Mood swings: how to handle them. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

devrazr · 10-01-2009, 07:32 AM

Hi.

I'm a 26 year old guy. I am extremely emotional by nature, and suffer from extreme mood swings. I was dumped sometime back, and ever since, these have been taking a toll on my life - I'm unable to concentrate on anything.

What do the forum elders advise I do...? I'd also be very grateful if you people provide me some pointers on how to detach myself from emotions that have become an impediment to my life and career, and on how to develop a more logical and rational approach towards life.

Thanks.

redsneaker · 10-01-2009, 07:39 AM

When you say your mood swings are extreme, can you give a specific example of what you mean? If you believe that your life is being negatively affected by your mood swings, it might be best to talk to a doctor. Do you have a family doctor to talk things over with? Are you taking any sort of medication already?

devrazr · 10-01-2009, 07:43 AM

Okay... the issue is... I happen to work in the same place as my ex. Sometimes, I'm upbeat about my work, and everything's hunky-dory. But then a word by a co-worker, or maybe a friend and damn... I feel like crawling under a rock. The problem with this situation is that I'm always making the wrong decisions. Even my friends now find me a drag... which is natural on their part.

Plus, I can't get over the fact that I'm done with her. I somehow (illogically) feel that I'll win her back.

No, I'm not taking any medicines at present. Do you really think that's necessary?

snowy · 10-01-2009, 08:08 AM

First: Find a job with a different work environment, if possible, and don't fish off the company dock in the future.

Second: Talk to your doctor. There could definitely be a medical reason for these kinds of mood swings, ranging from mild depression to hypoglycemia to undiagnosed bipolar disorder. I'm not a doctor, but I do know that there are a lot of things that cause mood swings, and they should be investigated by a real medical doctor.

redsneaker · 10-01-2009, 08:16 AM

Yes, I think looking for a new/different job could definitely help. I also think that seeing a Dr. would be in your best interest. When mood swings become extreme to the point of affecting your life negatively, it's time to see what's causing them and how to alleviate them.

Iliftrocks · 10-01-2009, 09:19 AM

YouTube - mood swings

Plan9 · 10-01-2009, 01:37 PM

Do you have friends and hobbies? That's the first thing you need to recover from a romantic blowout.

World's King · 10-01-2009, 01:43 PM

I thought this thread was gonna be spam for some new drug. Or Viagra.

wooÐs · 10-01-2009, 06:26 PM

Yeah. Find new employment. Not good for anyone to be stuck in an 'unhealthy' workplace.

If I'm reading correctly, once you're triggered, you're send into a tailspin of a funk? My world and welcome to it. It may just be some depression for you that you need to sort out with a professional. Or it may be as simple as running from that workplace, screaming. Could also be bipolar like I have - who knows.

Won't hurt to hit up a GP and see what he / she suggests. Good luck.

Halanna · 10-03-2009, 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by devrazr

I'd also be very grateful if you people provide me some pointers on how to detach myself from emotions that have become an impediment to my life and career, and on how to develop a more logical and rational approach towards life.

Ok, and this is my opinion only.

Fuck them, her, it . . whatever. You are one and she is one of what, 6 billion people on the planet?

If you need to detach think of it like that, she is only one of 6 BILLION people on this planet, the only planet that we know of that supports life in the way we know it . . .

There are 5, 999, 999.99 left people on the planet, besides you. There is nothing wrong with being emotional. There is nothing wrong with mood swings.

Put one person into perspective. Just another body walking the surface. It means nothing to you. This person is nothing.

So tomorrow, wake up, be happy, wave to said person and live your life happily. You are running out of time to meet the other 5,999,999.98 people that are left.

World's King · 10-03-2009, 03:36 PM

Mood swings? I don't have mood swings. Fuck off.

I love you.

Eat shit.

Puppy dogs and ice cream.

wooÐs · 10-04-2009, 04:02 AM

I hate you!!
Don't leave me!!!

girldetective · 10-04-2009, 07:52 AM

Meditation helps. I also sometimes dance hard, ride my bike, or just go a little wild in trying a date, but usually my heart isnt in it. I know it wont last forever.

Sometimes I recognize feeling too cooped up, and Ill go for walk in a new part of the city to expand my horizons, see if they fit. remember Im not the exactly the same person I was before and I somehow need to re-learn who I am now and where I fit.

* * *

But, at first I used an SSRi for 3 mos x2 (on/off) to help kick me out of it. I dont know if that is something you would want to do.

Zeraph · 10-04-2009, 12:33 PM

Everyone is so different that specific advice can't really help you except maybe coming from a psychiatrist. So my generalized advice is to just find ways to distance yourself during the mood swings (it's important to have support in normal life of course.)

Literally, just think on it seriously. Find your main source of triggers and do something about them. What's appropriate would depend on your situation, you may need to go to the extreme and move to a different state or city, or you may just be able to distance yourself mentally when the situations arise. It's a cliche, but try breathing. Deep and slow and count each breath.

Most of all though don't take it out on the people who love you. Distance yourself when you feel a swing coming on. Leave the room or the place and go be alone for a bit. Might only need 5 minutes, depends on your situation. Just distance yourself, in any way possible. Trust me, mood swings are irrational and no one can help you through them. Its something you have to get over yourself (while youre in the mood swing I mean, obviously seeking help when your level is good).

disclaimer: All this advice is based on light to moderate mood swings; if its serious depression or something being alone is probably not a good idea, even if youre irritable at the time.

10-01-2009, 07:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
devrazr Upright	Mood swings: how to handle them. Hi. I'm a 26 year old guy. I am extremely emotional by nature, and suffer from extreme mood swings. I was dumped sometime back, and ever since, these have been taking a toll on my life - I'm unable to concentrate on anything. What do the forum elders advise I do...? I'd also be very grateful if you people provide me some pointers on how to detach myself from emotions that have become an impediment to my life and career, and on how to develop a more logical and rational approach towards life. Thanks. Last edited by devrazr; 10-01-2009 at 07:35 AM..

10-01-2009, 07:43 AM	#3 (permalink)
devrazr Upright	Okay... the issue is... I happen to work in the same place as my ex. Sometimes, I'm upbeat about my work, and everything's hunky-dory. But then a word by a co-worker, or maybe a friend and damn... I feel like crawling under a rock. The problem with this situation is that I'm always making the wrong decisions. Even my friends now find me a drag... which is natural on their part. Plus, I can't get over the fact that I'm done with her. I somehow (illogically) feel that I'll win her back. No, I'm not taking any medicines at present. Do you really think that's necessary? Last edited by devrazr; 10-01-2009 at 07:46 AM..

10-01-2009, 08:08 AM	#4 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	First: Find a job with a different work environment, if possible, and don't fish off the company dock in the future. Second: Talk to your doctor. There could definitely be a medical reason for these kinds of mood swings, ranging from mild depression to hypoglycemia to undiagnosed bipolar disorder. I'm not a doctor, but I do know that there are a lot of things that cause mood swings, and they should be investigated by a real medical doctor. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-01-2009, 01:37 PM	#7 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Do you have friends and hobbies? That's the first thing you need to recover from a romantic blowout. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

10-01-2009, 01:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	I thought this thread was gonna be spam for some new drug. Or Viagra. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

10-01-2009, 07:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
redsneaker Tilted Location: Atlanta	When you say your mood swings are extreme, can you give a specific example of what you mean? If you believe that your life is being negatively affected by your mood swings, it might be best to talk to a doctor. Do you have a family doctor to talk things over with? Are you taking any sort of medication already?

10-01-2009, 08:16 AM	#5 (permalink)
redsneaker Tilted Location: Atlanta	Yes, I think looking for a new/different job could definitely help. I also think that seeing a Dr. would be in your best interest. When mood swings become extreme to the point of affecting your life negatively, it's time to see what's causing them and how to alleviate them.

10-01-2009, 06:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
wooÐs Sitting in a tree Location: Atlanta	Yeah. Find new employment. Not good for anyone to be stuck in an 'unhealthy' workplace. If I'm reading correctly, once you're triggered, you're send into a tailspin of a funk? My world and welcome to it. It may just be some depression for you that you need to sort out with a professional. Or it may be as simple as running from that workplace, screaming. Could also be bipolar like I have - who knows. Won't hurt to hit up a GP and see what he / she suggests. Good luck.

10-03-2009, 03:36 PM	#11 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Mood swings? I don't have mood swings. Fuck off. I love you. Eat shit. Puppy dogs and ice cream. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

10-04-2009, 04:02 AM	#12 (permalink)
wooÐs Sitting in a tree Location: Atlanta	I hate you!! Don't leave me!!!

10-04-2009, 07:52 AM	#13 (permalink)
girldetective sufferable	Meditation helps. I also sometimes dance hard, ride my bike, or just go a little wild in trying a date, but usually my heart isnt in it. I know it wont last forever. Sometimes I recognize feeling too cooped up, and Ill go for walk in a new part of the city to expand my horizons, see if they fit. remember Im not the exactly the same person I was before and I somehow need to re-learn who I am now and where I fit. * * * But, at first I used an SSRi for 3 mos x2 (on/off) to help kick me out of it. I dont know if that is something you would want to do. __________________ As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons...be cheerful; strive for happiness - Desiderata Last edited by girldetective; 10-04-2009 at 08:13 AM.. Reason: Addl stuff, and misspelling

10-04-2009, 12:33 PM	#14 (permalink)
Zeraph Banned Location: The Cosmos	Everyone is so different that specific advice can't really help you except maybe coming from a psychiatrist. So my generalized advice is to just find ways to distance yourself during the mood swings (it's important to have support in normal life of course.) Literally, just think on it seriously. Find your main source of triggers and do something about them. What's appropriate would depend on your situation, you may need to go to the extreme and move to a different state or city, or you may just be able to distance yourself mentally when the situations arise. It's a cliche, but try breathing. Deep and slow and count each breath. Most of all though don't take it out on the people who love you. Distance yourself when you feel a swing coming on. Leave the room or the place and go be alone for a bit. Might only need 5 minutes, depends on your situation. Just distance yourself, in any way possible. Trust me, mood swings are irrational and no one can help you through them. Its something you have to get over yourself (while youre in the mood swing I mean, obviously seeking help when your level is good). disclaimer: All this advice is based on light to moderate mood swings; if its serious depression or something being alone is probably not a good idea, even if youre irritable at the time.