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Old 02-26-2006, 07:12 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How much moodiness is normal?

This may sound like something I shouldn't figured out long time ago but things have changed.

I stopped taking birth control pills about 6 months ago now. My body has gotten into it's old schedule physically and seems to be on an even keel. My emotions are not very balanced in the least. I recall I was more emotional before I started taking the pills but I don't remember being as emotional as this ever. I don't even remember being this bad when I was pregnant. I was never emotional like this on the pill. I have been on it for 5 years. I am going to be 32 shortly. I should be in my reproductive prime and not as hormonal as a teenager.

To give you an idea of how emotional I am - This past Friday hubby came home after a bad day at work. He was cranky himself but nothing extreme - just things like complaining about lights being left on (what husband doesn't complain about that once in a while really). I wasn't able to handle any of it and lost it. I yelled, I cried, I even called him names which I can't recall ever doing before. The last 3 times I've had my period I have gotten extremely emotional about 2-3 days before I get it. I've yelled, sulked, and even thrown a couple minor things. Not broken anything. The moodiness has usually only lasted for one day or maybe two and tends to even out after I start my period. Hubby has commented on it and pointed out to me that I'm not acting normal.

I think I will mention this when I go in for my yearly physical this month. But my question is, at 32, is this normal? I know we women get moody but I don't recall this kind of emotional upset being normal. At least not that much for me. My Mom said that this wasn't normal for me either. She didn't remember me being quite like this since I was mid-puberty and mid-teenage-rebellion stage.

What has been your experiences?? Besides this moodiness for a day or two I have very few problems now that I'm off the pill. To try to gauge this by my Mom's behavior won't work. She has always been emotional and when she went through menopause was extremely emotional. It wasn't even too uncommon for us to find her crying over something and then begin laughing at herself because she couldn't quit crying over something so small. I do not want to turn into my mother either so I'm paranoid about it I think.

On a side note - I was so uncharacteristically emotional that my cat began to pester me while I was yelling. She was licking and pawing at me persistantly and then while I was sitting with my back to the table she clamped onto the back of my neck with her teeth and wouldn't let go. She's normally very gentle so I'm certain that the way I was behaving was upsetting her even. It did get my attention at least.

Also - any tips on diet, suppliments, herbal tea, ANYTHING that could or has been helpful to any of you - please share.
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Old 02-26-2006, 07:59 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I have not been on the pill or any other form of hormone control - so take what I say with that in mind.

You were on the pill for 8 years - that is not a natural state of being for your body, no matter how convenient. It can take quite a while for our bodies to adjust to changes, and my guess is that your body is still making that adjustment. 8 years is quite a long time in terms of medications or drugs. I would still bring this up with your doctor if possible though - emotions are so subjective, and I for one know it is hard to guage the depth of my moodines at times.
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Old 02-26-2006, 08:00 PM   #3 (permalink)
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What with all the health things that have been going on with you in the past year hon, you should TOTALLY get yourself down to a doctor and be checked out. If your doctor tries to brush it off, go see another one! You said yourself that this is NOT NORMAL, the people around you who know you and love you see that this is not normal... what more prodding do you need???

No, it's not normal to be that moody. Perhaps while PMSing (you could have whatever disorder that is that is clinically recognized now- the one that they diagnose you as basically going insane while PMSing... PMDD I think it is) getting moody is one thing, but all the time? Definitely not normal!

Have a complete blood test- have them test to see if anything is out of whack. Also, I think they can do a pre-menopause test (it's not unusual for women to be pre menopausal at your age, especially with your tubes being tied). You remember how much better you started to feel when you got your whole thyroid thing checked out? (Go you for getting better, by the way!) Well, hon, you'll totally feel better once you get this checked out. Being super moody all the time is NOT the way to be!!

Oh, and onto the diet/suppliments/tea thing- don't try taking suppliments or changing your diet signifigantly until you get a consult with a doctor and/or a nutritionist. Taking suppliments when you don't know what (or even if) you're deficient in can throw everything even further off kilter and do damage to your organs.

Get thee to a doctor, woman!!
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Old 02-26-2006, 08:12 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Oops sorry - I said 8 years in my original post. It's been 5 years. Dunno how I came up with 8. Sorry. That still is quite a while. I sortof though I'd be evening out by now since my period is back to perfectly timed to 27days each cycle.
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Old 02-26-2006, 08:41 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I get a raft of severe PMS symptoms, moodiness, cramps, and migranes every cycle. I'd say like clockwork, but my cycles are very irregular.

I've never used any form of hormonal birth control, though I've had gynecologists recommend it to treat my symptoms.

That does sound like its a lot more than what is healthy or should normally be expected. I don't have any advice other than to tell your doctor and make sure he/she listens.

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Old 02-27-2006, 06:36 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I am certain our Dr will listen. My regular Dr is leaving the practice to stay home with her kids. But I have switched Dr's to her husband and dei37's regular Doctor. So I will be seeing someone that I have already dealt with for hubby. He has listened with an open mind any any ideas we have, to our concerns for hubby and seems very willing to give us more than enough information to deal with anything that comes up. He even asked curious questions when our lifestyle came up and responded positively regarding it. He seems openminded to any new ideas in general and medical information too. He is more than willing to look up information if he doesn't know an answer. I think he's great.

I hadn't thought about the other symptoms I have. I've just been glad that my migranes aren't back regularly. I used to get a migrane within about 48 hours after taking my last bc pill. It was so timed that I could just about take my Imitrex before I felt any symptoms - and did sometimes.

I also have pretty bad cramps, which I didn't on the pill, and a lot of bloating. This past time my bloating was so great that only 5 days ago I weighed 5 lbs less than I do now. It also affects my carpal tunnel syndrome and my hands are aching and tingling constantly.

I had forgot about those symptoms so I think I will mention those too.

I looked up PMDD on WebMD and they gave this little question

"You're a woman in your 20s, 30s, or 40s. Once every 28 days or so, do you:
a. not really notice any change;
b. feel a little bloated and out of sorts;
c. hide in your room playing old Patsy Cline albums and sniffling; or
d. cause your husband, kids, and/or coworkers to consider joining the Witness Protection Program? "

I'm 'D' all the way. Just ask hubby.
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Old 02-28-2006, 03:48 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I was on and off different bc pills since I was 15 and usually very strong ones. Bitch, bitch, bitch I was doing alot. Got to the point where I thought I was going nuts. Finally I changed doctors and she put me on a weaker dose. Whew,..less cramps, less bloating, shorter cycle, alot less discharge and no bitchiness.

Two years ago I went off the pill and had some problems stabilizing for a while. I'm 28 now and get crankier than before but now have mastered the art of meditation and relaxation. I took a 6 week course from a very frail chinese lady and now drink chinese tea. Sounds kind of weird to some folks but it does wonders for me.

I drink some tea, put on some lite music and my sleeping eye patch thingy I lifted from a British Airways flight and give myself about 1/2 hour a day to just think of positive thoughts and try to understand how minute my problems are which I blow out of proportion for no reason.

Can't say it will work for you but it does for me. Great for self worth and confidence, a piece of mind and some serenity if you are in need of any of those at anytime.
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Old 03-25-2006, 01:05 PM   #8 (permalink)
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youve been on the pill so long and your body has to get used to the hormone change. i went through the same thing. i was on the pill for seven years and just got off a year ago. my poor boyfriend, we have been together a long time thank god or im sure he would of left me.
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Old 03-25-2006, 02:24 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Another suggestion among the very good ones here:

If you aren't charting your cycle, it would be a good idea to do so. Try to be well rested before entering those "bad" days and have comfort food and beverages handy. You might ask your spouse for whatever support suits your relationship. It could be just a little more patience, a warm hug, or taking the kids off your hands for a few hours.
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Old 03-25-2006, 08:27 PM   #10 (permalink)
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maybe talk to you doctor and get some suggestions for him/her?
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