5 years ago. We are now.

I would have to say that I knew he was the one I wanted to stay with when I could see we could work through ANYTHING. We've been through the whole round - him close to death, out of work for months, no money, a kid, discussing divorce (I won't go into the why's but the why's are Big), and coming back around to know we loved each other and trusted each other.

It wasn't a circumstance or even a single moment. It was a growth into the knowledge deep in my being that he was THE ONE.

fnaqzna · 03-24-2004, 09:52 PM

I've been married for 20 years, and I don't believe for a second that there is such a thing as "the one".

StormBerlin · 03-25-2004, 12:29 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Prince
Well, for me, it wasn't about thinking about her 24/7, or having the same favourite colour. Actually, it was far more simple than that.

She made me feel 100% comfortable.

I hear some married couples can't even share a bathroom, even after 2 years of marriage. Sometimes the overbearing heat here irritates my skin, and after a cold shower I may get on my back and ask her if she'll "take a look at my ass and see if it's really really red, as it feels irritated". And she does, and neither of us makes nothing of it.

I've never been a people person, I've trouble relaxing even when I am around my parents. But with her, there were no uncomfortable silences, no judgment, no disrespect, not even in passing. And what's most of all, we always fight constructively, not destructively...something that is fairly rare between two people.

All of these things put together were more than enough for me to know.

Wow. that was beautiful. I hope you cherish that.

tim2shady · 03-25-2004, 12:13 PM

the one is the one the picks you as the one, then it's up to you to decide if she is the one. Got it?

10-07-2003, 11:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
isandro Crazy Location: Groningen, Netherlands	When do / did you know (s)he's The One? Let me start off by saying that I'm not much of a romantic person- or atleast, didn't use to be. But then I meet this girl that just blew me away. Not instantly, I had some reservations, but we went out as friends once and the longer we talked the more impressed I got. Long story short: in a month's time we fell in love and it's been a rollercoaster ride eversince. It's like every time we're together we have a whole weeks' worth of experiences in a day or so. you know the feeling? She just rekindled my belief in true love and all those other 'quaint romantic notions'. Things just feel...right. Anyway, within three weeks into the relationship I get this feeling that she might actually be The One. Nice feeling, but scary as hell! I mean, you can't really know that so quickly, right? I should inform you that I've been pretty much single for three years (bad flirt, high standards, bad luck and such), and kind of figure to be so happy to finally be close to someone again, that I'm acting irrationally. But then, love is irrational, so..ehm..confuse Anyway, especially for the people who have found their lifelonglove, when did you know? And mostly, how? Guess I just need some perspective on this... __________________ -Life, liberty and the pursuit of hamburgers.

10-07-2003, 11:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I didn't really "know" until we'd been dating for about three years, and one day it occurred to me that I thought about Ratbastid first thing in the morning and last thing at night, and if we'd been apart I couldn't wait to see him, and that he was my favorite person in the world to spend time with. And I never got tired of him. He was my best friend, and really, really fun to have sex with. How can you beat that? But I had strong suspicions all along - I was pretty smitten the first time we met, and we just never seem to get tired of each other, even now 12 years later. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-07-2003, 12:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	I knew after I was dating lots of other girls at the same time... and she was still there... waiting patiently. the clincher was when i realized that she let me be me.. 100% all the time... 7/24 __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

10-07-2003, 03:11 PM	#5 (permalink)
G_Whiz Junkie Location: Northern California	My wife and I knew within the first month or so. I don't know the exact moment when we knew, but it was early in our relationship. What clinched it was when we had a disagreement. We both realized that we could disagree and trust the other to work with us to resolve our differences. The key to a lifelong relationship is being able to work through your problems together. We have been married for over 36 years and dated for about a year and a half before we got married. __________________ If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?

10-07-2003, 04:04 PM	#6 (permalink)
mr sticky Psycho Location: NC	I knew I would marry my wife two weeks into the dating game. After being with her for ten years, I now realize that relationships exist for as long as the participants want them to. My wife and I give each other what we need without expectations of reimbursement. I also realize that I'm the marrying type and could be married to someone not so "perfect" (mostly because I do my part, everyday). It turns out to be a little more "business-like" than what's in the brochure, but life's like that. __________________ The sad thing is... as you get older you come to realize that you don't so much pilot your life, as you just try to hold on, in a screaming, defiant ball of white-knuckle anxious fury

10-07-2003, 11:41 AM	#2 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	Have you said anything truly strange yet, or shared some odd opinion that you think you alone hold? If you have and she still takes you as you are (and vice versa, she should have done it, too), then it's the real thing.

10-07-2003, 04:28 PM	#7 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	Since love always starts off as infatuation, it is hard to tell when you have made the leap. I guess if she still likes you after knowing your weirder side, she is the one.

10-07-2003, 08:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	3 months into our relationship, I knew. Can't really explain how I knew. It just was there one day. I was standing outside in the freezing cold, watching him drive away, and it dawned on me that it felt right being with him and that it actually had for awhile. It was like that feeling you get when you get high and you're waiting for it, but then you realize that you've actually been high and staring at the ceiling for the past half hour. __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

10-08-2003, 05:30 AM	#9 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	I knew almost right away. Although we are not married yet, we talked about it very early on. There was just this something that he had that clicked with me like no one else ever had. You just know. There is no set amount of time that is right or wrong.

10-08-2003, 06:33 AM	#10 (permalink)
mb99usa Keep on rolling. It only hurts for a little while. Location: wherever I am	My wife and I have not spent more than a few days apart in 7 years. We've been married for almost 4 of those. After the first few months of not getting bored or overly irritated with each other we decided to move in together. We wanted to make sure we could live with each other before deciding what the next step should be. We survived and enjoyed each other so we knew it was right. __________________ So, what's your point? It's not an attitude, it's a way of life.

10-08-2003, 08:59 AM	#12 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	I'm glad you've found a true love. I thought I had it a couple years back. then she dumped me a week after we said "i love you" to each other. Not something I'd care to repeat... I'm a bit more wary about love now, it's a dangerous word and a precarious emotion. __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

10-08-2003, 10:54 AM	#13 (permalink)
Dano069 is Nucking Futs! Location: On the edge of sanity	When she kept sending me letters, just to say "Hi" after we broke up. We still stayed in touch and it was after the one letter a week for a month stage that I knew she was the one. __________________ I may look attentive, but I'm taking peeks down your blouse faster than the human eye can follow.

10-10-2003, 11:17 AM	#14 (permalink)
daydream Crazy Location: Long Island, NY	I knew he was really something special the first time that I spent some time with him alone. Normally, I'm a very shy person and it takes me a while to warm up to someone, but right from the start I felt comfortable with him. I could be myself and just relax... It was great. I also got this vibe that he was a real genuine guy and that I could trust him. We always had so much fun together and I looked foward to seeing him... cause he always brightened up my day. At first I thought we were just going to be really great friends, but after a short amt of time I realized that I had feelings for him...and of course the attraction was there, he's such a cutie!! We're currently dating exclusively and have been for almost a year. I love him with all my heart __________________ "Can't help it if I space in a daze, my eyes tune out the other way... I may switch off and go in a daydream... in this head my thoughts are deep, Sometimes I can't even speak, would someone be and not pretend, I'm off again in my world"

10-10-2003, 12:14 PM	#15 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I knew after one week. The wife and I met through a personal ad. The first date was okay, but we were still getting to know each other. The second date blew me away as we really got to know each other (nothing physical, she was a virgin and noone had even got in her shirt before). We just seemed to connect on a whole different level. We were talking marriage after a month, were officially engaged after 4 months and married after a year. It is now 12 years later (with 2 kids), and we love each other even more intensely. It does happen when it is right.

10-12-2003, 08:24 AM	#17 (permalink)
yellowgowild Psycho Location: Tampa	There's no such thing as "The one". There are too many people on this planet to believe you found the needle in the stack of needles.

10-13-2003, 01:34 PM	#20 (permalink)
homerhop Insane Location: ÉIRE	Saturday when we got engaged __________________ its evolution baby

10-13-2003, 03:36 AM	#18 (permalink)
isandro Crazy Location: Groningen, Netherlands	Well, yeah, most of the time people end up with a partner that lives in a 15 mile radius. I didn't mean so much that there's just one good match, but rather the one you end up spending your life with, the one that makes you feel like no one else ever did. Atleast, that's what my girl does for me, and it's like nothing i've ever felt before. So in terms of uniqueness, i'd say there's a pretty strong sense of Oneness there __________________ -Life, liberty and the pursuit of hamburgers.

10-13-2003, 05:43 AM	#19 (permalink)
wwcd101 Insane	The next morning. Woke up... no, not with her... the day after we had first had a chance to spend a lot of time together. We met at a big outdoor party and basically hung out until 4 am. Clearly, the world had changed. 23 years later it's still right. Thanks for listening.

10-13-2003, 01:53 PM	#21 (permalink)
isandro Crazy Location: Groningen, Netherlands	Hey congrats homerhop __________________ -Life, liberty and the pursuit of hamburgers.

10-13-2003, 02:03 PM	#22 (permalink)
homerhop Insane Location: ÉIRE	Thanks. Its been a long road, but we are getting there. __________________ its evolution baby

10-14-2003, 12:17 AM	#23 (permalink)
Semi-Normal Insane Location: Christchurch, New Zealand	Awesome homer, congrats and good luck for the future. __________________ I'm not lazy, I'm "motivationally challenged."

10-14-2003, 09:31 AM	#24 (permalink)
Dano069 is Nucking Futs! Location: On the edge of sanity	Congrats Homer! Good luck! __________________ I may look attentive, but I'm taking peeks down your blouse faster than the human eye can follow.

10-18-2003, 10:11 PM	#25 (permalink)
omega2K4 Natalie Portman is sexy. Location: The Outer Rim	I knew my girl was the one ever since I first met her a little over 3 years ago. We've talked about marriage, but we really don't want to get married right now (I'm 23, she's about to turn 22). We'll probably stay 'lovers" ("Lovers" is in quotation marks because I find the word to be a little cheesy.) until we're old and wrinkly as a raisin. If things would happen to not work out (Knock on wood), and she finds someone else, as long as she's happy, I would be fine with it. __________________ "While the State exists there can be no freedom. When there is freedom there will be no State." - Vladimir Ilyich Lenin "Reason has always existed, but not always in a reasonable form."- Karl Marx

10-19-2003, 10:38 AM	#26 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	My advice? Just because you feel she's the one, that doesn't mean you have to get married right now. I've always had a personal rule since I was young enough to understand any aspect of relationships that I would date someone for at least a few years before getting married. So far, it's working If she's the one, then there's no rush, and the more time you give to get to know eachother, then the more positive you will be by the time the time comes - far less pre-wedding jitters Of course, this is also something that needs to be mutually understood. For example, onodrim knows very well that I will not get married until I've gone out with someone for 5 - absolute minimum, 3 - years and am 25/26. We've been going out for 4 years now and I'm goign to be 21 in a few months. I'd rather play it safe than sorry - and if this is someone I plan on spending the rest of my life with, I don't see why there should be a rush to get married. I have a whole lifetime __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

10-19-2003, 10:39 PM	#27 (permalink)
tikki Justified Location: West Lafayette, IN	I knew when I realized I couldn't live my life without her in it, and would be totally content if it was just the two of us together forever. Then, my world came tumbling down when she left me. __________________ Take notice. Take interest. Take me with you.

03-21-2004, 11:36 AM	#29 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	When you can't find words for the feelings you have. Simple as that.

03-22-2004, 09:24 AM	#30 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	I always kinda knew I would end up with Chewy... But the actual "Know" part came after we moved up to Salt Lake. It gave us a chance to depend on each other and learn a lot about our relationship... I feel like I did when we first started dating two and half years ago. All butterfly-ee and giddy and stuff. Hehe... __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

03-22-2004, 09:43 AM	#31 (permalink)
wubbawubba Tilted Location: Lexington	After I messed up real big one time and had to go crawling back to her. I never would have done that for anyone else.

03-22-2004, 11:13 AM	#32 (permalink)
stevie667 Too Awesome for Aardvarks Location: Angloland	theres a saying i like to use 'no-one can tell you your in love, you just know'. i go by the fact that the moment your willing to put your life on the line for them, then you need to start saving for the ring.

03-22-2004, 10:04 PM	#33 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Well, for me, it wasn't about thinking about her 24/7, or having the same favourite colour. Actually, it was far more simple than that. She made me feel 100% comfortable. I hear some married couples can't even share a bathroom, even after 2 years of marriage. Sometimes the overbearing heat here irritates my skin, and after a cold shower I may get on my back and ask her if she'll "take a look at my ass and see if it's really really red, as it feels irritated". And she does, and neither of us makes nothing of it. I've never been a people person, I've trouble relaxing even when I am around my parents. But with her, there were no uncomfortable silences, no judgment, no disrespect, not even in passing. And what's most of all, we always fight constructively, not destructively...something that is fairly rare between two people. All of these things put together were more than enough for me to know. __________________ Who is John Galt?

03-24-2004, 12:17 AM	#34 (permalink)
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03-24-2004, 06:30 PM	#35 (permalink)
diddagirl Addict Location: Calgary, AB	When I was with him, and felt so completely comfortable being myself. When all I thought about was him 24/7. __________________ "Is it so small a thing to have enjoyed the sun, to have lived long in the spring, to have loved, to have thought, to have done." -Matthew Arnold

03-24-2004, 07:05 PM	#36 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	To be honest hubby and I got married for many wrong reasons. About two years ago we came close to one or the other walking on the door. In the past couple years we've gone through a lot and talked about a lot. We've fallen in love all over again. In a much more real, better way. I kindof feel like we just discovered that they other was the one about a year ago. We have also become "the one" for the other person at that time too. I know this sounds wierd but I don't know how else to say it. We weren't the ones for each other 5 years ago. We are now. I would have to say that I knew he was the one I wanted to stay with when I could see we could work through ANYTHING. We've been through the whole round - him close to death, out of work for months, no money, a kid, discussing divorce (I won't go into the why's but the why's are Big), and coming back around to know we loved each other and trusted each other. It wasn't a circumstance or even a single moment. It was a growth into the knowledge deep in my being that he was THE ONE. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma. Last edited by raeanna74; 03-24-2004 at 07:11 PM..

03-24-2004, 09:52 PM	#37 (permalink)
fnaqzna Meat Popsicle Location: Left Coast	I've been married for 20 years, and I don't believe for a second that there is such a thing as "the one".

03-25-2004, 12:13 PM	#39 (permalink)
tim2shady Tilted Location: Chicago, IL	the one is the one the picks you as the one, then it's up to you to decide if she is the one. Got it? __________________ mean people suck.....period.