What is "hooking up"? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Jimellow · 01-01-2005, 05:10 PM

I have a friend who often mentions "hooking up" with guys.

I've asked her about what hooking up is (and I have my own thoughts on it as well), but the definition has been a little obscure, and instead of pressing the issue with her, I figured I would ask here to see what you all thought it meant?

What is "hooking up" in your mind? Is it sex? Almost having sex, but not quite? Something else?

And furthermore, is it always considered to be a temporary relationship/meeting/fling or can it be more long lasting as well?

snowy · 01-01-2005, 05:20 PM

"Hooking up" usually denotes some kind of sexual activity took place in my mind.

The best definition I found on UrbanDictionary said this:

Quote:

1. To engage in romantic/sexual activity with another at a party/gathering.

Usually, one or both partners are under the influence of alcohol, or another judgement imparing drug. "Hooking up" usually involves little or no emotional attachment.

2. An exchange. To give/recieve/share an asset, or something of value, usually something that is tangible.

"Hooking up" is most commonly used in reference to the sale/exchange of illict drugs.
1. Sally is always hooking up with guys at parties.

2. Sally is hooking me up with some crack later this afternoon.

doncalypso · 01-01-2005, 07:33 PM

I would think the term "hooking up" involves no-strings-attached sex, or something of the sort.

Rlyss · 01-01-2005, 08:07 PM

I've always been confused about this too. Here we say 'get with' or 'be with' (as in 'He got with her' and 'I've never been with him'). I think that's about the most boring euphemism ever. Anyway, to some people 'get with' means chatting up, to others it means kissing at a party, and to others (like me) it means full on sex. It's pretty frustrating to hear of a friend boasting about how he 'got with some chick' only to find out it means he chatted her up, or kissed her at a party.

monkeysugar · 01-01-2005, 08:07 PM

When my female friends refer to "hooking up" with someone, it usually means they had some sort of spontaneous sexual activities with a random guy and have no clue where things stand, or they aren't interested in a relationship with them. "I got drunk and hooked up with this guy last weekend, and now he won't quit calling me."

Alternatively, hooking up can also be used to describe beginning a relationship with someone, as opposed to having simply having sex with them. "When did those two hook up?"

alec · 01-01-2005, 10:29 PM

i have always been adament about what hooking up is -- it is, for one, not making out. it is anything involving below the belt or a girls breasts (fully exposed).

DelayedReaction · 01-01-2005, 10:42 PM

At least as I know it, hooking up generally means sexual play without any kind of serious connection.

cyrnel · 01-01-2005, 10:47 PM

For ages it was as monkeysugar said: the start of a relationship. More recently (the last decade or so?) it's morphed to mean sex, usually casual.

I'm curious when others first noticed the shift?

(wearing a full-body vocabulary rubber)

Suave · 01-01-2005, 10:59 PM

To me it means casual sex. .

Vincentt · 01-02-2005, 12:56 AM

"hooking up" is sex, doesn't always mean it was casual sex. Here it can still mean the start of a relationship. Can only tell be context. "I hooked up with Jane, she is cool" vs "I hooked up with that slut in the blue shirt."

Arroe · 01-02-2005, 12:59 AM

Sometimes I'll ask my buddies if they hooked up with some chick, and clarify to mean make out with her. I ussually clarify but I see it as meaning anything at all.

ntf · 01-02-2005, 02:28 AM

I have heard it used in some situations where it clearly meant no more than hanging out and other situations where it clearly meant sex. So I think it depends, you need more information to know for sure.

boom29 · 01-02-2005, 01:07 PM

I always get confused when someone says they "hooked up" with someone else. I had always thought it meant sex. Every time I hear it now I ask what they mean by it. Same goes for to "get with."

trevlya006 · 01-04-2005, 06:13 AM

hooked up to me is when you drag your car and you tires grip the track!

gotekix · 01-05-2005, 11:34 PM

I've always been a little nebulous about the meaning of "hooking up" also. Sometimes a friend will say "yo man, I hooked up with that chick at the party", then I ask him what he did and he'll say "you know make out, hook up whatever." In another instance it will mean some sort of sexual activity. However, I think if someone had sex with a person at a social gathering/party they will just say they screwed them. I've come to understand that hooking up entails more of like making out or possibly oral sex.

K-Wise · 01-06-2005, 12:10 AM

It means they smashed papas homie!

Asta!!

eyeswimslow · 01-06-2005, 01:11 AM

I've always thought of it as two drunken people just fooling around, not necessarily having sex, but most likely doing some sexual activity.

cdog90260 · 01-06-2005, 10:25 PM

hooking up = bootie call

it's a more pc way of saying i'm gonna have sex with so and so. Nowadays, hooking up means sex.

Bauer_Power · 01-08-2005, 12:18 AM

Hooking up means sex. That's what it means

01-01-2005, 05:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jimellow Junkie	What is "hooking up"? I have a friend who often mentions "hooking up" with guys. I've asked her about what hooking up is (and I have my own thoughts on it as well), but the definition has been a little obscure, and instead of pressing the issue with her, I figured I would ask here to see what you all thought it meant? What is "hooking up" in your mind? Is it sex? Almost having sex, but not quite? Something else? And furthermore, is it always considered to be a temporary relationship/meeting/fling or can it be more long lasting as well? __________________ Desperation is no excuse for lowering one's standards.

01-01-2005, 07:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	I would think the term "hooking up" involves no-strings-attached sex, or something of the sort. __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

01-01-2005, 08:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	When my female friends refer to "hooking up" with someone, it usually means they had some sort of spontaneous sexual activities with a random guy and have no clue where things stand, or they aren't interested in a relationship with them. "I got drunk and hooked up with this guy last weekend, and now he won't quit calling me." Alternatively, hooking up can also be used to describe beginning a relationship with someone, as opposed to having simply having sex with them. "When did those two hook up?" __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.

01-01-2005, 10:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
DelayedReaction BFG Builder Location: University of Maryland	At least as I know it, hooking up generally means sexual play without any kind of serious connection. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, you must be having an orgasm.

01-01-2005, 10:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
Suave Twitterpated Location: My own little world (also Canada)	To me it means casual sex. . __________________ "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato

01-01-2005, 08:07 PM	#4 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	I've always been confused about this too. Here we say 'get with' or 'be with' (as in 'He got with her' and 'I've never been with him'). I think that's about the most boring euphemism ever. Anyway, to some people 'get with' means chatting up, to others it means kissing at a party, and to others (like me) it means full on sex. It's pretty frustrating to hear of a friend boasting about how he 'got with some chick' only to find out it means he chatted her up, or kissed her at a party.

01-01-2005, 10:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
alec Insane Location: Washington DC	i have always been adament about what hooking up is -- it is, for one, not making out. it is anything involving below the belt or a girls breasts (fully exposed).

01-01-2005, 10:47 PM	#8 (permalink)
cyrnel Adequate Location: In my angry-dome.	For ages it was as monkeysugar said: the start of a relationship. More recently (the last decade or so?) it's morphed to mean sex, usually casual. I'm curious when others first noticed the shift? (wearing a full-body vocabulary rubber)

01-02-2005, 12:56 AM	#10 (permalink)
Vincentt Addict Location: Tokyo, Japan	"hooking up" is sex, doesn't always mean it was casual sex. Here it can still mean the start of a relationship. Can only tell be context. "I hooked up with Jane, she is cool" vs "I hooked up with that slut in the blue shirt."

01-02-2005, 12:59 AM	#11 (permalink)
Arroe Insane Location: USA	Sometimes I'll ask my buddies if they hooked up with some chick, and clarify to mean make out with her. I ussually clarify but I see it as meaning anything at all.

01-02-2005, 02:28 AM	#12 (permalink)
ntf Upright	I have heard it used in some situations where it clearly meant no more than hanging out and other situations where it clearly meant sex. So I think it depends, you need more information to know for sure.

01-02-2005, 01:07 PM	#13 (permalink)
boom29 Insane	I always get confused when someone says they "hooked up" with someone else. I had always thought it meant sex. Every time I hear it now I ask what they mean by it. Same goes for to "get with."

01-04-2005, 06:13 AM	#14 (permalink)
trevlya006 Tilted	hooked up to me is when you drag your car and you tires grip the track! __________________ "Untill all that is different around you, you will be different" read about my situation Here! and always check back because i update it all the time

01-05-2005, 11:34 PM	#15 (permalink)
gotekix Upright Location: Seattle	I've always been a little nebulous about the meaning of "hooking up" also. Sometimes a friend will say "yo man, I hooked up with that chick at the party", then I ask him what he did and he'll say "you know make out, hook up whatever." In another instance it will mean some sort of sexual activity. However, I think if someone had sex with a person at a social gathering/party they will just say they screwed them. I've come to understand that hooking up entails more of like making out or possibly oral sex.

01-06-2005, 12:10 AM	#16 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	It means they smashed papas homie! Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

01-06-2005, 01:11 AM	#17 (permalink)
eyeswimslow Upright	I've always thought of it as two drunken people just fooling around, not necessarily having sex, but most likely doing some sexual activity.

01-06-2005, 10:25 PM	#18 (permalink)
cdog90260 Upright	hooking up = bootie call it's a more pc way of saying i'm gonna have sex with so and so. Nowadays, hooking up means sex.

01-08-2005, 12:18 AM	#19 (permalink)
Bauer_Power Tilted Location: Nebraska	Hooking up means sex. That's what it means