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Warf Rat · 06-12-2009, 11:53 AM

It's great to see everyone put things into perspective here.
My thought. If you wait until you can afford it, you'll never start. If you wait until your ready, there's never a day you wake up ready. If you think getting away while owning a dog is tough, it is. You will rarely want to be away from your child. It's a non-issue.

I have two children and on grandchild. I was too young, not prepared, completely broke (actually homeless). Also, I am not very religious. That said.
You are about to enter the greatest time of your life. He or she will remind you every day that there is a god, and you have purpose. It gets better daily (until about age 13). Even then it's harder but awesome.

Imagine the pride you will feel with every stage of life knowing that he/she is half YOU. There's no better place to be.

It may take time, but you will understand. You've just learned that your life has changed forever, and it's the greatest thing in the world.

Best of luck

Halanna · 06-12-2009, 04:04 PM

I can't speak to your feelings right now. It's individual, personal and unique.

But I can tell you my story.

When I got pregnant with our son, we were young, dumb and clueless.

Just married, living in an apartment with no furniture. Idiots.

We were using birth control. (obviously it failed)

I drank, smoked cigarettes and generally negleted what should have been the health of my unborn child.

But I was young, dumb and clueless.

My son is now 16. Will be 17 in December. He's 6'3", 190lbs.

He just left the 10th grade with a 4.45 GPA. He's being currently courted by The University of Notre Dame for a full 4 year academic scholarship. Funny, He's thinking of holding out for a better school.

Kids, sigh.

Love your child. Don't stuff that child into daycare at 6 weeks. Don't underestimate the love that a parent gives that child in his/her early years. My husband worked two full time jobs to provide for us, so I could stay home and take care of our son.

I'm not a medical doctor, I can't attest that what you do or don't do will be good or bad for the developing baby.

I'm confident that all babies needs love. Acceptance. A parent at home. Not at daycare.

jimk · 06-22-2009, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Crompsin

Witty retorts aside, why's that? Because I understand the gravity of the choice to bring another wallet-eating screaming poo-factory into the world?

Somebody show me the sacred part.

no........

because you don't want to any little people like you running around and we don't either. just because you're aware of the fact that you would be a shitty parent doesn't mean humans should stop reproducing.

Plan9 · 06-22-2009, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by jimk

no........

because you don't want to any little people like you running around and we don't either. just because you're aware of the fact that you would be a shitty parent doesn't mean humans should stop reproducing.

Oh-ho, and I'll assume you're a bitter mediocre parent who's defending all they have left to live for in the world.

Lotta good assumption does us both, huh?

...

My point is that the OP shouldn't have another kid just because the biology happened. The biology can happen again and again. Financial stability, emotional readiness, etc... those are what require the real cultivation to be successful in This Modern World (TM).

You wouldn't bring in every puppy / kitten / homeless person that shows up on your doorstep just because it was there, would ya?

Noooo, it's a big deal to care for another living thing, especially one that is completely helpless for years and mostly helpless at 18.

...

Reproduction: it doesn't make you special.

Sue · 06-22-2009, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Crompsin

*ponders dropping the A bomb*

Anal? *lmao*

ASU2003 · 06-22-2009, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Crompsin

Reproduction: it doesn't make you special.

You need to make that bumper sticker.

Plan9 · 06-22-2009, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Sue

Anal? *lmao*

No, ma'am, not what I was getting at... but much more fun.

hunnychile · 06-22-2009, 06:57 PM

It's quite comforting to see how many people say that they are glad (and happy or blessed) that they're a parent! Looks like 90% or so, if one were to score these responses. No need, it's all clear and interesting to read and understand how so many of the accidental parents learned to love the babies and were glad that they kept their kids and/or didn't run away from their responsibilities.

Thanks NoSoup for your original post, and everyone who has shared their story since it gives me some hope for our future. Those of you who are "absolutely opposed" must have your own private reasons for being so down on having kids.

It's no surprise that loved kids tend to become loved parents.

Sue · 06-22-2009, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Crompsin

No, ma'am, not what I was getting at... but much more fun.

You have to admit, that would have been a perfect A word for this thread though.

Plan9 · 06-22-2009, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Sue

You have to admit, that would have been a perfect A word for this thread though.

Well, Jazz told me that I'm never serious in any of these threads so I was trying to be all Marty Mature. Heh.

But yeah, the best joke one-liner for this thread would have been: "Anal: Safe fun for everyone!"

Seriously.

NoSoup · 09-21-2009, 06:47 PM

Well, Since this thread officially marks the day we found out we were pregnant, I figure I might as well continue the trend, if for nothing else it helps me keep my dates in order.

Today we had our second ultrasound, and found out with a relatively high degree of certainty that we will, in fact, be having a boy. If it isn't a boy, then my daughter is hung like a horse.

As far as our emotional well being and current state of mind, I certainly feel a lot less like vomiting. Lots of things have been changing lately (job, living situation, etc) so I don't know how much of an impact that has, but life seems to be pretty crazy. Overall, doing alright, though to be quite honest I'm still quite terrified, though I'm sure it will eventually pass.

I did take a step forward, and touched a child (wow, that sounds perverted - held hands while guiding him up the stairs) for the first time a couple of weeks ago. Obviously, I have a long way to go, but I didn't melt or die, so I suppose that's progress...

dlish · 09-21-2009, 07:08 PM

Nosoup, baby-lish is now almost 8 weeks old. i remember going through the exact same feelings you did. you'll continue having them a little while longer too.

dont be freaked out at how long it may take..good luck and let us know how things are going.

Xerxys · 09-21-2009, 07:28 PM

You parent people on TFP are disgusting ... NoSoup already beginning to comment on how his kids are well hung ... whos gonna be the next one to say their kids can throw a baseball at 95 MP/h.

GreyWolf · 09-22-2009, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by alicat

We knew nothing of this when our first and only child (son) was born in 1993 and lived and died in the NICU at 2 1/2 mths. old, never coming home with and to us (if that sounded cold, it is only because i'd write way too much if I let emotion's in...)

We cannot have children together because the risks are so high, yet we have always wanted to have children, not grow into our old age with no children or grandbabies. We're both 38 and time is getting short but we have nowhere near the finances to adopt a sweet baby.

First, let me express my heartfelt sympathy to you Alicat. My wife had a hard time getting pregnant the first time ... went through test after test, finally ended up on fertility drugs to which she reacted very badly. And so, month after month, we would feel the disappointment of a no result. Eventually we succeeded, but I know how badly each "failure" felt, and I can only imagine how much worse your pain is. Again, my deepest sympathy for your situation.

For NoSoup... I was more than ready, but I always new I wasn't a "baby" person. I like kids, but having to go through the baby-phase to get to an age where they're fun (say, 4+) was a necessary evil in my mind. Let me tell you from the far side of babies, they are just as much work & mess as I ever thought, but WORLDS OF FUN & ENJOYMENT more than I ever imagined.

You play the hand life deals you, and sometimes you find it's a lot better one than you thought. I think a year or 2 from now, you'll find it hard to believe you had any trepidation about having the child.

Vigilante · 09-22-2009, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by NoSoup

Well, Since this thread officially marks the day we found out we were pregnant, I figure I might as well continue the trend, if for nothing else it helps me keep my dates in order.

Today we had our second ultrasound, and found out with a relatively high degree of certainty that we will, in fact, be having a boy. If it isn't a boy, then my daughter is hung like a horse.

As far as our emotional well being and current state of mind, I certainly feel a lot less like vomiting. Lots of things have been changing lately (job, living situation, etc) so I don't know how much of an impact that has, but life seems to be pretty crazy. Overall, doing alright, though to be quite honest I'm still quite terrified, though I'm sure it will eventually pass.

I did take a step forward, and touched a child (wow, that sounds perverted - held hands while guiding him up the stairs) for the first time a couple of weeks ago. Obviously, I have a long way to go, but I didn't melt or die, so I suppose that's progress...

Well it's good that you took it that well. My wife played a joke on me once where she took apart a preggers test and highlighted it positive. Oh man. I didn't freak, but she said my "face was priceless". Har har. Very funny. >_<

She told me if she got prego she would run to planned parenthood. I'd stop her and make her get in the truck. It's faster

NoSoup · 12-31-2009, 05:53 PM

One more update, I'll detail the full story later, as it is a bit of a story, but my son (Henseforth known as A Little Soup) was born today - quite unexpectedly, since he wasn't due til' Feb 5th, 2010. All is pretty well with him, they are just monitering him closely because he was 5 weeks premature. On the up side, way to slide in at the tail end of '09 for the writeoff

Happy New Year!

Spartanx9 · 12-31-2009, 06:20 PM

Congrats

highthief · 12-31-2009, 06:28 PM

Congrats and welcome to the world of sleepless nights!

*Nikki* · 12-31-2009, 06:29 PM

Congrats on your new baby!

Cynthetiq · 12-31-2009, 06:39 PM

congrats to the little soup! i'm a tax break baby myself.... it's all good!

SecretMethod70 · 12-31-2009, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by NoSoup

One more update, I'll detail the full story later, as it is a bit of a story, but my son (Henseforth known as A Little Soup) was born today - quite unexpectedly, since he wasn't due til' Feb 5th, 2010. All is pretty well with him, they are just monitering him closely because he was 5 weeks premature. On the up side, way to slide in at the tail end of '09 for the writeoff

Happy New Year!

Congrats

I was about 4 weeks premature... that will either reassure you or terrify you.

Daniel_ · 01-01-2010, 02:09 AM

At least you'll never forget his birthday!

Hope all goes well in the next couple of decades.

genuinegirly · 01-01-2010, 02:32 AM

What an exciting bit of news! Congrats!

Salem · 01-01-2010, 12:44 PM

That's fantastic!!! Welcome to the world Little Soup!!!!

Craven Morehead · 01-01-2010, 01:24 PM

Wonderful news!!!! Congratulations.

filtherton · 01-01-2010, 02:09 PM

Congrats, and good luck getting some sleep!

dlish · 01-01-2010, 08:32 PM

wow i missed this one!

congratulations Bigsoup!

my regards to Ladysoup and Littlesoup!

lulu_mq · 01-01-2010, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Shell

...my late husband (died young 2 yrs after the birth of his son) did not really want children but the second his baby son came out, i looked at him and saw a completely different person. He was totally enamored, totally captivated, eyes were filled with love and a complete softening of his whole being was evident. I mean, he was always a good, kind loving husband but this event just got him hook, line, and sinker. It may surprise you too.

...bringing life into the world is so awesome, it will take your breath away...and then nothing else matters...the labor-pains the mother underwent is forgotten, the financial worries are overcome by a surge of lovefed-adrenalin that puts you in survival mode to nurture and protect the most precious thing that has ever been placed in your care. Your selfish desires for time and space vanish as you desire to share what's the most important thing in life...love and family. I remember my husband wanted to put a "Precious Cargo" sign on the car to bring the baby home from the hospital. He couldn't stop kissing his tiny soft head. He couldn't take his eyes off him. It was the most endearing thing i've ever watched.

...it was such a loss when my husband died so appreciate and savor this amazing gift you've been blessed with. If your wife is pregnant, you're the luckiest man in the world.

three lines into this, and im already balling...im such a boob.

---------- Post added at 08:50 PM ---------- Previous post was at 08:46 PM ----------

Also Nosoup, congrats on the new little guy. Give him lots of love! HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Warf Rat · 01-02-2010, 10:49 AM

congrats too you and your new family.

I hope you enjoyed the least expensive Christmas in a very long time.

Scorps · 01-02-2010, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DJ Happy

My daughter was an accident and I remember sweating bullets when I found out my girlfriend (now my wife) was pregnant - there was no way I was ready to be father, what the hell was I going to do, etc. 6 years later, it was the biggest blessing in my life. Not a single day goes by that I don't give thanks for my daughter, even after she washed my car with rocks.

same thing here I was scared and always saying I'm going to be horrible dad and all that, But I wouldn't change a thing 2 kids later

The_Jazz · 01-04-2010, 06:18 AM

Awesome NoSoup! That's fantastic news! One day you should show him this thread. Maybe when he's ready to have kids of his own...

ShaniFaye · 01-04-2010, 10:38 AM

how great!!! Congrats

for the rest of his life people will be counting down to when his birthday is over lol

dlish · 05-25-2010, 08:47 AM

any new updates Soup??

06-12-2009, 11:53 AM	#41 (permalink)
Warf Rat Psycho Location: Philadelphia	It's great to see everyone put things into perspective here. My thought. If you wait until you can afford it, you'll never start. If you wait until your ready, there's never a day you wake up ready. If you think getting away while owning a dog is tough, it is. You will rarely want to be away from your child. It's a non-issue. I have two children and on grandchild. I was too young, not prepared, completely broke (actually homeless). Also, I am not very religious. That said. You are about to enter the greatest time of your life. He or she will remind you every day that there is a god, and you have purpose. It gets better daily (until about age 13). Even then it's harder but awesome. Imagine the pride you will feel with every stage of life knowing that he/she is half YOU. There's no better place to be. It may take time, but you will understand. You've just learned that your life has changed forever, and it's the greatest thing in the world. Best of luck __________________ A day late, and a dollar short.

06-22-2009, 06:57 PM	#48 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	It's quite comforting to see how many people say that they are glad (and happy or blessed) that they're a parent! Looks like 90% or so, if one were to score these responses. No need, it's all clear and interesting to read and understand how so many of the accidental parents learned to love the babies and were glad that they kept their kids and/or didn't run away from their responsibilities. Thanks NoSoup for your original post, and everyone who has shared their story since it gives me some hope for our future. Those of you who are "absolutely opposed" must have your own private reasons for being so down on having kids. It's no surprise that loved kids tend to become loved parents. __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB

09-21-2009, 06:47 PM	#51 (permalink)
NoSoup Non-Rookie Location: Green Bay, WI	Well, Since this thread officially marks the day we found out we were pregnant, I figure I might as well continue the trend, if for nothing else it helps me keep my dates in order. Today we had our second ultrasound, and found out with a relatively high degree of certainty that we will, in fact, be having a boy. If it isn't a boy, then my daughter is hung like a horse. As far as our emotional well being and current state of mind, I certainly feel a lot less like vomiting. Lots of things have been changing lately (job, living situation, etc) so I don't know how much of an impact that has, but life seems to be pretty crazy. Overall, doing alright, though to be quite honest I'm still quite terrified, though I'm sure it will eventually pass. I did take a step forward, and touched a child (wow, that sounds perverted - held hands while guiding him up the stairs) for the first time a couple of weeks ago. Obviously, I have a long way to go, but I didn't melt or die, so I suppose that's progress... __________________ I have an aura of reliability and good judgement. Just in case you were wondering...

09-21-2009, 07:08 PM	#52 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	Nosoup, baby-lish is now almost 8 weeks old. i remember going through the exact same feelings you did. you'll continue having them a little while longer too. dont be freaked out at how long it may take..good luck and let us know how things are going. __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy

12-31-2009, 05:53 PM	#56 (permalink)
NoSoup Non-Rookie Location: Green Bay, WI	One more update, I'll detail the full story later, as it is a bit of a story, but my son (Henseforth known as A Little Soup) was born today - quite unexpectedly, since he wasn't due til' Feb 5th, 2010. All is pretty well with him, they are just monitering him closely because he was 5 weeks premature. On the up side, way to slide in at the tail end of '09 for the writeoff Happy New Year! __________________ I have an aura of reliability and good judgement. Just in case you were wondering...

06-12-2009, 04:04 PM	#42 (permalink)
Halanna Insane Location: Over the rainbow . .	I can't speak to your feelings right now. It's individual, personal and unique. But I can tell you my story. When I got pregnant with our son, we were young, dumb and clueless. Just married, living in an apartment with no furniture. Idiots. We were using birth control. (obviously it failed) I drank, smoked cigarettes and generally negleted what should have been the health of my unborn child. But I was young, dumb and clueless. My son is now 16. Will be 17 in December. He's 6'3", 190lbs. He just left the 10th grade with a 4.45 GPA. He's being currently courted by The University of Notre Dame for a full 4 year academic scholarship. Funny, He's thinking of holding out for a better school. Kids, sigh. Love your child. Don't stuff that child into daycare at 6 weeks. Don't underestimate the love that a parent gives that child in his/her early years. My husband worked two full time jobs to provide for us, so I could stay home and take care of our son. I'm not a medical doctor, I can't attest that what you do or don't do will be good or bad for the developing baby. I'm confident that all babies needs love. Acceptance. A parent at home. Not at daycare.

09-21-2009, 07:28 PM	#53 (permalink)
Xerxys Junkie Location: My head.	You parent people on TFP are disgusting ... NoSoup already beginning to comment on how his kids are well hung ... whos gonna be the next one to say their kids can throw a baseball at 95 MP/h.

12-31-2009, 06:20 PM	#57 (permalink)
Spartanx9 Crazy Location: Tucson	Congrats

12-31-2009, 06:28 PM	#58 (permalink)
highthief Junkie Location: Ontario, Canada	Congrats and welcome to the world of sleepless nights! __________________ Si vis pacem parabellum.

12-31-2009, 06:29 PM	#59 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	Congrats on your new baby!

12-31-2009, 06:39 PM	#60 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	congrats to the little soup! i'm a tax break baby myself.... it's all good! __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

01-01-2010, 02:09 AM	#62 (permalink)
Daniel_ Evil Priest: The Devil Made Me Do It! Location: Southern England	At least you'll never forget his birthday! Hope all goes well in the next couple of decades. __________________ ╔═════════════════════════════════════════╗ Overhead, the Albatross hangs motionless upon the air, And deep beneath the rolling waves, In labyrinths of Coral Caves, The Echo of a distant time Comes willowing across the sand; And everthing is Green and Submarine ╚═════════════════════════════════════════╝

01-01-2010, 02:32 AM	#63 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	What an exciting bit of news! Congrats! __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

01-01-2010, 12:44 PM	#64 (permalink)
Salem Psycho Location: Canada	That's fantastic!!! Welcome to the world Little Soup!!!! Last edited by Salem; 01-01-2010 at 12:51 PM..

01-01-2010, 01:24 PM	#65 (permalink)
Craven Morehead Custom User Title	Wonderful news!!!! Congratulations.

01-01-2010, 02:09 PM	#66 (permalink)
filtherton Junkie Location: In the land of ice and snow.	Congrats, and good luck getting some sleep!

01-01-2010, 08:32 PM	#67 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	wow i missed this one! congratulations Bigsoup! my regards to Ladysoup and Littlesoup! __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy

01-02-2010, 10:49 AM	#69 (permalink)
Warf Rat Psycho Location: Philadelphia	congrats too you and your new family. I hope you enjoyed the least expensive Christmas in a very long time. __________________ A day late, and a dollar short.

01-04-2010, 06:18 AM	#71 (permalink)
The_Jazz Asshole Administrator Location: Chicago	Awesome NoSoup! That's fantastic news! One day you should show him this thread. Maybe when he's ready to have kids of his own... __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - B. Franklin "There ought to be limits to freedom." - George W. Bush "We have met the enemy and he is us." - Pogo

01-04-2010, 10:38 AM	#72 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	how great!!! Congrats for the rest of his life people will be counting down to when his birthday is over lol __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

05-25-2010, 08:47 AM	#73 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	any new updates Soup?? __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy