SecretMethod70

Um... have you ever texted during sex? Would you?

I haven't, and I can't imagine feeling compelled to, but then again Jennifer Connelly reads and shops online during sex so, uh, I guess anything is possible.



10% of Under 25s Think It's OK to Text During Sex

What about the other things mentioned in the survey? Do you text/etc during meals? In the bathroom? Before/after sleep?

I don't often use my phone before or immediately after sleep, but I can see how that might change once I upgrade to the HTC Evo 4G this summer. Texting during meals is something I have done on occasion, but I don't think it's a very mindful use of one's time, not to mention it's rude if there are other people sharing the meal. In the bathroom, oddly enough, is where I see the least problem. The person on the other end (if you're texting; browsing is a solitary activity) has no idea where you are, and it's an otherwise wasted moment of the day. That said, it's still not a very mindful use of one's time: I don't necessarily live it, but I believe it's better for one's mental health to live life a little more slowly and not be multitasking at all times.

How about you?

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Punk.of.Ages

Texting during sex- No. I would never text somebody while having sex. If that's not an insult to the person you're sexing, I don't know what is...

Texting during eating- depends on who I'm with. If it's just casual dining or I'm eating alone, no problem. If I were on a date or participating in some other "formal" type of dining, I would not text, as it would be rude to do so.

Texting during toilet time- I see no problem with that and have pretty much the same reasoning as you, smeth.

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Jetée

I don't text at all. Never started, and don't think I ever will (hell, I barely even use IM or chat clients anymore).

I "talk" by either cyber-sending, picking up the telephone, opening up the window and shouting at you, or rummaging around my smelly boxes for some envelopes and relatively-dust-free paper and sending off a letter. Oh, and I can also walk up to people to convey my message. I've recently learned this last method is the best and worst way to achieve/receive a starting conversation or an awkward reply of "who the hell are you, guy?".

That said, I do keep up with the notions and news of "sexting", and I do find the news mostly hilarious, if not hugely depressing that teenage boys & girls are both dying and being charged with federal crimes because of their participation therein the lewd activity.

There's an old saying about this sort of thing: You can't have your cake and eat it, too.

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Baraka_Guru

You do realize that under-25s count jerking off to pr0n as sex, right?

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Gina_

I agree with Punk.Of.Ages, I cannot imagine anything more insulting than texting during sex. One could even say it's a passive aggressive way of showing her disdain for her partner. If the sex is that boring, maybe Jennifer should find another man. Most certainly, her current partner should dump her.

As for texting during meals, I don't allow it at my table and wouldn't do it unless I was anxiously waiting for a response from a loved one.

I guess it's ok to text in the bathroom, there is no insult, but I wouldn't and don't. Ewwww, comes to mind.

Cynthetiq

sex is about intimacy, if you can't allow yourself to be 100% into intimacy there's some issues that are definitely there.

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flat5

I don't text.
I don't call anyone while eating and if they do I ask them to call me back later.

Sex is not a part of my life.

Pearl Trade

Eating: I usually eat by myself, so no problem.
Restroom: I'll text while I'm dropping logs, and depending on who I'm texting, I'll let that person know.
Sex: I can't believe people actually think that would be ok to do. I mean, seriously?

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MSD

My friend Pablo will answer his phone while getting head, and occasionally during sex if he thinks it's important. At first I thought it was more obvious than he thought it was, but he really just doesn't care. As far as other activities, I'll text when convenient, and if I didn't have mobile Internet on my phone I don't know how I'd pass the time in public bathrooms.

Reno

she could read our divorce papers during our last sexual encounter.

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Plan9

Yeah, and by "texting during sex," they mean taking a break to text and then going back to the activity. Certainly not while balls deep in the act.

I'd have a hard to focusing on the pommeling of my partner's velvet-lined loveholster if she was tapping away at her fucking Blackberry.

And I often lose all fine motor controls when I'm snarlin' a saucy lass. I can't operate the English language let alone a goddamn phone keyboard.

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dlish

you should have a bit more confidence in your skillz.. you cant be that bad

they say that if you want to delay the onset of the big O, that you think of something bad, boring or a situation you didnt like. Maybe divorce papers is the right way to go

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Plan9

*cackle-cackle* When did you get so funny?

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Daniel_

I call my wife during sex.

But only so she know's when I'll be home.

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World's King

Texting while eating is okay if you're by yourself. If you're at a table with people... put your phone away. And texting while on the toilet... who cares. I read sports updates.


But during sex... hell no. Unless it's "Dude, your mom and your little sister are really good at giving head. Your dad isn't bad either."

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Ourcrazymodern?

I think riding the horse backwards makes more sense, but I haven't understood modern youth since before my offspring came of age. Unlike the dog, the phone doesn't belong in the bedroom.

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genuinegirly

I find this concept repulsive. I guess this shows my age.

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CinnamonGirl

Call me selfish, but I want your full attention during sex. I'm focusing on you, and I expect you to be focusing on me (or, uh...what I'm doing to you). If you're not...I'll move my focus elsewhere

Any other time...I don't mind. Oh, except at the movies. That's annoying.

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Plan9

Wow, this activity is actually worse than having ESPN muted in the background while your girlfriend works out her neck muscles in your lap.

Are we that ADHD that we can be distracted during what is probably the most intense physical activity we engage in on a regular basis?

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BadNick

how about using texting as sex play when you're not with your lover? I first heard about sexting as kids/youngins texting sexy pictures of themselves to each other. But I can imagine sexting as flirting and playing sexy games with an S.O. and then when you finally meet again ...who knows?

Spanxxx

I wonder if by "texting during sex", in the survey, most people read that as, "Have you ever received or sent a text message while having sex?" I'm guess a lot of people in that age group that have phones beeping nearly every 3 minutes all day long couldn't get away from receiving messages, and the temptation to read them is just too high I notice. I work with youth (7-12th graders) and they will be in mid-sentence telling you something, get a text message, pause, read the text, then look back at you and remember they were talking. It's ridiculous. It's also the reason we take their phones up when we are together.

Now, I could see both parties of a couple sending text msgs to someone together as a joke, or whatever. If they were both party to it. Not just the girl or guy being a jerk and totally taking a break from sweet sweet coitus to tell your pal that you'll be late to the movie cause your SO hasn't managed to make you "go" yet.

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CinnamonGirl

Flirting with someone via texting is waaaaaay different than texting while different parts are inside of various... other parts, though.

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Plan9

Oooh, say it again.

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levite

OK, I'm sorry, but if you're texting, reading, shopping, watching sports, talking on the phone, or pretty much anything during sex except having sex...one or both of two things are true:

1. Your lover sucks beyond belief. And not in a good way.

2. You have major issues with permitting yourself sexual pleasure.


Any partner of mine who did that would become an ex on the spot.

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Daniel_

I'm not above handing my wife the phone if it rings while we're at it and caller ID shows it's her mother.

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hermpes

I texted once and shall never text again. I was getting a blowjob and all of a sudden my phone vibrates. So I check it and send a reply. Blowjob ends. My ladyfriend was NOT happy. I was so relaxed I didn't even think about how she would perceive it. Negatively.

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Jetée

I forgot my opening synopsis to this image... so, it's just there.



And to assess, I don't agree at all with the matter-of-fact manner in which some seem to authorate the action of sex: since the beginning of... I don't when, but really amping up in the past decade or so, everyone seems to want to become the ultimate multi-tasker. Includinging copulation into that equation is no different (save for the fact that multi-tasking is one of the worst human inventions of all time).

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Plan9

Jetee, that made my day.

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LordEden

I don't think I've ever texted during sex, I have answered the phone as a joke.

"Hellooooooo, FUCK YEAH BABY!

*sex noises and such*

Ummmm... what the fuck are you doing?

I'm taking the beef bus to tunaaaaaaaAAAHHHH OUCH! Stop fucking biting me! Town! Tuna town! Ohhhhh yeah, moan for daddy baby...

I'll call you back dude. *click*"

We only did that because we knew it would fuck with the person on the other end. Actually drawing attention away from the person that allowed me to my penis in them? I'd say no.

I do text at dinner (When alone or at a casual setting) and I do text on the shitter, but I'm usually checking email/twitter/google news.

Knew a guy once that made a girl give him head while he was playing on his xbox in hopes it would show her he didn't care for her anymore. Didn't work, she went right to town and didn't miss a beat.

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Sue

I would never text during something so important!

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Honesty

I've never had a cell phone.

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blahblah454

During sex or anything even remotely close to sex is just fucked. That includes all kissing or foreplay or even dirty talk leading up to it. Fucking retarded people!

I have a friend that used to regularly get head while playing counter strike.

Jetée

He must be feeling horrible about being so 'retarded' whilst he enjoyed himself, "two ways to Sunday", even.

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Fire

I have never texted anyone, for any reason, and in fact do not know how to- I do not own a cell phone either, though my wife finally gave in and got one, and I will likely succumb to the siren call of the cell sometime soon.. but I have no interest in learning to type on a fucking PHONE... AS to the OP texting during sex is gauche at best, and downright insulting to ones partner at worst... I have answered a phone while getting head, and continued to fuck a girl while she took a call from her dad.... but texting or making an outgoing call is a no no.....

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Eilonwy

I used to try to never text, but I finally broke down and got a phone with a qwerty keyboard due to friends and cousins who refuse to communicate any other way.

Texting during sex, or doing anything else other than having sex, just says to me that you're not interested... so that would be the end of that.

Any other time, as long as it's not rude to the people around you, is fine. I agree with whomever mentioned the movies... even opening a phone during a movie is very distracting if the person is in your line of sight.

raging moderate

For a long time I was with a girl that would give me head while I played video games...I'm not sure if that relates to this conversation but it was pretty awesome

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Bill O'Rights

I do not text. At all. So, it should therefore come as no surprise that I cannot even begin to imagine the circumstance where I would consider doing so during sex.

Well, unless it was to text Alexis Denisof. "Dude! I'm totally nailing your wife! Right now!"

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Baraka_Guru

Even if I wanted to text during sex...I'm not sure—at that particular time, while engaging in such an activity—that I would even remember how the alphabet works, let alone a mobile device.

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Strange Famous

I have no problem in texting or even having a conversation on the phone while on the toilet, or taking a piss - although on a couple of occasions the person that called me has been offended when they ask where I am and I answer "taking a shit" - I dont know why. They shouldnt call if they dont want me to answer.

If you are eating alone its fine, but if in company its pretty rude

While having sex I'd take it as a bit of an insult to be honest if the girl was texting someone, and I think I'd be too focused on the situation at hand to do it myself

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levite

Sir, you are an awesome human being, and I bow before your wisdom...!

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