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ShaniFaye · 02-17-2005, 07:20 AM

Im so glad you guys had enuff fun to want to do it again.

abaya Im interested in knowing if you're strap on hit you in the right place well enuff for you to orgasm while using it on him. Luckily for me ours does...so I can cum from doing Dave everytime

Charlatan · 02-17-2005, 10:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by abaya

Charlatan... I looked at the Aneros and am wondering how I would ride my guy while he has that inside him? Isn't there a possibility of hurting him with so much stuff going on at once? Does he lie flat on his back while this goes on, or..? Give me some more tips if you can.

I've tried using the Aneros a few ways while having sex with my wife and found that the best way is with me on my back and her on top... The Aneros itself isn't all that big and doesn't get in the way at all in this position.

The beauty of the Aneros isn't in the size of the thing, rather it is in its ability to rest exactly on the prostate... Don't worry about the curly bits... one part rests against the perenium (more pressure on the prostate) and the other sits between your cheeks...

In my experience, having that pressure on my prostate while I orgasm creates a very intense orgasm... A lot stronger than just a regular orgasm.

trache · 02-17-2005, 12:44 PM

abaya:

I only briefly went over my experience having my girlfriend use a strap-on on me on this thread, so I'll go a little further.

Basically, I told her one day that I was curious to know what it might feel like using a strap-on, since she discovered quite quickly that stroking my scrotum and pernium got me unbelievably turned on (Guys who aren't very adventurous should try this out, seriously), and of course my orgasms are out of this world when combined with her efforts.

She was a little hesitant in using a toy on me. In fact, she still is. I'll tell you why shortly.

We went to the adult store and bought your basic strap-on. Nothing fancy, no brand names. The harness isn't even that great, but it holds the strap-on in place. Whether or not it is tight to my girlfriend's body, the harness tends to move around a lot so she can't relax and just thrust in and out -- she has to hold it and think about it constantly.

We decided to have me try it on my back at first. I did not want to have her behind me, slip, and injure me (very possible, so everyone be careful how much force you use).

We lubricated the strap-on, and I put some lube around my anus. In my opinion lube is more important around the orifice (any) than inside. I'm not sure I can't explain it well, but perhaps you can think about why. Obviously you don't want it to be rough.

The most difficult part for us was definitely getting it past the sphincter. We spent a few minutes testing the waters so to speak before I asked her just to get it over with and push with a bit more force than she had been using. I must admit at this point I felt very silly with my legs up in the air and the roles reversed. You gotta be very courageous to go through that and have a willing partner. At this point I did feel akward, now having some idea what it means to have homosexual sex.

It all seemed one-sided for obvious reasons. She told me that it would be OK to do this, but before, during and after she mentioned that she gained almost no physical pleasure out of the experience, except perhaps to gain a feeling of power over me. It was nice to feel submissive, but that is not my cup of tea 100% of the time.

I asked her to go faster, slower or completely depending on how I felt. Good communication here was the key. She got a little adventurous and started to play her power game on me, which I think turned us both on a bit. She even stroked my penis with some lube which felt fantastic.

Eventually it did start to feel so good that I asked her to keep going further, and adding more lubrication as neccessary. One thing that will always surprise me is how little lube goes a long way. Eventually if I remember, at one point she had the entire thing inside of me... 8 or 9 inches, which felt amazing. I think my stomach flew out of my penis when I had an orgasm, wow. Wow.

My girlfriend then just kept slowly stroking herself (heh) in and out of me for a minute or two and withdrew. This was difficult as I didn't want to just yank it out (and no one else should either). I just dealt with the pain as best i could trying to relax all the muscles I could. It feels like a BM but a little worse since the lub does dry up a bit.

After she withdrew, I went to the washroom and cleaned up and after about 5 minutes or so I felt "normal" again.

I did enjoy it. And that's where my girlfriend's opinion comes into play. She thought that if I enjoyed it so much that I might start playing for the other team. It may be enjoyable, but that's just not something that I feel I'm going to do. It wasn't about me being curious at all... it was about role-reversal. So she's a little hesitant to try it again, but I've reassured her that that isn't the case. It only happens occasionally, and we love each other dearly and get turned on when we know we're pleasuring the other person, so I don't think we're going to give this up any time soon.

I'll say a few other things.

1. You can choose to do this or not. For you straight guys, you don't know what you're missing. Physically and emotionally (My gf and I have a better relationship and communicate better in part because of it). It does not make you gay at all.
2. Use lots of lube. Lots. And when I say lots, I mean lots.
3. Tell her what you want. If she is starting to hurt you, slow down or stop.
4. I forgot to say we put a condom on the strap-on. It makes for easy clean-up (and the strap-on won't have any funky odours afterwards).
5. DO NOT use the "anal cream" that sex stores sell. It may numb the pain, but it also makes your body less reactive if something BAD is happening (say, you go WAY too far or you start to tear your rectum!).
6. With regard to 5., GO SLOW.

7. Just like laying on a bed of nails is easier than laying on one nail, if you have your partner stroke you or take your attention away with another method, the distant pain you feel in your rectum won't feel as bad.

Charlatan · 02-17-2005, 01:07 PM

Quote:

She thought that if I enjoyed it so much that I might start playing for the other team.

I always find this an odd thing to say...

a) not all gay men like anal sex
b) does this mean that if a man likes fucking fucking a woman in the ass he actually wishes it was a man?
c) the male G spot is in his ass... do the math...
d) anal sex has nothing to do with wether you are are gay, straight or bi.

abaya · 02-17-2005, 01:29 PM

RedLemon: Thanks for the links, I had checked the first one earlier but felt like they were mostly men responding in either a very positive or very negative sense. I wondered if there was a better way to ask the question that would measure how many people are in the middle and are curious, but too shy to say so. I'll check out the other link you gave, too...

ShaniFaye: what kind of strap-on do you have? You can go to ktspktsp's original post and see the link to the one we have ("Bend Over Beginner"), but I didn't come close to cumming with it on. I tried different positions and even pushed the mini-vibrator to different spots, but as I said earlier, the vibe sort of got in the way (pressing into my pubic bone), so not too comfy. Any ladies out there with tips?

Charlatan: thanks for the Aneros help, your explanation helped me visualize how this position might work. Looking forward to trying it sometime!

Trache: Wow, thanks. Very detailed, which is good. Your girlfriend had an interesting reaction; I wonder if any other women have felt the same? I did feel somewhat awkward being the initiator, and also jealous that I didn't have a prostate!...

but at the same time I knew we were the same two people who loved each other, with or without strap-on, and no sex toy would change that. I think it helps that we have talked in-depth about our own sexualities and where we are on the "continuum," so that helps us be more open and trusting. I did feel more "normal" when he was willing to have vanilla sex soon afterwards, that the anal sex wasn't somehow more fun than being inside me (an intimacy issue). So I think that as long as you keep reassuring your gf that you love her, and feel loved by her willingness to try this (that you aren't just falling in love with the strap-on and forgetting about how fun her body is), I can't imagine her not opening up to the idea again after a while.

C4 Diesel · 02-17-2005, 02:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Charlatan

b) does this mean that if a man likes fucking fucking a woman in the ass he actually wishes it was a man?

Haha... I can give you a very solid "no" on that one.

ktspktsp · 02-17-2005, 04:49 PM

Thanks for the link redlemon, and the feedback trache (always interested in hearing other people's experience!

).

Charlatan: that aneros does look interesting, even if I still can't imagine how it would feel (I guess you have to try it to know, eh?). Also, on their website, they have 4 models of it or something like that.. Any idea which one's better?

Finally, has anyone trie double-ended dildos like the Nexus or the Feeldoe? I wonder how effective these are for the woman.

Charlatan · 02-17-2005, 04:58 PM

Didn't know they had three new models... there used to only be two...

I have the MGX model... the standard sized one. It looks like it really depends on the individual as their literature suggests.

I think I might have to try and get my hands on one of those Maximus models though...

ShaniFaye · 02-17-2005, 05:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by abaya

RedLemon: Thanks for the links, I had checked the first one earlier but felt like they were mostly men responding in either a very positive or very negative sense. I wondered if there was a better way to ask the question that would measure how many people are in the middle and are curious, but too shy to say so. I'll check out the other link you gave, too...

ShaniFaye: what kind of strap-on do you have? You can go to ktspktsp's original post and see the link to the one we have ("Bend Over Beginner"), but I didn't come close to cumming with it on. I tried different positions and even pushed the mini-vibrator to different spots, but as I said earlier, the vibe sort of got in the way (pressing into my pubic bone), so not too comfy. Any ladies out there with tips?

Charlatan: thanks for the Aneros help, your explanation helped me visualize how this position might work. Looking forward to trying it sometime!

Trache: Wow, thanks. Very detailed, which is good. Your girlfriend had an interesting reaction; I wonder if any other women have felt the same? I did feel somewhat awkward being the initiator, and also jealous that I didn't have a prostate!...

but at the same time I knew we were the same two people who loved each other, with or without strap-on, and no sex toy would change that. I think it helps that we have talked in-depth about our own sexualities and where we are on the "continuum," so that helps us be more open and trusting. I did feel more "normal" when he was willing to have vanilla sex soon afterwards, that the anal sex wasn't somehow more fun than being inside me (an intimacy issue). So I think that as long as you keep reassuring your gf that you love her, and feel loved by her willingness to try this (that you aren't just falling in love with the strap-on and forgetting about how fun her body is), I can't imagine her not opening up to the idea again after a while.

I know this will sound bad, but I dont know what brand it is lol I know if you look at this picture you can see the dildo part of it (its the only flesh colored penis looking thing in there)

trache · 02-17-2005, 10:05 PM

Shanifaye:

Wow, that's quite a collection! I wish ours was here so we could take a photo (it's at her house). I think we have you beat. Our sex objects fit (not quite) in a small suitcase (like the ones you get in luggage sets), and it is bursting at its seams.

As soon as I can I will get a photo, but would anyone care to start a new thread with photos of their pleasure chests? Or perhaps there is one already.

abaya · 02-22-2005, 02:38 PM

ShaniFaye, that's quite an amazing collection... and an interesting shape, too. Did you make that box just for your toys?

I see the dildo, but where is the actual strap-on? Yours sounds like quite a hummer... wouldn't mind giving that brand a try, especially if it makes you cum.

I'd post a photo of our box o' fun, but it's pretty small at this point (and getting more packed every month, it seems!). Maybe we should invest in a mini-coffin as well...

drakers · 02-22-2005, 10:27 PM

As a guy and a guy that really doesn't want to get fucked in the ass, more power to you if you are really wanting to do this. But use a lot of lube, I don't think our asses are meant to be pounded, but I guess we'll know how yours goes here soon. Well...hmmm....not much else to say, but to just let you know to get a clear head and meditate a little before doing this. I don't know what it would take for me to be willing to do that...but anyways, good luck.

ShaniFaye · 02-23-2005, 04:07 AM

lol like I said in the post with the picture....the harness isnt in there but the dildo part of the strap on is in there and its the big fleshy dick looking thing

trache...thats not all my stuff, I havent taken an updated picture in a while

and yes that box was made just for me and my toys

02-17-2005, 07:20 AM	#41 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Im so glad you guys had enuff fun to want to do it again. abaya Im interested in knowing if you're strap on hit you in the right place well enuff for you to orgasm while using it on him. Luckily for me ours does...so I can cum from doing Dave everytime __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

02-17-2005, 12:44 PM	#43 (permalink)
trache Insane	abaya: I only briefly went over my experience having my girlfriend use a strap-on on me on this thread, so I'll go a little further. Basically, I told her one day that I was curious to know what it might feel like using a strap-on, since she discovered quite quickly that stroking my scrotum and pernium got me unbelievably turned on (Guys who aren't very adventurous should try this out, seriously), and of course my orgasms are out of this world when combined with her efforts. She was a little hesitant in using a toy on me. In fact, she still is. I'll tell you why shortly. We went to the adult store and bought your basic strap-on. Nothing fancy, no brand names. The harness isn't even that great, but it holds the strap-on in place. Whether or not it is tight to my girlfriend's body, the harness tends to move around a lot so she can't relax and just thrust in and out -- she has to hold it and think about it constantly. We decided to have me try it on my back at first. I did not want to have her behind me, slip, and injure me (very possible, so everyone be careful how much force you use). We lubricated the strap-on, and I put some lube around my anus. In my opinion lube is more important around the orifice (any) than inside. I'm not sure I can't explain it well, but perhaps you can think about why. Obviously you don't want it to be rough. The most difficult part for us was definitely getting it past the sphincter. We spent a few minutes testing the waters so to speak before I asked her just to get it over with and push with a bit more force than she had been using. I must admit at this point I felt very silly with my legs up in the air and the roles reversed. You gotta be very courageous to go through that and have a willing partner. At this point I did feel akward, now having some idea what it means to have homosexual sex. It all seemed one-sided for obvious reasons. She told me that it would be OK to do this, but before, during and after she mentioned that she gained almost no physical pleasure out of the experience, except perhaps to gain a feeling of power over me. It was nice to feel submissive, but that is not my cup of tea 100% of the time. I asked her to go faster, slower or completely depending on how I felt. Good communication here was the key. She got a little adventurous and started to play her power game on me, which I think turned us both on a bit. She even stroked my penis with some lube which felt fantastic. Eventually it did start to feel so good that I asked her to keep going further, and adding more lubrication as neccessary. One thing that will always surprise me is how little lube goes a long way. Eventually if I remember, at one point she had the entire thing inside of me... 8 or 9 inches, which felt amazing. I think my stomach flew out of my penis when I had an orgasm, wow. Wow. My girlfriend then just kept slowly stroking herself (heh) in and out of me for a minute or two and withdrew. This was difficult as I didn't want to just yank it out (and no one else should either). I just dealt with the pain as best i could trying to relax all the muscles I could. It feels like a BM but a little worse since the lub does dry up a bit. After she withdrew, I went to the washroom and cleaned up and after about 5 minutes or so I felt "normal" again. I did enjoy it. And that's where my girlfriend's opinion comes into play. She thought that if I enjoyed it so much that I might start playing for the other team. It may be enjoyable, but that's just not something that I feel I'm going to do. It wasn't about me being curious at all... it was about role-reversal. So she's a little hesitant to try it again, but I've reassured her that that isn't the case. It only happens occasionally, and we love each other dearly and get turned on when we know we're pleasuring the other person, so I don't think we're going to give this up any time soon. I'll say a few other things. 1. You can choose to do this or not. For you straight guys, you don't know what you're missing. Physically and emotionally (My gf and I have a better relationship and communicate better in part because of it). It does not make you gay at all. 2. Use lots of lube. Lots. And when I say lots, I mean lots. 3. Tell her what you want. If she is starting to hurt you, slow down or stop. 4. I forgot to say we put a condom on the strap-on. It makes for easy clean-up (and the strap-on won't have any funky odours afterwards). 5. DO NOT use the "anal cream" that sex stores sell. It may numb the pain, but it also makes your body less reactive if something BAD is happening (say, you go WAY too far or you start to tear your rectum!). 6. With regard to 5., GO SLOW. 7. Just like laying on a bed of nails is easier than laying on one nail, if you have your partner stroke you or take your attention away with another method, the distant pain you feel in your rectum won't feel as bad. __________________ "You looked at me as if I was eating runny eggs in slow motion." - Gord Downie of The Tragically Hip

02-17-2005, 04:58 PM	#48 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Didn't know they had three new models... there used to only be two... I have the MGX model... the standard sized one. It looks like it really depends on the individual as their literature suggests. I think I might have to try and get my hands on one of those Maximus models though... __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

02-17-2005, 10:05 PM	#50 (permalink)
trache Insane	Shanifaye: Wow, that's quite a collection! I wish ours was here so we could take a photo (it's at her house). I think we have you beat. Our sex objects fit (not quite) in a small suitcase (like the ones you get in luggage sets), and it is bursting at its seams. As soon as I can I will get a photo, but would anyone care to start a new thread with photos of their pleasure chests? Or perhaps there is one already. __________________ "You looked at me as if I was eating runny eggs in slow motion." - Gord Downie of The Tragically Hip

02-22-2005, 10:27 PM	#52 (permalink)
drakers Psycho Location: IOWA	As a guy and a guy that really doesn't want to get fucked in the ass, more power to you if you are really wanting to do this. But use a lot of lube, I don't think our asses are meant to be pounded, but I guess we'll know how yours goes here soon. Well...hmmm....not much else to say, but to just let you know to get a clear head and meditate a little before doing this. I don't know what it would take for me to be willing to do that...but anyways, good luck. __________________ Friends don't shake hands, friends 'gotta HUG!

02-17-2005, 01:29 PM	#45 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	RedLemon: Thanks for the links, I had checked the first one earlier but felt like they were mostly men responding in either a very positive or very negative sense. I wondered if there was a better way to ask the question that would measure how many people are in the middle and are curious, but too shy to say so. I'll check out the other link you gave, too... ShaniFaye: what kind of strap-on do you have? You can go to ktspktsp's original post and see the link to the one we have ("Bend Over Beginner"), but I didn't come close to cumming with it on. I tried different positions and even pushed the mini-vibrator to different spots, but as I said earlier, the vibe sort of got in the way (pressing into my pubic bone), so not too comfy. Any ladies out there with tips? Charlatan: thanks for the Aneros help, your explanation helped me visualize how this position might work. Looking forward to trying it sometime! Trache: Wow, thanks. Very detailed, which is good. Your girlfriend had an interesting reaction; I wonder if any other women have felt the same? I did feel somewhat awkward being the initiator, and also jealous that I didn't have a prostate!... but at the same time I knew we were the same two people who loved each other, with or without strap-on, and no sex toy would change that. I think it helps that we have talked in-depth about our own sexualities and where we are on the "continuum," so that helps us be more open and trusting. I did feel more "normal" when he was willing to have vanilla sex soon afterwards, that the anal sex wasn't somehow more fun than being inside me (an intimacy issue). So I think that as long as you keep reassuring your gf that you love her, and feel loved by her willingness to try this (that you aren't just falling in love with the strap-on and forgetting about how fun her body is), I can't imagine her not opening up to the idea again after a while.

02-17-2005, 04:49 PM	#47 (permalink)
ktspktsp Addict Location: Reykjavik, Iceland	Thanks for the link redlemon, and the feedback trache (always interested in hearing other people's experience! ). Charlatan: that aneros does look interesting, even if I still can't imagine how it would feel (I guess you have to try it to know, eh?). Also, on their website, they have 4 models of it or something like that.. Any idea which one's better? Finally, has anyone trie double-ended dildos like the Nexus or the Feeldoe? I wonder how effective these are for the woman.

02-22-2005, 02:38 PM	#51 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	ShaniFaye, that's quite an amazing collection... and an interesting shape, too. Did you make that box just for your toys? I see the dildo, but where is the actual strap-on? Yours sounds like quite a hummer... wouldn't mind giving that brand a try, especially if it makes you cum. I'd post a photo of our box o' fun, but it's pretty small at this point (and getting more packed every month, it seems!). Maybe we should invest in a mini-coffin as well...

02-23-2005, 04:07 AM	#53 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	lol like I said in the post with the picture....the harness isnt in there but the dildo part of the strap on is in there and its the big fleshy dick looking thing trache...thats not all my stuff, I havent taken an updated picture in a while and yes that box was made just for me and my toys __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*