What will sex be like at 40? 50? 60? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Sage · 02-23-2005, 10:09 AM

Alright guys- this stems from a comment made on a thread in the Ladies' Lounge by an unnamed TFPer. The gist of what was said was this: once women reach menopause, they are no longer beautiful or sexy and should not be having sex, but guiding the younger generation with their wisdom. This sparked, as you could imagine, a host of comments along the lines of "WTF!!"

So, any one out there "old and decrepit" still shagging like bunnies? What do you think YOUR sex life will be like when you're older? Is sex a thing of the past once you reach menopause?

k9trainingbiz · 02-23-2005, 03:00 PM

I can't believe the ignorance of people. First of all, young people usually don't understand the art of sex. They just go at it. I am 40, and have never had more sex or sex this good in my life. As people get older, they lose all inhibitions and old attitudes about sex. Will try anything! I am GOOD at it - I still run every day, keep in shape, look great and young men flirt with me constantly. My husband can't keep his hands off me. I am frankly sexy, not just young. She should be so lucky.

Coppertop · 02-23-2005, 03:01 PM

Existent, hopefully.

insidious_machinae · 02-23-2005, 03:20 PM

....wrinkly? I have no idea.

Lebell · 02-23-2005, 03:30 PM

I'll echo the "no idea".

How you and your mate are now gives you some idea of how it will be (not an exact idea, but some idea.)

For instance, my ex was very so so on sex at 30 and at 45, it was pretty much in the crapper.

I myself have always been a horn dog (3 or 4 times whacking a day in my teens) and now at 40, I still enjoy it pretty frequently, as does my new wife. Do I expect it to continue into 50 and 60? Maybe not to this extent, but yes, I do.

But something I've learned is that if you are focused on looks (and aren't rich), you might as well give up and get yourself an inflatable doll, because you'll never be happy.

The truth is that bodies get old, flesh sags and wrinkles, and hair grays and falls out. But a mature person grows and realizes that looks aren't what sex is about...it's about love and connectedness to another human being. When you realize that, your mate is always beautiful.

Squishor · 02-23-2005, 03:32 PM

I'm 41, but not wrinkly, saggy, grey or menopausal - in short, not "old" so maybe my opinion is not what you're looking for, but... Sex is great! Honestly it's pretty much the way it always has been, the biggest change is my partner (that always changes things a bit) but aside from that, it's pretty much the same. You know, excitement, orgasms, sweating, passion. All that and more. I still want to do adventurous things, enjoy them tremendously, and there's no shortage of sexual fun to be had. I think maybe the best change is I'm smarter about who I do it with nowdays. Oh, and I've gotten really good at giving blow jobs too, that's always fun. I expect it to be like this for quite some time, unless there's some unexpected change like my vagina falls off or something.

ChasingAmy · 02-23-2005, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by k9trainingbiz

First of all, young people usually don't understand the art of sex.

I have to agree with k9 here. I can remember 8~9 years ago when I became sexually active. It was more getting off then appreciating the sensual act. My wife and I (after 7 years in our relationship, now married for 1 1/2 years) are now starting to learn more and more about each others bodies, our likes and dislikes, fantasies fears and freakiness!

We are becoming more open, more trusting and are letting go and really "coming" into who we are sexually. And its still only going to get better!

Don't get me wrong, the sex has been great for both of us up to this point, but now we have entered a whole new level.

So I am saying that I think sex will be BETTER THAN EVAR when we reach that point in our lives. People have to realize (men especially) that the more you give, the more you are going to get in return! Thats what I have learned.

Cheers!

sexymama · 02-23-2005, 07:04 PM

I agree with ChasingAmy -- I'm 43 and it is better than ever! I am much more open and myself then when I was younger and was worried about how I look, sound, etc.

As for Lebell -- I am his "new wife" (and better be his last wife!) and I expect it to continue into our 50s and 60s!

Blackthorn · 02-23-2005, 07:26 PM

A recent edition of Paul Harvey news included a bit that goes something like this:

Shortly past midnight a California (LAPD) Patrol officer notices a motorcycle in the median of a divided stretch of road. As he approaches he notices that there are two people who are eeeehem...naked...next to the bike. He gets closer and he realizes that the couple happens to be engaged in intimate contact but that they are indeed still wearing their helmets. Naturally it's time to break up the party but when he startles the two he realizes this is no ordinary couple. The HE of the equation was 83 and the SHE of this equation was 81.

Horny old fuckers!!! haha...but I hope I'm that lucky in 40+ years!

drakers · 02-23-2005, 07:32 PM

I think as you grow with someone the outside beauty in seen from the inside out, they look at what is the best part of their personality and that just makes them look much sexier than anyone can think. I'm 24 but I feel as I grow with my wife that we look at eachother much differently than strangers look at other strangers (who look at a person's physical beauty rather than their emotional beauty because they have no idea who they are). I look at the future with much anticipation than aggitation, we all should be that lucky.

ShaniFaye · 02-24-2005, 04:09 AM

Im not 40 yet (3 years to go) but I can say that while I always liked sex.....I REALLY started liking it when I hit 30 and its gotten better every year since

RCAlyra2004 · 02-24-2005, 06:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Sage

So, any one out there "old and decrepit" still shagging like bunnies? What do you think YOUR sex life will be like when you're older? Is sex a thing of the past once you reach menopause?

HA HA... this is HILARIOUS! I guess I am old .... according to these standards. ... not a wrinkle though. I have more sex these days than I ever did as a kid... My lady is less inhibited, more loving at this age so I seem to do better. Frankly I no longer find "kids younger than 30" to be attractive. I cannot stand the all of the yap about the newest teen aged Idols.

I really think that some young people just don't get it... I mean it both ways...

BadNick · 02-24-2005, 12:08 PM

I'm 55yo now and my own experiences show me that sex can be better as you mature. Sex feels different now compared to when I was quite young but overall, I'd say better.

Among many other also interesting possibilities in years to come, I look forward to my honey and I removing our dentures and gumming each other from head to toe. Most people can't do that when they're young

william · 02-24-2005, 01:31 PM

I'm 40 and my SO is 54. Slowing down is for slackers! Although I will admit to cutting down to every other day. As much as seeing the little girls trying to show their hootchie and cracklines everyday, nothing turns me on as much as she does!

Bill O'Rights · 02-24-2005, 01:59 PM

40...

50.../me shrugs. I'll let ya know.

Aladdin Sane · 02-27-2005, 02:57 PM

My wife will soon turn 41. She enjoys sex more now than ever before. Really. I enjoy sex with her more now than I did 15 years ago.

slimsam1 · 02-27-2005, 03:06 PM

Whoops, looks like my thread was almost a dupe.

DEI37 · 02-27-2005, 04:28 PM

I'm 27, and my wife is 30, but we have had sex with, and watched sex acts by those in their 40's & 50's. It's great. The women are just as much fun, enjoy sex, and are still rather attractive.

We've been married for 6 years just about, and our sex life has gotten better as the years have gone by, and we've tried new things, shed our conservative upbringings, and experimented outside of our marriage. At the rate things are going, we'll be going nuts in to our 70's.

viejo gringo · 02-28-2005, 08:30 PM

after going through menapuse, my wife informed me that she has absolutly no interest is sex, anymore....

so I decided to give up half of my sex life......

I just can't decide wheather to give up the half I think about or the half I wish for....

Joan of Arc · 03-01-2005, 01:05 PM

I think it depends how active you were in your 20's and 30's. If you've both been attracted to each other in spite of not looking perfect, then it probably will continue into your later years. However, if one of you HAS to only see their mate when they look like they're still 25, then sex will probably slacken up quite a bit. Hence, it will probably slow down or stop.

Mbwuto · 03-01-2005, 07:03 PM

I guess I can only offer anecdotal evidence here, but a good friend of mine is sixty three right now and, while he's not in his sexual prime, is spending at least two nights a week with a nineteen year old.

We should all be so lucky. Age is no detriment to a person suitably horny. I can only imagine how miserable he would be tied down to someone who lost interest when they weren't as nubile and elastic as before. Go for it Grandpa!

Dano069 · 03-08-2005, 12:26 PM

My wife is sexier now, at 42, than she ever was when we were younger. In fact, since 2000, when we were both 38, we've been having more sex (average 6 times a week) than ever, and, it's lasting longer and is much more intense than it was before. Most excellent!

I don't think age has anything to do with it.

jhkayakr · 03-09-2005, 02:30 PM

Hey, 40 aint that old!!!!

02-23-2005, 10:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	What will sex be like at 40? 50? 60? Alright guys- this stems from a comment made on a thread in the Ladies' Lounge by an unnamed TFPer. The gist of what was said was this: once women reach menopause, they are no longer beautiful or sexy and should not be having sex, but guiding the younger generation with their wisdom. This sparked, as you could imagine, a host of comments along the lines of "WTF!!" So, any one out there "old and decrepit" still shagging like bunnies? What do you think YOUR sex life will be like when you're older? Is sex a thing of the past once you reach menopause? __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

02-23-2005, 03:30 PM	#5 (permalink)
Lebell Cracking the Whip Location: Sexymama's arms...	I'll echo the "no idea". How you and your mate are now gives you some idea of how it will be (not an exact idea, but some idea.) For instance, my ex was very so so on sex at 30 and at 45, it was pretty much in the crapper. I myself have always been a horn dog (3 or 4 times whacking a day in my teens) and now at 40, I still enjoy it pretty frequently, as does my new wife. Do I expect it to continue into 50 and 60? Maybe not to this extent, but yes, I do. But something I've learned is that if you are focused on looks (and aren't rich), you might as well give up and get yourself an inflatable doll, because you'll never be happy. The truth is that bodies get old, flesh sags and wrinkles, and hair grays and falls out. But a mature person grows and realizes that looks aren't what sex is about...it's about love and connectedness to another human being. When you realize that, your mate is always beautiful. __________________ "Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." – C. S. Lewis The ONLY sponsors we have are YOU! Please Donate!

02-23-2005, 07:04 PM	#8 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	I agree with ChasingAmy -- I'm 43 and it is better than ever! I am much more open and myself then when I was younger and was worried about how I look, sound, etc. As for Lebell -- I am his "new wife" (and better be his last wife!) and I expect it to continue into our 50s and 60s! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

02-23-2005, 07:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
Blackthorn Beware the Mad Irish Location: Wish I was on the N17...	A recent edition of Paul Harvey news included a bit that goes something like this: Shortly past midnight a California (LAPD) Patrol officer notices a motorcycle in the median of a divided stretch of road. As he approaches he notices that there are two people who are eeeehem...naked...next to the bike. He gets closer and he realizes that the couple happens to be engaged in intimate contact but that they are indeed still wearing their helmets. Naturally it's time to break up the party but when he startles the two he realizes this is no ordinary couple. The HE of the equation was 83 and the SHE of this equation was 81. Horny old fuckers!!! haha...but I hope I'm that lucky in 40+ years! __________________ What are you willing to give up in order to get what you want?

02-23-2005, 07:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
drakers Psycho Location: IOWA	I think as you grow with someone the outside beauty in seen from the inside out, they look at what is the best part of their personality and that just makes them look much sexier than anyone can think. I'm 24 but I feel as I grow with my wife that we look at eachother much differently than strangers look at other strangers (who look at a person's physical beauty rather than their emotional beauty because they have no idea who they are). I look at the future with much anticipation than aggitation, we all should be that lucky. __________________ Friends don't shake hands, friends 'gotta HUG!

02-23-2005, 03:00 PM	#2 (permalink)
k9trainingbiz Upright Location: texas	I can't believe the ignorance of people. First of all, young people usually don't understand the art of sex. They just go at it. I am 40, and have never had more sex or sex this good in my life. As people get older, they lose all inhibitions and old attitudes about sex. Will try anything! I am GOOD at it - I still run every day, keep in shape, look great and young men flirt with me constantly. My husband can't keep his hands off me. I am frankly sexy, not just young. She should be so lucky.

02-23-2005, 03:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
Coppertop Getting Medieval on your ass Location: 13th century Europe	Existent, hopefully.

02-23-2005, 03:20 PM	#4 (permalink)
insidious_machinae Psycho	....wrinkly? I have no idea.

02-23-2005, 03:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	I'm 41, but not wrinkly, saggy, grey or menopausal - in short, not "old" so maybe my opinion is not what you're looking for, but... Sex is great! Honestly it's pretty much the way it always has been, the biggest change is my partner (that always changes things a bit) but aside from that, it's pretty much the same. You know, excitement, orgasms, sweating, passion. All that and more. I still want to do adventurous things, enjoy them tremendously, and there's no shortage of sexual fun to be had. I think maybe the best change is I'm smarter about who I do it with nowdays. Oh, and I've gotten really good at giving blow jobs too, that's always fun. I expect it to be like this for quite some time, unless there's some unexpected change like my vagina falls off or something.

02-24-2005, 04:09 AM	#11 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Im not 40 yet (3 years to go) but I can say that while I always liked sex.....I REALLY started liking it when I hit 30 and its gotten better every year since __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

02-24-2005, 12:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
BadNick Riding the Ocean Spray Location: S.E. PA in U Sofa	I'm 55yo now and my own experiences show me that sex can be better as you mature. Sex feels different now compared to when I was quite young but overall, I'd say better. Among many other also interesting possibilities in years to come, I look forward to my honey and I removing our dentures and gumming each other from head to toe. Most people can't do that when they're young

02-24-2005, 01:31 PM	#14 (permalink)
william Psycho	I'm 40 and my SO is 54. Slowing down is for slackers! Although I will admit to cutting down to every other day. As much as seeing the little girls trying to show their hootchie and cracklines everyday, nothing turns me on as much as she does!

02-24-2005, 01:59 PM	#15 (permalink)
Bill O'Rights will always be an Alyson Hanniganite Location: In the dust of the archives	40... 50.../me shrugs. I'll let ya know. __________________ "I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires." - Susan B. Anthony "Hedonism with rules isn't hedonism at all, it's the Republican party." - JumpinJesus It is indisputable that true beauty lies within...but a nice rack sure doesn't hurt.

02-27-2005, 02:57 PM	#16 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	My wife will soon turn 41. She enjoys sex more now than ever before. Really. I enjoy sex with her more now than I did 15 years ago. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

02-27-2005, 03:06 PM	#17 (permalink)
slimsam1 Crazy	Whoops, looks like my thread was almost a dupe.

02-27-2005, 04:28 PM	#18 (permalink)
DEI37 Go faster! Location: Wisconsin	I'm 27, and my wife is 30, but we have had sex with, and watched sex acts by those in their 40's & 50's. It's great. The women are just as much fun, enjoy sex, and are still rather attractive. We've been married for 6 years just about, and our sex life has gotten better as the years have gone by, and we've tried new things, shed our conservative upbringings, and experimented outside of our marriage. At the rate things are going, we'll be going nuts in to our 70's. __________________ Generally speaking, if you were to get what you really deserve, you might be unpleasantly surprised.

02-28-2005, 08:30 PM	#19 (permalink)
viejo gringo Registered User Location: Deep South Texas	after going through menapuse, my wife informed me that she has absolutly no interest is sex, anymore.... so I decided to give up half of my sex life...... I just can't decide wheather to give up the half I think about or the half I wish for....

03-01-2005, 01:05 PM	#20 (permalink)
Joan of Arc Tilted	I think it depends how active you were in your 20's and 30's. If you've both been attracted to each other in spite of not looking perfect, then it probably will continue into your later years. However, if one of you HAS to only see their mate when they look like they're still 25, then sex will probably slacken up quite a bit. Hence, it will probably slow down or stop. __________________ "Insanity and Genius are on the same side of the street"

03-01-2005, 07:03 PM	#21 (permalink)
Mbwuto Crazy	I guess I can only offer anecdotal evidence here, but a good friend of mine is sixty three right now and, while he's not in his sexual prime, is spending at least two nights a week with a nineteen year old. We should all be so lucky. Age is no detriment to a person suitably horny. I can only imagine how miserable he would be tied down to someone who lost interest when they weren't as nubile and elastic as before. Go for it Grandpa!

03-08-2005, 12:26 PM	#22 (permalink)
Dano069 is Nucking Futs! Location: On the edge of sanity	My wife is sexier now, at 42, than she ever was when we were younger. In fact, since 2000, when we were both 38, we've been having more sex (average 6 times a week) than ever, and, it's lasting longer and is much more intense than it was before. Most excellent! I don't think age has anything to do with it. __________________ I may look attentive, but I'm taking peeks down your blouse faster than the human eye can follow.

03-09-2005, 02:30 PM	#23 (permalink)
jhkayakr Insane Location: under the skirt	Hey, 40 aint that old!!!! __________________ ........gotta need for speed....