Hmmm, i guess it is their house...but come on. Parent issues. - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

RCR · 08-01-2005, 02:42 AM

Ok was really looking forward to today, i have my girlfriend staying with me and the family. And today my mum was taking my little bro and his friend to the airport(2 and a half hour round trip) Soooo that meant some "alone" time for me and girlfriend.(who sleeps in my sisters room, as m,y sister is in Italy)

Anywho, come downstairs to help throw my brother out the house to see my dad. Erh hi dad, arent you meant to be at work? He decided to work from home today. This never happens, maybe once year....

Soooo no fun,

What i would like to throw out to you guys is this, what are your parents stance on sex in their homes.

gariig · 08-01-2005, 03:52 AM

Just so I can put it into perspective..how old are you? When I was in HS my parents would watch me like a hawk. Now that I'm almost 25 and engaged, they don't seem to care as much. Quite honestly while you are under their roof it is their rules which I know sucks but that's what college is for

Pragma · 08-01-2005, 03:53 AM

My parents' stance (though I'm only home rarely - live in an apartment most of the time at University) is "hell no" - it's their house and I understand that completely. It's not like there aren't other places to have sex - cars, her house, go find a deserted park somewhere, etc.

d*d · 08-01-2005, 04:14 AM

theres nothing worse than sitting at home, watching a bit of tv with your mother and father whilst you can hear your brother banging away upstairs. Sorry but respect those boundaries or move out

Seeker · 08-01-2005, 04:53 AM

I think it has a lot to do with age and if you have lived on your own for a while.

Before I moved out of home (at 17) I wouldn't dream of expecting my parents to not be concerned about me 'fooling around'...

I moved back home when I was nearly 23 and I had my daughter... so I spent a couple of years living as a hermit before my mother told me I needed to 'go out and play up like a second hand lawn-mower'... wtf ???

What I am saying is that it depends greatly on circumstances and your relationship with your parents. Have you thought about discussing this with your parents?

I do believe that it is their house and they have the final say in what they can and cannot live with under their roof. While you are living there they will still need to express their values and you need to respect that for what it is... even if you disagree with them.

AVoiceOfReason · 08-01-2005, 04:57 AM

Even after married and living on my own, my wife and I would be discrete about any type of sexual activity in my house or her parents---nothing rowdy. It's about respect, as d*d said.

And as for having to adjust your plans, wait until YOU'RE the parent; you'll understand all the better about having romantic intentions changed by the youngling.

absorbentishe · 08-01-2005, 03:46 PM

Dude, grow up.... Shit happens, and that's that. When you have young kids, you'll never get a chance. Sex is something that is great, butwhen plans are interupted, it sucks. Shit happens, move on.

Jesus Pimp · 08-01-2005, 03:52 PM

I've had sex with girlfriends in their parent's house while her parents were at home. It's pretty damn exhilarating. The fear of getting caught makes even more enjoyable.

Menoman · 08-01-2005, 04:39 PM

It's not as if it's not hard to find out when they aren't gonna be home, have her come over during that time, get yer freak on and then leave with her.

Unless you're like 15 years old. This thread is just silly. It's not that difficult.

Sugar&Spice · 08-01-2005, 05:37 PM

My parents are against sex in their house. I only live with them during the summer time, but I still respect their wishes because I need a place to live for 3 months out of the year. Plus, I have a younger brother and sister..not even teenagers yet and I wouldn't want them to see me bringing guys into my room to spend the night. Too many questions would be asked.

Mantus · 08-01-2005, 06:40 PM

Heh like that stuff ever stoped me.

The best covert action I ever pulled off was back in the day when my (at the time) girlfriend's little brother was always pressent in her room whenever I visited so he can keep an eye on us. The kid was really young though, like 8 years old at the time so he doesn't have a clue about what he is supposed to be watching out for. That when we discovered that a blanket can hide an amazing amount of naughty acts

I mean we did EVERYTHING under there.

daydream · 08-01-2005, 08:23 PM

well i'm sure that my parents don't want my boyfriend and I to have sex in their house... but that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. We just wait until everyone's asleep and then lock the door and try to be very quiet. Once in a while we may get lucky and we'll have a time when there's no one home

actually it's kinda funny that i'm in this particular thread right now... my sister has her bf over tonight and my mom just went to go open her door to talk to her... and to my mother's suprise the door was locked... let's just say she caught them at a bad time.. ehh. Now my sister's gonna have to hear my mom lecturing her for the next week.

Fett56 · 08-01-2005, 08:32 PM

Pretty much everything I've done has been at my girls house in her bed while her parents are home (well, mostof the time)... we just wait until they go to sleep and then do pretty much everything. Getting caught would suck but it hasnt happened yet.

MEAD · 08-01-2005, 08:38 PM

Well from what I have experienced. My parents never really layed the law down about sex in their house, But uh, my and my ex had lots of sex in my house pretty much everynight. I don't think could be so oblivious to think that her leaving at 3 am evernight was uspicious, espescially since my dad is part insomniac and wanders the house late at night (Im shudder to think what he's heard from us). I just think they basicly turn a blind eye to it and accept that their kid has sex, which is awesome for me.

There is actually a funny story in her and I had tradedgoing down on each other just before we left to meet some friends, and I was in such a hurry to get t the door (we were already late from the previous distraction) that i didnt notice that my hair was still all messed up, so as Im going out the door my moms laughs at me and tells me my hair is all screwy and then fixes it for me. I reall hope she had no idea why my hair was like that.

lindseylatch · 08-01-2005, 10:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by d*d

theres nothing worse than sitting at home, watching a bit of tv with your mother and father whilst you can hear your brother banging away upstairs. Sorry but respect those boundaries or move out

W0rd...

My parent's take: better to be in a safe place, like a house, than a place where there's no resources if something goes wrong, like a car or a park. At least at home there's more condoms, morning after pills, etc.
As Pragma said, it's gonna happen anyway, might as well be safe.

yellowchef · 08-01-2005, 11:23 PM

I think now my parents dont care as much. Theyre pretty hardcore on the "no sex before marriage" but they dont mind now if boys sleep over, or if they stay late/come over late or we fool around. Ive already had 2 prime examples of what can happen with unprotected unplanned sex....so needless to say the words "dont end up like your sister" are constantly playing in my head.

ratbastid · 08-02-2005, 10:07 AM

The first few times lurkette came to visit during the summers when we were in college, there my folks watched over us closely. Fortunately I had high school friends with their own apartments who were happy to let us use their pads.

Now that we've been married for 10 years, they put us in the guest room downstairs. When they built the house, that room was designed to be a practice room for my brother the drummer, so it's got extra soundproofing in the walls and ceiling, which works out well!

lindseylatch · 08-02-2005, 10:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ratbastid

The first few times lurkette came to visit during the summers when we were in college, there my folks watched over us closely. Fortunately I had high school friends with their own apartments who were happy to let us use their pads.

Now that we've been married for 10 years, they put us in the guest room downstairs. When they built the house, that room was designed to be a practice room for my brother the drummer, so it's got extra soundproofing in the walls and ceiling, which works out well!

haha, sweet! I wish my parents' bedroom had soundproofing...I think i was traumatized as a child...and a teenager...and young adult...

RCR · 08-05-2005, 03:09 AM

Im 19 and she is 20.

We just went to sleep after my parents and then were really quiet...worked out well.

Funny how my dad kept asking me if i slept well though

astrahl · 08-05-2005, 03:57 AM

My parents raised me with the crippling - no sex til marriage bullshit - so they would have gone ballistic. Even when my, then boyfriend, now husband and I were caught playing around - my mom nearly exploded.

Not exploring my sexuality before marriage is something I sorely regret now.

SirLance · 08-05-2005, 07:31 AM

I'm 45 and my brother is 57. Neither of us is married (although I will be in the fall). My parents will not let either of us sleep with our signifigant others in their home. They are devoutly religious and strongly believe that sex outside of marriage is morally wrong. I don't agree, but I respect their wishes.

08-01-2005, 02:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
RCR Crazy	Hmmm, i guess it is their house...but come on. Parent issues. Ok was really looking forward to today, i have my girlfriend staying with me and the family. And today my mum was taking my little bro and his friend to the airport(2 and a half hour round trip) Soooo that meant some "alone" time for me and girlfriend.(who sleeps in my sisters room, as m,y sister is in Italy) Anywho, come downstairs to help throw my brother out the house to see my dad. Erh hi dad, arent you meant to be at work? He decided to work from home today. This never happens, maybe once year.... Soooo no fun, What i would like to throw out to you guys is this, what are your parents stance on sex in their homes.

08-01-2005, 04:53 AM	#5 (permalink)
Seeker Getting Clearer Location: with spirit	I think it has a lot to do with age and if you have lived on your own for a while. Before I moved out of home (at 17) I wouldn't dream of expecting my parents to not be concerned about me 'fooling around'... I moved back home when I was nearly 23 and I had my daughter... so I spent a couple of years living as a hermit before my mother told me I needed to 'go out and play up like a second hand lawn-mower'... wtf ??? What I am saying is that it depends greatly on circumstances and your relationship with your parents. Have you thought about discussing this with your parents? I do believe that it is their house and they have the final say in what they can and cannot live with under their roof. While you are living there they will still need to express their values and you need to respect that for what it is... even if you disagree with them. __________________ *To those who wander but who are not lost...* ~ Knowledge is not something you acquire, it is something you open yourself to.

08-01-2005, 04:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
AVoiceOfReason Psycho Location: Greenwood, Arkansas	Even after married and living on my own, my wife and I would be discrete about any type of sexual activity in my house or her parents---nothing rowdy. It's about respect, as d*d said. And as for having to adjust your plans, wait until YOU'RE the parent; you'll understand all the better about having romantic intentions changed by the youngling. __________________ AVOR A Voice Of Reason, not necessarily the ONLY one.

08-01-2005, 03:52 PM	#8 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	I've had sex with girlfriends in their parent's house while her parents were at home. It's pretty damn exhilarating. The fear of getting caught makes even more enjoyable. __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard.

08-01-2005, 05:37 PM	#10 (permalink)
Sugar&Spice Psycho	My parents are against sex in their house. I only live with them during the summer time, but I still respect their wishes because I need a place to live for 3 months out of the year. Plus, I have a younger brother and sister..not even teenagers yet and I wouldn't want them to see me bringing guys into my room to spend the night. Too many questions would be asked. __________________ -Speak your mind even if your voice shakes

08-01-2005, 03:52 AM	#2 (permalink)
gariig Tilted Location: Orlando	Just so I can put it into perspective..how old are you? When I was in HS my parents would watch me like a hawk. Now that I'm almost 25 and engaged, they don't seem to care as much. Quite honestly while you are under their roof it is their rules which I know sucks but that's what college is for

08-01-2005, 03:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	My parents' stance (though I'm only home rarely - live in an apartment most of the time at University) is "hell no" - it's their house and I understand that completely. It's not like there aren't other places to have sex - cars, her house, go find a deserted park somewhere, etc.

08-01-2005, 04:14 AM	#4 (permalink)
d*d Addict	theres nothing worse than sitting at home, watching a bit of tv with your mother and father whilst you can hear your brother banging away upstairs. Sorry but respect those boundaries or move out

08-01-2005, 03:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Dude, grow up.... Shit happens, and that's that. When you have young kids, you'll never get a chance. Sex is something that is great, butwhen plans are interupted, it sucks. Shit happens, move on.

08-01-2005, 06:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	Heh like that stuff ever stoped me. The best covert action I ever pulled off was back in the day when my (at the time) girlfriend's little brother was always pressent in her room whenever I visited so he can keep an eye on us. The kid was really young though, like 8 years old at the time so he doesn't have a clue about what he is supposed to be watching out for. That when we discovered that a blanket can hide an amazing amount of naughty acts I mean we did EVERYTHING under there.

08-01-2005, 08:23 PM	#12 (permalink)
daydream Crazy Location: Long Island, NY	well i'm sure that my parents don't want my boyfriend and I to have sex in their house... but that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. We just wait until everyone's asleep and then lock the door and try to be very quiet. Once in a while we may get lucky and we'll have a time when there's no one home actually it's kinda funny that i'm in this particular thread right now... my sister has her bf over tonight and my mom just went to go open her door to talk to her... and to my mother's suprise the door was locked... let's just say she caught them at a bad time.. ehh. Now my sister's gonna have to hear my mom lecturing her for the next week. __________________ "Can't help it if I space in a daze, my eyes tune out the other way... I may switch off and go in a daydream... in this head my thoughts are deep, Sometimes I can't even speak, would someone be and not pretend, I'm off again in my world"

08-01-2005, 08:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
Fett56 Upright	Pretty much everything I've done has been at my girls house in her bed while her parents are home (well, mostof the time)... we just wait until they go to sleep and then do pretty much everything. Getting caught would suck but it hasnt happened yet.

08-01-2005, 08:38 PM	#14 (permalink)
MEAD Insane Location: South Florida	Well from what I have experienced. My parents never really layed the law down about sex in their house, But uh, my and my ex had lots of sex in my house pretty much everynight. I don't think could be so oblivious to think that her leaving at 3 am evernight was uspicious, espescially since my dad is part insomniac and wanders the house late at night (Im shudder to think what he's heard from us). I just think they basicly turn a blind eye to it and accept that their kid has sex, which is awesome for me. There is actually a funny story in her and I had tradedgoing down on each other just before we left to meet some friends, and I was in such a hurry to get t the door (we were already late from the previous distraction) that i didnt notice that my hair was still all messed up, so as Im going out the door my moms laughs at me and tells me my hair is all screwy and then fixes it for me. I reall hope she had no idea why my hair was like that. __________________ Here are some phrases I'd like to be able to say, in all honesty, before I die. "That's it, send out the ninjas!" "So then I had to kill my way to the second floor."

08-01-2005, 11:23 PM	#16 (permalink)
yellowchef Addict Location: Shalimar, FL	I think now my parents dont care as much. Theyre pretty hardcore on the "no sex before marriage" but they dont mind now if boys sleep over, or if they stay late/come over late or we fool around. Ive already had 2 prime examples of what can happen with unprotected unplanned sex....so needless to say the words "dont end up like your sister" are constantly playing in my head. __________________ the voices in your head are not real--but they still have some really great ideas. always remeber you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. But..you CAN choose the insane asylum where you have them all put away!

08-02-2005, 10:07 AM	#17 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	The first few times lurkette came to visit during the summers when we were in college, there my folks watched over us closely. Fortunately I had high school friends with their own apartments who were happy to let us use their pads. Now that we've been married for 10 years, they put us in the guest room downstairs. When they built the house, that room was designed to be a practice room for my brother the drummer, so it's got extra soundproofing in the walls and ceiling, which works out well!

08-05-2005, 03:09 AM	#19 (permalink)
RCR Crazy	Im 19 and she is 20. We just went to sleep after my parents and then were really quiet...worked out well. Funny how my dad kept asking me if i slept well though

08-05-2005, 03:57 AM	#20 (permalink)
astrahl Insane Location: You don't want to live here	My parents raised me with the crippling - no sex til marriage bullshit - so they would have gone ballistic. Even when my, then boyfriend, now husband and I were caught playing around - my mom nearly exploded. Not exploring my sexuality before marriage is something I sorely regret now. __________________ Maybe it was over when she chucked me out the Rover at full speed. Maybe Maybe... ~a-Ha

08-05-2005, 07:31 AM	#21 (permalink)
SirLance Junkie Location: In the middle of the desert.	I'm 45 and my brother is 57. Neither of us is married (although I will be in the fall). My parents will not let either of us sleep with our signifigant others in their home. They are devoutly religious and strongly believe that sex outside of marriage is morally wrong. I don't agree, but I respect their wishes. __________________ DEMOCRACY is where your vote counts, FEUDALISM is where your count votes.