HiWayMan

My fiance and I were having our usual cigarette/post game wrap-up after some amazing sex last night. We got to wondering if other couples have a post game wrap-up as well. I'm considering a post game wrap-up to be talking about the sex you just had. We find we can learn a lot from each other as to what we liked and didn't like, and what we would like to try next time. And it is always funny, cause let's face it, sex is funny. I have learned so many new ways to please her due to these conversations, that we are having the most amazing sex of our entire lives. The best part is that she usually forgets the suggestions she made to me, so that next time when I implement them it blows her mind, this of course works the other way as well. It is also nice to realize in that moment that your partner really does listen to you.

I'm by no means an expert here, but I think everyone should be doing this on a regular basis. Communication is a beautiful thing.

ratbastid

Seconded, thirded and fourthed!

lurkette and I have a tendency to think we've been together long enough we know all each other's secrets. Obviously, that's total bull.

Average_Joe

Unless we're flat out exhausted and we pass out immediately following great sex, we always have a post-game wrap-up. It's the best time to discuss what was good, what could be better, etc.

tooth

Not every time, but sometimes. Usually if there was something new, or if something went particularly well, it will garner some discussion.

cellophanedeity

Yup! My love and I often talk about the sex we have. It's fun and useful.

I figure that most people with satisfying sex lives do this at least to an extent.

Martian

We've been having amazing sex since day one. Sometimes if we talk about it afterwards the conversation is simply 'whoa..' 'yeah I know..'

But sometimes we'll look at what we did, especially after trying something new and figure out if it worked for us. Or sometimes we talk about something unrelated.

We dont restrict talking about sex to post coitus only either. Communication is key and I feel like I can tell her anything. She feels the same way. That's why it just keeps getting better.

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abaya

No surprises here, ktspktsp and I talk about everything (including sex: before, after, and occasionally during if it's fun or helpful to do so). I can't imagine NOT talking afterwards... how else would you learn how to please each other?

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Giant Hamburger

A Ven diagram can often be helpful.

snowy

Oh yeah.

It's especially helpful in a new relationship. We're still learning what the other likes and doesn't like. Couldn't go without it.

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Rippley

It's particularly helpful in a new relationship. It worked so well for me that the girl who is currently gracing my life with her exquisite body and talent is usually so exhausted after sex, that she literlly passes out after about 40 seconds... Makes me feel enormously pleased with myself. AND I can get caught up on my reading

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streak_56

well.... basically it consists of lead putting on make up and us doing something for the rest of the day. Gotta love the morning.

World's King

Only if I get a chance to make notes during...

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Mr Honest

I am tempted to get scorecards made from 0-10 which we each hold up at the end with a suitable facial expression.

but seriously when you've both had orgasms and are shattered there's not a lot to say.

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leftyderek

I thought it's normal to have a 'wrap-up' with your partnet after having sex. I mean, don't you all just feel like doing it? There are a lot of things to say after orgasms. Like, sharing with your partner how you liked it, etc. Me and my partner find littel talks after sex extremely enjoyable and somehow comforting. Like, the chats don't even have to be just about how the session was- it can just drift to everything interesting...

I dunno. If my partner would fall asleep right away after having sex I would feel like I am just a sex toy she treasures more- and if I fall asleep right away I know she'll feel the same- it's some kind of mutual understand isnt it? Luckily neither of us pass out right away- unless either of us get really tired afterwards, even so we'll chat up for a few minutes and just make it really clear that 'I'd really like to talk more but you can see me falling asleep, I'm really tired...' and well, it works also fine for us like that.

Mherlee

Post game wrap up is standard here lol. Of course some times it just leads to "Hey maybe next time we should try it like this..." and then we do

beejay

My ex and I never had the post-game and ironically, lack of communication is the reason we're getting divorced! I'm slowly learning that I need to speak my mind - even if it's uncomfortable sometimes.

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genuinegirly

All about the communication for me. Just not satisfied unless there is some cuddle/conversation time in there.

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serlindsipity

oh heck yea. when youre a pile a goo, all you can do is talk... well that and occasionally twitch.

i love giving positive feedback as well as notes of what not to be done, that and saying "thanks for being incredibily amazing" cuz lets face it, its not said enough.

that and talking keeps me from just drooling on the pillow.

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Key

sometimes, just because it's natural. it's not like we actively try to have a rap session after each time. if we're both not exhausted and passed out (happens), then we'll talk and laugh. i like being able to take mental notes for next time, but some people are just more shy about it than others and it doesn't feel natural to force the issue. though it seems ironically it's more important in these situations, and in new relationships as mentioned, to talk about it and see what goes well and what wasn't exactly an award winning move. plus who can ever hear "that was amazing!" enough times?