Have you ever faked an orgasm? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Nancy · 11-11-2004, 03:56 AM

Hey ladies!

I just remembered that I read this in some statistics the other day:

96% of all women have at one time in their life faked an orgasm

96%?! Now that seems like a lot!

Personally I've never faked an orgasm. I've never felt the need to and I'd never lie about something like this.

How about you? If you vote yes then tell us the reason if you're up for it

ShaniFaye · 11-11-2004, 04:02 AM

Nope....I just told them that getting off with what they were doing isnt gonna be possible

maleficent · 11-11-2004, 04:15 AM

More than once.

Reasons:
1. To protect their fragile ego... (they were doing it right, it jsut wasn't going to happen)
2. Because I just wanted to go to sleep
3. Because they really weren't all that great and training was just entirely too much effort

there's a few more reasons in there

little_tippler · 11-11-2004, 04:45 AM

I suppose in a sense, it has happened that I'll be very excited (I'm not the quiet type) in the middle of sex and then the guy comes and it's like, he didn't ask whether I did or not, and doesn't seem worried...in fact he seems to think that I have (not that they say anything, but just have that "look")...and I don't say anything to the contrary so that would be faking in a way no? Eh, it's harmless as long as it's not the rule rather than the odd exception. Maybe I should be more demanding lol

Nancy · 11-11-2004, 04:59 AM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

Maybe I should be more demanding lol

I think you should. You're just as entitled to cum as the guy..

Nancy · 11-11-2004, 05:03 AM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

2. Because I just wanted to go to sleep

I've never understood that mentality. Why does sex always have to end with orgasms? You know, you could've just told the guy that you didn't come and that it didn't matter that much..?!

little_tippler · 11-11-2004, 05:07 AM

Of course, but sometimes you just KNOW it's going to make things tense...and if the guy is reasonably intelligent and knows you fairly well then he will know when you have or haven't...and it doesn't need to be said out loud. You're making it a big deal by making a point of saying it, in this instance.

maleficent · 11-11-2004, 05:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Nancy

You know, you could've just told the guy that you didn't come and that it didn't matter that much..?!

This guy was a very immature 30 year old -- if you didn't come you didnt have a good time... He didn't last long... (in more ways than one)

Nancy · 11-11-2004, 05:13 AM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

This guy was a very immature 30 year old -- if you didn't come you didnt have a good time... He didn't last long... (in more ways than one)

ooohh I see. Good riddance then

Sugar&Spice · 11-11-2004, 10:29 AM

I've never faked one. If I knew I wasn't going to have one, I would just tell him that it wasn't gonna happen. However, I have never been in the position to do that. I always have orgasms!!

jillian · 11-12-2004, 06:16 PM

i faked a couple when i was younger.. mainly because i thought i was supposed to sound and act like that.. now i havent had to fake... i just do whatever it takes... wether its telling them what to do or grabbing a toy and putting it to use while he does his thing

xxSquirtxx · 11-12-2004, 10:12 PM

Absolutely never.

Ella · 11-13-2004, 12:50 AM

Yeah, a couple of times. Mind you, I tend to come pretty easily, and in multiples. But on the odd occasion it just had to be faked.....see maleficent's post.

Ananas · 11-13-2004, 10:15 PM

Yes, almost always when I was younger. I just didn't know what else to do and thought that I was supposed to show something in order to make the guy feel like he was the next best thing to a bag of chips. It wasn't until I was over 30 that I had my first orgasm on my own (bought a vibrator and a book) and gained some confidence and the ability to tell a man what pleased me. Since then, I haven't had a problem with telling a guy that it just ain't happening and being OK with it, but I mostly just get off on my own now. Vibrators and my imagination are my best friends.

fallenangel · 11-14-2004, 04:35 PM

yup... maybe about 3 times TOTAL in being sexually active. They were for particular situations that needed to be dealt with care. Most times i don't care if i get off or not, honestly, but sometimes when they try too hard just doesn't help our cause any, even after telling them "honey i don't care about getting off or not".

It needed to be done and i don't regret it

hunnychile · 11-14-2004, 06:23 PM

Ha Ha!.....does the Pope wear a beanie???!!!

KinkyKiwi · 11-15-2004, 08:01 AM

yupp i have..sometimes i just get bored and want him to finish up...not proud of it or anything..just sometimes i'm not feeling it and i dont want to hurt his feelings

11-15-2004, 08:18 AM

I put yes, but I'm not entirely sure that's accurate... He thought I had come because I was so loud, but I hadn't yet... I was fine with it, because I was still satisfied but....
does that count?

Poyzun_Ivy · 11-15-2004, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

More than once.

Reasons:
1. To protect their fragile ego... (they were doing it right, it jsut wasn't going to happen)
2. Because I just wanted to go to sleep
3. Because they really weren't all that great and training was just entirely too much effort

there's a few more reasons in there

Same for me... I dated a guy for three years (THREE YEARS) and never once had an actual orgasm... shit, I probably should've told him. Given him less of an ego problem. *BLEH*

pinkie · 11-15-2004, 08:50 AM

Not with my husband, who is all that matters to me.

In the past, sure. I just wanted them to stop and I knew they'd act like a big baby if I just said I couldn't cum. I'm glad I don't have to be that way with hubby.

la petite moi · 11-15-2004, 10:28 AM

Yes, I faked it for almost a year because I was scared of hurting his feelings. When I finally came clean, it took awhile for him to actually get me to, and until he did, I never lied about orgasms again.

themisfit · 11-15-2004, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

More than once.

Reasons:
1. To protect their fragile ego... (they were doing it right, it jsut wasn't going to happen)
2. Because I just wanted to go to sleep
3. Because they really weren't all that great and training was just entirely too much effort

there's a few more reasons in there

yep...see above.

KinkyKiwi · 11-18-2004, 05:24 PM

hmm, i think that most women have..the women on this forum are more open and inteligent then most..and even on here most have...i'm kinda suprised that soem women havent!

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11-11-2004, 03:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	Have you ever faked an orgasm? Hey ladies! I just remembered that I read this in some statistics the other day: *96% of all women have at one time in their life faked an orgasm* 96%?! Now that seems like a lot! Personally I've never faked an orgasm. I've never felt the need to and I'd never lie about something like this. How about you? If you vote yes then tell us the reason if you're up for it __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip. Last edited by Nancy; 11-11-2004 at 03:59 AM..

11-11-2004, 04:02 AM	#2 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Nope....I just told them that getting off with what they were doing isnt gonna be possible __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

11-11-2004, 04:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	More than once. Reasons: 1. To protect their fragile ego... (they were doing it right, it jsut wasn't going to happen) 2. Because I just wanted to go to sleep 3. Because they really weren't all that great and training was just entirely too much effort there's a few more reasons in there __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

11-11-2004, 04:45 AM	#4 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	I suppose in a sense, it has happened that I'll be very excited (I'm not the quiet type) in the middle of sex and then the guy comes and it's like, he didn't ask whether I did or not, and doesn't seem worried...in fact he seems to think that I have (not that they say anything, but just have that "look")...and I don't say anything to the contrary so that would be faking in a way no? Eh, it's harmless as long as it's not the rule rather than the odd exception. Maybe I should be more demanding lol __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

11-11-2004, 05:07 AM	#7 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Of course, but sometimes you just KNOW it's going to make things tense...and if the guy is reasonably intelligent and knows you fairly well then he will know when you have or haven't...and it doesn't need to be said out loud. You're making it a big deal by making a point of saying it, in this instance. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

11-11-2004, 10:29 AM	#10 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	I've never faked one. If I knew I wasn't going to have one, I would just tell him that it wasn't gonna happen. However, I have never been in the position to do that. I always have orgasms!! __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

11-12-2004, 06:16 PM	#11 (permalink)
jillian Crazy Location: indiana	i faked a couple when i was younger.. mainly because i thought i was supposed to sound and act like that.. now i havent had to fake... i just do whatever it takes... wether its telling them what to do or grabbing a toy and putting it to use while he does his thing

11-12-2004, 10:12 PM	#12 (permalink)
xxSquirtxx More anal, less shenanigans Location: Always lurking	Absolutely never. __________________ .

11-13-2004, 12:50 AM	#13 (permalink)
Ella Ella Bo Bella Location: Australia	Yeah, a couple of times. Mind you, I tend to come pretty easily, and in multiples. But on the odd occasion it just had to be faked.....see maleficent's post. __________________ "Afterwards, the universe will explode for your pleasure."

11-13-2004, 10:15 PM	#14 (permalink)
Ananas Still Crazy Location: In my own time	Yes, almost always when I was younger. I just didn't know what else to do and thought that I was supposed to show something in order to make the guy feel like he was the next best thing to a bag of chips. It wasn't until I was over 30 that I had my first orgasm on my own (bought a vibrator and a book) and gained some confidence and the ability to tell a man what pleased me. Since then, I haven't had a problem with telling a guy that it just ain't happening and being OK with it, but I mostly just get off on my own now. Vibrators and my imagination are my best friends.

11-14-2004, 04:35 PM	#15 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	yup... maybe about 3 times TOTAL in being sexually active. They were for particular situations that needed to be dealt with care. Most times i don't care if i get off or not, honestly, but sometimes when they try too hard just doesn't help our cause any, even after telling them "honey i don't care about getting off or not". It needed to be done and i don't regret it __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

11-14-2004, 06:23 PM	#16 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	Ha Ha!.....does the Pope wear a beanie???!!! __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB

11-15-2004, 08:01 AM	#17 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	yupp i have..sometimes i just get bored and want him to finish up...not proud of it or anything..just sometimes i'm not feeling it and i dont want to hurt his feelings __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.

11-15-2004, 08:18 AM	#18 (permalink)
Untitled Guest	I put yes, but I'm not entirely sure that's accurate... He thought I had come because I was so loud, but I hadn't yet... I was fine with it, because I was still satisfied but.... does that count?

11-15-2004, 08:50 AM	#20 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	Not with my husband, who is all that matters to me. In the past, sure. I just wanted them to stop and I knew they'd act like a big baby if I just said I couldn't cum. I'm glad I don't have to be that way with hubby.

11-15-2004, 10:28 AM	#21 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Yes, I faked it for almost a year because I was scared of hurting his feelings. When I finally came clean, it took awhile for him to actually get me to, and until he did, I never lied about orgasms again.

11-18-2004, 05:24 PM	#23 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	hmm, i think that most women have..the women on this forum are more open and inteligent then most..and even on here most have...i'm kinda suprised that soem women havent! __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.