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Originally Posted by alicat
We knew nothing of this when our first and only child (son) was born in 1993 and lived and died in the NICU at 2 1/2 mths. old, never coming home with and to us (if that sounded cold, it is only because i'd write way too much if I let emotion's in...)
We cannot have children together because the risks are so high, yet we have always wanted to have children, not grow into our old age with no children or grandbabies. We're both 38 and time is getting short but we have nowhere near the finances to adopt a sweet baby.
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First, let me express my heartfelt sympathy to you Alicat. My wife had a hard time getting pregnant the first time ... went through test after test, finally ended up on fertility drugs to which she reacted very badly. And so, month after month, we would feel the disappointment of a no result. Eventually we succeeded, but I know how badly each "failure" felt, and I can only imagine how much worse your pain is. Again, my deepest sympathy for your situation.
For NoSoup... I was more than ready, but I always new I wasn't a "baby" person. I like kids, but having to go through the baby-phase to get to an age where they're fun (say, 4+) was a necessary evil in my mind. Let me tell you from the far side of babies, they are just as much work & mess as I ever thought, but WORLDS OF FUN & ENJOYMENT more than I ever imagined.
You play the hand life deals you, and sometimes you find it's a lot better one than you thought. I think a year or 2 from now, you'll find it hard to believe you had any trepidation about having the child.