Sticky

Two great pieces of advice from John Updike from Couples.

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Toaster126

Wow, I really love those quotations.

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blahblah454

One of my cousins had kids with Man A, then she ended up marrying Man A's little brother and having kids with him too. Then divorcing him... So some of the kids are cousins, and some of them have an uncle for a father and a father for an uncle... it gets confusing.

lostgirl

This is just wrong on so many levels, I think most of which have been covered.

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Lindy

You think that's confusing, how about this old song?
"I'M MY OWN GRANDPA"

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lostgirl

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Originally Posted by blahblah454 View Post
One of my cousins had kids with Man A, then she ended up marrying Man A's little brother and having kids with him too. Then divorcing him... So some of the kids are cousins, and some of them have an uncle for a father and a father for an uncle... it gets confusing.
I would just think of them as all brothers.

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Lindy

Which reminds me of Harlan Ellison's science fiction short story If All Men Were Brothers, Would You Want Your Sister to Marry One?

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Anormalguy

erOP--You're playing with fire. If you value your marriage you need to cool it with little sister. Keep your alone time with her to minimum, and keep your distance when you're alone with her.

Of course you could go for it, but you should be prepared for some serious repercussions.

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raging moderate

if your into it, go for it. just make sure you don't risk anything you're not willing to lose

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Merlocke

When life gets rough - I turn to the teachings of Confucious.

Confucious say...
Wife who put husband in doghouse soon find him in cat house.
Man with tight trousers is pressing his luck.
Foolish man give wife grand piano, wise man give wife upright organ.
Secretary not permanent fixture until screwed on top of desk.
Passionate kiss like spider's web, soon lead to undoing of fly.
Man's wife his better half, his mistress his better whole.
It is good for girl to meet boy in park, but better for boy to park meat in girl.

But seriously - unless you can magically pull of the almighty threesome (you'll still get that awkwardness afterwards) then risk is greater than reward.
Totally read the last couple of chapters in "The Game" by Neil Strauss if you want that fighting chance

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yournamehere

Well, I can guess what subject will come up sometime during the sisters' next argument.

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BigIrishApe

Personally, I think you screwed the pooch the first time you did anything with the sister-in-law that involved more physical contact than a hug or a quick peck on the cheek. I mean, you have options...

Tell the wife what you've been doing, risk divorce, alienation with that whole side of the family. Maybe the sister will still want you afterwards, but she'll be a pariah as well.

Tell the sister-in-law it's got to stop, it was a mistake. Run the risk that she'll flip and spill the beans, completing the "alienated pariah" scenario again.

Divorce the wife and get with the sister. Again with the alienation, might be the right call, might not be the right call. Who can tell until the deed is done?

Keep it quiet, slowly distance yourself from the sister. Find reasons to be away or busy when she's in town, or when you're in that area on business. Try to set her up with a friend of yours or something. Pray word of this never leaks out.

curiousbear

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Just follow this. Sooner or later, the SIL will be thankful and grateful to you.

hunnychile

Good Lawd this is the wildest thread in a while!

Okay...several folks here have been the true "voice of reason" and that's good. So, in truth...do you want to get a divorce and pursue the little dick tease (really?) or just walk away and say, "No this has got to stop, here & now". How strong are you? Or better yet, how hot is the SIL? Is she worth all that heartbreak?

Or are you just yanking our tfp chains?? I'd love to hear the conclusion to THIS ONE!

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Cynthetiq

did you hit that yet?

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Plan9

Well gawdamn.

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Baraka_Guru

You know, I've been meaning to ask if there was anything wrong with the ol' "hit it, then quit it."

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curiousbear

I wonder how the discussion would be if the question is from a female, getting attracted to her sister-in-law

BigIrishApe

That would be hot, but creepy. I'm oddly conflicted on that one. It would be straight out of Jerry Springer. Woman sleeps with another woman, guy finds out and figures "hey, this may not be too bad...", finds out woman #2 is his sister, begin banjo playing...

Willravel

I remember posting a similar response to a similar thread once upon a time. I think it was Abaya that responded, saying I was crazy to even mention it.

Either I'm not crazy or I'm crazy but only as crazy as Smeth. I can live with either of those.

curiousbear

Will, here the girls are sisters... So it brings a different angle.
Now the sisters end-up in incest?

Xerxys

I love Confucious sayings a lot!

Daniel_

Of course, the SIL could be the husband's brother's wife, so no banjo's needed, but the husband would need to decide if the threesome was worth the falling out with his brother.

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raging moderate

If you really want to cheat on your wife.... Why not try dating outside the family? Much lower risk level... It sounds like fun to bang the wife's sister but the risk is probably prohibitive I would think.

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Salem

Have you fucked her yet? If so, cross sisters off your list. Wait until shit hits the fan. If not... Think about your wife, do you love her, are you just attracted to the sister... whats going on in your brain not your head. oh and factor your heart in to.

Dano069

My wife has three sisters that I am absolutely in lust for. My wife knows it, the sisters know it, and everyone seems okay with it. Only one of them is married, the youngest, and I've tried forever to get them in bed. They laugh it off, my wife rolls her eyes, and I continue being frustrated. I've gotten the older one to flash me once, and yes, my wife was present (she flashed me as well. It was a comparison of breast size in our pool a looooooooooooooong time ago.)

That being said, I'd be very, no VERY careful about what you are doing, especially since your wife doesn't seem to know what's happening. Like someone else mentioned, it'll only lead to divorce.

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Hektore

I wish I had seen this earlier. All of my good friends are under explicit orders to sleep with my wife if the opportunity presents itself.

If my wife never sleeps with another man, I don't want it to be because of lack of opportunity, but because our relationship is more important to her than any lust she has for another man.

Maybe that's what's going on with our op's wife. She had some doubts and put her sister up to the task of getting him to cheat. Or maybe she was looking for an out of marriage she wasn't happy in. Plot twists abound.

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curiousbear

That is quite possible! Never thought in that angle.

wing870

Wow ,think about what you doing. Happy wife, happy life. This will not make her happy !

lktknow

I sort of agree with the poster, that said his wife may have put the sister up to it. If the sisters are close at all, this is a possibility. There are women out there who can be very devious, and calculating.
If that is not the case, then the wife should take her sister to the airport when it is time for her to leave, and the husband should do a lot of golfing or any other distraction to keep his mind off the sister-in-law. Plus, I think the sil just tore up her sister card, she would be no sister of mine If I found this out, and didn't put her up to it, how many people would be hurt by this? it would have a very sad ending.

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Dfewer

A toast a toast!

To our wives and girlfriends! May they never meet.

The way I see it, when a man and woman marry, they give each other their bodies. If you want to screw half the whores in chinatown, you need to secure your wife's permission. In essence, it is because your sexuality no longer belongs to yourself.

If you are too uncomfortable to ask your wife's permission to kiss another woman because you have a feeling she would say no, your marriage promise will be void on your end if you proceed with the kiss.

If you talk to your wife and get feedback on a soft approach as to what she thinks about threesomes, you can more accurately gauge whether asking to sexually interact with another woman would in itself be a dealbreaker in your relationship.

As you've been married a long time, you probably already know the answer to such a question, and thus most probably come to the disappointing conclusion that she would be very hurt by the idea of you kissing her sister. This leads me to lesson number 1 on increasing sexuality within a male/female potential romantic relationship.

YOU WILL HAVE SEX IF YOU CONTINUE TO SEE EACH OTHER ALONE.

Treating this as a law of physics is what you need to do to be able to determine the final outcome of your situation. If you do not resolve yourself to the incredibly difficult task of distancing yourself from an attractive person who is sexually interested in you, the conclusion is inescapable. Cut. Print.

treenjk

I dont agree you are not guiding him right. its an old attraction and should be fulfilled.

Merlocke

Oh dear lord, now my head hurts... See? This is why I don't watch Soap Opera crap on daytime TV. It's just too damn complicated, and I've got a financial, Computer science, and Network Engineering background!

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Shell

...good one, Merlocke

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Squishy10

Bone the SIL, Move to Canada

jimmy1s269

My wife's younger sister looks like she could be her twin. Nice tight little 19 year old body and all. Thank god for me that she could care less about me in any way, so I am free to work my imagination all I want about a wife-me-SIL threesome and never have to worry about anything beyond that. good time

that being said, back off the sis dude.

mjby2

How's you marriage?
If its just routine and all the luster is lost I would try the sis.

geeza

I'd love to say "get buried in there hard and fast!" but the other posters are absolutely right:

1) It will happen unless you stop it right now
2) It will come out (she'll suddenly be 'unable to live with her conscience' and have to tell her sister)*
3) It will end really badly

And for what?

Clearly you're after some on the side. Go get it from an Asian Massage parlor or a hooker somewhere. It's going to be way cheaper. And easier actually. Plus you'll get the satisfaction of turning the sister down.


*$100 says she envies the fact that the sis has the husband/'complete' life etc and in some perverted way wants to ruin it/show her that it was all artificial.

Ice|Burn

As awesome as this outcome would be... Methinks you've spent one night too many watching late night porn.

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Seeker72

You say it like it's a bad thing.