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sexymama · 10-10-2003, 05:21 AM

Last night I mentioned to Lebell that when I masturbate I almost always enjoy fantasizing about a real person (him) more than thinking about an unknown. I also enjoy reading stories that stimulate my thoughts, then putting myself and him in the situation in my head. However, it is very rare when I fanatasize about an unknown man or porn.

I am wondering if this is a male/female thing -- or just me. What do you think? What do you fantasize about when masturbating? What gets you most excited?

wannabenakid247 · 10-10-2003, 07:06 AM

Yeah I know what you mean about the real person bit. It makes it more graphic in your head. I normally think about women that i know that i fancy and my girlfriend. I also like reading stories about situations as well straight or gay and pretending im one of the characters.

veruca · 10-10-2003, 11:42 AM

ummm...sometimes i think aobut my husband...but i usually take that time to maybe think of someone i would like to be with...but since i would never cheat in real life, it is the only way i can vent that frustration...and i know that he doesnt always think of me...i wouldn't think of me either...there are too many beatuiful women to get stuck on just one

collide · 10-10-2003, 02:51 PM

My fantasies are pretty hardcore, and they'll probably stay a fantasy. So without getting into too much detail (because you can only imagine how depraved my mind really is), I usually think of some pretty risqué things when I'm masturbating.

shannon · 10-10-2003, 05:30 PM

mostly my boyfriend, sometimes other people i know. but honestly, as terrible as it is, i'm pretty bad with my attention span and i'm usually thinking about like school and then like Xirax (my bf) and then like work and then some more of my man and then some girl i saw on the street today and then i'm looking at something on my wall or something. i'm terrible. very unsexy. you should hear conversation during sex, it's like "hey, have you tried vanilla coke?" and then like "fuck, you're sexy" and then like " so today at work...." luckily i usually can't finish any stories really, cause i forget what i'm talking about. wow, that's sad.

Rubyee · 10-10-2003, 06:20 PM

I usually just focus on what feels good, and what I am doing to myself. To be honest, I guess I just think about me. Hmm, that does sound odd now that I think about it. I shall have to try thinking of my boyfriend.

mew · 10-10-2003, 07:10 PM

LOL Shannon, your mind is ever moving! I tend to change topics a lot too, but not during sex or masturbation. I just imagine myself getting into a sexual situation/fantasy and just play the movie in my head. You know what? I wonder if my guy ever thought bout other women while we play..I think of other guys or imagine diff situations. Ill ask him that..

onodrim · 10-10-2003, 08:50 PM

Well, I'd say most of the time I think about Secret, my boyfriend. If it's not him, then its usually a fantasy involving people that I find attractive. Usually I like to imagine I'm somplace nicer than a dorm room

, like in a fancy resort, or in some exotic waterfall, or even just on a nice big comfy bed

. Also, there's often some story involved, something simple, but more than just, now I'm having sex with someone. I've never just thought about complete strangers. Although sometimes, like Rubyee, I just focus on myself and what feels good. Whatever works for you is the best way to go.

little limey · 10-11-2003, 06:36 AM

I sometimes start out thinking about some people I've seen in a porn video and then put myself in the girl's place. Most of the time I put Spinach in the guy's place, but soemtimes I don't. When it somes to fanasizing about girls I just think of random girls that i have been attracted to or a totally straight girl that I have only seen and never talked to. Those are fun because I get to make up her personality and I'm always the dominant one. If the fantasy is of more then one person then one of the other people is Spinach and the rest are usually faceless.

sexymama-- Did lebell say he did the same thing?

sexymama · 10-11-2003, 07:15 AM

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sexymama-- Did lebell say he did the same thing?

Lebell said that he fantasizes about me at times and at other times about the woman he is looking at (porn) or reading about. Interesting, what excites us both the most is erotic stories.

Minx · 10-12-2003, 02:30 PM

It depends on the mood I suppose as far as I'm concerned. As far as fantasies go it's usually a re-creation of an experience that I've had that left me going mmmmmmm (ie. picnic tables after football games or balconies with trucks going by)

But...things that have done it for me range from watching some good lesbian porn, making love with/watching another couple (no trading just the watching part!), and the whole exhibitionist idea....having another guy watch while I ride my sweetie.
Sexymama, I think you are correct in the thought that we, as women, put a more intimate perspective to it...we would rather put our sweetie into the picture than getting off to an unknown factor. At least I do!

Apache · 10-12-2003, 03:55 PM

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Originally posted by Rubyee
I usually just focus on what feels good, and what I am doing to myself. To be honest, I guess I just think about me. Hmm, that does sound odd now that I think about it. I shall have to try thinking of my boyfriend.

That's pretty much me too. While Im playing with my vibrator, or rubbing myself, I'm just thinking "damn this feels good"

I have to say that I don't usually think about anything in particular. I do have some pretty good fantasy's though

BlueBongo · 10-12-2003, 10:34 PM

Gotta agree with Apache on this subject. I sort of just relax and don't think much at all... makes it feel great that way.

gummby · 10-13-2003, 04:42 PM

I tend to think about both sexes and people i know and don't. For some reason it tends to be some sort of group situation. Of course I am getting all the attention

Angel · 10-14-2003, 04:48 PM

It is most certainly mood driven for me. Sometimes I simply need/want that orgasm....now! And at those times, I'm not certain I fantasize about anything.

But then I have those times where I am fantasizing about my sweetie and THEN I start to get aroused and I can think of nothing BUT him during the whole time I am pleasuring myself.

Of course, there are those times when I WANT him to walk in on me unexpectedly and "catch" me...and watch...and then join in after I have reached one orgasm...

Ladyhawke · 10-16-2003, 02:50 AM

My fantasies are hardly ever about my man...or porn...I can have those anyday....but they are usally about someone I would like to meet...and what would happen after we met

and to be honest...their are a few gals on the board that have topped my list...and sent me over the edge more then once

ally · 10-22-2003, 12:06 PM

I had never succesfully masturbated till last week (wahoo!!) Greg700 was busy and I was all alone.
I am finding however that all I have to do is think of him......

~springrain · 10-24-2003, 01:37 PM

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Originally posted by collide
My fantasies are pretty hardcore, and they'll probably stay a fantasy. So without getting into too much detail (because you can only imagine how depraved my mind really is), I usually think of some pretty risqué things when I'm masturbating.

*chuckle*... i can completely relate to this one... and Willow and i have discussed that very same concept (ie- some fantasies should probably forever stay as FANTASY).

sometimes it's someone that i know that i have found attractive, and the whole "forbidden" factor comes in... but so much of fantasy for me is the allure of the "forbidden"... that whoever it is becomes secondary to what is happening to me while i am imagining it... *blush*

God i feel like a dork sometimes

gabshu · 10-27-2003, 07:16 PM

I usually don't masturbate when I have my boyfriend nearby, but he's in Germany for 6 months

. So i've tried to masturbate thinking about him but it just makes me feel really sad that I can't be with him, but by that time I'm already horny and I start to think about other guys, I don't have to know them, but there's usually a story to explain why we're having sex.

10-10-2003, 05:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Thoughts when masturbating Last night I mentioned to Lebell that when I masturbate I almost always enjoy fantasizing about a real person (him) more than thinking about an unknown. I also enjoy reading stories that stimulate my thoughts, then putting myself and him in the situation in my head. However, it is very rare when I fanatasize about an unknown man or porn. I am wondering if this is a male/female thing -- or just me. What do you think? What do you fantasize about when masturbating? What gets you most excited? __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

10-10-2003, 11:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
veruca Psycho Location: 4 privet drive	ummm...sometimes i think aobut my husband...but i usually take that time to maybe think of someone i would like to be with...but since i would never cheat in real life, it is the only way i can vent that frustration...and i know that he doesnt always think of me...i wouldn't think of me either...there are too many beatuiful women to get stuck on just one __________________ How you turned my world, you precious thing You starve and near exhaust me Everything I've done, I've done for you I move the stars for no one

10-10-2003, 02:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
collide Turn off your TV. Location: ... .- -. ..-. .-. .- -. -.-. .. ... -.-. --- --..-- -.-. .-	My fantasies are pretty hardcore, and they'll probably stay a fantasy. So without getting into too much detail (because you can only imagine how depraved my mind really is), I usually think of some pretty risqué things when I'm masturbating. __________________ "inhuman fiery goat worship" is an anagram for "information superhighway" -kingvolc

10-10-2003, 05:30 PM	#5 (permalink)
shannon Psycho Location: Canada	mostly my boyfriend, sometimes other people i know. but honestly, as terrible as it is, i'm pretty bad with my attention span and i'm usually thinking about like school and then like Xirax (my bf) and then like work and then some more of my man and then some girl i saw on the street today and then i'm looking at something on my wall or something. i'm terrible. very unsexy. you should hear conversation during sex, it's like "hey, have you tried vanilla coke?" and then like "fuck, you're sexy" and then like " so today at work...." luckily i usually can't finish any stories really, cause i forget what i'm talking about. wow, that's sad. __________________ "When I look down I just miss all the good stuff. And when I look up I just trip over things"

10-10-2003, 06:20 PM	#6 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	I usually just focus on what feels good, and what I am doing to myself. To be honest, I guess I just think about me. Hmm, that does sound odd now that I think about it. I shall have to try thinking of my boyfriend. __________________ You don't know from fun.

10-10-2003, 07:06 AM	#2 (permalink)
wannabenakid247 Registered User Location: Wales, UK	Yeah I know what you mean about the real person bit. It makes it more graphic in your head. I normally think about women that i know that i fancy and my girlfriend. I also like reading stories about situations as well straight or gay and pretending im one of the characters.

10-10-2003, 07:10 PM	#7 (permalink)
mew Psycho Location: Canada	LOL Shannon, your mind is ever moving! I tend to change topics a lot too, but not during sex or masturbation. I just imagine myself getting into a sexual situation/fantasy and just play the movie in my head. You know what? I wonder if my guy ever thought bout other women while we play..I think of other guys or imagine diff situations. Ill ask him that..

10-10-2003, 08:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	Well, I'd say most of the time I think about Secret, my boyfriend. If it's not him, then its usually a fantasy involving people that I find attractive. Usually I like to imagine I'm somplace nicer than a dorm room , like in a fancy resort, or in some exotic waterfall, or even just on a nice big comfy bed . Also, there's often some story involved, something simple, but more than just, now I'm having sex with someone. I've never just thought about complete strangers. Although sometimes, like Rubyee, I just focus on myself and what feels good. Whatever works for you is the best way to go. __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan Last edited by onodrim; 10-10-2003 at 08:58 PM..

10-11-2003, 06:36 AM	#9 (permalink)
little limey Psycho Location: Room Nineteen	I sometimes start out thinking about some people I've seen in a porn video and then put myself in the girl's place. Most of the time I put Spinach in the guy's place, but soemtimes I don't. When it somes to fanasizing about girls I just think of random girls that i have been attracted to or a totally straight girl that I have only seen and never talked to. Those are fun because I get to make up her personality and I'm always the dominant one. If the fantasy is of more then one person then one of the other people is Spinach and the rest are usually faceless. sexymama-- Did lebell say he did the same thing?

10-12-2003, 02:30 PM	#11 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	It depends on the mood I suppose as far as I'm concerned. As far as fantasies go it's usually a re-creation of an experience that I've had that left me going mmmmmmm (ie. picnic tables after football games or balconies with trucks going by) But...things that have done it for me range from watching some good lesbian porn, making love with/watching another couple (no trading just the watching part!), and the whole exhibitionist idea....having another guy watch while I ride my sweetie. Sexymama, I think you are correct in the thought that we, as women, put a more intimate perspective to it...we would rather put our sweetie into the picture than getting off to an unknown factor. At least I do! __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

10-13-2003, 04:42 PM	#14 (permalink)
gummby Upright Location: Idaho	I tend to think about both sexes and people i know and don't. For some reason it tends to be some sort of group situation. Of course I am getting all the attention

10-14-2003, 04:48 PM	#15 (permalink)
Angel Naughty Just Right Location: Euphoria	It is most certainly mood driven for me. Sometimes I simply need/want that orgasm....now! And at those times, I'm not certain I fantasize about anything. But then I have those times where I am fantasizing about my sweetie and THEN I start to get aroused and I can think of nothing BUT him during the whole time I am pleasuring myself. Of course, there are those times when I WANT him to walk in on me unexpectedly and "catch" me...and watch...and then join in after I have reached one orgasm... __________________ In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was within me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

10-16-2003, 02:50 AM	#16 (permalink)
Ladyhawke Crazy Location: Dallas	My fantasies are hardly ever about my man...or porn...I can have those anyday....but they are usally about someone I would like to meet...and what would happen after we met and to be honest...their are a few gals on the board that have topped my list...and sent me over the edge more then once __________________ Whatever

10-22-2003, 12:06 PM	#17 (permalink)
ally Insane Location: Boone,NC	I had never succesfully masturbated till last week (wahoo!!) Greg700 was busy and I was all alone. I am finding however that all I have to do is think of him......

10-27-2003, 07:16 PM	#19 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	I usually don't masturbate when I have my boyfriend nearby, but he's in Germany for 6 months . So i've tried to masturbate thinking about him but it just makes me feel really sad that I can't be with him, but by that time I'm already horny and I start to think about other guys, I don't have to know them, but there's usually a story to explain why we're having sex. __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/