NetFreak0485

Ok. For the past 2 1/2 months, I have had a crush on a girl I know. We both have talked, etc. 2 weeks ago, I revealed to her that I liked her..& then she revealed to me that she liked me, also. We ended up kissing. Anyways, the next week, we end up seeing each other again & end up talking some more. She does however have a boyfriend, but their relationship is kinda becoming rocky, right now..

Anyways, this past weekend, me & her went into another town outside of where she lives in the state that I live in...anyways..we went to see a show & about 2-3 hours before hand, we went into my car, listened to music, talked, & kissed(again). After the show..we stopped at a sports bar..& stayed in the parking lot, & kissed more & talked for 2-3 hours. I took her home & it was around 2:30-3:00 AM when I got home.

Now, when I went to sleep however..I had this dream that she was getting on a bus & was leaving(forever). I tried to stop the bus to tell her that I loved her & never wanted to be apart from her, but the bus started going faster & faster & soon the road suddenly became longer & longer. I woke up in tears(strange isnt it).

I talked to her last night, online & she told me that she had been having nightmares, as well. She told me her nightmare & it was the exact same one as what I had(ok now I am starting to wonder).

Now, being that she still is dating someone & their relationship looks to be coming to a close & I, along with her have told each other face to face(ALONE) how we feel about each other, but also with the transpiring events that have recently taken place. I gotta know what you all think of this?

Zegel

Omen or not, you'll never know unless you try. The dream could also be interpreted as "If you dont do something to get her off the bus now, she'll be gone forever."

pixelbend

I think maybe you had bad hot wings at the sports bar.

Seriously though, I would surmise that the dream comes from the feelings that you both have for each other, her still being in a relationship and something one of you said in passing while you were together. You minds probably both picked up on it subconsiously as a metaphor for your current situation.

Or, it could have just been bad hot wings.

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tooth

She needs to end it with her boyfriend before you can hope to have anything meaningful with her. She knows it, you know it. If she balks, move on.

Siege

What tooth said. If this girl likes you as much as you think she does, she would end the relationship with her current bf.

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NetFreak0485

*sighs*

Well, I'll just have to wait & see what happens next. But, I still think that, that dream that we both had was still trying to tell us both something(just still can't put my finger on it, yet). It was the weirdest dream, I ever had & heck, waking up in tears was even weirder.

jRuntlets

wow, I'm suprised anyone hasn't said this yet: What's she doing kissing you, if she's still in a relationship? Call me crazy but if I kissed a guy and then found out he still had a girlfriend I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole. Not to be harsh, doesn't it show you that she'll go around kissing other guys when things get rocky (if) you guys are in a relationship? Personally I think she should get her priorities straight and figure out what she wants, or you should ask her to do so.

It's not fair for you to be the backup and possibily rebound. Everyone deserves better than second best, which is what you are currently.

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HoneyPot

So true jRuntlets. Thats exactly what I thought. At first I was like 'go for it'! Now I'm think 'what makes you think she won't kiss other guys if you two happen to get together'? Hmmm Thats something you might want to think about before you make any permanent decisions.

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air45

have you try turkish coffee ground?

here is trick: made a turkish coffee with many ground. drink fast but do not drink ground -- this taste destruction on you tongue!

now flip a cup and look at pattern. does it look like devil? this is bad for you! do not date a girl like this!

does it look like stiff member! this is A-1! you will have sex!

NetFreak0485

Ok. New info.

Me & this girl are secretly dating(have been for a week or two). Technically, she still is in a relationship with the guy she lives with & he is going to propose to her, this Saturday night. Now, she is the one taking this a bit further, because I never expected this to go down. But, also, I am too, due to the fact that yes, I love her & she loves me. But, the guy that she is dating(non-secretly) is my friend & I don't want him to make the fatal mistake of proposing to her while me & her are still in this hush-hush relationship. Now, I know what could happen if I tell him about it & yes, I think it's the right thing to do..but I seriously need some help on the pros & cons of doing this.

pixelbend

Man, what a soap opera. Personally, I think you are heading for a tough choice. Head or gut? (If you have never seen The Last Boy Scout, that means your gonna get a punch in you choice of locations)

Seriously, I mean I understand you guys are "in love", but someone should have told this guy sometime before the "Will you marry me" phase of this. Give the guy a free shot, it's the least you can do.

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NetFreak0485

Technically,

She is the one who will no doubtfully have to make a choice. I mean..I never expected all this to go down, really..it just all happened.

abaya

Just a sidenote: Nothing "just happens." Take some responsibility. You chose to be with a girl who has a boyfriend. That was your decision, as well as hers. If you had decided not to go along with it, you would not be in this situation. Same as her. You both got to this point. So now, what will you, individually, do about your part in the matter?

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ngdawg

Dude, you crack me up!

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SiNai

air45, I'm still laughing..

Anyway.. Let's put your situation another way, now that we have some more facts. Your friend is getting ready to propose to his girlfriend this Saturday night, whom he lives with, and you decided to secretly date her. Now, you're wondering if you should tell him. In all reality, the girl better do some fckin explaining, quickly.. to all parties.. but in lieu of this girl's sanity- If you don't want to tell the guy that she's cheating on him w/ you.. Back off, dude. Don't be that guy. Make this girl get her act together if you are both so "in love". It's not right to you, and ESPECIALLY to your friend.

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dlish

dude

1) first of all..he's not ure F----ing friend if you do that to him. friend dont dog each other out like that. thats low bro.

2) i make the consious effort not to become too close to my best friend mrs.. precautionary measures yes..but at least i have a friend for life, instead of a pseudo-relationship that may not make it through the year. never let a woman get inbetween you and a mate like that... in end up with losing at least one of them or both.. not worth it mate.

3) love blinds and clouds judgement..dont let it blind your judgement on what is right. what i think the right thing to do is to tell your friend he'd been duped by you and your soon to be GF,..we'll see if he really thinks your a friend then..

4) dump the bitch cos shes gonna do the same to you one of these days. where's the element of trust when things get rocky and u start to question is shes kissing some guy in his car for 2-3 hours while your out doing night shift at 2am.

i'd say your making a huge mistake dude...

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NetFreak0485

Well, she lives with the guy & also, the guy is allowing me & her to go out on a date, this Friday night. Strange? Odd? Yeah, I think so. Plus, in different perspectives of each other, I take that she is trying to get away from him..heck, an interesting side note..that one night, her & I were sitting my car talking after hanging out with a few friends..etc. She started to shake..& I asked if she was ok & she said she was fine. Interesting enough, I think that something is going on, behind the scenes..away from my eyes..between her & her soon-to-be fiance. Also, lately, she is becoming a bit anti-social..& for some reason, she & her boyfriend are having troubles..but still he knows not fo the secret we are keeping from him. In short..more opinions & thoughts, plz.

hrandani

More opinions and thoughts?

How about you stop fucking dating your friend's girlfriend.

The odds of her having the exact same dream as you did vs her saying 'oh, me too! isn't that special!' are infinestismal.

She is looking to get out of this relationship, and you are being played. Get out while you still can and while you still have a friend.

ursae_

agreed. She's absolutely using you to get out of this other relationship. She'll end it as soon as she feels free to.
Sorry to break it to you man

dlish

hrandani is right....

"i had this strange dream last night........"
"oh your kidding..i had the same F---ing dream!"

what a joke!

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NetFreak0485

*sighs*

Great advice & I do believe it could come down to that, but I will put some heavy consideration into all of these things & just see where it's gonna go.