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simivin · 08-05-2005, 10:01 AM

Oh, and I think about my own naiveite, too: that I'm such a new participant to sex, while my gf has been having sex for 5 years. That I'm almost an outsider or feel behind in things...

simivin · 08-05-2005, 10:11 AM

Or I think about what past lovers would say or what they think...or if it will come to haunt us down the road -- I know the "past is the past", but sometimes it can come back.

Needless to say, as evident by my subsequent follow-on posts, there's a lot in my head and a lot on my chest. I'll try to refrain from posting any more ramblings...

As for my gf, independent of all these thoughts (which is, again, my problem) she's a great girl. Smart, funny, a good family person and with a childhood conducive to my lifestyle. I enjoy my time with her and she is a wonderful adventure companion. Furthermore, with respect to the sex aspect, we are both of the same breed and like trying new things and experimenting, so I feel fulfilled with her in that way. I can step back and say that she is someone I could spend my life with, but unfortunately I keep getting so caught up in the trees that I miss the forest.

Mousencrantz · 08-05-2005, 11:30 AM

Love is blinding. That's the beauty and the curse of it. We can all see your boyfriend for his ills much more than you can, but there are many things you know about him that we do not. My numbers as far as sex goes are low, but I'm only 19 so that doesn't matter. However, my numbers in relationships are high (7) compared to my lover's 1. This sometimes makes things harder, since most of my former exs are close friends of mine now, one being my best friend, as well as the lead singer of my band. My past girlfriend couldn't get past that, and I let her go. What you need to decide is, is he the type to filter all who you fraternize with? Will you lose good friends in the process? Despite the fact that you will be extremely close with anyone you love and marry, good friends are many times not worth sacrificing, as the difference between and lover and a best friend at most times in the younger age is just sex and some other romantics. I recommend that you Seriously consider the pressure he is putting you through, but don't necessarily dump him all too soon. Be sure about it.

08-05-2005, 10:01 AM	#81 (permalink)
simivin Banned	Oh, and I think about my own naiveite, too: that I'm such a new participant to sex, while my gf has been having sex for 5 years. That I'm almost an outsider or feel behind in things...

08-05-2005, 10:11 AM	#82 (permalink)
simivin Banned	Or I think about what past lovers would say or what they think...or if it will come to haunt us down the road -- I know the "past is the past", but sometimes it can come back. Needless to say, as evident by my subsequent follow-on posts, there's a lot in my head and a lot on my chest. I'll try to refrain from posting any more ramblings... As for my gf, independent of all these thoughts (which is, again, my problem) she's a great girl. Smart, funny, a good family person and with a childhood conducive to my lifestyle. I enjoy my time with her and she is a wonderful adventure companion. Furthermore, with respect to the sex aspect, we are both of the same breed and like trying new things and experimenting, so I feel fulfilled with her in that way. I can step back and say that she is someone I could spend my life with, but unfortunately I keep getting so caught up in the trees that I miss the forest.

08-05-2005, 11:30 AM	#83 (permalink)
Mousencrantz Upright	Love is blinding. That's the beauty and the curse of it. We can all see your boyfriend for his ills much more than you can, but there are many things you know about him that we do not. My numbers as far as sex goes are low, but I'm only 19 so that doesn't matter. However, my numbers in relationships are high (7) compared to my lover's 1. This sometimes makes things harder, since most of my former exs are close friends of mine now, one being my best friend, as well as the lead singer of my band. My past girlfriend couldn't get past that, and I let her go. What you need to decide is, is he the type to filter all who you fraternize with? Will you lose good friends in the process? Despite the fact that you will be extremely close with anyone you love and marry, good friends are many times not worth sacrificing, as the difference between and lover and a best friend at most times in the younger age is just sex and some other romantics. I recommend that you Seriously consider the pressure he is putting you through, but don't necessarily dump him all too soon. Be sure about it.