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rockogre · 07-23-2003, 09:35 AM

Anyone who has no respect for themselves or any one else.

hobo · 07-23-2003, 09:20 PM

In my opinion, a slut is someone who has sex with one OR more partners but does not have a real relationship with them. The reason for this sex is to gain popularity or to deal with self esteem issues by proving to his/herself that s/he can get a guy/girl into bed.

Coolidge · 07-23-2003, 09:28 PM

my girlfriend...is a slut.

seriously...

james t kirk · 07-24-2003, 05:59 AM

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Originally posted by rogue49
I do not like the word, period

It's a negative protrayal of a woman that likes sex, while still single.

Let's get out of that mentality.

I could not agree more.

Anyone who calls a woman a slut is an idiot in my books who is purely intimidated by female sexuality.

I am actually QUITE amazed that so many of you listed a woman who has sex with a man not her BF or hubby as a slut.

Even the dude, who tends to be a voice of reason in my eyes has surprised me here.

So sad to see that the old double standard is alive and well today in this world.

After all the discussion concerning sexuality in the last 40 years, how disheartening that a woman who enjoys sex for the sake of sex (like most men) is still labelled a slut.

Otaku · 07-24-2003, 07:57 PM

there aint no such thing.
if a girl sleeps around - good on her (so long as i get a bit too

)

why should you criticise her? Not your place to judge

taog · 07-24-2003, 08:26 PM

I am going to put my definition in before reading other peoples on here, so my mind isn't clouded.

I think a slut is as follows.

Someone who cheats on anyone is for sure a slut, no questions asked.

Someone who has had sex with 3 or more people in a year was pretty much a slut for that year. (based on the fact that most relationships are usually like 4-6 months). If you slept 3 or more people and dated them for 4-6 months, that means you pretty much can't go without dick for longer than a month. I find that pretty slutty.

Someone who will have sex with you the first day you meet them is probably a slut.

If someone likes having a lot of sex, that doesn't mean they are slutty though. That just means they like having sex with said partner. I think if a girl has been with over 8 guys, she's moving into slut area.

I think slut is also an attitude. Some girls don't get much, but they slut around and dress in clothes that are way too tight and are very revealing and all that. Those chicks are also slutty.

I would have to conclude that a slut is basically in the mind of the person kind of. If the person doesn't care about herself, or others, and will go out and sleep with pretty much anyone she finds somewhat attractive, she's pretty much a slut, or very confused.

Just to clear some things up

I don't call people sluts

I also think the above goes for males too... not just females... sleeping with anything is just dirty in my books and i won't go near it.

A lot of people are like this these days, and they just need to have more self respect and realise that people will like then whether they put out or not.

classique75 · 07-24-2003, 08:27 PM

What about a girl who sleeps with many guys because she enjoys sex? Is she a slut?

taog · 07-24-2003, 08:30 PM

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Originally posted by classique75
What about a girl who sleeps with many guys because she enjoys sex? Is she a slut?

find one partner and do it with them

I guess maybe not a slut, but dirty

I don't think i would date anyone who has had sex more than 7 people.

In my experiences, these people cheat and lie.

I am only 23, so 7 people by that time is a lot.

I think one different person a year is enough, and i don't see why people would need more. I mean sure, i want more, but when i think about it and look back, it would make me feel dirty.

I consider myself a slut for the year of 2002, since i slept with 2 people that year.

I don't know... i have experienced the dirtiest thing that could ever happen, so i'm a little bitter and sensative with this subject. I try to be very cautious now.

Fire · 07-30-2003, 11:09 PM

Rockzilla = rightontheheadnailedtothetreesignedsealeddelivered
Excellent summation- I have fucked girls that freely enjoy sex with whomever strikes their fancy that night- but I firmly believe in avoiding the sluts- its like giving a crack addict another hit- it does nothing good for them and a lot of bad....

stonecurran · 07-30-2003, 11:17 PM

a gril who has sex with heaps of different guys or a girl who has sex with someone who is already taken

maxero · 07-30-2003, 11:31 PM

id say a superficial promiscuous girl

MrFlux · 07-30-2003, 11:48 PM

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Originally posted by james t kirk
So sad to see that the old double standard is alive and well today in this world.

After all the discussion concerning sexuality in the last 40 years, how disheartening that a woman who enjoys sex for the sake of sex (like most men) is still labelled a slut.

I don't have double standards, I don't like mansluts either.

The.Lunatic · 07-31-2003, 01:25 AM

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Originally posted by Greg700
A girl is a slut if they are willing to sleep with everybody but me.

So true.

I'll personally define it as a girl who was irresponsible enough to either get pregnat with somebody that she shouldn't of.

Or was irresponsible enought to contract and STD

And finnally, but least importantly a girl who is no longer tight down there.

ARTelevision · 07-31-2003, 05:09 PM

I don't use the word

visotech · 07-31-2003, 05:36 PM

A Slut is a woman who will sleep with anyone and everyone.
A Bitch is a woman who will sleep with anyone except you.

I wish I knew a slut :-\

Katyblu · 07-31-2003, 05:43 PM

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Originally posted by Rodney
From the definitions above, a slut is a girl who acts like a 16-year-old boy who's told he can have sex anytime he wants. The boy would be considered lucky, the girl is considered trash. Typical.

I once picked up one of those thick women's studies/sociology tomes because I wanted to figure out why a fair number of "nice" women I've known treated other women really badly. Anyhow, their studies showed among other things that the slut label was put on teenager girls by -- other teenage girls. Guys would go along with calling somebody a slut once it got started, but it was almost always the girls who started it. Usually it was somebody whose breasts were a little too large or who dressed a little too provocatively and either wasn't in an "in" group or had offended somebody else who was. A lot of times the "slut" wasn't especially sexually active. It's just a way girls have of getting at somebody who appears a little too sexual (and might be getting more male attention than the other girls like) and is not "one of them."

My conclusion: men can be brutal, but women can be cruel.

I agree with you completely here.... not to mention I was called a slut in High School by the "popular' girls. I guess I just had a bigger chest than them and most of my friends were guys so.... instant hate from popular girls.

spectre · 07-31-2003, 07:33 PM

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Originally posted by ARTelevision
I don't use the word

Same here.

angela146 · 07-31-2003, 08:38 PM

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Originally posted by luminus
The term slut is typically only used in reference to women,...

Yes, it's an old word and in olden days (i.e. before 1960) it specifically applied only to women. Women in traditional English/Germanic cultures aren't supposed to enjoy sex.

A woman who does enjoy it (and who has sex for non-mercenary reasons) is dangerous to the "moral upstanding respectable" women of the community. She deprives them of their valuable currency.

If some woman is out there giving it away for free, they can't use sex as effectively as a way of getting what they want from men.

As a woman who enjoys sex, I have no problem being call a slut. When I hear the word "slut" used derisively toward a woman, I'm often am tempted to ask the one saying it, "What? Aren't you getting any?"

Imo, a woman who is proud of not being a slut is depriving herself of one of the simple pleasures of life.

angela146 · 07-31-2003, 08:52 PM

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Originally posted by taog
I don't think i would date anyone who has had sex more than 7 people.

In my experiences, these people cheat and lie.

Even the ones who are honest about having slept with a lot of people?

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I think one different person a year is enough, and i don't see why people would need more.

Cuz it's fun.

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I mean sure, i want more, but when i think about it and look back, it would make me feel dirty.

I consider myself a slut for the year of 2002, since i slept with 2 people that year.

I don't know... i have experienced the dirtiest thing that could ever happen, so i'm a little bitter and sensative with this subject. I try to be very cautious now.

I'm guessing that you're referring to a sexual assault. *That* would tend to make sex feel dirty or wrong.

However, sex in and of itself, with as many partners as you want, doesn't make you a liar or cheat. It's lying and cheating that make one a liar or a cheat.

james t kirk · 08-01-2003, 05:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by taog
find one partner and do it with them

I guess maybe not a slut, but dirty

I don't think i would date anyone who has had sex more than 7 people.

In my experiences, these people cheat and lie.

I am only 23, so 7 people by that time is a lot.

I think one different person a year is enough, and i don't see why people would need more. I mean sure, i want more, but when i think about it and look back, it would make me feel dirty.

I consider myself a slut for the year of 2002, since i slept with 2 people that year.

I don't know... i have experienced the dirtiest thing that could ever happen, so i'm a little bitter and sensative with this subject. I try to be very cautious now.

Are you male or female?

As you get older, your ideas will change. I can't believe you live in Canada. Alberta by any chance?

If you are still walking and talking, you have not experienced the dirtiest thing that could ever happen.

a2k · 08-01-2003, 09:47 AM

It was a vicious term applied seemingly randomly in high school. I think it correlated to little more than the rumor mill, and the definition (sleeps around) didn't seem to relate to the people it was applied to.

Don't here it used much in the circles I run in these days (except by my brother, applied only to himself).

more fire · 08-01-2003, 10:34 AM

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Originally posted by rockogre
Anyone who has no respect for themselves or any one else.

a perfect definition.

water_boy1999 · 08-01-2003, 03:11 PM

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Originally posted by warrrreagl
Well, here's my age showing again. I've never heard of a straight guy being called a "slut."

We used to call straight guys who fit all the above definitions "jocks."

I was a jock in high school, but i didn't lose my virginity till i was 20. I definitely didn't fall into your definition of "jock". In fact, I think a lot of jocks felt pressure to admit they were getting it on, but in reality, weren't getting it nearly as much as they bragged and boasted. The need to feel adult and mature runs high at that age as men try to find an identity and acceptance from their peers. I still know guys that will fabricate or overly exaggerate a story to gain acceptance.

A slut is someone who will sleep with anyone, has low self-esteem, uses sex as a weapon and an excuse for his/her inadequacies, and has little regard for their personal, mental, and physical health.

There is a difference between a slut, and someone who enjoys sex, has many partners over time, uses protection, and is responsible with their relationships.

punkgrl1984 · 08-01-2003, 09:40 PM

I dunno what my definiton of a "slut" is. When I look at other people it would be someone who has sex just for the sake of sex. But I have friends who have had thier share of partners and I would never say that about them. I think it is just something that you call someone to hurt them

Jesus Malverde · 08-01-2003, 11:39 PM

I don't know any exact criteria, but me and my friends know this girl and we call her a slut because she once fucked a guy through burglar bars...

p0thead · 08-02-2003, 01:32 AM

a slut is someone who sleeps around even though they are in a relationship.

LittleOralAnnie · 08-02-2003, 05:10 AM

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Originally posted by rockzilla
Someone who uses sex as a substitute for self-esteem.

I do believe I agree with this. I find this happens more in women than men though, in RL and online. The need to have sex with multiple partners no matter who they are, bragging about it online and off(even if it never happened) only to boost their low esteem to make people think they are cool because they know how to have sex.

Do men find slutty women more enticing than women who are cautious and use safety measures to avoid getting diseases or pregnant?

My definition : Slut is a demeaning word used to describe someone who has aimless sex with multiple partners without any affection being involved. Internet sluts are those who continously throw themselves at every man, woman, or thing they come across and post about ALL their sexual experiences.

I have no problems speaking of sex or talking about experiences but there are always that handful of people in RL and online who get off on it and never have any substance or intelligent things to say.

angela146 · 08-02-2003, 11:50 AM

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(Partial quote). Originally posted by LittleOralAnnie
Do men find slutty women more enticing than women who are cautious and use safety measures to avoid getting diseases or pregnant?

My definition : Slut is a demeaning word used to describe someone who has aimless sex with multiple partners without any affection being involved.

I think Annie has found the line based on three variables:.[list=1][*]Not being careful about pregnancy and diseases[*]Having "Multiple partners without any affection being involved"[*]Being indiscrete[/list=1]I have a real problem with the notion of someone being labeled a slut because she (and it's usually a "she") has multiple sex partners. IMHO: Good friends ought to be able to have recreational sex with each other without being stigmatized for it.

Not using protection or blabbing about who you have had sex with crosses a line for me. However, I would still rather not use the word "slut" for someone who has crossed that line because I don't like the name-calling aspect of it

aintyoboyfriend · 08-02-2003, 12:46 PM

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Originally posted by remiel
to me, a slut is someone who doesn't CARE who they sleep with.

You can sleep with a lot of people and not be a slut, so long as you had a genuine emotional connection with them. If you sleep with a lot of people for the sake of sleeping with a lot of people then you have a one way ticket to slutdom

I agree totally with this thought.

I heard a female friend of mine say last night, "I didn't sleep with him yet because I like him." This leads one to believe that if she just though he was hot, she would sleep with him.

miked10270 · 08-02-2003, 02:40 PM

When I was younger I slept with a lot of guys,but for me it was part of feeling that if I slept with a guy I would be able to keep him,and secondly I felt needed and secure due to my upbringing,but what does annoy me is that if a guy sleeps around he is classed as a stud,but if a girl sleeps around she is classed as a slut.My point is some women need to feel loved and needed,and if that means sleeping around so be it.You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

miked10270 · 08-02-2003, 02:42 PM

By the way it was Iona that replied to this post not Mike.

World's King · 08-02-2003, 04:53 PM

I'm a slut.

iona · 08-03-2003, 02:30 PM

Are you a female slut or a male stud?

GakFace · 08-03-2003, 02:46 PM

never heard stud used in the same context of slut.... thats new to me.

Personally slut doesn't hold its true meaning... completely. I use it among my friends (guy friends of course) to just throw jokes back at eachother. Put it this way, by the end of high school my nickname was (and kinda still is) "Whore".. Mind you I'm still a virgin. The words just became meaningless.

Although I might add.. Slut WAS meant to mean someone who just got around... for free. Where as a whore aka prostitute got paid to sleep around.

If you sleep around... A LOT.. then yeah you still probably will be considered a slut, but we live in an age where having sex isn't quite the 'taboo' it once was. Thus "slut" shouldn't carry the same context as it once did.

Eitherway, its not a word I care to use.

angela146 · 08-03-2003, 03:39 PM

Some useful reading material:

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
by Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg.../-/1890159018/

iona · 08-03-2003, 03:51 PM

Nice one Gakface I totally agree with you on that one

tenchi069 · 08-03-2003, 04:50 PM

A slut is anyone male, female, or "other" that will screw practically anything for no other reason than lust on a regular basis. That is my opinion on what the definition is.

mortius · 08-03-2003, 09:01 PM

My old best friends sister.

I had a temp split up from my wife (girlfriend at the time) was going out with another girl who was in the living room, I was in the bedroom trying to sleep, she came in, woke me up by kissing me, then told me she had scabies (right spelling?).

xman · 08-03-2003, 09:50 PM

sleep with you on the first date

Destrox · 08-03-2003, 10:09 PM

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Originally posted by crypt hound
"Slut" is a stupid term because people only use it for women. I think it's as bad as any racial slur, and I find myself discrediting and losing respect for people who use those terms accordingly.

Bingo, couldnt have said it better.

07-23-2003, 09:35 AM	#41 (permalink)
rockogre I aim to misbehave! Location: SW Oklahoma	Anyone who has no respect for themselves or any one else. __________________ Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for you, Jesus Christ and the American G. I. One died for your soul, the other for your freedom

07-30-2003, 11:09 PM	#49 (permalink)
Fire Warrior Smith Location: missouri	Rockzilla = rightontheheadnailedtothetreesignedsealeddelivered Excellent summation- I have fucked girls that freely enjoy sex with whomever strikes their fancy that night- but I firmly believe in avoiding the sluts- its like giving a crack addict another hit- it does nothing good for them and a lot of bad.... __________________ Thought the harder, Heart the bolder, Mood the more as our might lessens

07-30-2003, 11:31 PM	#51 (permalink)
maxero Crazy	id say a superficial promiscuous girl __________________ cough

07-31-2003, 05:09 PM	#54 (permalink)
ARTelevision I change Location: USA	I don't use the word __________________ create evolution

08-01-2003, 09:40 PM	#64 (permalink)
punkgrl1984 Tilted	I dunno what my definiton of a "slut" is. When I look at other people it would be someone who has sex just for the sake of sex. But I have friends who have had thier share of partners and I would never say that about them. I think it is just something that you call someone to hurt them __________________ [COLOR=Purple]life's what happens when you are busy making other plans -John Lennon[/COLOR]

07-23-2003, 09:20 PM	#42 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	In my opinion, a slut is someone who has sex with one OR more partners but does not have a real relationship with them. The reason for this sex is to gain popularity or to deal with self esteem issues by proving to his/herself that s/he can get a guy/girl into bed.

07-23-2003, 09:28 PM	#43 (permalink)
Coolidge Tilted	my girlfriend...is a slut. seriously...

07-24-2003, 07:57 PM	#45 (permalink)
Otaku Tilted	there aint no such thing. if a girl sleeps around - good on her (so long as i get a bit too ) why should you criticise her? Not your place to judge

07-24-2003, 08:26 PM	#46 (permalink)
taog Crazy Location: London, Ontario, Canada	I am going to put my definition in before reading other peoples on here, so my mind isn't clouded. I think a slut is as follows. Someone who cheats on anyone is for sure a slut, no questions asked. Someone who has had sex with 3 or more people in a year was pretty much a slut for that year. (based on the fact that most relationships are usually like 4-6 months). If you slept 3 or more people and dated them for 4-6 months, that means you pretty much can't go without dick for longer than a month. I find that pretty slutty. Someone who will have sex with you the first day you meet them is probably a slut. If someone likes having a lot of sex, that doesn't mean they are slutty though. That just means they like having sex with said partner. I think if a girl has been with over 8 guys, she's moving into slut area. I think slut is also an attitude. Some girls don't get much, but they slut around and dress in clothes that are way too tight and are very revealing and all that. Those chicks are also slutty. I would have to conclude that a slut is basically in the mind of the person kind of. If the person doesn't care about herself, or others, and will go out and sleep with pretty much anyone she finds somewhat attractive, she's pretty much a slut, or very confused. Just to clear some things up I don't call people sluts I also think the above goes for males too... not just females... sleeping with anything is just dirty in my books and i won't go near it. A lot of people are like this these days, and they just need to have more self respect and realise that people will like then whether they put out or not.

07-24-2003, 08:27 PM	#47 (permalink)
classique75 Psycho	What about a girl who sleeps with many guys because she enjoys sex? Is she a slut?

07-30-2003, 11:17 PM	#50 (permalink)
stonecurran Crazy Location: australia	a gril who has sex with heaps of different guys or a girl who has sex with someone who is already taken

07-31-2003, 05:36 PM	#55 (permalink)
visotech Insane Location: San Diego, CA	A Slut is a woman who will sleep with anyone and everyone. A Bitch is a woman who will sleep with anyone except you. I wish I knew a slut :-\

08-01-2003, 09:47 AM	#61 (permalink)
a2k Crazy Location: Seattle	It was a vicious term applied seemingly randomly in high school. I think it correlated to little more than the rumor mill, and the definition (sleeps around) didn't seem to relate to the people it was applied to. Don't here it used much in the circles I run in these days (except by my brother, applied only to himself).

08-01-2003, 11:39 PM	#65 (permalink)
Jesus Malverde Psycho Location: Sinaloa, Mexico	I don't know any exact criteria, but me and my friends know this girl and we call her a slut because she once fucked a guy through burglar bars... __________________ ...I'm that cat by the bar toasting to the good life...

08-02-2003, 01:32 AM	#66 (permalink)
p0thead Insane Location: born in vietnam, lost in california	a slut is someone who sleeps around even though they are in a relationship.

08-02-2003, 02:40 PM	#70 (permalink)
miked10270 Banned Location: Scotland	When I was younger I slept with a lot of guys,but for me it was part of feeling that if I slept with a guy I would be able to keep him,and secondly I felt needed and secure due to my upbringing,but what does annoy me is that if a guy sleeps around he is classed as a stud,but if a girl sleeps around she is classed as a slut.My point is some women need to feel loved and needed,and if that means sleeping around so be it.You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

08-02-2003, 02:42 PM	#71 (permalink)
miked10270 Banned Location: Scotland	By the way it was Iona that replied to this post not Mike.

08-02-2003, 04:53 PM	#72 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	I'm a slut. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

08-03-2003, 02:30 PM	#73 (permalink)
iona Upright Location: Scotland	Are you a female slut or a male stud? __________________ For sale, 9" Demi-Baguettes... Satisfaction guarenteed!!!

08-03-2003, 02:46 PM	#74 (permalink)
GakFace Go Ninja, Go Ninja Go!! Location: IN, USA	never heard stud used in the same context of slut.... thats new to me. Personally slut doesn't hold its true meaning... completely. I use it among my friends (guy friends of course) to just throw jokes back at eachother. Put it this way, by the end of high school my nickname was (and kinda still is) "Whore".. Mind you I'm still a virgin. The words just became meaningless. Although I might add.. Slut WAS meant to mean someone who just got around... for free. Where as a whore aka prostitute got paid to sleep around. If you sleep around... A LOT.. then yeah you still probably will be considered a slut, but we live in an age where having sex isn't quite the 'taboo' it once was. Thus "slut" shouldn't carry the same context as it once did. Eitherway, its not a word I care to use. __________________ RoboBlaster: Welcome to the club! Not that I'm in the club. And there really isn'a a club in the first place. But if there was a club and if I was in it, I would definitely welcome you to it.

08-03-2003, 03:39 PM	#75 (permalink)
angela146 Loser Location: Somewhere near Hubby	Some useful reading material: The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg.../-/1890159018/

08-03-2003, 03:51 PM	#76 (permalink)
iona Upright Location: Scotland	Nice one Gakface I totally agree with you on that one __________________ For sale, 9" Demi-Baguettes... Satisfaction guarenteed!!!

08-03-2003, 04:50 PM	#77 (permalink)
tenchi069 Lost Location: One step closer to the padded cell...	A slut is anyone male, female, or "other" that will screw practically anything for no other reason than lust on a regular basis. That is my opinion on what the definition is. __________________ ERROR- PLBSAK Problem Lies Between Seat and Keyboard.

08-03-2003, 09:01 PM	#78 (permalink)
mortius Tilted Location: Houston, Tx	My old best friends sister. I had a temp split up from my wife (girlfriend at the time) was going out with another girl who was in the living room, I was in the bedroom trying to sleep, she came in, woke me up by kissing me, then told me she had scabies (right spelling?). __________________ What's Your Addiction?

08-03-2003, 09:50 PM	#79 (permalink)
xman Tilted	sleep with you on the first date