Suzz04

Ok, bear with me.. I had to think about this for a few days. And it really bothers me. I hope I put this in the right section, if not, Moderators please place it where it should go.

On Wednesday I was heading to the hospital for my MRI to be done on my shoulder. As I was going I decided to listen to the radio. I wish now that I hadn't.

I'm not sure how many are familiar with this radio show but it's Steve and DC. It comes on several different stations but it is a great show to listen to. Until then.

There was a couple on there discussing about the husband viewing porn. No biggie right? She was absolute infuriated. I'm sure alot of women would be. I mean, yes, hubby is looking at porn on the computer and you're laying in the bed waiting for him. I can understand that. But, I'm a pretty open person.

The reason I'm posting this is to hear others thoughts. Guys look at porn. Some ladies look at porn. Some people of both genders have problems with their S/O looking at porn. This is a fact of life.

But, the wife brought this on radio. I am to understand this is a pretty large broadcast radio station. The husband had reformatted his computer and lost some information (pictures fo their children) due to removing a computer virus. So he used a search and recover program to retrieve those. This was on either Sunday or Monday that he did it. However, the wife insists that on Monday night, he was looking at porn while she was waiting for him to come to bed and is basically pissed. The husband denies it and says that he wasn't. She won't believe him that this is pictures from a long time ago when they discussed that he wouldn't do it again.

She insists that he did since the timestamp was... well.. whoops... Monday night. She absolutely insisted that such a thing didn't exist. The caller's that came on to talk and offer their "advice". One said that she was a computer saavy and knew that there were these programs. Another said, there was no such thing and he was definately looking at it. Another said that he thought this was a very embarassing thing to do to the guy by bringing it front of everyone and "airing the dirty laundry".

Being alittle bit of a computer geek but not really, I know there are programs out there that will pull jpg's and such even after formating unless you did the one program to make the harddrive like it came from factory. I'm not going into details on that due to I don't want to be in trouble with with wives that have problems with this.

Now, this brings up the question of... how stupid is she? Didn't she ever stop to think about the government finds old child porn on these people's computers? Or even old information to lead to other things? Emails that were sent between lover's to plot the spouse's murder? What about information from the web for how to use this substance for bad things? I don't know how many times I have watched (I'm so ashamed in a way) Forsenic Files and all those that talked about how this person was caught because of data recovery.

How many believe in this? Would you believe your S/O if they said they weren't looking at those and it was old and was there because of a recovery program? Are you going to not look into whether or not there is a recovery program?

I will say that I have no problem with my S/O looking at porn. I have no problems looking at porn myself. I like looking at some of it as long as it isn't something degrading or horrific.

I would seriously look at this from a view point of his for a moment. I belive him, however, but I feel very sorry for him since she brought it on air. I would be downright ashamed. These people were telling their names. He took off from work to stay half the day to discuss this on air.

However, from her viewpoint, if I wasn't as knowledgeable about computers, I would not believe him. But, I wouldn't be bringing it on air. I would be ashamed of myself for doing that. I would feel like I was on the Jerry Springer show or something. I would be finding someone that I knew that was very knowledgeable about computers and finding out for sure if he had a chance of telling the truth.

Heaven forbid that I wouldn't be as open minded as I am now. So, let's hear it.

denim

I feel bad for the guy involved. His marriage is over, and he has to live with a bitch in while he realizes it.

Zegel

So, the guy formatted his computer and lots of picture files of their kids. He then uses a data recovery program to restore the picture files, and around the same time the old porn pictures reappear and his wife is pissed about them being there. That sum it up?

He has a good alibi, really. If he used the data recovery program to recover the pictures of the kids, he could have had it recover all files of that type (*.jpg, etc). And of course in doing so, the time-stamp would be updated to the date of recovery.

Even though his alibi totally possible, it sounds like his wife just thinks he's lying. She seems a bit overly pissed about the pics really... perhaps they're actually pictures of her or one of his ex's that she told him to get rid of (in which case she would be justified, imo). There's no way of knowing, but I wouldnt be surprised if he came across them when restoring the other pictures and decided to restore them as well, thinking that she had forgotten and wouldnt find them.

ShaniFaye

well since I do know there is a way to do that (its been posted here in the computer forum a few times) and I've done it myself...its entirely possible and I believe the guy

I've NEVER understood the need for someone to bring someone else into "public" either via radio or tv and do this kind of crap

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Suzz04

Yep... that summed it up Zegel.

I was very embarassed for the guy knowing that you can recover pics and not realize oops.. those amongst were porn. But, I was also embarassed that she chose to put it live on the radio. My understanding is that Steve and DJ come around several.. and I do mean several... radio stations. This thing probably went nationwide. *shudder*

I believe the guy. But, in the long run.. I think she's gonna be looking at a divorce on this subject. She doesn't seem to be comfortable with porn regardless of who it is. I sincerely hope that over came this problem, but I for one wouldn't have over come it if I had been in the reverse position.

Powderedmaggot

If you can't trust your partner what is the point of being together.

I'm glad my wife isn't computer savy. Then again I can't be bothered to look at porn on my dial up at home. It's a work only thing.

apolian

Me & my girl enjoy porn together!!

FallenAvatar

This is a subject some relationships will need to deal with, but it makes me wonder if he was at fault why he was doing this then...

william

I like porn. Doesn't bother me to say so. My SO knows I look at porn when she's not around (we have different work schedules), but she also knows that is all I do - look. She prefers that I not do it while she is home, and I respect that.
It's possible this guy saved pics that he didn't mean to share, then have them show up duing a restore. If he knew she would go ballistic, he could have waited for the restore.
To go on radio, like it's the Springer show? That's just wrong (unless you believe in and want to be part of hillbilly trash - which just continues to add to hillbilly steroetyping). The wife has issues. He should have known this before he married her.
Looking is not the same as doing. Nor does looking mean he's getting hard for them. They're just friggin' pictures![U]