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foxycop4u · 09-28-2005, 05:21 AM

Just wanted to say hello to each of you. I looked through alotof the threads on this site, and just wanted to say that I am a gay male, new to this site, and hope that there will be no tensions and/or issues with my lifestyle.
I am most comfortable with all aspects oflife, and all types of people, so feel free to say hello. And thank you for welcoming me to the site. ONe of the threads i noticed was as to why there weren'tmany gay maleson here. I am sure that there are a few here, but they may not address theissues in a public forum.
I am comfortable with the way i live my life. I am out to closest friends, and family. Being p, really makes it interesting, as I amnot out at work, and have no intention, nor need to ever do such a thing.
again, thank you for welcoming me, and look forward to chaiting soon.

Daoust · 09-28-2005, 05:39 AM

Most people when they first came here didn't automatically divulge their sexual orientation, as though they had to. The first thought that came to my mind as I read this post was that you were defending yourself, against prejudice, against people who might have issues with your sexual preference, etc.

I think you'll find here that we don't judge you on things like if you're gay or not. For the most part, we don't care. Whether you're gay or not will not determine how well you fit in here on the TFP, but rather what will is your capacity for abstract thought and your ability to stimulate interesting discussions.

martinguerre · 09-28-2005, 06:44 AM

for any number of reasons, this board isn't all that queer...especially when it comes to men. some polls indicate there are more than i've seen, but lurking is somewhat common here.

certainly, there is a vast level of acceptance, at least in the abstract. and i reccomend you value that. it's a step above many of the communities we walk into.

but like with any human endevour, there are problems and issues. whatever it is now, this board largely started focused on hetero porn. and that does, at times, have some bearing on the tone that's taken here.

all in all...react to *individuals* and their capacity for friendship and understanding. you will find many of them here...enough to justify the occasional annoyances, IMO.

lurkette · 09-28-2005, 07:07 AM

Welcome, and I think you'll find us a pretty tolerant bunch. Daoust said it well - we tend to be accepting of intelligent, thoughtful and civil folks, regardless of their identities; if you're an asshat, we'll call you on it. Have fun!

foxycop4u · 09-28-2005, 07:49 AM

THANK YOU for the graciousness in comments. I wasn't trying to "defend" my self, or my life-style. was merely making it known, in response to something i read in a few other threads. did not mean to offend, if it did, and didn't mean to imply a defense. I am who I am and have the best friends, who accept me, for me, and not for who i sleep with, which is what its all about.
i have enjoyed the brief time i have been here, and look forward to more time on here..
take care and be safe

ShaniFaye · 09-28-2005, 07:50 AM

howdy!!!!!

I see you're in the SE....are you around Atlanta?

foxycop4u · 09-28-2005, 07:54 AM

Sorry no, no in Atlanta.. been there a few times, got lost each time, but am generally between South Carolina and Florida..... I am lucky in that aspect.......

snowy · 09-28-2005, 07:57 AM

Welcome, and I hope you find TFP as great a place to explore parts of yourself, your thoughts, and your opinions as I have.

Enjoy.

ShaniFaye · 09-28-2005, 07:58 AM

I've lived in atlanta since 1976 and I still get lost hehehehe

Savannah? lol Dave and I are always looking for new friends in Savannah

ruggerp11 · 09-28-2005, 09:49 AM

YAY for new members!
*runs around arms flailing*

abaya · 09-28-2005, 01:10 PM

A big ol' welcome from PA... I'm very happy to have you on the boards and ready to speak up!

tecoyah · 09-28-2005, 01:15 PM

No one here will care one way or another if you are gay.....unless they hit on you, which is entirely possible

In Fact...How You Doin?

analog · 09-28-2005, 05:35 PM

It's great to see a new member who already feels so comfortable on the boards. As has been said, I suspect we have many more gay men on the boards than let on, but that's perfectly fine. We don't care about orientation here, we're really all just here to enjoy the community, the laughs, and the good discussion. Everyone's comfort level is different, and not everyone feels ok with divulging everything about themselves- whether right away, or even over time.

More, and different, insight is always great, and always welcomed, because really that's just another facet of what this great community is all about. It's good to get your feet wet and see what's going on, because there's always plenty to see. The best advice is just to experience everything for yourself, and keep an open mind about how you perceive the way people post on certain topics. Everyone has their own thoughts, ideas and experiences to add to the mix, and we come from all over.

Above all, have fun! And if you need anything or have any problems, PM a moderator like myself, tecoyah, or lurkette (just to point out the ones already having posted in here, there are plenty more of us) or an admin. We're all here to take care of the boards.

09-28-2005, 05:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
foxycop4u Upright Location: South East United States	gay male/rookie Just wanted to say hello to each of you. I looked through alotof the threads on this site, and just wanted to say that I am a gay male, new to this site, and hope that there will be no tensions and/or issues with my lifestyle. I am most comfortable with all aspects oflife, and all types of people, so feel free to say hello. And thank you for welcoming me to the site. ONe of the threads i noticed was as to why there weren'tmany gay maleson here. I am sure that there are a few here, but they may not address theissues in a public forum. I am comfortable with the way i live my life. I am out to closest friends, and family. Being p, really makes it interesting, as I amnot out at work, and have no intention, nor need to ever do such a thing. again, thank you for welcoming me, and look forward to chaiting soon.

09-28-2005, 05:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
Daoust "I'm sorry. What was the question?" Location: Paradise Regained	Most people when they first came here didn't automatically divulge their sexual orientation, as though they had to. The first thought that came to my mind as I read this post was that you were defending yourself, against prejudice, against people who might have issues with your sexual preference, etc. I think you'll find here that we don't judge you on things like if you're gay or not. For the most part, we don't care. Whether you're gay or not will not determine how well you fit in here on the TFP, but rather what will is your capacity for abstract thought and your ability to stimulate interesting discussions. __________________ I have faith in a few things - divinity and grace But even when I'm on my knees I know the devil preys

09-28-2005, 06:44 AM	#3 (permalink)
martinguerre whosoever Location: New England	for any number of reasons, this board isn't all that queer...especially when it comes to men. some polls indicate there are more than i've seen, but lurking is somewhat common here. certainly, there is a vast level of acceptance, at least in the abstract. and i reccomend you value that. it's a step above many of the communities we walk into. but like with any human endevour, there are problems and issues. whatever it is now, this board largely started focused on hetero porn. and that does, at times, have some bearing on the tone that's taken here. all in all...react to individuals and their capacity for friendship and understanding. you will find many of them here...enough to justify the occasional annoyances, IMO. __________________ For God so loved creation, that God sent God's only Son that whosoever believed should not perish, but have everlasting life. -John 3:16

09-28-2005, 07:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Welcome, and I think you'll find us a pretty tolerant bunch. Daoust said it well - we tend to be accepting of intelligent, thoughtful and civil folks, regardless of their identities; if you're an asshat, we'll call you on it. Have fun! __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

09-28-2005, 07:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
foxycop4u Upright Location: South East United States	THANK YOU for the graciousness in comments. I wasn't trying to "defend" my self, or my life-style. was merely making it known, in response to something i read in a few other threads. did not mean to offend, if it did, and didn't mean to imply a defense. I am who I am and have the best friends, who accept me, for me, and not for who i sleep with, which is what its all about. i have enjoyed the brief time i have been here, and look forward to more time on here.. take care and be safe __________________ Be Safe, PLay Safe, And Live Safe!

09-28-2005, 07:50 AM	#6 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	howdy!!!!! I see you're in the SE....are you around Atlanta? __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

09-28-2005, 07:54 AM	#7 (permalink)
foxycop4u Upright Location: South East United States	Sorry no, no in Atlanta.. been there a few times, got lost each time, but am generally between South Carolina and Florida..... I am lucky in that aspect....... __________________ Be Safe, PLay Safe, And Live Safe!

09-28-2005, 07:57 AM	#8 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Welcome, and I hope you find TFP as great a place to explore parts of yourself, your thoughts, and your opinions as I have. Enjoy. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

09-28-2005, 07:58 AM	#9 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I've lived in atlanta since 1976 and I still get lost hehehehe Savannah? lol Dave and I are always looking for new friends in Savannah __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

09-28-2005, 09:49 AM	#10 (permalink)
ruggerp11 Cautiously soaring Location: exploring my new home in SF	YAY for new members! runs around arms flailing __________________ Patriotism means being loyal to your country all the time and to its government when it deserves it. --Mark Twain Do What makes you happy --Me BUT! "Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness" - Chuang-Tzu

09-28-2005, 01:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	A big ol' welcome from PA... I'm very happy to have you on the boards and ready to speak up! __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran

09-28-2005, 01:15 PM	#12 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	No one here will care one way or another if you are gay.....unless they hit on you, which is entirely possible In Fact...How You Doin? __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

09-28-2005, 05:35 PM	#13 (permalink)
analog Banned	It's great to see a new member who already feels so comfortable on the boards. As has been said, I suspect we have many more gay men on the boards than let on, but that's perfectly fine. We don't care about orientation here, we're really all just here to enjoy the community, the laughs, and the good discussion. Everyone's comfort level is different, and not everyone feels ok with divulging everything about themselves- whether right away, or even over time. More, and different, insight is always great, and always welcomed, because really that's just another facet of what this great community is all about. It's good to get your feet wet and see what's going on, because there's always plenty to see. The best advice is just to experience everything for yourself, and keep an open mind about how you perceive the way people post on certain topics. Everyone has their own thoughts, ideas and experiences to add to the mix, and we come from all over. Above all, have fun! And if you need anything or have any problems, PM a moderator like myself, tecoyah, or lurkette (just to point out the ones already having posted in here, there are plenty more of us) or an admin. We're all here to take care of the boards.