gf not on the pill, what steps can i take to be extra safe? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

NickKell · 12-02-2004, 08:34 PM

besides a condom, what other steps can i take?

timalkin · 12-02-2004, 08:38 PM

Abstain. It's the safest method.

imkeen · 12-02-2004, 08:38 PM

Well, for you, that's about the only option besides a vasectomy or not having intercourse.

If your gf is interested, there are other forms of contraception, like a female condom, for instance, or diaphram, etc.

tiltedbc · 12-02-2004, 08:54 PM

get a vasectomy, or at least talk about it with a doctor. It's reversable in most cases, so it's not a life sentence.

Plus, you could make a deposit at a sperm bank if you know what I mean. No, not having your balls cut off and frozen... just cumming into a testube and having that frozen.

radioguy · 12-02-2004, 08:57 PM

oral sex, lots and lots of oral sex! don't risk it.

Stare At The Sun · 12-02-2004, 10:26 PM

Fuck that. Buy her a depo povera shot. 3 months of bliss.

SecretMethod70 · 12-03-2004, 04:50 AM

at least a condom plus spermicide. I would get condoms that have spermicide in the lubricant as well as spermicide for her to insert before sex as well. And if you want to be EXTRA safe, she could use a diaphragm on top of that as well.

timalkin is correct of course, while I would be relatively confident in condom+spermicide, and even moreso in condom+diaphragm+spermicide, if you REALLY want to be sure, the best thing to do is just wait. If you're in a serious relationship, it's not like she's going anywhere

Let's not jump on the guy here...there are plenty of possible reasons his girlfriend is not on the pill, and that's not what he asked. He asked what other steps they could take, so let's answer and be nonjudgemental. He's clearly aware of the benefits of the pill and, for whatever reason, they have chosen not to use it.

bbrown4 · 12-03-2004, 07:54 AM

Options:

Pull out.
Depo shot.
Good condoms.

Remember the biological purpose of sex and understand that outside of these options, sooner or later, you will become a daddy.

maleficent · 12-03-2004, 08:02 AM

Birth Control Methods/Planned Parenthood

It's interesting reading...

fhqwhgads · 12-03-2004, 08:19 AM

Lemme ask you this:

Does she have a sister or a really hot friend who is on the pill?

hiro-acid · 12-03-2004, 08:22 AM

There is also the sponge (still available in Canada anyways) and the female condom (although I've been told it's comparable to fucking a glad garbage bag, which doesn't exactly sound thrilling). I wouldn't reccomend the "withdrawl" method tho, as people who practice that tend to have a name.. we call them Mom & Dad.

Here's a decent site fyi: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/bc/

lunchbox · 12-03-2004, 09:34 AM

my girlfriend isn't on the pill either, we use a condom and i pull out just to be safe and give her peace of mind. safe enough for me and her.

KinkyKiwi · 12-03-2004, 12:29 PM

before i was on the pill i was using pull out (we still use that), condom (we stil use that too) and sponges...but they have these cool tube thingys that like have thsi blue/clear gel spermicide and she can just put that in there

but keep using a condom for gods sake ..and surgery? hes probably under 30..who would want to have sugery!!

mtnman323 · 12-05-2004, 05:56 PM

used to use the pull-out method for a while but hated worrying towards each time of the month ... now we just use condoms

uncle_el · 12-06-2004, 04:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Stare At The Sun

Fuck that. Buy her a depo povera shot. 3 months of bliss.

in some women, the depo shot is good for over a year!

GraveTaker · 12-06-2004, 04:58 PM

pull out b4 u cum..i know it's less satisfying but hey it works

Hard8s · 12-06-2004, 05:40 PM

I now have two nephews from the pull out method. Do they not teach Sex ed anymore? Even the precum has millions of sperm cells! You can even get pregnant without penetration. Get a little of the sticky white stuff in the right place (say she blew you and some dripped down to her nether regions, you rub her the right way to reciprocate, it finds its way inside) Now I don't want to sound like the harbinger of doom for sex but without some sort of birth control, sex is going to do what it was designed to do. PROCREATE! Sperm have one purpose in their little life, get to the egg first.

aphroditeskiss1 · 12-06-2004, 06:37 PM

I don't know the reasons why she isn't on the Pill, but depending on how long ago she made the decision not to be on it, you may want to bring it up again as an option. I know for me, it's worked well. If she does get on it, make sure she reads all the information that comes with it to know exactly how to take it, as some offer more flexablitily in the window of time between pills.

GraveTaker · 12-06-2004, 08:08 PM

i know that as well, but i was just saying that if u pull out and not even be near her when you cum you should be fine...

viejo gringo · 12-06-2004, 08:48 PM

Put it in double and let the squirty end hang out....

SecretMethod70 · 12-06-2004, 10:18 PM

seriously, the pill isn't the only option for birth control and it's not *that* much more effective than some of the other options out there. Spermicide plus a condom is nearly as effective as the pill is (when used properly).

NeoRete · 12-07-2004, 06:52 PM

You might think about talking to her about going on the patch. I don't know the circumstances about her not being on the pill, but it's just as effective and only needs to be changed once a week. More info: http://www.orthoevra.com/

Hard8s · 12-07-2004, 09:13 PM

see below.

Hard8s · 12-07-2004, 09:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GraveTaker

i know that as well, but i was just saying that if u pull out and not even be near her when you cum you should be fine...

Dude, the point I was trying to make is this. If you put it in, and you are not using protection there is a good chance she CAN get pregnant. It does not just happen when you cum, any fluid that comes out sexually from the guy (who has not been snipped) contains MILLIONS of sperm cells, and it only takes 1.

AquaFox · 12-07-2004, 10:20 PM

don't get too worried about it... you should sit down with your girl and discuss the options aviable to you and her first before you do anything and besure your both happy with what you do

Shizukana · 12-08-2004, 01:12 AM

Precum contains a higher concentration of sperm than regular cum... so if she's not on birth control, definately use diaphrams, condoms, sponges, or anything you can get your hands on. The more barrier methods the better when she's not on the pill.

mreman4u · 12-08-2004, 11:04 AM

Abstinence is the only positive way to avoid pregnancy. You may also want to consider the risk of STD's. I heard that 50% of sexually active singles have HPV(genital warts)

fckm · 12-08-2004, 11:29 AM

DO NOT USE PULLOUT!

TNJ4555 · 12-09-2004, 04:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by radioguy

oral sex, lots and lots of oral sex!

or anal sex

lukethebandgeek · 12-09-2004, 04:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mreman4u

Abstinence is the only positive way to avoid pregnancy. You may also want to consider the risk of STD's. I heard that 50% of sexually active singles have HPV(genital warts)

I have also heard that abstinence only programs deny useful information to people who want to make thier own desicions in life. But that's what I've heard. No scource or anything.

Don't use the pull out method. It doesn't work. Just stick to condoms and spermicide, and for the love of god don't ever not wear a condom, unless you're married and want kids.

ColonelSpecial · 12-09-2004, 06:54 AM

Using the pull out method is like saying "I am not going to use a seatbelt, I am just going to jump out of the car before it hits the tree."

12-02-2004, 08:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
NickKell Insane	gf not on the pill, what steps can i take to be extra safe? besides a condom, what other steps can i take?

12-02-2004, 08:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
timalkin Addict Location: watching from the treeline	Abstain. It's the safest method. __________________ Trinity: "What do you need?" Neo: "Guns. Lots of guns." -The Matrix

12-03-2004, 04:50 AM	#7 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	at least a condom plus spermicide. I would get condoms that have spermicide in the lubricant as well as spermicide for her to insert before sex as well. And if you want to be EXTRA safe, she could use a diaphragm on top of that as well. timalkin is correct of course, while I would be relatively confident in condom+spermicide, and even moreso in condom+diaphragm+spermicide, if you REALLY want to be sure, the best thing to do is just wait. If you're in a serious relationship, it's not like she's going anywhere Let's not jump on the guy here...there are plenty of possible reasons his girlfriend is not on the pill, and that's not what he asked. He asked what other steps they could take, so let's answer and be nonjudgemental. He's clearly aware of the benefits of the pill and, for whatever reason, they have chosen not to use it. __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling Last edited by SecretMethod70; 12-03-2004 at 04:53 AM..

12-03-2004, 08:02 AM	#9 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Birth Control Methods/Planned Parenthood It's interesting reading... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

12-03-2004, 09:34 AM	#12 (permalink)
lunchbox Thank God hockey is back Location: Deeeeeetroit	my girlfriend isn't on the pill either, we use a condom and i pull out just to be safe and give her peace of mind. safe enough for me and her. __________________ A common mistake that people make when trying to design something completely foolproof is to underestimate the ingenuity of complete fools. -Douglas Adams

12-02-2004, 08:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
imkeen Insane	Well, for you, that's about the only option besides a vasectomy or not having intercourse. If your gf is interested, there are other forms of contraception, like a female condom, for instance, or diaphram, etc.

12-02-2004, 08:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
tiltedbc Crazy Location: BC, Canada	get a vasectomy, or at least talk about it with a doctor. It's reversable in most cases, so it's not a life sentence. Plus, you could make a deposit at a sperm bank if you know what I mean. No, not having your balls cut off and frozen... just cumming into a testube and having that frozen.

12-02-2004, 08:57 PM	#5 (permalink)
radioguy Registered User Location: Texas	oral sex, lots and lots of oral sex! don't risk it.

12-02-2004, 10:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
Stare At The Sun Eh? Location: Somewhere over the rainbow	Fuck that. Buy her a depo povera shot. 3 months of bliss.

12-03-2004, 07:54 AM	#8 (permalink)
bbrown4 Upright	Options: Pull out. Depo shot. Good condoms. Remember the biological purpose of sex and understand that outside of these options, sooner or later, you will become a daddy.

12-03-2004, 08:19 AM	#10 (permalink)
fhqwhgads Junkie	Lemme ask you this: Does she have a sister or a really hot friend who is on the pill?

12-03-2004, 08:22 AM	#11 (permalink)
hiro-acid Upright Location: Middlanowhere, Canada	There is also the sponge (still available in Canada anyways) and the female condom (although I've been told it's comparable to fucking a glad garbage bag, which doesn't exactly sound thrilling). I wouldn't reccomend the "withdrawl" method tho, as people who practice that tend to have a name.. we call them Mom & Dad. Here's a decent site fyi: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/bc/

12-03-2004, 12:29 PM	#13 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	before i was on the pill i was using pull out (we still use that), condom (we stil use that too) and sponges...but they have these cool tube thingys that like have thsi blue/clear gel spermicide and she can just put that in there but keep using a condom for gods sake ..and surgery? hes probably under 30..who would want to have sugery!! __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.

12-05-2004, 05:56 PM	#14 (permalink)
mtnman323 Upright	used to use the pull-out method for a while but hated worrying towards each time of the month ... now we just use condoms

12-06-2004, 04:58 PM	#16 (permalink)
GraveTaker Crazy	pull out b4 u cum..i know it's less satisfying but hey it works __________________ GraveTaker

12-07-2004, 09:13 PM	#23 (permalink)
Hard8s Addict Location: Wherever I am!	see below. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, then wipe this smile off my face!

12-08-2004, 11:29 AM	#28 (permalink)
fckm Insane Location: Ithaca, New York	DO NOT USE PULLOUT! __________________ And if you say to me tomorrow, oh what fun it all would be. Then what's to stop us, pretty baby. But What Is And What Should Never Be.

12-06-2004, 05:40 PM	#17 (permalink)
Hard8s Addict Location: Wherever I am!	I now have two nephews from the pull out method. Do they not teach Sex ed anymore? Even the precum has millions of sperm cells! You can even get pregnant without penetration. Get a little of the sticky white stuff in the right place (say she blew you and some dripped down to her nether regions, you rub her the right way to reciprocate, it finds its way inside) Now I don't want to sound like the harbinger of doom for sex but without some sort of birth control, sex is going to do what it was designed to do. PROCREATE! Sperm have one purpose in their little life, get to the egg first. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, then wipe this smile off my face!

12-06-2004, 06:37 PM	#18 (permalink)
aphroditeskiss1 Insane Location: Albuquerque, NM	I don't know the reasons why she isn't on the Pill, but depending on how long ago she made the decision not to be on it, you may want to bring it up again as an option. I know for me, it's worked well. If she does get on it, make sure she reads all the information that comes with it to know exactly how to take it, as some offer more flexablitily in the window of time between pills. __________________ "You always said destiny would blow me away. But nothing's gonna blow me away"- Something Coporate " I do not pop pills! I take them and I eat them..." - Foamy's friend

12-06-2004, 08:08 PM	#19 (permalink)
GraveTaker Crazy	i know that as well, but i was just saying that if u pull out and not even be near her when you cum you should be fine... __________________ GraveTaker

12-06-2004, 08:48 PM	#20 (permalink)
viejo gringo Registered User Location: Deep South Texas	Put it in double and let the squirty end hang out....

12-06-2004, 10:18 PM	#21 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	seriously, the pill isn't the only option for birth control and it's not that much more effective than some of the other options out there. Spermicide plus a condom is nearly as effective as the pill is (when used properly). __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

12-07-2004, 06:52 PM	#22 (permalink)
NeoRete Crazy Location: Cape Cod	You might think about talking to her about going on the patch. I don't know the circumstances about her not being on the pill, but it's just as effective and only needs to be changed once a week. More info: http://www.orthoevra.com/ __________________ Charlie was a chemist but Charlie is nomore, what Charlie thought was H2O was H2SO4

12-07-2004, 10:20 PM	#25 (permalink)
AquaFox WaterDog	don't get too worried about it... you should sit down with your girl and discuss the options aviable to you and her first before you do anything and besure your both happy with what you do

12-08-2004, 01:12 AM	#26 (permalink)
Shizukana Insane Location: Plano, TX	Precum contains a higher concentration of sperm than regular cum... so if she's not on birth control, definately use diaphrams, condoms, sponges, or anything you can get your hands on. The more barrier methods the better when she's not on the pill. __________________ "The power of accurate observation is frequently called cynicism by those who don't have it." - George Bernard Shaw

12-08-2004, 11:04 AM	#27 (permalink)
mreman4u Tilted	Abstinence is the only positive way to avoid pregnancy. You may also want to consider the risk of STD's. I heard that 50% of sexually active singles have HPV(genital warts) __________________

12-09-2004, 06:54 AM	#31 (permalink)
ColonelSpecial Insane	Using the pull out method is like saying "I am not going to use a seatbelt, I am just going to jump out of the car before it hits the tree." __________________ "Mommy, the presidents are squishing me!" "Using the pull out method of contraceptive is like saying I won't use a seat belt, I'll just jump out of the car before it hits that tree." Sara